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Have been having bad pain issues all day feels like I got a bullet in my back.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 4, 2018:

Uh oh that sounds like a slipped disk.

This looks like a very good thing; apparently, Jeff Bezos finally woke up.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 2, 2018:

I saw that. And well he should. The man has more money than he knows what to do with - the first thing is to pay his employees enough that they don’t qualify for government aid.

"We can disagree and still love each other unless your disagreement is rooted in my oppression and ...

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 2, 2018:

Exactly

My muffins

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 2, 2018:

A friend has been experimenting with cricket flour. Lots of protein!

Just when you thought Trump could go no lower he does.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 2, 2018:

Ugh what a POS

So it's looking like the FBI "investigation" is turning out to be a whitewash.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 2, 2018:

WHAT?! that sucks! SAY “investigation” to quiet people down but don’t actually investigate anything.

new mental heath support group with a 24 hr chatroom.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 2, 2018:

That’s awesome!

Do you think you need romance to have love, or can you have love without romance?

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 2, 2018:

I think genuine romance (as opposed to canned, standard romance) is about thinking about your partner as an individual, and what will make them feel happy and loved and valued. And i think you must love someone selflessly to connect that way.

If it is not a fit.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 2, 2018:

That’s why I have set the expectation that anyone I seriously date must think I’m amazing.

We Should Treat Strangers With Kindness Always

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 2, 2018:

I like that - it’s a really good analogy and an EXCELLENT point.

I like beer. :)

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 1, 2018:

Well that and being a white dude might get you a seat on the Supreme Court.

Do other animals kiss? I thought that maybe a social animal like elephants might kiss.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 1, 2018:

That seems like it would be a site to see. “Where do your noses go?” Several times over!

Ok, let's say you meet someone and you two hit it off.

A2Jennifer comments on Oct 1, 2018:

I would be fine with that. My marriage was a nightmare so marriage is not a destination for me. I might consider it, if it was what the right partner really wanted, but I don’t see myself ever pushing for that.

"If you don't do stupid things while young then you won't have anything to laugh about when you grow...

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 30, 2018:

Yeah. If you can’t assault women when you’re young then what stories will you tell your grandchildren? ?

PLEASE tell me this is not common among things parents subject their children to.

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 30, 2018:

No that’s definitely weird

Having been divorced for a year I have been looking at single pages and the like.

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 30, 2018:

If a profile really appeals to me, if a guy seems like a really good match, I’ll send a message. Or If we mutually match, and I am definitely interested, I will send a message. If we mutually match, but it was more of a “meh, I guess I’d give him a chance” then I won’t initiate contact.

I need some kissing advice from the ladies. Okay so what do you look for in a kiss?

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 30, 2018:

When it comes to tongue, less is more. Don’t think about it too much - it’s not a thinking thing, it’s a feeling thing.

How can one be reasonably empathetic to someone without empathy?

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 29, 2018:

People who lack empathy can sniff out empathic people and target them. So yes, they can be dangerous. I spent years empathizing for someone about his harming me. He was hurtful to me because his childhood sucked, because that’s how he was raised, etc. It is ok, necessary even, to set and stick to firm boundaries with such people. The willingness to treat even nasty, selfish people with fairness and humanity IS empathic, and it is all that we owe anyone, especially someone who would do you harm.

What is something that you would like to see changed that has never been brought up, that a ...

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 29, 2018:

I would limit the maximum salary of a CEO/highest paid employee to a ratio related to what their lowest paid employee earns. Not sure exactly what the ratio would be, but at some point, to give the CEO a raise you would have to increase the wage of the worker bees. So no one would be bragging about having more money than they could spend in 10 lifetimes while paying employees so little that they qualify for government assistance.

Do Americans feel guilty about their history?

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 28, 2018:

Well, those of us who are self-aware tend to be seriously concerned about the past and present (oh and the future) of our country. We are still climbing out of the legacy of slavery and racism. POC to this day are disproportionately more likely to be murdered by the people who are charged with protecting us, to be caught up in an unjust “justice” system and to be stuck in a cycle of poverty. We are in the midst of a reckoning related to sexual abuse. There are a wealthy people who have more money than they could spend in 10 lifetimes, while 1 in 4 children lives with food insecurity and we have a vast homeless population. These are just a few serious concerns we could address if we truly wanted to “make America great.”

I've asked this question in a different forum, and the answers were interesting.

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 28, 2018:

I didn’t really date before I was married for a long time, so I was a dating newbie after my divorce. Luckily my best friend taught me some basic safety rules. First meeting always in a public place - do not give him your address nor get into his car on first meet. Before date, give best friend time, location and info on date (name, phone number, etc) Friend checks in at a pre-determined time to make sure you are ok. As for guys - there is really nothing to be “worried” about if you treat women like human beings. Then, Make sure she’s into you before touching her. Make sure she is enthusiastically consenting to sex rather than “giving in” to persistence.

Do you think a boy really knows how to act with a girl and how does he learn that?

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 28, 2018:

I think a boy learns how to treat a girl. There are a lot of behaviors that have been accepted, encouraged by society that objectify and diminish women and that does not make them ok. We are working toward a culture shift. But no matter what the culture, no one thinks it’s ok to pin down a crying girl and muffle her screams while you... well, anything.

Going to drive an hour tomorrow to meet someone I have been speaking to for three weeks.

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 28, 2018:

Good luck!

I just got accused of having a "Sociopathic attitude" towards people with cluster B personality ...

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 28, 2018:

I have encountered the same behavior a couple of times in response to comments about behaviors of borderline personality - “how dare you make generalizations about people with X personality disorder!” These disorders are defined by certain behaviors and the people who exhibit them are typically in denial about the disorder/behaviors/ consequences to others. Those are typical manipulative behaviors of sociopaths and narcissists - recasting themselves as a victim, “NO YOU’RE THE SOCIOPATH” bullying, threats. Don’t take it personally.

It’s time to move.

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 27, 2018:

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I know this has been very hard for you. Hopefully this step is one in the right direction for a better future.

Weird week.

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 27, 2018:

Whew that’s a lot. One thing at a time!

In American English 'knock someone up' means make someone pregnant while in British English it means...

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 26, 2018:

My dad went into a shop in Italy and accidentally asked the woman if he was a Christmas tree ornament ?. He meant to ask if they HAD a Christmas tree ornament.

this is literally what it's like

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 26, 2018:

Michigan too

[facebook.

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 26, 2018:

Well that was depressing

Saw this on a friend's FB page and thought it best to not comment.

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 25, 2018:

Haha!

Speed it up? g

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 25, 2018:

That’s what she can expect

The season premier of the show featuring the man who elevates the standards of husband and father to...

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 25, 2018:

Love this show! Makes me cry almost every week though, so I need to be in the right place emotionally to watch.

Questionable Consent: Teen Rom Com Edition - TheHumanist.com

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 25, 2018:

I think that’s fair - media can and should reflect or even model social change and appropriate behavior. Lots of things that people didn’t bat an eye at in the 80’s are cringeworthy now. Just have to keep moving forward.

what do you want to have happen to your body when you die?

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 25, 2018:

Give it ALL away. Give whatever can be reused to people. Give the rest to science. If there is anything left after that, cremate it. Do the most good possible, leave no foootprint.

No person below dignity and no idea above scrutiny.

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 25, 2018:

I like that!

Riced cauliflower smells like it's been pre-farted.

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 24, 2018:

Yes it’s definitely NOT RICE

Could be the Chardonnay but I laughed til I cried a little. 😂

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 24, 2018:

That is SUCH an appropriate expression!

Do you donate essential medical fluids from altruism, or from a financial perspective?

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 24, 2018:

Lots of people donate at the Red Cross for nothing. Including me when I’m allowed to.

Do christians and ppl of all religions really do believe what is written in their so called holy ...

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 24, 2018:

I think a lot of them don’t even KNOW what’s in their book

Today is sons birthday.

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 24, 2018:

My son turned 20 this month and yes, it’s amazing!

If you see the % of a match with a member what do you think?

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 24, 2018:

Not much on this site. I have no idea how that get that number. They haven’t asked enough questions to determine anything.

Ah, a little pre-Monday humor .

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 23, 2018:

Not my boss but definitely had that with some people!

Recently a woman was beated in her home by her gun owning husband.

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 23, 2018:

The vast majority of murdered women are killed by a romantic partner (past or present). Many have been involved with the legal system before their murder. It seems obvious that someone convicted of DV should not have access to guns, but the courts often don’t take it seriously enough.

The real worth of a gentleman isn't the suit on his back but the character in his heart.

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 23, 2018:

Yep

A friend of my daughters from an Irish Catholic family had a rough time last week.

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 23, 2018:

Given they are 23, not practicing Catholics and intended to live together, it is reasonable to assume they are having sex. So, banning them from living together is probably akin to closing the barn door after the horses get out.

Anyone here read The Stand by Stephen King? Just about to finish It!

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 23, 2018:

One of only a couple of books I ever started but didn’t finish.

Why don’t victims of rape report?

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 23, 2018:

Sooooo many reasons why

Where do you stand (so to speak)?

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 22, 2018:

I think it’s a reasonable, respectful way to bring attention to a pattern of gross injustice in our country. Making it about loyalty or claiming it’s a protest against the military seems to me like an intentional misdirection.

Do you really care if another member blocks you?

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 22, 2018:

Does it tell you? Not sure I would even know.

Made the kids dinner My son is picky so I cooked a salmon filet for him.

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 22, 2018:

I always had a choice for dinner growing up. The choice was “eat what I made or make yourself something else.” ?

So...are you really impressed by what car a person drives...like society seems to believe...ladies?

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 22, 2018:

Ok maybe “impressed” a little bit if it’s a REALLY nice car - I like to admire pretty things too. But it is definitely not a factor in dating.

A tip for conversation on a date.

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 22, 2018:

Also - ask her a question now and then

Has anyone else had a religious friend ask where your sense of morality comes from?

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 19, 2018:

I think that, as human beings, we are responsible to one another and to future generations, rather than to some imaginary friend in the sky. My morality is based on that responsibility to others.

Rolling Stones, best "rock n roll" band ever?

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 19, 2018:

Led Zeppelin all the way!!! ?

Damn, teachers had it rough 100 years ago!

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 18, 2018:

“At least TWO petticoats”

Let's pray!!!

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 18, 2018:

But if it kills your neighbors and not you, then god loves you!

If you're a lover of nature, I want to start a movement.

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 18, 2018:

I do this too

Does the OK Sign Actually Signify “White Power,” or What?

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 18, 2018:

It is also sign-language for asshole and I know kids who flash it at each other in a game of “don’t look at it.” They are DEFINITELY not white supremicists!

Why is it that trump keeps saying, he ‘feels so badly for Brett Kavanaugh,’ who has been accused...

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 18, 2018:

His ability to empathize is limited to white men who have assaulted women.

It's TV - not music movies and books but I thought it would be ok here.

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 18, 2018:

My son likes it a lot. I like that they aren’t mean to others - they have all agreed to play and they know how to mess with each other but no innocents are harmed.

If you're a reader or someone who thinks too much, is that a requirement for dates?

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 18, 2018:

Everyone has different areas of knowledge and most of us have some “blind spots.” Someone who describes them self as “not a reader” is off-putting to me, but it is probably fine if they consume knowledge in other ways.

About religion

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 17, 2018:

You mean like when people use it as an exclamation? Probably because it’s used like a swear word!

When you are out and about and come across someone you find attractive.

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 17, 2018:

1) Imagine that they are the ideal partner 2) watch them weirdly until they make eye contact 3) say something weird and awkward or drop something/trip and fall 4) run away

Here's an update : This past Sunday I went looking for a pup, in shelters, but couldn't find one ...

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 17, 2018:

Smart to wait for the right pet to come along!

Things Men Do To Upset Women? What Do You Think?

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 17, 2018:

Yes, those things in specific contexts, not because women are irrational/unreasonable: Lying - ever Telling the truth - just to be hurtful Not talking - when you have something to say Talking too much - when you have nothing to say Not showing emotion - when you’re trying to be tough Being too emotional - when you fail to control your anger

Any one up?

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 17, 2018:

Casual sex

Would you ride o on the back of an elephant in the jungle of Africa?

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 17, 2018:

Yes yes no no yes.

I got my puppy! Everyone say hello to Roxy!

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 16, 2018:

What a cutie!

FEMA Will Test a System That Would Allow Trump to Text Directly to Your Phone

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 16, 2018:

This should not be in the hands of the impulsive, petulant man-baby in the white house.

Can you love someone that does not love themselves?

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 16, 2018:

I loved someone who was not capable of loving anyone, including himself. He was a terrible partner and, though I was in denial, a pretty terrible person. So yes, you can love them, but it will probably be terrible for you.

We said goodbye to my mom on Friday in a lovely service.

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 16, 2018:

Breathe. Grieve. Figure out what you want for yourself and go for it.

A question for the womenfolk: I've a theory.

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 14, 2018:

Honestly, you have described me pretty well. I Can’t speak for anyone else but yeah that’s about where I’m at.

I've made two posts recently asking members here for some advice on two different issues and I have ...

A2Jennifer comments on Sep 14, 2018:

Sounds like you’re going to have a good year!

I can usually maintain a positive attitude by reflecting on worse places I've been or jobs I've ...