I am in love with my best friend. She is married, but hates her husband. She's handicapped, like me, and always cries and stuff whenever she's alone. She's been depressed since she was 8, because her father used to beat her mom, and cuss and scream at her and her brother. She said she loves me, too. But here lately, I'm "just a friend". I'm beginning to think that my friendship with her is all for nothing. I can't just be her friend. And I know she is married, but I want her more than anything. I'm not trying to sound desperate, or stalkerish. I'm just telling it like it is. She's always on my mind, and she says I'm always on hers. So what do you guys think?
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Few questions before I give an answer.
Have you been in an emotional relationship with a depressed and damaged individual before?
Have you considered that maybe your love for her is based on the normal human desire to be a hero and fix her emotional state.
I’m concerned that your initial view of her started with her crying all the time. If that’s your first recollection of how she is, perhaps that’s why you have these feelings of love and nurturing desire.
Moose42
Level 5
Apr 12, 2018
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Thats a toughie. I've been there and I hate to say cutting off contact is probably best, because it's going to hurt like a bitch, but it probably would help. 
When you're that deep into someone and its hopeless it doesn't leave much room for new loves that hopefully aren't doomed. Have an internet hug.
OpposingOpposum
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Apr 10, 2018
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Thank you. Much appreciated.
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