I agree-I'm dating for the first time in my life. In the past if I were attracted to someone Id say why don;t you move in with me? Now I'm seeing people in the friend zone. I've spent time getting to know as much as I can about someone on the phone. As far as someone who is not into a relationship they usually flee after one date. If they were to come back I think if I really liked them I would give them a second chance. Would risk getting hurt if I really liked the guy.

I’m not going put my needs on hold for someone who is not ready to invest in a relationship. I might miss my chance at love, while the other person is already happy.

It's a tossup with whether it means "friendzone" or "I'm interested in you but..." It all depends on how the person said it and the reason behind them saying that. I would inquire their reason first and then decide whether I'd wait or not.

I have also been friendzoned and it wasted my time because I would have preferred that the person tell me that they're not interested in me and just wanted to be friends up front than have me guessing. I'm open for friendship, however, if it is a friendship where I end up getting hurt in the end after they've decided that they don't like me, then I would rather just move on. Sure, it will hurt, but I can move on much quicker. There have been some people that I've kept them in my mind and they did become ready just as they said and it went well.

So yeah, it all depends on their reason for not being in a relationship.

Good choice

I would consider dating them. This person may not have been ready to date, could have been in a bad relationship and needed some time to think things through.

I'd take that as a firm "no" right now, and a possible "maybe" at some nebulous point in the future. I honestly think it's a gentle way of saying "not romantically interested".

I was not seeking when I met my late husband, but you can bet I MADE time for him when we met and the opportunity was there.

Isnt dating basically just a way of getting to know another person? While Ive rarely dated; I think if I found a person interesting then dating (or hanging out) would be ok. Im asexual so dating has never been a thing for me. I am also an introvert. So every relationship tends to stay only in the Friendzone.