I don't hate a lot of things, but cliches are definitely in the Top 5. When I see "my thoughts and prayers are with you" in the wake of a death or tragedy, it makes me gnash my teeth because I think it's just something people say, even when they're not thinking/praying.
I just don't know what I would say. Guess that's why I'm agnostic lol.
Depends on if loss was accidental malicious or if was caused by a long suffering.
Never should an Atheist pretend prEyer has any efficacy ever in all of history. ...irrationality and magical thinking is learned dysfunctional behaviour.....no matter what the occasion I offer condolences, sympathy and acknowledgment of the grave situation. ...hoping they remain strong to endure their travails
“You are in my loving thoughts” is what I sometimes say. Best not to leave it to the grieving person to assign helping tasks. You know what they need—help with pet care, running errands, grocery shopping, picking kids up from school, rides to medical appointments, etc. Just say, “This must be a difficult time for you. May I help by ...”
If they're going through or recovering from a medical procedure, "I hope [it] goes as quickly and as painlessly as possible." For deceased loved ones I offer my condolences.
I offer condolences and then do what I can to change the situation