That looks like a dilemma only female introverts experience.

Dating is a interview for a potential partner. A partner can not bring me anything that I do not already have. As an introvert I don't require human companionship, tho I have live in "help". But I have nothing but trepidation concerning the dating scene. I already met him & he is already gone. Widowed in '18.

Friends with benefits, and everybody maintains separate residences!

I enjoy people. I enjoy intimacy. I loved being married. I find men my age are either trumpsters, control freaks, impotent or married. That means I settle for friendship.

Initial attraction is almost always the result of appearance. I've been widowed for 8 years and 3 years ago, I still attracted a lot of attention. In other words, my aloneness is compounded by the fact that guys are picky as well.

I am thankful that I have a great social life but my lack of an intimate companion is not by choice but circumstance.

Why I have spent the past five years alone! And talking to several of my married friends, the idea of being with someone again just gives me cold chills! It would have to be someone very special. Since I haven’t even been able to get so much as a lunch date in years I am holding out little hope.

The more you try, the more you are alone!!!

At a certain age why put up with others BS, when you can barely contain your own BS!!!

Why be involved with those with more problems than you have!!!

Alone not lonely sums it up best!!!
Sometimes!!!

LOL!!!

Why did I just sing that while reading it? Lol!

Hit the nail on the head. I've been getting out the house more lately and had some attention shown by the fairer sex. When I get the urge to make a move, I ask myself do I really want to pursue this woman? Or do I just want to go back under my rock, watch a movie and eat cheetos? Cheetos win every time

Just keep them on the periphery. Never let them move in....it takes away the romance and obligations are expected like washing their clothes or cooking. Plus they want to take over the tv remote control and worse,making decisions for 'both of you'. Then there's the maintenance.....waxing, shaving, hair cuts, nails, exercise. Once a month date is optimum (for me in any case). It's nice to dress up once a month and enjoy time with a man. Other weekends, I'd rather slouch at a girlfriends in my daggies and no bra.

Too much Baggage?

I get more socializing then I want at the drive trough at Dell Taco.

I used to take my time to get to know them before sex. To find out if they have STDs than later it was aids.
Today Government wants us to wear two layers of masks and a plastic coat over our bodies.
Can't afford to take them out so my dates now are mostly with palm-me Anderson