Studies Show that People who are Good lead happier lives. I like Richard Carriers take on Morality (in Sense & Goodness without God). Everyone should pursue Happiness, but with Compassion and Integrity. So in other words, while you may put yourself first you will do so as long as it doesn't hurt others, society as a whole and doesn't undermine your own personal integrity.

Hmmmm.... the difference between the good, the bad, and the ugly... Thats a rough one Dave. Heres a question. 1. Should we disclose secret desires?
2. Should we open up ugly relationships and be public with pictures and names? Hell... its happening today. Its on the news. You can run but you can't hide. Moral behavior is a unique question. Lets say im running for Congress. 10 years earlier it hit on a person at a party. They kept the conversation going and laughing all the time. That same person discloses this information to the public. Now im screwed. Forget about running for congress. Lets feel sorry for the person writing the book about thier adventures trying to get promoted. How many people goof off at parties with alcohol? I can't count the times someone grabbed my ass at these events. These were salary people too. Have i been good? What is good? Good is a unique attitude. Do you look at tha babes on the beach. Is that bad? Does your wife say look at that guys muscles.Wow! Is that bad or good?

Interesting question. I also am a lifetime Atheist or strong Agnostic if asked. Moral code varies by culture and judgments of others reinforce ones moral views. Personally I try to treat people as I want to be treated. That gives me somewhat of a moral baseline. Sexually I throw all that out the window. Have always been active sexually, and with age I seem to be pushing that line harder. Not sure if I see it as amoral, hell I see it as normal.

We are all unique in terms of our mental makeup. You could argue it's nature, nurture or both that shaped your way of thinking. Regardless, some are fairer than others. We all won't arrive there at the same time and, in some aspects of life, we probably won't get there at all The key is to communicate and listen to ideas about fairness and morality, look at ourselves and decide whether these ideas are for us. Someday, someone will appreciate your efforts.

My moral fortitude is strong now but hasn't always been. I cheated on partners when I was in my 20's but learned a (and well deserved) lesson and changed as a result. I have never stolen anything because I was raised learning to work for what you want and that taught me to respect others stuff. I truly struggle with understanding how people can continue to want to overpopulate a struggling planet and find it to be happy for friends who are pregnant, it leads me to believe that they're not paying attention.

Oh yes, I have bent them. When I do this I am shocked at my own depravity.

I think very few people have a well-defined moral code. They more or less have a sense of what's right and what's wrong, and sometimes choose to do wrong. I will tell you I personally haven't done anything that I felt was wrong.

I have a pretty simple system to decide when I'm not sure what to do and so far, it's 100% accurate. When I have a tough moral decision to make, I decide which one I want to do least, and that's my choice. So far it's 100% accurate. I've found that choosing what's right is usually more difficult than choosing what I want to do least.