agree completely...

To me, it depends on the context. If it's an insult disguised as "humour", then no, it's not appropriate. If used to shine a light on an absurd situation, or diffuse tension, or even to poke fun at one's self, it's great. Personally, I love good sarcasm. I consider it a fine art.

It has never occurred to me to say that in my profiles. Maybe they think it will serve as a disclaimer. Maybe they know their sarcasm will be noticed, and are trying to inoculate themselves. I think sarcasm is a negative in interpersonal communications.

I'm sarcastic. I find nothing wrong with it.

Also known as "scarcasm." I learned that twist on the word in 6th grade. Sarcasm can really hurt.

Everything depends on context, though. My girlfriend and I use sarcasm at each other sometimes to take the edge off of the occasionally ridiculous things we say to each other. We have an automatic agreement as to what is funny and what isn't. But we're also culturally similar to each other and we sometimes enjoy the rough-and-tumble way of communicating. We know what we mean and why. But we also know how to disarm offenses, fess up to mistakes, and apologize for them. These are communication skills that take conscious effort to learn.

So the take-away here is that we all need to make sure we have good communication down pat before we start playing rough with each other. You can use sarcasm without hurting someone, as long as you can confirm they're on the same playing field and enjoy the game at least as much as you do.

There's a fine line between sarcasm that's funny and sarcasm that hurts. A good comedian knows how to walk that line very well; in interpersonal relationships I feel it only has its place when both people are in on the joke, it's not directed at either one, and it's not used as a weapon or to mask other feelings. When it is, this to me is where it crosses that line.

Post #782 on why we should admire your efforts to envision a world that only revolves around you.

Maybe it's a cultural thing. In Australia and the UK, sarcasm usually comes with a healthy dose of self-deprecation. This removes a lot of the nastiness, as you're not setting yourself up as superior to that which you are taking the piss out of.

I love sarcasm. It is much better than stabbing someone with a fork. I don't care that it is not positive. It is not meant to be. It is not only men. I know women who are sarcastic. They are some of my favorite folks.

I love all the good points ,here ,and it appears we are all different on this point of view and there will never be a consenous which is great,I think the main point brought out loud and clear is do not use sarcasm around those who do not appreciate it or find it negative to there views but then again there are others who enjoy it whether they are giving it or receiving it,,They find humour and value in it ,So just respect the other person if you know they do not like it and use it sparingly around others who do occasionally

I grew up on a lake in Michigan in a family of six, left-handed, highly intelligent and hilarious musicians and artists. Sarcastic digs flew like knives. Very funny, accurate and deeply painful. Laughing outwardly (the wit!) while crying inside. So, I am sensitive to sarcasm.

I used humor with my signs for protest marches.

Seem we can be so easily sarcastic to each other and to even those we have a liking for. Done it - recieved it. Nowadays avoid it - seem to be a way of trying to internally ridicule another person.

Typically I direct sarcasm inward (see first few lines of my profile), yes that is humor/sarcasm but I am the brunt of it.

If you can't laugh at yourself, you can't be humorous with others. A few canned jokes but after that, silence.

I agree completely. It is much harder to be kind and thoughtful, than be a jerk. Nearly always (there are a select few who can make sarcasm funny and not offensive;they are rare) I find it is used by those with some combination of anger and lesser intellect. And more common in men.

I use sarcasm but I've never used it as a joke or humor.. It's a cutting statement was and that's how and when I use it...

I don't know about that. There are so many different flavors of humor, and many people just lean towards sarcasm. I know because I do at times, so it isn't a turnoff to me. I don't see it as having to be hostile either. It can go more towards irony as well. Now I do think there is a time and a place... in that light knowing when it's appropriate and when it isn't is key, but over all I rather enjoy it myself. To me it becomes a bit of an art form that some can flop at horribly... in which case sure, the person can easily come off as a jerk.