My gp frustrates me sometimes. We work REALLY well together one on one, but when it comes to working together as a team on my issues that require working together with my entire healthcare team, he plugs his ears and goes "nananana let the diagnosing specialist deal with that I'm not touching it lalalala!!!!"
I partly wonder if he has been in hot water before with crossed communication regarding teamwork on patient care before, because I've never seen a doctor so fast to drop subjects regarding other doctors.
I asked him to fill out these statements for my disability lawyers, as I am asking my entire medical team to fill out all the same statements regarding my case. He immediately dropped the papers back in my lap and said he'll let my neurologist and pain specialist handle those. He wouldn't even look me in the eye.
It's almost exactly the same as when he took forever to get me my handicap placard. Half of me thinks he thinks I'm making it up, but he's great with everything else and is a wonderful doctor around all my other problems, he just won't touch my disease or even talk about it. He always tells me that's between me and my specialists. Ugh it makes me irritated because as my GP he needs to be an active member of my disease team. Not just the rest of my problems, but actively working with me and my neurologist and my rheumatologist and my pain specialist. Why does he hide away like it physically terrifies him whenever I mention my disease?????
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A GP has limited knowledge, worried about getting sued, and scared of the dea. Specialist matter much in disability hearings, my lawyer said they ignore GPs usually so his opinion may not matter much. Until I found a GP that held a law degree also, I faced nothing but frustration from GPs. Now my doctor isnt being pushed around and afraid to act. If you do not have an obvious disability like missing limbs you will always be seen as weak willed and lazy by society for they can not comprehend what its like to get sick and not get over it.
JesseBoren
Level 7
May 17, 2019
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That’s weird - particularly with the handicapped placard.
I wonder if he’s had any legal troubles in this area?
Haemish1
Level 8
May 16, 2019
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None when I did a background check. I always do them ever since they tried sending me to a neurosurgeon with 4 malpractice suits. Eek.
But I think what it is is that he isn't familiar enough with my disease to be comfortable with making those decisions and claims. Doctors are really really being squeezed right now with the opioid crisis and what not, and the war on chronic pain patients, and it's making them all more hesitant than ever. Plus it seems to me he has kinda gotten burnt out on General practice and favors what he knows best which is diabetes. If I didnt know any better I'd think he was just an endocrinologist for how obsessive he is over my diabetes lol
With the handicap placard I think it's just that he doesn't want to come under pressure or attack should someone be caught misusing the system. Just like with disability and opioids. It's just a really scary time right now for doctors :/
@LadyAlyxandrea Perhaps his specialty is endocrinology these days?
In researching GPs these days all seem to have a sub-specialty.
It's not very cool that he can't at least discuss the topic with you. I understand not wanting to ruin your claim by not being well informed in what he states - but not discussing it with you? That's odd.
Maybe just out and out Ask him?
And I've seen patients make the mistake of having Drs fill out Disability paperwork and THEN find out the Doctor doesn't think you should be applying.
Yup that sucks. Well worth the talk.
@LadyAlyxandrea
I guess if you’re satisfied with him in most other respects, you stick with him - it’d be nice to find someone that you really see eye to eye with.
Too bad that legal issues conflict with Drs doing their best work:/
@RavenCT he SAYS he understands and thinks it's good. However I do feel he probably doesn't support my going on disability 100%. I don't think he DOESN'T support it to where he would contest it, but I'll definitely have to sit down and have a bare faced heart to heart with him before it gets to that point. I think it comes down to like i said he doesn't understand and know enough about my disease and it's progress and doesn't actually see what it's doing to me and how it's actually affecting my daily life to know just how bad it is NOW. I think he knows SOMEDAY I'll need to be on disability but I don't think he quite grasps that the day is here now.
Because when he sees me my health is otherwise good. My blood pressure is good my heart is good, I'm losing weight, my blood sugar is excellently maintained, he's had no experience seeing just how bad I am.
So we definitely will have to fix that. He's going to have to see just how bad it is. And I received a copy of my nerve conduction test that shows the extreme damage all through my upper back and neck, so i need to get that to him too for visual evidence.
@RavenCT, @Haemish1 growing up I had a gp for about 17 years that was 100% trustworthy and reliable and I still to this day swear by. If he hadn't moved across the state I'd still go to him. I'm actually considering calling him up and explaining my situation and seeing if he'd also write a statement of support as well, considering he was there throughout most of my childhood and early adulthood and I know he'd move mountains to help me out.
God I miss that guy
@LadyAlyxandrea My GP that retired? He was fantastic. The moron that replaced him? He's about to get replaced. Anyone has to be better.
Next month after this coming one should be just about right to transition. (fingers crossed that works out). Cause he has stepped on the last bit of my patience.
@RavenCT after the one I had before this one I'm just glad my current one listens at all. My last one tried to tell me I was just hypersensitive to pain and that a paper cut feels like an amputation to me and that he wouldn't even let me take aspirin because I was never going to toughen up.
I walked out and switched gp that moment. Oh I wanted to punch him in the throat and then tell him he was just exaggerating the pain.
@LadyAlyxandrea And if your paper cut feels like an amputation isn't that reason to Treat? I hate todays doctors reasoning. It's moronic. (I just wrote Mormonic - roflmao.... )... Freudian slip there....).
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