Tired of canned messages, I answered literally. Critiqued his profile. Ha!
On Fitness Singles, instead of writing a personal message, most men use canned, lazy pull-down messages:
Great smile! Wanna chat?
I'm interested in learning more about you. Let's chat.
Today for the thousandth time, a man sent me this canned message:
I liked your profile. What do you think of mine?
My reply
What do I think of your profile?
My favorite part is your username: ThoughtfulHiker.
Especially like: "I love to hike, travel, and laugh about the absurdities of life." Me, too.
Paragraphs #2, 3 and 4 lost me. Too vague and hard to read. And I have a master degree.
I suggest you clarify and shorten those three paragraphs. I thought "Oh, dear," and skipped to the ending.
Kathleen
p.s. Since 2006, I have been a volunteer college mentor at the high school. I help students apply for colleges and scholarships. I'm used to reading meandering, run-on essay drafts. Couldn't resist answering the question literally.
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His reply is funny and delightful.
Hey Kathleen, thanks for the compliment! We are literate AND thoughtful.
Paragraph 2: I have worked and volunteered. I'm a good man.
Paragraph 3: First sentence's ok, the rest is essentially don't let the past shackle one.
Paragraph 4: Men tend to be klutzes (sp?) about communicating feelings.
Great about mentoring, and that it is tied to a very worthy cause. We need more critical thinking I think but I'm not sure! That is meant to be humorous. I lived on a reservation briefly growing up, was a great experience, so perhaps you are helping some 1st Nations folk, and bravo for taking the time.
Thank you for being candid and direct, and I hope you have a great evening. I do like the sound of my own head rattling out on paper, and invariably edit wildly. I write articles and poems occasionally. Again thanks for taking a moment to write. Robert
LiterateHiker
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Mar 2, 2022
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He took it well. This guy might be worth checking out Kathleen......ya never know. But I might know.
He lives in Pocatello, ID, 651 miles away. It's 10-hour drive. Too far away.
@LiterateHiker I'm sorry to hear that.
Really, he seems okay. Being able to take criticism and bravely coming back for more is a green flag.
He lives 651 miles away. It's a 10-hour drive. Too far away.
@LiterateHiker Would you drive 325 miles to meet someone?
No. That's 5-6 hours of driving over mountain passes.
There is value in being terse, but it can backfire. A colleague once said to me "I can usually get away with reading every third word, but I have to read all of your words, damn you!". My response was along the lines of "Why should I waste my time by writing unnecessary words and why should I waste your time by expecting you to read them?". She looked stunned and chastened.
anglophone
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Mar 1, 2022
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Please share the reply if you get one, that will be the true measure of the man.
HippieChick58
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Mar 1, 2022
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