I'm a little depressed. I love chatting and would even try to chat more using our Messenger tool. I've messaged a few folks. But there are some I think I'd like to chat with but just can't get started doing it.
Some dating sites allow you to send a "hug" or some sort of indicator that you might be interested. If the person ignoes you, you can ignore them back and it's easier to forget about.
Without that, I am sometimes afraid to try to messenge someone.
I feel I need more interaction and less Netflix. I just can;t seem to get started.
Any suggestions?
Hi MrLizard. Welcome. I know what you mean. Plus, most of the time I forget this is a dating site. I welcome messages from everyone male or female. If anyone wants to talk or are interested romantically all they have to do is let their intentions be known. Thanks for your post I think that this could be a help to a few of us here. ??
You got nothing to lose, there human just like you.
Just do it, nothing to lose. What is the worst thing that can happen? What is the best? Weigh them up against the few minutes it takes to make contact.
I agree, all they can do is say no. They may say it rudely, but don't take it personal. I was on one of those dating sites about 4 years ago, and clicked on the "interested" icon. The guy did send me a message--but it said "not going to happen". No big deal.
I actually think that's a great idea. I might want to talk to someone in a plutonic way and there might be someone else I might want to talk to in a romantic way and a hug emoji would be a great way of communicating your interest to that person without that awkward statement.
Plutonic - interested in planets are you?
@GoldenDoll One of my favorite subjects
whether its a kind of site neutral hug or a short message to express interest in interacting more I think the risk of rejection or feelings related to that would be the same.It is intimidating to stick yourself out there. SO much less external context available in cyberspace.Its a risky business.I have been sticking to the public exchanges for the most part.
I think if you would feel ok sending a virtual hug you could convince yourself to send a hello and steel yourself for what ever may come.You just to have to take that step