Wow, a conservative doing the right thing (for once). Sounds like mom was also a conservative.

@JackPedigo Frankly I have no clue what mom was since I left her house when I was twenty. But, yeah, it was a transactional sort of relationship.

I had to have exploratory surgery and joked to the GYN that she could snip the tubes while she was in there. I was 27 and she grilled me for 20 minutes that day about the choice. The day of the surgery she grilled me again and I was still adamant. At the follow up visit she showed me the videotape of my procedure and I wanted to jump out of the chair and do a happy dance. Like you I never told my parents although they knew I didn't want kids.

@MizJ I wonder how many have kids not because they want to to please others? No wonder so many people have screwed up childhoods.

@JackPedigo Two factors may be at play, the second is that women especially are conditioned to think that rearing children is part of life. It starts when we are children and girls are given dolls.

@MizJ I've heard that a lot. Unfortunately, it didn't apply to my first wife. She could care less for her daughter.

@JackPedigo That is tragic for both your ex and her daughter. It is also a good example of why women need to have choices, birth control, etc.

@MizJ Choices need information and most don't seem to care about being informed in a variety of subjects. They just want do to what feels right. To too many having kids is simply a matter of scratching an itch.

Why should it make any difference? It doesn't. Although, maybe it would relieve any tension one might feel at the thought of having to be responsible for another being.

@JackPedigo I wrote that for others. But my 1st wife lost interest in sex after I had the cut.
No interest now as my sex days are long time concluded.

@rogerbenham Perhaps for her it was not for pleasure but procreation. That is sad.

@JackPedigo Very definitely. We had sex only once after i'd been cut and she said there was no point in doing it now.