I'd like some advice from y'all:

I have an aspie friend, I'll call him Elvin, who lives not far from me and doesn't drive (and can't afford a car even if he could drive). I've known him for a few years, and before the pandemic I'd give him, and sometimes his mother, rides to places around town, just to help out. Elvin's a nice guy but he's irritating sometimes, he has some common aspie traits like infodumping, excessive interest in one thing (politics) and not letting me talk (our phone conversations can last over an hour, I just put him on speakerphone and browse the web while he's talking), and he's not dumb but he has an intellectual disability and doesn't seem to understand certain things or needs to be reminded over and over. I have not been to see him since March, and he understands I can't go visit him or drive him around anymore. (A mutual friend says I'm overreacting, but Mom and I live together, she's 78 and a cancer survivor, no I'm not going to take chances.)

I've been cleaning the house out, Mom and I want to move someplace smaller and more manageable now that Dad's gone and no one else lives here or visits often (we used to have extended family members live here or come for protracted stays) and I gave away like twenty bags of stuff to Goodwill and the Salvation Army, actually I'm still working on it, there's still a lot more to do, and I've told Elvin I don't want presents or anything from him. But my birthday is coming up and he wants to send me a card, as well as a bunch of stuff, including DVDs he made. I've told him over and over I don't want too much stuff. He's always giving me calendars, posters, fliers, whatever, a lot of it ends up in the recycling bin. Whenever we used to go anywhere, if he saw free posters or fliers or anything, he'd take like ten of them to hand out to people (I'm pretty sure there's no one to hand it out to, since it's hard for him to get around and meet people) and is always asking me if I want one, I'll say no, he does this over and over and over again. It's like he doesn't absorb the information that I'm never going to want it, and he does it "just in case". And Mom (who tends to yell a lot and kind of gets hysterical easily) said once, when I got off the phone with him, "I don't want any junk in my house!" cause she overheard us talking about it.

The other thing is, I don't want to give him my address because, and maybe I'm overreacting here, I'm kind of afraid the next time he has a fight with his mother he'll hop in a cab and come over here and say he needs to stay a few days. Which I don't want anyway, cause he's okay once in a while but quite frankly I find him so irritating I don't want to stay with him for more than a few hours at a time, and only once or twice a month. He's a nice guy, just really irritates me, it's a combination of his aspie traits clashing with my aspie traits. And I'm not sure he has good boundaries, he'll call me almost every day and leave long, rambling messages, hell we'll talk an hour (or I'll listen for an hour) and then he'll call me back in half an hour because he forgot to say something, I've learned not to answer the phone the second time because it'll be another hour of my time he ate up. (I also don't answer the phone most of the time he calls.) And he fights with his mother every once in a while and will call me and tell me he has to leave, he can't stay with her anymore, he'll find a place and go, but to my knowledge he's never actually gone anywhere (cause he has no money for a hotel room, and where else can he go?).

So, if you've read this rambling post thus far, I'd like to ask how anyone here would handle the situation. I asked my NT brother, and his response was, "Give him a fake address." Yeah I'm not going to do that, that would be cruel. If I had a friend who didn't mind getting my mail for me I'd ask them, but I can't think of anyone who would do that, and I'm not bold enough to ask anyway. And I don't really want to go to the trouble or expense of getting a P.O. box. I keep putting him off, can I do that indefinitely? Maybe he wouldn't hop the cab and come over, but I'm afraid he might.