And you don't need to forgive them either.

@Green_Soldier71 revenge is pointless even when justice is denied.

@Green_Soldier71 Showing you can't trust them

I can think of many instances where that is not the worst thing to do to someone. There are a very large number of people by percentage who have done this. are you saying that every person who has cheated (in love because if you expand the definition it would include every person) is irredeemable? I think it seems unnecessarily harsh.

@MsAl No not all

I agree that forgiveness must be earnt and begged for.

@Green_Soldier71 I suppose it depends on exactly what one means by "forgive." For me, forgiveness includes letting someone back into my life — but I could never feel safe enough to do that with someone who showed no remorse for whatever harm they had inflicted upon me or someone close to me.

@Cyklone I wouldn't necessarily require begging, but I would expect some form of genuine apology. Depending on the offense, that might include some form of restitution.

@Green_Soldier71 this is a good question, because it asks us what forgiveness actually is.

Is forgiveness a restoration of a relationship? Or is forgiveness an act of ceasing to hold resentment? The former is external; the latter internal.

And there are various combinations available, too! I might seek to restore a relationship with a sibling who wronged me, but I might always be wary. I might completely sever a relationship with a friend who wronged me, but not feel particularly resentful a few years later.

@resserts I meant begging in that context, genuinely remorseful, asking for forgiveness and helping me feel confident that it wouldn't recur.