NOBODY deserves abuse. To blame and place responsibly on the abused is unconscionable.
I’m so glad I don’t believe in that bullshit. Had I stayed with the violent ex, I would be dead. How can anyone, religious or not, condone abuse? There are no ‘levels’. A volatile abuser can go from smiling to vicious rage in 0.4 seconds. That’s way faster than I can run.

Both my sisters in law talk about being submissive to their husband as the head of the marriage and household. My brothers weren’t/aren’t a abusive, but still. It’s not for me!