I agree. I have learned this also, after years of figuring it out.

Closure is overrated. "No." is a complete sentence.

A win? Nothing is won here. On either of our ends. You are mistaken

It was asking about a red flag followed by asking about how to cancel a date with said asshole. Of course you didn't read what I wrote and created your own theories on what I was "really" asking for. Well I was seeking advice and opinions in both posts.

@demifeministgal
Why are you describing your date concluding to blame him when he is not here? Do you like to talk about people on their backs? Is that what you do? Is that right?

I have no way of knowing what happened but also.....

1. What details you left out
2. Do you think guys date to be jerks? Is that how they work?
3. How many dates have you been on?
4. Why does your profile show a bias or distaste against men or people that they are out to cheat you? Is that your premise before going on a date?
5. Why do I think you were seeking a validation from members that you won or you were right?
6. Why does your post look biased and opinionated?

Want red flags? Ask your personal best friend, ask a shrink. Also are you very young like 16 ir 18 and not dated much or know very little? A public platform to ask a dating advice where all discussions along with your profile, photos are indexed is not a smart choice.

There was no date yet. Some people recommended ghosting and blocking him. After we have arranged a date. Somehow I think you'd feel more annoyed at me ghosting and blocking him and standing him up for a date than you would me asking how not to do that.

LOL you are seriously reaching now. I never implied or stated anything about all men. This post and the last are very specific to ONE man and ONE situation. The fact you extrapolated that to all men, means you have gone way beyond my posts and are drawing conclusions and assumptions based on what you think you know about me. hmm interesting

@demifeministgal
Judgements about dating are very personal. What I would like in a woman, what risks I am willing to take will not be similar to what another man would like. If you have doubts, suspicions, not sure... don't proceed. You have a grown up mind but importantly you have an inner voice. Listen to it and stick to it. I have heard women have the sense of feeling the risk that men don't. If you would like to go, meet and find the truth yourself, go and meet him.

These decisions you need to take at work and life many many times. Only you can tell what feels right. Also Google anonymously for common dating flags. There is nobody here very wise and exceptional to advise you correctly although some are acting like one. But please try not to hold a bias, be quick to judge and come off mean by describing a man asshole if you have not met him and do not know enough about him.

@demifeministgal
"....The fact you extrapolated that to all men, means you have gone way beyond my posts ..."

Your profile amd other posts count. Your quickness to judge and blame counts. The readiness to wash dating laundry on a public platform counts. They all count. Being defensive will not help you. I am hitting the bed now. I suggest you ponder tonight. I will come here tomorrow.

I don't have to know you at all. I can or anybody can surmise what you are based on how you articulate, express amd come off here. How you do that is in your hands. We don't have to know how good you otherwise might be. You may be the greatest but I don't see that here.

LOL no they do not count. Because they are completely unrelated to this. If by count you mean you think you have a sense of my personality based on all of the posts you read, then you cannot give me any credible advice. Since you are ignoring what information I present you with and rely solely on your perception of me and will answer anything I ask based on that. Instead of taking posts on a case by case basis. Also, the vast majority of replies were quick to judge and blame. Interestingly, it is mainly other guys that got super defensive or offended on behalf of this random guy online. Almost like you are empathizing with him and can relate to how he talks to women, and in turn, are truly defending yourselves.

@St-Sinner

Dude, don't waste your time.

Notice how nothing is her fault? She admits not even being serious enough about this guy to even be forthcoming with meaningful information about her admitted mental issues. Yet, she's consulting a group of strangers after "dating" someone online for one month?

This ia all about virtue signaling! Something is seriously not right upstairs with this one.

@linxminx

I was going to leave her alone, actually. But she took the opportunity to troll me on a completely unrelated thread. So gloves came off for one post. If she wants smoke, she will get it.

That said, it just so happens that she needs a few people to take the kid gloves off and tell her the truth about her actions and statements going back to her previous post.

Don't be fooled. A lot of these guys responses are completely disingenuous. It's classic behavior by men. Let me bash another guy to get a leg up in the mating race. And I have seen woman all over this site bashing all men for the behavior of one man, and I have yet to see a single female check that behavior.

After she trolled me I now see her behavior and posts in an entirely different light than you might. My antennae are raised. She is trolling this guy, whoever he is, behind his back, and taking advantage of this sites predisposition to bashing men.

I would certainly hope that someone as intelligent and fair-minded as yourself would now have your antennae raised to all these behaviors, hers and the groups, moving forward. But I do get why you took the opportunity to attempt to interject even more sensitivity. Before her trolling I sincerely tried to respond to her with thoughtfulness and sensitivity.

I will just finish with; don't start none, won't be none.

I'm a demisexual sex was never even on the table yet with him, after a 1st date or not. Your concerns are not needed in that regard. Thnx

Your comment made me think of Friends when Ross is intimidated by a woman's nobel prize winning exes and then joey gets the girl and he's all I'm definitely smarter than him! wtf

Here's the script for it: [fanfr.com]

@demifeministgal I never watched Friends, but I gather one guy was smart+honest and the other one was sexy+a player.

Not meeting him. Will keep your advice in mind for the future

He's been shaken.