Maybe that's why we want them.

I have to look at it logically. Although it doesn't always help. Falling for someone is very instinctual and you don't have total control over it. If you look at someone and think "I want some of that!". It isn't you directly thinking that. It's your basic instincts telling you that this person is within acceptable standards and is directing your attention to hopefully become involved with them leading to a more intimate situation. Some people find it easier to get over them by simply letting themselves become interested in someone new. However some still can't shake the idea of one particular person and dwell on what might have been. Just remember that you can't change the past and that the only thing you can do is try to learn from it and continue on.

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I'm so sorry to hear this! I hope that you pull yourself out of it!

I have found that it's not only the fact that you we can't have that person, it's also that we can't solve or fix the problem that keeps us from our closeness with that person. We sometimes only see the one obstacle, without focusing on the reasons and letting go of the relationship because it simply isn't right for us.

We are not aware bt crying, my friend, is the way we have to get rid of the pain. IAW, we don't cry for what we lost but to easy the pain said loss caused us...

We are all taught cognitive dissonance from a early age. Think of every classic old commercial you have seen- most establish something is wrong- often the family or a relationship is damaged or imperiled by the problem. But then look! A solution! The solution is shown “working” easily with the person smiling and grateful. At the end the family unit or relationship is shown happy, saved, intact. Thanks to that nifty product. Advertising tells us things will make our lives better, happier. There becomes a subconscious link- we see someone using that product somewhere in our minds we conclude “they must be happy- it must be true!” Shopping malls are one huge exercise in materialism bring happiness. The other issue is “stuff” externalities what often are internal voids and issues. It’s easier to buy some shoes than address what is really internally bothering us- usually complex issues of “why are we here” or “what will bring meaning and happiness to our lives”. Looking to the outside for a quick fix and not thinking about the fabric of the world around us is taught and encouraged in modern society. It is how the industrial world wants us to be, placated with stuff instead of truly happy on our own. Just my two cents...

It’s human nature to strive for what we don’t have. There is nothing we can’t have.Hard work is a small part, timing is the biggest....as well as a winning lottery ticket.

Because we hold out hope th y will become the image we made them out to be. We have to accept who they are and if that means without us then so be it.

It can be hard to do but look forward instead of back. Sometimes you don't get a choice.

It is caused by the water that you drink !

Just a bad mental habit. Try stoicism. [dailystoic.com]

Better hope he is not reading this ????

Just get over it. You'll feel so good, so free!

If you have it, you don't want it anymore because, well, you have it.

I don't know.
Too much myth of potential maybe.
That but for that one change everything would be different.
But it would be the same in a different way.