I live in Canada and every day I am horrified by the absolute shit storm that spews out of Trumps ...

A2Jennifer comments on Jun 16, 2019:

Largely because the Congress is controlled by Republicans who put party loyalty above doing their job or basic decency. Also, though, the VP is a crusading evangelical and possibly even more dangerous. Also to the rest of the world, we are very sorry and most of us voted against him.

Too funny.

A2Jennifer comments on Jun 18, 2019:

Right? I’m sure they’ll be missed 🙄

I'VE BEEN BANNED FROM TRACTOR SUPPLY.

A2Jennifer comments on Jun 19, 2019:

That’s a pretty good story😂

Throughout my life people have said you will find someone on a romantic level when you are not ...

A2Jennifer comments on Jun 20, 2019:

Hasn’t happened yet 😂

The older I get the less my tolerance is for people that in any way attempt to criticize, abuse, ...

A2Jennifer comments on Jun 23, 2019:

I completely agree with you. After getting out of a very toxic, emotionally abusive marriage, I am much more aware of attempts to manipulate me and much less tolerant of it. I am awesome and don’t want to waste time or energy on anyone who doesn’t appreciate that.

So the argument is that even the most improbable of things will eventually happen and therefore when...

A2Jennifer comments on Jun 23, 2019:

No, most people do not understand probability. But if I put water on the stove and it froze I would definitely call maintenance.

I feel like no matter how I word this, I will come out looking bad, but here it goes.

A2Jennifer comments on Jun 24, 2019:

I also would not get involved with someone who didn’t have a job or was living in their parents house rent free. I think that once you are invested in someone, you accept that they will have ups and downs (everyone does) and the criteria shifts to something more like “making reasonable effort to course correct.” And don’t give/loan money. Maybe you treat more meals and activities for a while, but don’t give or loan money.

I screwed up.

A2Jennifer comments on Jun 24, 2019:

It’s up to him to decide whether it’s right for him keep pursuing a long-shot career after 40 years of failure, and no safety net. It’s up to you to decide if that’s someone you want to get involved with.

The definition of it..truth over semantics

A2Jennifer comments on Jun 24, 2019:

I agree, and most of the experts seem to. I did see a video posted today with Nazi concentration camp survivors addressing AOC to say that she is diminishing their experience by comparing it to the current situation. I disagree. No one is saying it’s EXACTLY the same in every way. But hey, maybe we don’t wait until they start mass extermination to raise hell about it.

Am I the only one who is insulted and feels like a piece of meat when they receive a message that is...

A2Jennifer comments on Jun 25, 2019:

You are not the only one.

I treat dogs and cats as property, immoral or moral? I've had to kick a few to humane society.

A2Jennifer comments on Jun 25, 2019:

That’s despicable. You should never have another animal.

Anyone on here watching the current season of Handmaid's Tale. I am really digging it.

A2Jennifer comments on Jun 26, 2019:

Haven’t had the emotional strength to start season 3 yet.

As an Atheist who just turned 40 and is single I am now for the first time really grappling with my ...

A2Jennifer comments on Jun 26, 2019:

What do you WANT your legacy to be? Friendships? Making the world a better place? Help people or animals? You don’t have to have children or imaginary friends to have a legacy.

You know how FB occasionally sends you suggestions for friends?

A2Jennifer comments on Jun 28, 2019:

My ex and I have a good number of FB friend overlap. He actually unfriended his sister after she posted pictures with me visiting with her kids while she was in our state - she chose not to see him while she was here. But the , he’s a really terrible person.

pay child support

A2Jennifer comments on Jun 28, 2019:

Wow no I would not expect parents to be held responsible for debts of an adult child.

Disclaimer: the following is based on several years of personal experience with online dating and ...

A2Jennifer comments on Jul 3, 2019:

I agree with you right up until “ghosting.” Ghosting is when a person you have actually met disappears and stops responding to messages. A person you haven’t met face to face does not owe you any explanation. Ceasing to respond to messages IS saying that they aren’t interested.

Is it just me?

A2Jennifer comments on Jul 7, 2019:

The belief that you should be uncomfortable (physically or otherwise) in order to increase his enjoyment is selfish and misogynistic and a major red flag.

Silly boycotts.

A2Jennifer comments on Jul 10, 2019:

Also, “boycott” by buying products from offending companies and make videos of themselves destroying them 🙄

Good Morning All.

A2Jennifer comments on Jul 17, 2019:

Teen support 😂

I love this one. It’s simple but gets the point across.

A2Jennifer comments on Jul 19, 2019:

The rest of us are held accountable for our behavior. Like the law, the president is now above that.

Pet Peeves Let’s talk pet peeves. What are yours?

A2Jennifer comments on Jul 25, 2019:

Litterers. Pretentiousness. The phrase “have a blessed day.” Peanut butter in the jelly jar. Trumpsters.

Another one for my book.

A2Jennifer comments on Jul 26, 2019:

Ewwwww foot fetish

CREDIT CARDS - just sharing a tip I picked up long ago from a lady who works on bank fraud.

A2Jennifer comments on Jul 31, 2019:

But in the US you’re only liable for like $50 of stolen charges. That’s also why, if they try to sell you fraud insurance you definitely don’t want to pay for that.

I am thinking of paying the 81$ for POF. Has anyone discovered if that site is loaded with scammers?

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 3, 2019:

Oh geez do NOT Pay for POF it is TERRIBLE

This is a serious question that I am trying to get my head around.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 3, 2019:

I mean, he doesn’t seem to do anything besides watch Fox News and toilet-tweet and offend world leaders. But personally I’m glad he isn’t doing more since every single move and word seems to be destructive.

[yahoo.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 3, 2019:

Yes. An backlash against republicans at this point is desperately needed. and the climate change denial crap is SO dangerous.

Denali National Park and Preserve. My bucket list!

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 5, 2019:

I didn’t make it that far north but what I saw of Alask was AMAZING

I will try to keep this brief.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 20, 2019:

Do you “love” animals but only if their existence doesn’t impact your pocketbook

Today a potential date asked me "would you say life has been fair to you?

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 23, 2019:

I was raised in the phrase “life is tough.” So, no, I did not expect life would be “fair” to me.

The great nation of the free.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 24, 2019:

And the highest maternal mortality too

A GA School Expelled a Girl for “Sexual Impropriety” After She Was Assaulted - WHAT?

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 28, 2019:

Next time someone says “if she was really raped, why didn’t she report it when it happened?”

How do you deal with muscle cramps?

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 11, 2019:

My dad swears by bananas

Well, here's a post I never wanted to write but it is what it is.

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 11, 2019:

Good call. My ex had a persistent substance-abuse-and-gaslighting problem. The next guy who I went on more than 2 dates with also quickly revealed himself to be an alcoholic. after that I decided that being single was better than dating someone who’s bad for me. Unfortunately “men who are bad for me” seem to be the only kind I’m attracted to.

I just took these ducks out off the brooder box about a week ago.

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 13, 2019:

Miscellaneous ducks is the best thing I’ve heard today! 😃

People With Low Emotional Intelligence Tend To Hold Right-Wing Views, Study Says

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 17, 2019:

Yup. The conservative position is utterly devoid of empathy these days.

MN public school board chairwoman: Evolution is outdated because ‘it was discovered in the ...

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 19, 2019:

Obviously the Bible is a much more current source 🤣

I had an eventful day.

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 20, 2019:

Awwww you helped 2 lives in one day!

At what point are things assumed to be exclusive?

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 23, 2019:

I would assume you are NOT exclusive unless you have explicitly agreed to be. Very surprised that your 22 year old son didn’t say the same.

Just when I think I have heard it all, a co-worker at lunch told us about a coupon she found for ...

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 25, 2019:

Geez no. If your gut says you need a polygraph, DON’t MOVE IN!

A Miscarrying Woman Nearly Died After a Catholic Hospital Sent Her Home Three Times ...

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 28, 2019:

All those conservatives that squawked about how the ACA would lead to “death panels.” Abortion bans ACTUALLY result in death panels. They have to convene a committee to decide whether it’s ok to save a woman’s life because her potential fetus is more important. This is disgusting.

Republican: Sick People Don’t Deserve Affordable Care

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 29, 2019:

Also poor people don’t want health care either. If they wanted it they would stop being poor. 🙄

I heard over the summer that my aunt was diagnosed with breast cancer.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 4, 2019:

Geez that’s CRAZY. I’m sorry and hope you are able to get the information.

U.S. Health System Waste Hits $935 Billion A Year

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 14, 2019:

It’s INSANITY. Health care is at like 10% of GDP and WAY more of the federal budget than they like to say. There is administrative waste, over treatment waste, fraud waste. And no regulation at all on pharmaceuticals.

Growing up my parents weren't very religious.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 15, 2019:

My grandparents were very religious and I went to church with them, including bible study. I remember thinking it was all very weird when I was about...8? I joined the youth group at a local church in middle school and made friends. Even then I knew I didn’t really believe in any of that stuff but it was ok because they didn’t make us do god stuff or bible study. By the time I was in high school I had gotten to “I definitely do not believe in god.” As an adult it has become important to my sense of self and the people I seek to have and keep in my life are also non-religious, science and reason oriented people.

Hey, all.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 17, 2019:

My best friend heard from a guy she went out with a couple of times like 10 years before. Now they’ve been together for 3 years and just got engaged.

My daughter was doing an art project with some foil wrapping paper, she had forgotten to pick the ...

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 17, 2019:

I tried tin foil to keep the cat from peeing in the corner. It didn’t work.

Alright, short poll.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 28, 2019:

Nope - I spent many years pretending to be happy under an abuser’s control. Being free from that is priceless.

I’m wondering why people often ask for abundance n their lives, instead of being happy with having...

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 31, 2019:

Research backs that, too. After the point of having our basic needs met, more money does not make people more happy. On a related note, Jeff Bezos makes more EVERY DAY than I will earn in my entire lifetime.

My outfit for Halloween

A2Jennifer comments on Nov 1, 2019:

Yeah this year I went as an overworked grad student and told people I’m rocking it all season.

[alternet.

A2Jennifer comments on Nov 8, 2019:

Pence scares the crap out of me. Trump is impulsive and selfish and in a given year there’s probably a 20% chance he will start a civilization-ending war. But Pence is careful and methodical and has a very specific vision for the country as a theocracy. He probably considers the world of A Handmaid’s Tale to be utopia. That is a world I do NOT want to live in.

I was reading a post by a member about how hard it is to find love with another atheist because not ...

A2Jennifer comments on Nov 13, 2019:

1) I would try to find a way to dodge the Christianity question in a business context. Good luck with that. 2) if you can’t tell someone a core part of your beliefs, you aren’t really friends and you definitely can’t have a relationship.

What are your political views all about? Do they include protecting the planet?

A2Jennifer comments on Nov 13, 2019:

Protecting the people. Protecting the planet. That sums it up.

Since I am tired of the impeachment process already, I am changing topics.

A2Jennifer comments on Nov 14, 2019:

If I exercise late it keeps me awake. But I am SOOOO not a “get up early to workout” type either. I get some exercise every day though, usually between work and dinner.

Major announcement! I'm at dating stage 4 (see below)! My online dating profiles are history.

A2Jennifer comments on Nov 14, 2019:

Yeah that’s where I’m at. I’m working on a Master’s degree on top of my full time job and I do not have the time or bandwidth to pursue a relationship. There is just that one thing I miss about being in a relationship 😜

Repulsive.

A2Jennifer comments on Nov 15, 2019:

Yeah this is frickin ridiculous.

Trump suggests that protesting should be illegal - The Washington Post

A2Jennifer comments on Nov 19, 2019:

As he thinks speaking against him is treason. He wants to dismantle the constitution for his own benefit. And is the very reason the constitution includes the protections it does.

UPDATE: There will not be a second date and that's a good thing.

A2Jennifer comments on Nov 30, 2019:

As a rule I don’t even consider dating men with my ex’s name. It’s weird.

I noticed I have been having a headache every day for weeks now.

A2Jennifer comments on Dec 3, 2019:

I’m going to go with “yes.”

What does it mean when someone relies to messages, but has never initiated contact?

A2Jennifer comments on Dec 4, 2019:

If you have never met a person IRL, it’s not ghosting. It is simply deciding you don’t wish to continue texting. You’re allowed to do that.

I don’t feel this way, but it made me laugh and well, I knew it would start conversation...

A2Jennifer comments on Dec 6, 2019:

Nicely summing up everything I do and don’t miss about my ex

When a DNA Test Says You’re a Younger Man, Who Lives 5,000 Miles Away After a bone marrow ...

A2Jennifer comments on Dec 9, 2019:

I just read a story about a kid who got a bone marrow transplant and now has a different blood type and 2 different sets of DNA.

I officially quit smoking cigarettes! Has anyone else been able to quit?

A2Jennifer comments on Dec 16, 2019:

I quit in 2003 after almost 10 years of smoking. Good for you. Stick with it - it gets easier.

Grrrrrr.

A2Jennifer comments on Dec 20, 2019:

How very Christian of you to be offended when people don’t with your preferred greeting

Do you approve capital punishment?

A2Jennifer comments on Dec 22, 2019:

I think there are cases where it’s appropriate but our systems is terrible at fairly determining what those cases are. Since it’s so often wrongly applied, I don’t think we should be using it.

Back when you could live off of the minimum wage in the UI.S.

A2Jennifer comments on Dec 29, 2019:

Geez. I don’t understand why people are so against workers getting a living wage.

I filled out a short personal information form tonight, in order to receive some New Year's Eve ...

A2Jennifer comments on Jan 1, 2020:

That’s weird. Kind of sounds like there is some other purpose to the questionnaire. My program collects demographic data including gender identity, with several options including transgender and allowing people to choose all that they feel apply to them. Something seems strange to me to ask that separately.

While I did say I was done with online dating, I thought I would try FB dating and see if it was ...

A2Jennifer comments on Jan 4, 2020:

I set it up and regret it. It’s been a steady stream of uneducated and/or religious dudes.

Graphic Epstein autopsy photos on '60 Minutes' show bloodied neck and noose - AOL Entertainment

A2Jennifer comments on Jan 6, 2020:

Who cares? He’s slime and he’s dead.

Religion was not created to control anyone or groups of people.

A2Jennifer comments on Jan 12, 2020:

Completely agree. The concept of gods were invented to explain things people didn’t understand. It was later that some enterprising con artists figured out how to get rich and powers from it. Some specific religions WERE invented for money making (cough SCIENTOLOGY).

Are Hotel Greening Programs Hurting Housekeepers? | Sierra Club

A2Jennifer comments on Jan 14, 2020:

But the idea that we should perpetuate wasteful or unsustainable practices because someone’s job relies on it it... wasteful and unsustainable. It’s like all the coal miners who hated Obama for saying their jobs are becoming obsolete. Their jobs ARE becoming obsolete. Are we mad because industry has replaced cobblers and blacksmiths? No - It’s part of progress.

Has anyone ever attended a Meet Up Atheist/Freethinker group?

A2Jennifer comments on Jan 14, 2020:

Yep - I met my best friends at our atheist meetup!

Perhaps some of you know how to get around the reoccurring charges these dating sites seem to put in...

A2Jennifer comments on Jan 14, 2020:

Since you don’t have to pay to message with people who like you, I can’t imagine why anyone would pay for OKC

I’ve just had a bit of a breakthrough I just realized I’m still angry with Jeff (My ex ...

A2Jennifer comments on Jan 27, 2020:

I relate to a lot of this. I spent 20 years in a relationship/marriage to someone who perceived others only in terms of what they could do for him. And because he was an adept gaslighted, he convinced me to see myself that way too. I’m nearly 5 years out now and still dealing with the ramifications.

I went to a job interview and the lady that interviewed me said that they were very close and all ...

A2Jennifer comments on Jan 30, 2020:

Does “Christian values” mean love they neighbor? Feed the hungry? Judge not lest he be judged? Or does it mean being a holier than thou asshole who thinks they have the right to tell other people what they can do with their lives and bodies?

It's Official.

A2Jennifer comments on Feb 17, 2020:

Yep I got ordained to marry a friend 15 years ago and this year I expect to do another one

When are you expected to be exclusive in a budding relationship?

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 2, 2020:

When you verbally agree to it

Some Atheists can be just as self righteous and judgmental as Christians/religious people.

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 4, 2020:

Assholes come in all types

Do you personally adhere to the whole "three dates" thing before attempting to get physical with ...

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 6, 2020:

Everyone has their own timeline about when they feel comfortable with sex. The only thing that matters is they BOTH agree they’re ready.

Can anyone tell me if this is a red flag?

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 7, 2020:

I am not a fan of “testing” people but I do think you have accurately identified a red flag. I firmly believe that if you have not met a person face-to-face, that you owe them NOTHING. You don’t owe them a response, you don’t owe them a response in a certain amount of time, you definitely don’t owe it to them to meet their timeline. Both are free to simply stop communicating if they decide the interaction doesn’t have the potential they are looking for. And if someone insinuates that you owe them or makes you feel guilty that is often manipulative. I once sent a message to someone and then logged off (not here) and when I logged back on I had like 8 increasingly hostile messages that got really angry. Whew - glad that came out early!

Cheating in supposedly committed relationships.

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 7, 2020:

My Ex lied about EVERYTHING. It got to where I didn’t believe a word out of his mouth. And in the end (at least) he lied about infidelity too. I wouldn’t stick around for either again.

[theweek.

A2Jennifer comments on Apr 7, 2020:

Because it is a tiny portion of a mutual fund - not enough to actually make $.

How would you feel if someone gave you unsolicited advice about your appearance?

A2Jennifer comments on May 2, 2020:

Absolutely no one should be commenting on a stranger’s body. People suck.

Southern Baptist Leader: Abused Women Should Not Divorce | Michael Stone

A2Jennifer comments on May 4, 2020:

A small man who needs his wife to be smaller than him, will never be satisfied. No matter how much he diminishes her and demands that she shrink herself down he will still know that he is inadequate and will take it out on her.

An Evangelical Christian (my classmate's friend) commented on a FB post I made about me being in ...

A2Jennifer comments on May 4, 2020:

“But there are so many people waiting to adopt!....” Healthy. White. Infants. Also if you think that carrying a pregnancy to term and raising a child to be a functional human being for no less than 18 years is just an “inconvenience” then you clearly don’t have kids.

Funny and horrible

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 11, 2019:

True story. There was also a meme a while back with a young woman responding to a makeup tutorial that recommended using Kinder eggs to store small items like false eyelashes. Something like, “since I’m in America and Kinder eggs are illegal here, can I use my AK-15 instead?”

True... maybe an occasional worry. 🙂

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 13, 2019:

I got one of those on Macinac Island this summer!

How many of you grew up on the Great Lakes? Here's some memories and fun facts.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 22, 2019:

From one of 2 trips to the UP this summer

An interesting article on the role of humans in supposedly machine analysis of data.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 24, 2019:

I actually attended a Ted-talk style lecture on this last week. He talked about how, if the algorithm is created by (biased) people, and (biased) people decide how well the algorithm is working, and the data fed into the algorithm is biased, then it’s inevitable that the results are biased.

Despite us both being atheists, my roommate and I had a disagreement on the usage of the word ...

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 29, 2019:

Babies are born without belief in any gods, therefore a-theist.

Goodness gracious it's been awhile everyone! Hi! So my friend goes to a private christian college...

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 29, 2019:

Good answer!

So.

A2Jennifer comments on Aug 30, 2019:

I think it’s North Dakota that recently passed a law requiring a street address to register to vote. Many Indian reservations do not have street names and numbered addresses. It’s not an accident.

The simple act of extending a helping hand

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 2, 2019:

Sounds like a great guy who also shares one of your favorite activities!

[yahoo.

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 2, 2019:

Wow that is about as innocuous as it could be. It’s a slightly more specific version of what everyone’s mother (should have) taught them - “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”

Can't argue with the truth!

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 3, 2019:

Same

Being up something I heard on a local radio station this week.

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 8, 2019:

My 3 cats all sleep on my bed. Not quite sure where a dude would go anymore. I would not try to kick them out while sleeping and even if I did, they claw at the door LOUDLY.

How many here never had religion or never was a believer?

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 8, 2019:

I attended church with my grandparents when I visited the but never really “believed” in any gods. I was maybe 7 or 8 when I remember thinking all that stuff was very weird and became actively skeptical. It was some years later when I identified that I disbelieved in god.

Earlier today , I saw a post , which basically said women are only in it for the money , and since...

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 11, 2019:

I don’t think the article said that. It WAS done “from an economic perspective” but it listed a bunch of characteristics, only one was money.

Was everyone spared by the tornado? Lowell anyone? Edit: NWS says "nah, just some wind."

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 11, 2019:

Ann Arbor is good. We had lightning and thunder and a lot of wind. Power went out for a moment while I was in my bathroom - which has no windows so plunged me into total and impenetrable darkness.

Nothing gets your heart pumping like having to deal with a rattlesnake.

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 13, 2019:

What no photo?!?! They could’ve run it with your obituary! 🤣

Maybe I’m passing up a great guy, but his Match pseudonym is “CreamDelight.” Just...nooooo.

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 13, 2019:

Yuck