I wonder if he was negging you to try and undermine your confidence... I do not know him, so maybe he is incapable of negging.... but it's a dck thing for him to say... definitely not a way to get back into a woman's bed by insulting her! This strikes me as the verbal equivalent of a little boy pulling a girl's hair because he likes her.

Not all men are like this...

Every woman I see is at least a nine, most a ten. I try not to judge but if one is going to one has to have standards. Actually, I do not think this way, I see beauty every where I look. Just the way it is.

men can do that,,sorry he did it to you

I didnt grow with friends, or really anybody, that rated bodies. It would be considered wierd and wholly unexpected way to think of a human being. I do find that it is uniquely an American way of thinking.

But that "thinking" is being transferred, especially in India, where young men and women are being hired for very low wages to write massive amounts of junk articles targerted towards western audiences just for the google ad revenue, and there is a wierd cultural osmosis happening there, especially in the way they talk and express themselves and you see how using idiom from a different culture affect their thinking and behavior. It's....interesting.

And that's all I have to say about that

FWIW, lean is not gaunt. It is fit, an all-too-uncommon state for too many American's.

Comments on physical appearance are not the way to restart a relationship. He is a moron and probably feeling badly that you don't want to rekindle it with him. And yes, being objectified is uncomfortable and annoying. Sometimes I feel like saying Really, that's all you got? Get a better approach, read a book or the paper and think of something else to say to me.

No it is not okay. Let that finger fly.

Your body is what it is, whether someone compliments it or criticizes it. It's the body you live in and a comment changes nothing about it, as it neither makes it better, nor worse.

It sounds like a dig, because there's no reason for it otherwise.... unless he has tourette syndrome?

I recall years ago, after a great day together, a boyfriend told me my hairstyle, that day, made my "huge forehead" look even bigger. Prior to this I'd not considered my forehead, nor had it scrutinized in anyway, so this seemed strange. Even if it were actually true, I couldn't understand why he'd felt the need to comment and was struck by its potentially cruel intention.

My reply created a turning point in our relationship.

"Are you feeling some resentment toward me for some reason? I can't imagine any other reason why you'd feel the need to criticize one of my body parts, and right after such a nice day together. Maybe that's what we should be talking about?"

He was expecting an emotional reaction, and was shocked by my reply. It turned out he HAD been feeling resentful and it was due to his own insecurity.

You've posted about men commenting on your slim figure several times before. These guys seem really insecure themselves, and likely unhappy with their own bodies, and frustrated that they can't stop their aging bellies, hairlines and failing prostate function.

No need to take this personally. Try not to react in such a way that their criticism lands. Instead, have them explain what's behind their comments, even though you probably already know!

Let me guess, he insulted you once it became obvious he wasn't going to get his leg over. The emotional maturity of a 12 year old.

I've been criticized for my body recently, and I find it refreshing. It's been eye-opening to discover that some people actually care. I have the feeling that I deserved to be criticized for a long time, but since I'm perceived as a non-sexual person nobody bothered. Now I have a long road to travel back to a place where someone might value me as sensual being.

It's petty and mean-spirited to judge a person by their looks. Usually the people doing it are insecure about their own.

First there is nothing wrong with your figure it's beautiful, second criticizing how people look is viscous and mean spirited, third I don't rate women like that pretty or not so much the person behind the figure means so much more . Like I should say much about someone's physique ,I gained weight from several problems including a healing back once I am better I can look better

yes.. I am sick of it... I wish those men would look in the mirror.. and judge themselves... i'M NOT HERE FOR YOUR ENTERTAINMENT LOL......