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What terms do you prefer? Are there any that you think are more appropriate than others? Do you have multiple identifiers?
I like non binary, gender fluid, genderqueer, and androgynous.

Peeves 6 May 14
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My primary/most preferred is demiboy. How far I get into the specifics depends on who I'm talking to. I'm technically bigender, although because of its association/assumption of boy&girl (which are not my two genders), it's not part of my identity or something I indicate without clarifying.

I basically experience my genders as two layers. The base is an aporagender and colour gender (white), and on top of that is flux-boy (something that was briefly my preferred identity/term). Basically, a boy layer that fluctuates in intensity, so sometimes more of the base aporagender is "visible" (experienced/noticeable) through/past it, and sometimes less.

For me, the aporagender is kind of like a blank canvas, which might seem like nothing, but to people familiar with art, the mediums/materials you use have an impact on the art. Even if there's colour covering it up, a canvas is very different than a sketchpad, and still has texture that comes through. When my boy gender is at low intensity, it changes the overall experience because of how the "canvas" comes through in the negative space.

I initially thought I was binary, and just identified as FTM, when I started figuring out I was non-binary, I preferred transmasculine at one point. Most of them are still accurate, and I have a certain fondness for them even if they're not a primary part of how I identify anymore.

Aerihk Level 5 June 3, 2018

Enby is also a favourite, and genderqueer has a certain place. If I'd embraced it before demiboy, it probably would have been a preferred term for a time, like some of the others, but I already had demiboy by then, which for me outshines it in really resonating and feeling me.

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The US is big on labels. I noticed that my transgender and androgynous European friends here in Thailand don't bother with labels at all, and the Thai only have a few, paying little attention to mixed gender presentations.

But since people seem to comprehend reality through language, it clarifies my mind on my own issues to compare myself with current gender labels to see if my experience matches others.

This helps me understand myself and know who else is similar to me.

Many of the labels are vague and/or overlap, so I qualify for many more labels than I choose to claim.

I was gender fluid but became androgyne from taking the Thai herb derris scandens. I am also a partial transmale, and qualify for other nonbinary labels: agender, other, genderqueer, and neutrois, among others.

birdingnut Level 8 May 14, 2018

I've noticed this too. The have accepted the 3rd gender as well, but don't make a big stink about it. Canada too. It wasn't a big deal, they just brought it in when the people showed a need for it. It really makes a difference for some people. A world of difference.