Smokers-tried visiting fellow member here who is a chronic chain smoker and I can't handle cigarette smoke any more. My parents, my exes and gf all smoke cigarettes and I got leukemia not them.
Bigots-anyone who does not believe in diversity-LGBTQ rights, vs races, religions, national origins, disabilities and supports trumpism in any ugly form of it..
Drinking to excess (getting drunk)
Chain smoking
Believing in gods or ghosts
Criminal record for anything violent
Having no sense of humor
Rudeness
Apathy
Not talking or only taking about themselves
Not wanting to know anything about me and what I am into
Being on the phone during a meal
Inconsiderate of others
Throwing trash on the ground
There are more, but that's enough for now
Not curious about things, not offering to chip in on the meal, being rude to wait staff, not laughing fully, touching me aggressively (some women think playful hitting is an acceptable form of self expression - they are wrong), being negative about things in my life (I'm a vegetarian atheistic poly guy that plays a lot of music, does martial arts, and loves science. I don't hide this; I like me and see no reason to change those qualities. You'd be surprised how some people think I'm from Neptune), expecting me to do everything in the meeting (I don't mind driving, but I shouldn't have to do 50 minutes of the hour drive each time if she has a car as well). Basically, non- partner behavior. Sounds simple? It isn't...
20 minutes into a first conversation over coffee she said, "Black people don't work as hard as white people do." We have a long ways to go as a society.
. Trumpeteer
. God/Jesus/Praying
. No awareness of current events (a volcano is erupting in Hawaii?)
. Conversation hogging (keeps telling endless stories, about self, no interest in me)
. Poor table manners
Probably the biggest deal breaker is if the person smokes. My sinuses are sensitive enough that a smoker sitting six feet away who is not smoking will still bother me, because of the stench in their clothes, hair and body odor.
I agree!. I can smell a smoker from the car ahead of me on the freeway.
i havent dated since I was 19 but I'd say not paying for our dates. There isn't anything wrong with it, it's just not what my type of man would do. I like to think I'm good at reading people so any sociopath, psychopath, or heavy narcissist vibes would be a deal-breaker. * and smoking. I just can't date a smoker.