Sounds like you are hanging around some mean-spirited people. Maybe you should try to find a different social scene in which to operate.

I was teased a lot in school for my appearance. I guess I've been lucky as an adult to not hear any negative comments about my looks.

I would hardly call ugly a slur. Just let that kinda thing roll off if it comes from anyone whose opinion you don't value

Fat, gross, ugly, pig. (that I was carrying a small Vietnamese child on my body) I mean no offense, and apologize for that horrifically racist comment. I needed to give the full picture. This abuse was relentless. All of this from my last boyfriend.

I have been big my whole life, so it’s been a lifetime of bullying and taunting.

3 years ago I lost a lot of weight, and by a lot I mean 175 lbs. lost. He met me right after that time. I’m not sure why he was even interested. Although I was at the top of my confidence level. Bottom line ,it was not enough weight loss for him. That’s why I make the fact known I am a BBW in my profile. I am working on feeling good about me again. I am probably never going to be skinny. So if any men or women here are truly interested. I come as is. I’m a pretty cool chick. Interesting, intelligent, creative, fun, and sexy if I must say so myself. ?

People can be cruel. I got a feeling that they are unhappy with their lives. People who respect themselves and are confident don't feel a need to hurt others. I have been insulted and ridiculed so much - in my days of youth, I actually wrote down every nice thing anyone ever said to me and took it out and read it when I got hostile comments. I don't have to do that anymore, but I still feel irritated when someone says awful things to me. Will be a nicer world when people do not feel a need to make someone feel small.

I am obese. If I had just one dollar for every time I have been called a "fat ugly bitch" I would be a rich woman. I have had self righteous arrogant people tell me that fat people use too many health care dollars. They seem to forget that slender people who abuse booze, drugs, cigarrettes, or who have a compulsive habit like stealing, gambling, child molesting, or beating people - they cost the system lots of money too.

Not to my face since middle-school for the most part. I've been a near lifelong activist for Progressive causes, so there have been a few verbal arrows from time to time from those with few debaring skills...or facts.
Most women get called really horrible things every damned day on social media.
But that's not to the face.

Nope.

But what do you do when the one killing your self esteem is yourself?

I was called a <n word> lover by my own father after trying to talk to him about his racism. I was 17 or so at the time.

Being a almost "professional" immigrant (us is the 4th country where I have lived at least 10 years) I've been called everything you might imagine - and some more.

Sure. I just say "Thanks, Captain Obvious."

Of course ! Who hasn't?