Posing a question. So you're a guy cheating on your wife and you have been doing that for at least 20 yrs of the marriage (college sweethearts) with one or various females and one day the gay son's mate gets a love message sent to him and Mr. Cheater from the new "thing growing on the end of his dick" (entirely my made up pseudonym.)
The gay son tells dad, 'either you tell mom or I will'. Ended the marriage and new thing won't leave him to his own devices since he probably screwed every female on CL. He needs serious baby-sitting.