If you truly want companionship, then perhaps the best way to find it is not the web. Especially for women. You have to remember that men are easy. Yes really they are. Most of us would happily role over and play dead with our ears pricked up, for any woman who could flutter her eyelids at us. So that, it follows, if a really good man becomes available, say he is widowed, then you may rest assured that he is already targeted by half a dozen of his female acquaintances. ( I speak from experience I am a widower. Only three females in my case, but then I am not a really good man.) So good men never get as far as the web.

If you want my probably really bad, and trite advice, then personally I would say. If you really want to meet good men, then the best way, is probably to do something real that makes a contribution, outside of work, because that is where the "good" men are anyway. Do some charity work for example, or get involved in unpaid local government, your local animal rescue etc. several things, there are things for every taste. That way you will vastly widen your social network, not only meeting more men, but increasing your social standing as well, giving you a much better chance of finding, the one. While maybe one day, as often happens, a co-worker will probably bump your arm and say. "Have you met." Because there is nothing people enjoy more than match making, its a real rush that few can resist.

And even if at the end of the day that does not help you find a mate, since nothing sadly is ever certain. Then at least you will still have met a lot of new friends, had some fun, shed a few tears, saved all the money wasted on dating other womens rejects, and have the satisfaction that you have achieved something worthwhile and made a contribution with your time.

It would be better if there were a carrot on a stick as a reward.

OKCupid is insanely expensive now. Used to be free. Bummer.