I constantly hope that a beautiful mind is attractive. I feel the, you have a pretty face but...syndrome. I'm smart, I'm funny, I have a decent vocabulary, I can usually put a sentence together, I'm a font of trivia. But, I'm short, I'm fat, I have gray hair and I'm 61. Any chances for me? Oh yeah I was married for 35 years

From another perspective -- Looks are more likely to turn me away but perhaps not in the usual direction. I avoid men who are in extremely good shape or too 'pretty', by which I mean maybe too 'metrosexual'. At this point in my life I prefer some meat on the bones and find bald or balding really sexy -- if it's left natural and not some silly comb-over. Facial hair is really nice, too. Oh, and at my age if there isn't at least some gray in the hair -- forget it. And any indication that anything besides maybe the face is shaved -- I'm out of there!!!

I'm butt ugly and have a gimp right eye to boot. Not exactly babe magnet material here.

That being said, I've been fortunate enough to have been physically intimate with some very attractive women. It comes from not really giving a shit about the lemons fate has put in my basket and going out and getting what I want anyway.

Of course, the women I get with ultimately wind up with better looking guys who have more money, but I go in knowing that's likely going to happen sooner or later. I just enjoy the time I share with them for as long as they want to stick around.

There are three keys to getting with beautiful women if you are not a particularly attractive guy:

1. Be confident. As I said, not giving a damn about the lemons life has dealt you and going out and getting what you want anyway goes a long way towards your own happiness as well as capturing the attention of beautiful women.
2. Have something to offer other than your looks. Nice dinners, romantic vacations and gifts go a long way towards impressing beautiful women and getting them to overlook your flaws. If you're not exactly wealthy, save your money and travel to countries like Thailand and Costa Rica where beautiful women are ostricized by the male population simply because they do not have fair enough skin. With a few American dollars in your pocket, you'll suddenly find that you have more female attention from beautiful women that you could previously only dream about than you can possibly even begin to handle. In fact, there will come a point where you'll quite literally have to lock youself in your hotel room just to take a break from it all.
3. Don't be so uptight about establishing a long term relationship with just one person. Relax. Enjoy the time you have with the person you're seeing until they decide to move on. Then wish her well and go out and get another one. Someone once said that variety is the spice of life. I can tell you from personal experience that this is true. While all my married friends are knee deep in shitty diapers, bills and college savings accounts, I'm off traveling to exotic locations and sleeping with some of the most beautiful women in the world. It's a pretty damn good life, I must say.

I struggle with finding myself being attractive or worthy of romantic love. I say “struggle” lightly. I naturally just dismiss that anyone would be interested in me that way. Like genuinely surprised if I can be convinced to trust that is what is happening.
I don’t have to be married again. I’m seeking a loving, passionate relationship with an available lady that can appreciate my particular blend of quirks and baggage. I also have some pluses but most get those for free.

Despite what anyone says, no introduction would ever happen and no interest would ever be shown if there wasn't some form of physical attraction. We are nothing but animals... It's inherent in out DNA for the survival of the species.