Ok, fellow community members—please share your response to the following question I was asked in a private message on this site:
“are you heterosexual....and are you sexually active?”
Go.
And Thank you all.
Yikes! What a dickhead. What was he/she thinking!
Ahhh. Geee. That is a little forward. I have noticed that there are different attitudes toward sexuality and what is acceptable depending on where you are from and from what you have been exposed to in life. However, if this is someone you do not know I think it is inappropriate. I would say this person does not have much respect for you and your feelings or privacy. Gee. Maybe they were drunk. ?? That would not be an excuse bit perhaps an explanation.
Since you are obviously open to dating, as I can tell by seeing the little heart and the percentage next to your name, it is pretty obvious that you are, if nothing else, willing to be sexually active. I'm sure a quick visit to your profile page would answer any questions regarding your sexual preference, so I would regard that message as impertinent, if not downright abusive.
"Am I heterosexual? Wouldn't you like to know!" "Am I sexually active? Maybe, but not with you, for sure!"
Yes & barely. (Does fantasy count?)
Now, the first question is somewhat, if not completely, answered on one's profile page, if one answers, of course. The second is valid only if a relationship is blossoming, & should probably still not be stated so baldly. Now, that's just me, I'm an old fart & was brought up to be at least somewhat tactful, but I think being too blunt, too soon, can sorta chill things.
@RoadGoddess I don't blame you. Especially as you did not have "Hook-up" as an option in your profile, & even then, a little respect & patience is much more attractive than someone who rushes in like a 16 yo!