I’ve noticed every time she send me a text message, she can’t say anything without mentioning her Christian religion or needing to remind me how Jesus loves me. She knows I don’t believe in Jesus Christ and she still sends messages like that. What should I do? I’ve mostly been ignoring her text messages cause I don’t want her to think she’s getting the best of me, but telling me something like that is like saying Edward Cullens love you. I’m convinced these are all acts of attempted manipulation, but I could be wrong. Tell me what you guys think. Leave your thoughts below.
I would probably be a little blunt:-
"So Jesus loves me, does he?
"Bit difficult that, due to him not existing except in the minds of delusional christians. So Jesus loves me precicely as much as you are, yourself, loved by the equally non-existent giant, emerald-green fairy at the bottom of my garden.
"Do you really want to exchange fairy tales?"
She doesn't respect you....and respect among friends should be always present.
I’m picking her off my friends list.
She obviously doesn’t respect you. Is that a real friend? Tell her, don’t ask her, to knock it off. If she doesn’t, say goodbye.
She’s not a friend anymore.
@EmeraldJewel being an atheist can get pretty lonely sometimes especially in the Bible Belt.
@Iffy yes very much so.
Make an appointment to meet her and turn up with a colander on your head and a faraway look in your eye. Waffle on about the Flying Spaghetti Monster and how His touching you with his noodly appendage has changed your life. Offer to take her to meet the local FSM group and have spaghetti etc. etc.
See how she likes it.
Alternatively, tell her to fuck off!
Tell her what you just told us. Tell her to stop messaging you Jesus crap. You do not share your Atheist crap with her so she should stop sending Jesus texts to you.
I’m doing that right now.
It's harassment. But the good news is the bible gives you plenty of material to throw right back.
Just make the following quote:
“Those who know do not speak. Those who speak do not know.”-Lao Tzu
Next time she says it you could reply with "I couldn't care less" if there's one thing that annoys theists it's apathy.
Lol I will try that.
If nothing else, I’d gradually put more and more distance between the friend and me.
If you have asked her not to do that then It is a form of mild abuse. Trying to guilt you into questioning your non belief. It is at the very least annoying and disrespectful.
I had a couple friends continue to try to talk Jesus to me after I came out as atheist. I told them I like them and would like to continue being friends and talking with them but they would need to stop with the Jesus tal and the guilting because it was not going to work, that it has the opposite effect on me. They got the message and we still talk so that is what worked for me.
Call her out. Say something like....
You - "Do I treat you with respect?"
Her - "Yes. Always why?"
You - "I feel disrespected when you give me of your faith, especially when you know I'm an atheist"
Her - "I'm sorry. I never thought of that"
You - "That's OK. Please respect my atheism the way I respect your faith".
This might not work thought
She's trying to "save" you. She's pretty much telling you that you are lost and misguided and destined to burn in hell...........unless she can show you the error of your ways.
She’s a victim of mind control.
@EmeraldJewel I could be wrong, but it's just my interpretation. Aren't most if not all religious people a victim of mind control/indoctrination?
@Piece2YourPuzzle yes.
I had an auto body shop guy who is a leader of some yahoo sect. Once he fixed my car, and when I got it back, there were fliers everywhere. In the console, under the seats, between the seats, under the floor mats... I pulled down my visor and got a flier shower. I just laughed, and then burned them. People expect you to respect their beliefs, but they need to respect yours too. If they don't, they're probably not worth it.
find new friends.
I am. She’s been picked off.
Yes she is being manipulative. I would end my texts with something cryptic like "Freud forgives you" just to confuse her (but that's my sense of humour ?)
Hmmm this sounds like this could be a tough one , your friend sounds lime the type that breathes,drinks,and eats her religion, in other words just can't stop mentioning it!, one thing you can Is to ask or say look im well aware your religious but honestly it isnt necessary to say Jesus loves me in your texts to me, i mean its like your deliberately doing it to annoy or put me down. Just try and say it in a way where it isnt offensive and it turns into a mountain
I’ll start sending scriptures where Jesus talked about hating family members in order to be his disciple.
@EmeraldJewel very good idea
She's no friend. Friends accept you as you are, and don't try to manipulate you into agreeing with them. She doesn't respect you, or your beliefs. She thinks she's better than you because she believes and you don't.
If it were me, I'd cut her off with no remorse.
I blocked her.
@EmeraldJewel Good for you! I'm willing to bet that you have other friends who don't treat you like that. Those are the kind worth keeping.
Have you asked her nicely but firmly to stop including religious things in her texts to you? If not, I would let her know that you’d like her to refrain from any religious talk because you’re not interested in hearing about it
I’ve let her know before that she was too pushy.
@EmeraldJewel A friend should respect your boundaries. I would let her know that she needs to cut it out or you can’t be her friend
I would feel sorry for anyone who could not relate to me (a non-believer) without mentioning Jesus. She needs to get a life that matters.
I strongly agree with you!
I have friends that do this, as well. I usually respond by adding a Bible verse containing some atrocity committed by Yahweh or one of his followers, such as Elisha and the she-bears, or Abraham pimping out his wife to Pharaoh. The Bible is full of stories showing what an asshole the main character can be.
Im convinced the devil was actually the good guy. Hahaha!
@EmeraldJewel according to bible the devil aka snake was the one that told the truth in genius
@Rdurham lol ikr! God’s a rotten liar!