definitely both here.what we do here stays here

I enjoy being myself and not caring as much as I used to of what others think about me and my sexual preferences. I am Agnostic and pansexual

I think I'm more vanilla than might be expected, but passionate and open to experimenting. I think my disbelief has allowed me to explore that animalistic side of me and thoroughly enjoy and embrace sex without shame.

I'll deal with sexual guilt when I am dead. I don't seem to be able to feel it now so i'll have to then when it arises! Pretty sure i'll be cremated though .. To be honest from the day I could be stimulated sexually there was no guilt in the equation. How can anything that nice be wrong in the right context?

If my relatives have been watching it serves them right .. though i'm positive they haven't been or I would have been hit by lightning!

It is funny how many novels are about road trips. The road has become our path to adventure, where we must stay normatively involved but insulated from the outside, where we also sing, peer, rage at times letting go of our inhibitions in ways we would never dream of in a normal public setting.

I think fantasies of all kinds, especially shared fantasies, such as S&M must be traveled like a road trip with normal good sense to keep safe by watching what you are doing. It is only by taking the trip alone or together with another that you can reach your destination.

I think owning anything that is considered 'different' is easier when you are absolved of the need to conform to someone elses idea of normal.

One of the great compensations for no afterlife is the freedom to not take yourself or your eccentricities too seriously.

So get out there and kink it up - you only live once. ?

As a relatively young person raised in a not-so-religious family but still practiced some traditions (came out atheist already), it's really overwhelming how light and stress-free life could be without the daring thoughts of being punished for being human.