Do we even understand love full circle? Why is it we feel all types of love? How is it we can feel a significant other kind of love with more than one person? Is it that ignorance has become us and we struggle to understand our own emotions? More so, would that mean we have not felt true love it it's entirety?
You pose some good questions. I agree that we have the capacity to love multiple people in an amorous and sexual way, along with establishing deeper bonds.
I agree too, that we live in a society where introspection is not encouraged and, more over, stifled by our quickened pace... our superficial interactions with others... our reliance on others to define our self worth...
Good read. Thanks.
love is not possessive, we cannot know love without understanding that. if you have a mutually stronger bond with one lover than another, and both or all involved parties are happy and know the situation, then that is love. we all have different concepts of love, but it's only love if it is selfless.
just my take on it.
Most people don't understand that emotions are a result of our animal instincts. people do not think of their emotions as beign driven by instincts (at least in part, they have underlying influences on our emotions). Our instincts are mostly geared towards survival of the species, not in generating happiness. Rather happiness is often a by product of behavior(s) performed that that help us survive.
Rational thought allows us to adapt our survival instincts to our own particular life circumstances, although our abilities to do this differ greatly.
It is unfortunate that we only have one word for "love in the English language as it doesn't help us to hve much more than the most general understanding of what love it or how to handle it.
If you look at love as an instinct that evolved to help oru species develop long term associations to help procreation and the survival of children, you may have a better grasp on where it comes from. However, emotions are generally not rational, so dont' expect love to make sense.
Seems to me, from my personal experience and observations, that more and more of the new generation expect this instant love appeal to be legit. Which it is not. Love takes awkward hard work to develop, and sometimes people write off others too fast for too trivial of reasons.
That's a smart, positive and loving questioning.. thank you for stimulating the soul within us.
I'd like to share my resent realization about this matter with these points of view:
We call a lot of things "love" and mean various things by it: the protectiveness of a parent for a child, the dependency of a child for a parent, the lust and pair-bonding for a lover, the shared experience between friends. I think it would be better to have distinct words for each type of love, like the Eskimos have for types of snow. I don't think we're lacking a capacity for love or that we're missing out on the full spectrum of love; to me it's just that we have various emotional relationships with a variety of people who satisfy different psychological needs within us.
Do we even understand love full circle?
No, not scientifically at least. Though I hear we're making big strides towards that, and as I've read somewhere in the comments, like most things that happen in the brain, it's a chemical reaction, regardless of type.
Why is it we feel all types of love?
Not really sure how to respond to this, it's pretty vague. Short answer, because there are all types of people, and the chemicals our brains produce make us feel all types of love.
How is it we can feel a significant other kind of love with more than one person?
Because it's difficult to believe in the "one true love" mindset when you know anything about statistics. There are many people out there that you could potentially be with for the rest of your life, it's more a decision to do so than a "someone out there is the one for me" kind of thing.
Is it that ignorance has become us and we struggle to understand our own emotions?
Anyone that falls in love comfortably and has no struggle understanding it sounds pretty boring to me, but I suppose it would save a lot of the negative emotions that come with love.
More so, would that mean we have not felt true love it it's entirety?
I don't think true love exists as a 'love at first sight' type of deal. You become infatuated with someone, as time progresses you learn more and it either improves or hurts the relationship. True love is simple, it's a choice you make, even if it's the wrong one. You make a choice to love someone, regardless of faults, sometimes to the detriment of your own life, sometimes to it's benefit.
Interesting question. Something to ponder and get back to you on.