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Professional cousilling from a biblical perspective Give me a break.

A2Jennifer comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Hahaha!

Someone here has advised me not to attack things I don't like.

A2Jennifer comments on Apr 23, 2018:

Perhaps the operative word was “attack.”

I can't seem to figure out why religious people ignore basic facts and evidence

A2Jennifer comments on Apr 23, 2018:

Because they are emotionally invested in their dogma and it is terribly uncomfortable to face facts that are in conflict with what you want to believe.

Teenage spirit, its a while ago., but rock on,,,,[youtu.be]

A2Jennifer comments on Apr 22, 2018:

Heard Breaking Benjamin do a cover of this in January. Definitely a song I ever thought I would see performed live!

I see sometimes people using the term;Tough Love;.

A2Jennifer comments on Apr 19, 2018:

I will echo what some others have said. “Tough love” just means letting kids feel the consequences of their choices. This is often critical to preparing them for adulthood. When parents step in and solve every problem and fix every mistake for kids, they don’t learn to make good choices for themselves.

More People Believe in Ghosts than Darwin.

A2Jennifer comments on Apr 12, 2018:

Science deniers are the most terrifying people to me.

Understanding vegans

A2Jennifer comments on Apr 10, 2018:

I also don’t understand veganism. I get vegetarianism, for any number of reasons (health, economical, ethical) but I don’t really get how veganism furthers any of those purposes.

Where do agnostics go when they die?

A2Jennifer comments on Apr 10, 2018:

Nobody knows

I've been away for a while.

A2Jennifer comments on Apr 9, 2018:

Awesome tribute!

What's your go to funny story?

A2Jennifer comments on Apr 8, 2018:

I am wearing a splint on my wrist following a slip-and-fall so that is my go-to at the moment. That moment when, like Wile E. Coyote, you look down and realize neither of your feet is on the ground. But I was taking the trash out when it happened and people keep telling me I need a better story, like, say I was rescuing a baby or a puppy or something.

Do you believe all children are naturally born Atheist?

A2Jennifer comments on Apr 8, 2018:

Yes. Belief in a god(s) has to be instilled in children.

Well then, heard from an ex recently asking about some personal possessions which I gave away after ...

A2Jennifer comments on Apr 8, 2018:

Agreed. My ex refused to take stuff he left here when I offered it3 separate times after our divorce. Because he “didn’t have anywhere to put it.” He also left me with a bunch of debt. Finally I decided since he has screwed me with his debt I am not obligated to be his free storage unit and started tossing stuff.

Cats or Dogs

A2Jennifer comments on Apr 8, 2018:

Agreed you should add “both” as an option. Not for me! I am 100% team cat!

Follow up to "A Major Milestone" post.

A2Jennifer comments on Apr 8, 2018:

Common advice is that unless there is a major dealbreaker from the first date, you should go on a second date. That being said, I would consider groping a major dealbreaker.

What's a nice and natural way of opening a conversation?

A2Jennifer comments on Apr 7, 2018:

Online, Ideally, mention something specific about their profile that you share or find interesting or can ask a question about. Questions are great and keep a conversation going. NEVER use any kind of pet name or address a woman you don’t know by anything other than her name, e.g Honey, Sweetie, “Hey, Pretty eyes” or “gorgeous.” Yuck. Good advice I saw recently about complimenting women - compliment something they have control over - a skill/talent, a clothing item, etc NOT their eyes/figure.

A little help on writing the best profile.

A2Jennifer comments on Apr 7, 2018:

Yes, be yourself, be authentic. Skip the negativity.

What skill or talent do you wish you had?

A2Jennifer comments on Apr 7, 2018:

I wish I had the creativity to write stories. I write well. I can write clearly and descriptively, but I don’t have stories in me.

Movies from years ago

A2Jennifer comments on Apr 7, 2018:

Not for movies, personally, but I think most people have something they look back on and are embarrassed about their taste. For me - New Kids on the Block!

Do you go by the amount of positive reviews when you make a purchase online?

A2Jennifer comments on Apr 7, 2018:

I definitely weigh reviews - what th average is as well as what the lowest raters had to say.

Teen Age Sex, the worst outcome!

A2Jennifer comments on Apr 6, 2018:

My belief is that you teach kids about the consequences of sex - physical and emotional, including the rates of teenage pregnancy and sti infection. And you also give them the information they need to protect themselves when they do decide to have sex, including the fact that no form of protection is foolproof and that the responsible choice is to wait until you are ready to handle all of the potential consequences.

Going to spend the rest of this week with my ex. Is it the best thing for my heart?

A2Jennifer comments on Apr 4, 2018:

A slight variation on the maxim, “When someone tells you who they are, believe them.” It is “when someone tells you they can’t give you what you need, believe them.”

True or False: How we think is determined by the mind, not how things really are.

A2Jennifer comments on Apr 4, 2018:

Perception is certainly shaped by experience.

Do good deeds without belief in heavenly reward or hellish punishment.

A2Jennifer comments on Apr 2, 2018:

Good advice

Have you ever: served on jury duty?

A2Jennifer comments on Apr 1, 2018:

I was on a jury for a civil case. We were told that the defendant had already been found liable, and it was our job to determine the amount of the damages to be awarded. It turned out that the defendant was found liable not based on the facts of the case, but because neither he nor his lawyer showed up to court on the day that question came before the court. Did not feel good about the process because of that.

With out any diplomatic answers,.

A2Jennifer comments on Apr 1, 2018:

Definitely. My ex didn’t value knowledge or education and it became a significant conflict in our way of viewing and interacting with the world. Age probably matters less the older you get, but being in a different stage of life certainly creates complications. Differences in culture can be overcome, but is something you would have to be so aware of, I think it could be exhausting.

What character traits indicate someone is a "good" person?

A2Jennifer comments on Apr 1, 2018:

Empathy, honesty, engaging in acts of generosity of volunteerism without expecting personal benefit, not intentionally or willingly harming others.

20 Warning Signs of an Abusive Relationship 1.

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 31, 2018:

Abusers control the perceptions of their victims using “gaslighting.” They lie vehemently when confronted with their own behavior. they tell you that you’re crazy, that your needs are not important, that you are the problem. they convince you that their (crazy, abhorrent) behavior is normal and that your (reasonable and minimal) expectations are unreasonable.

Ever done things to please others?

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 31, 2018:

I was married to a narcissist sociopath. He often manipulated me into violating my boundaries and sacrificing my well-being for his benefit. It was a lot of years of misery.

If I had it all to do again, I doubt very much I would meet my husband.

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 30, 2018:

I would. When I married my ex we already had our son. At every stage of our relationship, the more committed “we” (meaning “I”) got, the worse he treated me. Once we got married, he never did another thing for me. He stopped contributing to our household in any way (financial, instrumental, parenting etc) and became increasingly abusive. The only reason to do things the way we did, I don’t know if I ever would’ve been able to let him go if I didn’t go through everything he put me through.

Just got asked what atheists do on Easter.

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 29, 2018:

Eat chocolate bunnies. Maybe spend time with family. My best friend calls it “ham day.”

Stephen King fan here.

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 29, 2018:

The Green Mile was very good and very true to the book, as I recall. He has recently talked about how his stories are better suited to a longer form of storytelling, like a mini-series, as opposed to a film.

What does the future hold?

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 29, 2018:

Sorry, man, we are on a path of self-destruction.

I'm writing a novel primarily about my childhood (still fiction though).

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 28, 2018:

Great! Go for it! I would be happy to give it a read and give you some feedback before you send it out.

What do people do that grosses you out? X(

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 27, 2018:

Smoking. And littering.

if any one lives near Seattle I would like to meet up either men or women.

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 26, 2018:

Suggest you look for a group on meetup.com

Do you find giving advice to someone who disregards it, is a waste of time.

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 25, 2018:

Just because someone asks for your perspective doesn’t mean they are bound to do what you tell them.

How long have you been app dating? Which app has been your most successful for actual dates?

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 25, 2018:

I have had profiles on a few different apps over the last 2 years. POF is terrible. the population leans heavily towards high school educated and heavy drinkers. I deleted that one. Have also tried Match.com. The “meet someone gaurantee” is a scam - they make sure no one qualifies and so they charge full price for the renewal. Over a year of membership, I have never had so much as a date from Match. A friend used Tinder for a while. When I ask why she quit she said, “Dick pics.” Note we are almost 40. OKC is the best I have found - free, lots of people on it, questions that allow you to eliminate incompatible people. They have also recently changed their system to prevent harassment.

My spouse is a gambeling addict.

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 22, 2018:

That sucks, and I’m sorry. In my situation, it turned out that addiction was a symptom of the narcissistic sociopath, rather than the explanation for the behavior. You need to protect yourself. First, make sure that you have savings that your spouse cannot access and research what other steps you can take to protect yourself financially. Then you have to consider what you want/need to do to help your spouse and preserve your marriage. Finally, addictive behavior often overlaps with abusive behavior. As much as we hear that you should stick out your marriage no matter what, it is ok to remove yourself from a toxic situation.

Today I was encouraged to donate a sum of money to one of the local foodbank/shelter.

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 20, 2018:

I wish you would tell them why you decline to support them. Ideally, identify another organization doing similar work without forcing people to adopt religion to qualify, and indicate that you have chosen to support that organization instead of them for that reason.

Why do men get so mad when they get rejected?

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 19, 2018:

For the men saying “not all men,” or “women too.” OF COURSE not all men. OF COURSE women sometimes get nasty about rejection too. The thing is that it is SCARY as a woman. it represents a danger to our physical safety when a man gets angry in a situation that, by the way, we probably didn’t invite. not because ALL men will escalate to physical violence but because it only takes one.

Can you imagine being Gods PR, ? Scratch head and think "this guys a nut"

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 19, 2018:

you might ask anyone who’s had to speak for the White House lately.

Why did your marriage fail?

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 17, 2018:

Because my spouse was a sociopath.

Should athiest really be saying 'rest in peace'

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 17, 2018:

I never thought of that as a religious statement or a reference to afterlife.

Sexless marriage

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 16, 2018:

I can’t make the link work.

Help wanted

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 16, 2018:

HahHaha!

What is your response to "god blees you" after sneezing?

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 16, 2018:

“Thank you.” I still say “bless you” out of habit because it’s what you say. I am trying to switch to the German “Gesundheit” buthBita are tough to break.

How do you meet people?

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 16, 2018:

I recommend meetup.com. Find a group that interests you and go to some activities. Go out and do things and be open to conversations.

What are your thoughts on psychological disabilities?

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 16, 2018:

This is tricky to me - and I work in mental health. While I support some accommodations being made so that people can be successful, they are likely to find upon entering the workplace that exceptions/excuses are not given in the real world.

On average, how much do you read per day? Do you read everyday?

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 13, 2018:

Every day! Sometimes just a little, sometimes a lot.

I find it humorous and sad that when I do something such as an act of kindness ie: the other day I ...

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 13, 2018:

I don’t even know you and I’m Proud of how you handled this! You did a nice thing because it was the right thing and when someone tried to label it as a “Christian” act you gently told her, essentially, that you didn’t need god to tell you to be a good person. Good for you!

Living in rural SC, it's hard to be out as non-Christian.

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 13, 2018:

I’m very curious as to what you mean when you describe yourself as spiritual.

Did you know?

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 13, 2018:

Did not know that. Well, didn’t know chemo was discovered as mustard gas. Hope that someday medicine will look back at chemotherapy and say how barbaric it was. Problem with cannabis is that you can’t get federal funding to study it. And big pharma has a stake in keeping it that way.

Teachers + guns. I think it's a shit idea. What do you think?

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 12, 2018:

Well, we have done an excellent job of training police officers to make fast and accurate judgment calls about firing their weapons in high pressure situations, so why not teachers, too? Oh, wait... There are SOOO many problems with this idea.

How reliable is the study of history?

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 11, 2018:

I worked for a time with a historian whose focus was women. Partly this involved learning more about women in history. Her techniques also included seeking out accounts of historical events from women’s perspectives and applying feminist thought and frameworks to historical events. We can learn more about history by seeking new and different perspectives, specifically because any individual’s account is biased by their own perspective. Another example is that history is written by “the winners.” So perspectives of Native American folks about what happened to them are rare. We can learn more by exploring the stories that have been lost and buried.

Does anyone else get: “ You can’t be an Atheist, you’re so nice and friendly”?

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 10, 2018:

I haven’t personally been told that but it doesn’t surprise me. Lots of religious people assume terrible things about atheists.

Why Women Aged 35 45 Are Single and Unhappy The Paradox of Declining Female Happiness - YouTube

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 9, 2018:

“When a woman says she is independent and strong, I immediately write her off.“ = “Once a woman rejects me, I claim I didn’t want her anyway.” This is typical toxic masculinity behavior. There are many variations all along the lines of “you’re just an ugly bitch anyway.” An excellent clue about a person’s character is how they behave when they don’t get something they want.

If you're not married, would you marry again?

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 9, 2018:

My marriage was very bad, and contributed literally nothing to my life except for physical intimacy. At this point, I only want a relationship if it really adds to my life, since my experience is that it is better to be alone than in a bad relationship. Marriage is a level beyond that. I don’t know if I would ever want to get married again, if I would feel actively opposed to doing it, or if I might consider it if it were really important to the right partner

Please, discussion only, no arguments.

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 9, 2018:

I agree with the idea of international cooperation.

Do you believe in an after life or does consciousness end when you die

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 9, 2018:

This life is all we get.

Loneliness vs. being alone

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 8, 2018:

I spend a lot of time alone these days but I’m not lonely. Lonely was loving and being married to someone who didn’t love me, but saw me only as a means to meet his needs.

Has anyone ever analyzed their dreams and if so, what were the benefits?

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 8, 2018:

Coincidentally came across this today: https://www.millionairessaying.com/these-14-common-dreams-mean-something/?utm_source=FB=sahab=Minion=MS

A quick grammar question

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 8, 2018:

HAHA! I vote Bigfoots!

Convention advice

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 8, 2018:

Atheist Convention? FFRF convention? Anyway, Have fun! Maybe someday I’ll do one of those.

Anyone else trying the app?

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 8, 2018:

Yes I’m using the app. It’s badically the same as the website.

Why is it there are so few "awake" and agnostic gay or open minded men near me?

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 8, 2018:

Truthfully, seeking an atheist/agnostic significantly narrows the dating pool. And gay is also a *relatively* smaller dating pool. If 1 in 10 people is a Non-believer and 1 in 10 men are gay, 99% of potential partners are eliminated before you even get to appropriate age, personalities, and all of the other things that contribute to compatibility.

Has anyone ever analyzed their dreams and if so, what were the benefits?

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 8, 2018:

Dream “analysis” is pretty hazy. I have occasionally looked up symbols that recur - disasters, stairs, water, food (last night I dreamed of an amazing buffet.) usually I look up the thing, think, “huh, ok,” and forget about it!

Has anyone ever been to a godless wedding or funeral?

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 8, 2018:

I had a god-free wedding. I am also an ordained minister and would happily perform god-free wedding ceremonies.

Do you believe unconditional love is possible?

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 7, 2018:

We actually had this conversation a few weeks ago. As a parent, yes, you love your children unconditionally. I have also abandoned the idea of unconditional love for romantic partners - in my experience that meant loving someone unconditionally while he treated me very badly. So, never again.

Humor

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 7, 2018:

I agree with others- more than once i’ve seen a news story and thought it must be the Onion, only to be sadly disappointed that it was real life. A similar phenomenon related to this administration - I read that Shonda Rimes, creator of Scandal, decided to end the show because people are less entertained by this world of extreme political corruption when it is now the reality.

Christian Family Values: Anti marriage equality, Pro-forced child marriage!

A2Jennifer comments on Mar 7, 2018:

Had this conversation with someone the other day. Thee is NO circumstance in which a 14-year-old getting married is to the benefit of that child. It is exploitive, it is predatory, it is child abuse.

Kentucky Governor Calls Kim Davis An Inspiration ‘To The Children Of America’