I'm reading the book Fuck Love, One shrink's sensible advice for finding a lasting relationship by Michael I Bennett that I borrowed from the public library. I stumbled across it after looking into the 5 love languages that has been referenced on agnostic. I found references to Christianity and God and immediately lost interest.
As I find interesting statements (IMHO, you may disagree), I will post them here.
- If you're looking for a long-term partner, avoiding romance with someone you're not sexually attracted to isn't superficial, it's smart.
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- Don't let the satisfaction of feeling understood or the thrills of intimate gossip mislead you into neglecting your usual procedures for judging character, assessing behavior, and looking for a good match with someone whose talk is worthwhile.
JGal
Level 7
Mar 4, 2019
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Not really getting that one. ?
I would say this is true. My last boyfriend I met on POF, when we met for our first date he did not look like his pictures. the pictures where 10 years old and he was 50 lbs thiner in them. I decided to give him a chance and get to know the person even though I was not attracted to his body. He is a wonderful kind man and at first the sex was good but as the newness wore off, not being attracted to his body did become an issue for me. Maybe if when you meet like when you both all young and you are attracted sexually than as you grow old together and our bodies change that love sees past all that but when starting out I think it needs to be there.
Mermaidfantasy
Level 7
Mar 3, 2019
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You've got to check this body--
Humans are animals. love is mostly about breeding. If you base your entire relationship on sexual attraction, good luck because you can't fuck forever. Eventually you're going to have to get out of the bed and look each other in the face.
Kojaksmom
Level 8
Mar 3, 2019
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And doggystyle gets boring ?
and the word "relationship" has to mean more than sex... if it is going to have any wings...
- Unfortunately, sexual attraction is delicate and unpredictable, regardless of what lady-magazine writers and even animal biologists tell you, mostly because they only cover courtship rituals. Keeping up interest after flirtation ends and the bright plumage fades is much more complicated, unpredictable, and uncontrollable.
JGal
Level 7
Mar 3, 2019
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Thats true!
@Skeezwazzle I really enjoyed that!
JGal:
@Skeezwazzle great advice: Good - Give - Game (what are you into?). Thanks for sharing!
@Skeezwazzle Love Dan Savage!
I don't agree because life is short. You have to leave that primitive shit and smell the flowers. Sex is one of the best pleasures created by nature. Man put stupid rules around it. Do with anyone you like and if he likes it. I would.
St-Sinner
Level 9
Mar 3, 2019
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