Can I ask for a working definition of 'mentally ill'? As someone with a lifetime diagnosis of major depressive disorder I'm a little offended by the assumption that this means a lifetime of failure. I'm retired from a very successful career. I'd just ask that people be a little more conscious of stereotyping in this regard.

There is a wide range of disability and for some it makes sense to support them, and for some it doesn't. Heck some parents support adult children without disability!

It really depends on why they are disabled.

From my perspective, the parents baby their disabled kids more than what is needed. I know a guy who told me he milks his illness to get more stuff. ? So far he's sitting pretty at age 40. No telling what will happen when his parents pass

Remember one thing in life do you want to be controlled or not be controlled
Control means you do not have any freedom

If you have all your needs met without effort, then, why put in effort? Someday the parents won't be able to provide anymore, and the grown kids will be in trouble. I agree that it is bad parenting to provide too much. Often these parents are manipulated due to their love for their children.

If she does not want to contribute to the cost of your WiFi then do not give her the password, if you have already done so, then change the password and do not give it to her.

I'm schizophrenic and have a full time job and my parents help me make ends meet. They don't enable me, they help me and I help them by paying them what I can. It's about mutual respect. My friend who was in a head on collision is now mentally reduced to a 3 year old. Is her mom enabling her because she can't even remember how to feed herself? I think you need to look at things case by case, and not just assume everyone with mental problems is capable of doing things or surviving without full support. And you shouldn't complain about people on here not taking your advice. You can offer it, but that doesn't mean they have to take it. I feel like basically you're looking for validation that you're better than them. This is just my opinion.

Job hunting is a bit of mine field. There are several ducks that need to be lined up correctly. Skillset, personality, attitude, attire to a lesser degree, etc.

I have twin 19 y.o., one is on the spectrum. They are both in college and they both do volunteer work. I suppose it all depends on how severe the disability is. BTW Sarahroo, I love reading your post, take care and be good to yourself.

My 22 yr old daughter isn't mentally ill but lives with her boyfriend and his family in my home. They pay rent. Jesse buys her own food, works part-time and cooks her own meals. She dresses like goth but won't take my advice. I figure she'll get her GED when she's ready.