Did someone break your heart badly that you're afraid to trust anyone else as far as love?

El-loco comments on Mar 8, 2018:

No. Well, maybe, look, just shove off asking these questions. It still hurts, OK?

AnneWimsey replies on Mar 8, 2018:

Thank you for saying that! How many times do I want to rip those scabs off......?

I was offered a BIBLE !

Mark9393 comments on Mar 8, 2018:

Read it. I have highlighted all of the sex scenes.

AnneWimsey replies on Mar 8, 2018:

There is quite a lot of UGLY sex stuff in there, actually, but i am sticking to cheap modern porn for my light reading!

What are the Benefits

MarcIveson comments on Mar 6, 2018:

I,m told you get xray vision , untold riches and worshipped on a Sunday morning . This only applies at level 6 and above .

AnneWimsey replies on Mar 6, 2018:

All true, but you forgot to mention the unicorn that shows up about a week after you make level 8.....

Why did the secular ambitions of the early United States fail? | Aeon Essays

The_Dude comments on Mar 5, 2018:

I think it was a move toward Christianity after WWII to unify the country against communism. At the time communists were largely viewed as godless so we adopted the motto in God we trust and added under God to the pledge of allegiance.

AnneWimsey replies on Mar 5, 2018:

Totally agree...i was in 4th grade when they added that phrase to the Pledge and you could feel the disapproval of the adults...a line had been crossed! Thanks, Joe McCarthy & Billy Graham!

What's your favorite horror film?

AnneWimsey comments on Mar 3, 2018:

Texas Chainsaw MASSACRE, I&II......II is hilarious!

AnneWimsey replies on Mar 5, 2018:

@Summer the original is scary...when they find the teeth, uck! But the second one is hilarious...Dennis Hopper so spaced out, the other actors say a line, he is obviously supposed to respond, but can't, so they continue As If he had. Then they sling him with about 15 chainsaws, from huge to "baby toy" size and he's supposed to be cutting his way in for the big rescue....but the Styrofoam beams he is cutting keep sticking to the chainsaws & flapping around...among other stuff...maybe 2 of the lowest-budget movies ever made!

Please indulge me in one more question about Karma

AnneWimsey comments on Mar 4, 2018:

What you are describing at the game (and I am a HUGE football fan) is called " momentum", and can indeed be changed by one good play, t happens more than once in many, if not all games. I must disagree with calling it "karma", sorry

AnneWimsey replies on Mar 5, 2018:

@kauva because Karma, if there is indeed such a thing, would not be involved in sporting events IMO...in every such events, one team will win, one team will lose...there are no "wrongs" to be righted, nor good deeds to be rewarded. I cringe when players 'thank gawd' for some play they completed...oh, wait, maybe that's why these mass shootings, child rapes, etc keep happening? Gawd is too busy watching sports?! (*hollow laughter.....*)

Would You keep dating someone who felt it was necessary to keep you a secret from their kids?

Troy comments on Mar 4, 2018:

Yes. Seriously, mothers who are dating have a lot of considerations in mind that make it perfectly rational and reasonable for them not to tell the kids until they are sure the person they are dating is going to be a long term thing, and is going to be safe for the kids. That sucks, but look at ...

AnneWimsey replies on Mar 4, 2018:

GREAT post!

I Am Beginning To Fall Out Of Love With Humanity!

AnneWimsey comments on Mar 2, 2018:

If Cheeto represents "humanity"........to the Guillotines!

AnneWimsey replies on Mar 4, 2018:

@RobAnybody That!

What's the most "sinful" thing you've ever done?

GodlessVoice comments on Mar 2, 2018:

Sinful? By technicality, denounce the holy spirit? Societally? Spent almost 8 years in lock up. Humanely? Beat people up

AnneWimsey replies on Mar 3, 2018:

Are you available? Because I have an ex-husband who keeps sending the alimony checks late..........

Why does being nice to rude people make the situation worse?

AnneWimsey comments on Mar 2, 2018:

With me you get what you ask for swiftly every time x2

AnneWimsey replies on Mar 3, 2018:

@Sarahroo29 don't worry..........unless your name is "toyota" lol!

What's the most "sinful" thing you've ever done?

MarcIveson comments on Mar 2, 2018:

I Once ate pizza with pineapple on it .

AnneWimsey replies on Mar 2, 2018:

@resserts ignore the Hawaiian pizza, more for me! Lol!

What's the most "sinful" thing you've ever done?

MarcIveson comments on Mar 2, 2018:

I Once ate pizza with pineapple on it .

AnneWimsey replies on Mar 2, 2018:

@resserts i like hawaian pizza.......

I Am Beginning To Fall Out Of Love With Humanity!

Akfishlady comments on Mar 1, 2018:

I hear you. I have had some odd responses lately as well. I see that as the site grows there are more 'types' of people joining. I don't know what their mission is but I think it has something to do with just getting people riled up and not really about logical discussion or great ideas. I don't...

AnneWimsey replies on Mar 2, 2018:

@twshield You & i & a few others seem to be in an exclusive club formed by melbates.....

What's something that has never (or will never) changed about you?

Sticks48 comments on Mar 2, 2018:

Being a smartass. Especially the second half of that word. The first half, not so much.

AnneWimsey replies on Mar 2, 2018:

Oh, yeah, That too!

Plain Jane Syndrome

TjallTjall comments on Feb 27, 2018:

I would change my focus, it is not PoC that have anything to do with it. It is not as if they are living large in this culture, and if they get the assistance they deserve, it is not taking anything from you personally. Being disabled is horrible in this culture, you are treated like a leper, ...

AnneWimsey replies on Mar 2, 2018:

@TjallTjallOUTLK You tell the Truth, she attacks!

Plain Jane Syndrome

Levi_Hinton comments on Feb 27, 2018:

Regardless of any factors such as race, getting help when you need it is often difficult. I have noticed a stigma when it comes to how people treat me in regard to disability. I have enough trouble without being shamed for requiring help in the first place.

AnneWimsey replies on Mar 2, 2018:

@Melbates My advice to stop being a Professional Victim!I Shared by many on this thread, all of whom you have attacked

Plain Jane Syndrome

Levi_Hinton comments on Feb 27, 2018:

Regardless of any factors such as race, getting help when you need it is often difficult. I have noticed a stigma when it comes to how people treat me in regard to disability. I have enough trouble without being shamed for requiring help in the first place.

AnneWimsey replies on Mar 2, 2018:

@Melbates I feel quite proud that I have gotten you to notice..now, to get you to Listen!

Plain Jane Syndrome

Melbates comments on Feb 27, 2018:

Fuck all of you. If I'd fit into any of the aforementioned categories, this shit wouldn't be empty.

AnneWimsey replies on Mar 1, 2018:

@Melbates your 99.2 temp is absolutel normal! Attention, everybody, her temperature is normal! No, wait, she wants your heartfelt commiseration so then she can slam you about how you just don't get her

Plain Jane Syndrome

Levi_Hinton comments on Feb 27, 2018:

Regardless of any factors such as race, getting help when you need it is often difficult. I have noticed a stigma when it comes to how people treat me in regard to disability. I have enough trouble without being shamed for requiring help in the first place.

AnneWimsey replies on Mar 1, 2018:

@Melbates Yes, let's discuss race....,and you. You changed your post title, but about halfway down your barrage of insults & excuses, you took the time to describe the exquisitely turned-out lady using "$2,000.00 worth of food stamps who is, "you guessed it, black".........NIIICCCE! And a big fat racist stereotype.........you are NOT a nice person!

Plain Jane Syndrome

Melbates comments on Feb 27, 2018:

Fuck all of you. If I'd fit into any of the aforementioned categories, this shit wouldn't be empty.

AnneWimsey replies on Mar 1, 2018:

@Melbates You have an excuse for everything, give sarcasm instead of thanks to anyone offering helpful advice, and, oh, wait........20 (twenty!) "Suicide attempts"!!!!! Narcissistic attention whore here, folks, keep moving........

Plain Jane Syndrome

Mark9393 comments on Feb 27, 2018:

No, you have victim syndrome.

AnneWimsey replies on Mar 1, 2018:

@Melbates I can see you have a lot of problems, sweetie. Too bad none of them can be solved by self-pity, nasty aggressiveness, and playing the Blame Game.....and has anyone ever mentioned how unattractive whining is?

Plain Jane Syndrome

RavenCT comments on Feb 27, 2018:

Why are you with MHMR if you don't have those issues? For SSDI you need proof of disability - a Doctor is often best.

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 28, 2018:

@Melbates "unemployed for 3 years but could not collect"....because you are white/female/put-upon? Or because you were were fired or working under the table or?

Plain Jane Syndrome

Mark9393 comments on Feb 27, 2018:

No, you have victim syndrome.

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 28, 2018:

@mordant i am sorry about your child...nobody should go through that....him or you. BUT do you picture him or you publicly posting a rant about "poor me" ?

Plain Jane Syndrome

Mark9393 comments on Feb 27, 2018:

No, you have victim syndrome.

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 28, 2018:

@mordant dear, dear mordant....neither do you...but here you are, all up in everybody's face on her behalf, because i guess you identify with her "white girl" problems?

Plain Jane Syndrome

Mark9393 comments on Feb 27, 2018:

No, you have victim syndrome.

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 28, 2018:

@mordant"posters fate"????? You are enabling the heck out of someone who has Decided to become a professional victim!

Plain Jane Syndrome

Eponymous comments on Feb 27, 2018:

Whew, this is where the empathic, tough love in me wrestles with the truth teller. So, you've been consistently underachieving in your life. You really have no socio-economic excuse, other than what you THINK you deserve. You're unwilling to embrace education, and aspire to a position you THINK you ...

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 28, 2018:

@Melbates 1. You chose to go into debt 2. Are you the only one saddled with this debt....? 3. Whine, much?

Is anyone else losing hair over this nutjob in the W.H from stress?

TheInterlooper comments on Feb 28, 2018:

During the Obama years, the right claimed: "the end is nigh". Now it is the left telling me that the sky is falling. Blah blah, etcetera, ad nauseam.

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 28, 2018:

@TheInterlooper the world as we knew it already has! You aren't paying attention

Plain Jane Syndrome

Mark9393 comments on Feb 27, 2018:

No, you have victim syndrome.

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 28, 2018:

@mordant As noted above, i had her " problems" x 50 and never Once did I blame my sex or color........your attacks are inappropriate and enabling at best

Plain Jane Syndrome

Mark9393 comments on Feb 27, 2018:

No, you have victim syndrome.

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 28, 2018:

@Melbates Uummm, the entire post is full of race, gender asssumptions...."poor me , I can't get any handouts because I am white, or, now, plain......"

Plain Jane Syndrome

AnneWimsey comments on Feb 27, 2018:

Why, exactly, are you always looking for assistance? I am 69 and the story of my ups & downs would curdle milk. But I have gotten assistance twice in my life...once as a single mom I got food stamps while on strike. No problem at all. Then when I had a stroke at age 38 (turned 39 in the hospital...

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 28, 2018:

@Melbates I think your post, regardless of title, does have an element of racism, sorry.

Is anyone else losing hair over this nutjob in the W.H from stress?

TheInterlooper comments on Feb 28, 2018:

During the Obama years, the right claimed: "the end is nigh". Now it is the left telling me that the sky is falling. Blah blah, etcetera, ad nauseam.

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 28, 2018:

So, you think Cheeto with his finger on that red button, the other tweeting idiotic nonsense, is jut peachy-keen?

What's your motivation to workout, when you've been sweating buckets for months, but it seems like ...

JiunnWong comments on Feb 28, 2018:

i work out to make sure my body still works and can get jobs done. The hell with how it affects the way my body looks, I do not care, and I care less about people who judge me by appeareances

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 28, 2018:

What he said! Use it or lose it! But you may want to consider changing your routine every 6-8 weeks, too...the body habituates to whatever you do. For example, try interval training, or change the % of cardio you do vs. Weights. Change from high reps to low reps with more weight, etc. Also try Tiny dietary changes. Above all, do as i say, not as i do!!!!

Jesus is a bigot who preached division and rewarded ignorance and stands to torture those who ...

bootaski comments on Feb 26, 2018:

I agree! christian hell is a nasty concept. christianity is deceptive. it offers positive things, but at a price... and puts its own subtle spin on morality in the process

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 27, 2018:

@bootaski got your PM...not one mention of "Hell",plus some really pathetic quotes, for example using the parable of the "banquet in heaven" as grossly punitive, and absolutely no idea of context/history! Oh, and jeezus was a "bigot" because he "preferred Jews"...of which he was one! I stand firmly by my original post!

Why Do We Allow Blatant Bullying Here?

Hellbent comments on Feb 16, 2018:

This is a bit alarming. I haven't been aware of any bullying but that doesn't mean it isn't happening (there are many things that I'm unaware of). I'd just hope that, even when we're dismissing somebody's opinion, even if we think it's ridiculous, we would try to behave with courtesy and good ...

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 27, 2018:

@bingst that would be me! the older I get the less time I want to waste on idiots!

Jesus is a bigot who preached division and rewarded ignorance and stands to torture those who ...

bootaski comments on Feb 26, 2018:

I agree! christian hell is a nasty concept. christianity is deceptive. it offers positive things, but at a price... and puts its own subtle spin on morality in the process

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 26, 2018:

@bootaski not from jeezus words.........quote something?

Any superstitions you subscribe to?

Cast1es comments on Feb 26, 2018:

I understand hospitals see a greater number of births during the full moon phases .

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 26, 2018:

Statistics? Source?

Any superstitions you subscribe to?

marga comments on Feb 26, 2018:

I'm not sure that is a superstition, since it's been scientifically proven to affect some people.

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 26, 2018:

Ummm, when? Where?

What I find in the dating world too often is once someone finds out you're an agnostic, atheist or...

AnneWimsey comments on Feb 26, 2018:

If someone, for Any reason, decides you are "promiscuous", dump them immediately, like the bag of smelly trash they are, and thank your lucky stars (or whatever!) that you have wasted no more time on them! On the other hand, I see no reason you, or anyone, should be announcing their beliefs until ...

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 26, 2018:

@Kojaksmom and the difference is???!

If we're serious about drawing distinctions between "acceptably dangerous" and "unacceptably ...

Rugglesby comments on Feb 23, 2018:

yep, very good point, one I certainly wouldn't have considered early enough. Need to have people who understand these things involved in the law making.

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 26, 2018:

@jayneonaco, Ummmm quote: "That's sarcasm, by the way"...you must have short term memory problems, too?

Would you want a Christian God to be real?

SCOTT63 comments on Dec 27, 2017:

I again refer to Lazarus Long Men rarely (if ever) manage to dream up a God superior to themselves. Most Gods have the manners and morals of a spoiled child.

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 26, 2018:

Is that why evangelicals are all excited about Cheeto?

Would you want a Christian God to be real?

france18 comments on Jan 23, 2018:

Yes, a Christian believes that God as you say is real. I am glad that he is, he is someone who is powerful ie created the heavens and the earth. I am also glad that he does not use his power to be at the use of us pressing a button and hey presto he has compiled with our wishes, painful that may ...

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 26, 2018:

And the problem with that is....?

In case you guys thought otherwise, Webster classifies us as pagan.

HeathenFarmer comments on Feb 24, 2018:

I prefer to be referred to as undeluded. I am not big on virgin sacrifices it seems such a waste a potentially sexual being, maybe instead we could sacrifice televangelists.

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 26, 2018:

Damn fine idea!

Jesus is a bigot who preached division and rewarded ignorance and stands to torture those who ...

bootaski comments on Feb 26, 2018:

I agree! christian hell is a nasty concept. christianity is deceptive. it offers positive things, but at a price... and puts its own subtle spin on morality in the process

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 26, 2018:

Ummm, jeezus never mentioned hell, nor does the entire babble except in a few weirder parts of Revelations.

If we're serious about drawing distinctions between "acceptably dangerous" and "unacceptably ...

Rugglesby comments on Feb 23, 2018:

yep, very good point, one I certainly wouldn't have considered early enough. Need to have people who understand these things involved in the law making.

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 25, 2018:

@jayneonacobb Gee, i thought I was responding to your sarcasm....silly me!

Does anyone have an opinion of the swinger lifestyle?

AnneWimsey comments on Feb 24, 2018:

How much do you enjoy getting HIV/AIDS? Me, not so much.......

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 25, 2018:

@RickWard that leaves 13 days to catch something...you do know you are having sex with EVERYONE your partner has ever slept with, right?

If we're serious about drawing distinctions between "acceptably dangerous" and "unacceptably ...

Rugglesby comments on Feb 23, 2018:

yep, very good point, one I certainly wouldn't have considered early enough. Need to have people who understand these things involved in the law making.

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 25, 2018:

@jayneonacobb I was married for over 30 years to an avid hunter, all we ate was game! He had Lots of guns, some inherited. I have NO problem with hunting or shooting as a sport, have known how to use a gun, (rifle & pistol)since age 9 on the farm. BUT we live in a society and a society has the duty and right to protect it's members, particularly the most vulnerable. TANKS are unlikely to be defeated by anything you can purchase....you are very, very foolish!

Honesty.

silvereyes comments on Feb 24, 2018:

Sometimes I am honest to my own detriment. Like that time in the store a girl I had never met asked me if I liked the shoes she was trying on... It's hard to tactfully say "no" in that situation. I tried my best to say that it just wasn't my personal choice of style, because I don't like lying. ...

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 25, 2018:

@silvereyes lol!

Is everyone a pillhead or addicted to meth?

FrayedBear comments on Feb 24, 2018:

Lol. This is interesting. I have the same abhorrence of Marijuana users as I have seen too many of the addicts sucking away from morning to night with a growing paranoid chip on their shoulder because they believe that the world and I owe them their right to selfish stupidity. I also have a ...

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 25, 2018:

@FrayedBear well, i lerned a lot from it, some of course i didn't need to know, ever. I look on the bright side, i'm still here, and tough as nails!

Does anyone have an opinion of the swinger lifestyle?

AnneWimsey comments on Feb 24, 2018:

How much do you enjoy getting HIV/AIDS? Me, not so much.......

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 25, 2018:

@RickWard yeah? Ex-hubby left me for one...had her own Porn websites too so i''m guessing you guessed wrong. His remark when I asked him wasn't he worried about diseases, " they get tested every 30 days" revealed that I had been married to a MORON for 33 years

Should I write a letter to try to revive a relationship?

think-beyond comments on Feb 24, 2018:

Your answer lies in how you will feel about your question a few months down the road. Will regret not giving it another try? Nothing ventured; nothing gained. As that man said: "What have you got to lose?"

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 24, 2018:

Totally agree!

Honesty.

silvereyes comments on Feb 24, 2018:

Sometimes I am honest to my own detriment. Like that time in the store a girl I had never met asked me if I liked the shoes she was trying on... It's hard to tactfully say "no" in that situation. I tried my best to say that it just wasn't my personal choice of style, because I don't like lying. ...

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 24, 2018:

I would have said, "not my favorite, what else have you looked at?" Who would get angry about that?

Is everyone a pillhead or addicted to meth?

FrayedBear comments on Feb 24, 2018:

Lol. This is interesting. I have the same abhorrence of Marijuana users as I have seen too many of the addicts sucking away from morning to night with a growing paranoid chip on their shoulder because they believe that the world and I owe them their right to selfish stupidity. I also have a ...

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 24, 2018:

@FrayedBear the maniacal drunk part. Crashed cars, lots of scars (literally & emotional). He was so bad a bar owner put a gun to his side one night....the thing misfired, so his head got layed open by the butt...he came home wanting me to sew him up, then beat me because it hurt. Good times, good times.......

If we're serious about drawing distinctions between "acceptably dangerous" and "unacceptably ...

AnneWimsey comments on Feb 23, 2018:

You are absolutely correct in your assessment of the semantics! IMO there is actually plenty of law about guns on the books...look them up! (until Cheeto allowed mental cases & batterers to get them!) BUT Congress has, for at least a decade, failed to fund one thin dime for enforcement! That's ...

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 24, 2018:

@jayneonacobb LOL! I'll bet real money you dress in camo 24/7 and proudly pay dues to the NRA, dead kids are not as important than your AK-47(s)......your "guns against tanks" remark reveals all I need to know about you.

Is everyone a pillhead or addicted to meth?

FrayedBear comments on Feb 24, 2018:

Lol. This is interesting. I have the same abhorrence of Marijuana users as I have seen too many of the addicts sucking away from morning to night with a growing paranoid chip on their shoulder because they believe that the world and I owe them their right to selfish stupidity. I also have a ...

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 24, 2018:

You are describing my first marriage, except genders reversed!

If we're serious about drawing distinctions between "acceptably dangerous" and "unacceptably ...

AnneWimsey comments on Feb 23, 2018:

You are absolutely correct in your assessment of the semantics! IMO there is actually plenty of law about guns on the books...look them up! (until Cheeto allowed mental cases & batterers to get them!) BUT Congress has, for at least a decade, failed to fund one thin dime for enforcement! That's ...

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 24, 2018:

@jayneonacobb and if your right to drive drunk, or shoot at random, infringes upon my right to live a peaceful existence? You know, my "inalienable rights", which the 2nd Amendment is a small part of the document meant to ensure them......... By all means, own all the muzzle loaders you wish,

Should religion be taught in schools?

TonyATO comments on Nov 12, 2017:

Fuck no. There are places for that like church and jail. Schools are supposed to be for learning useful things. Should we teach the kids astrology and read their horoscope in the morning too? Religion is the same thing.

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 24, 2018:

JeanLafitteetapas5 cults/ offshoots in any religion always have differences. True wiccans are basically nature worshipping "communities"

Should religion be taught in schools?

TonyATO comments on Nov 12, 2017:

Fuck no. There are places for that like church and jail. Schools are supposed to be for learning useful things. Should we teach the kids astrology and read their horoscope in the morning too? Religion is the same thing.

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 23, 2018:

@JeanLafitte45 that neither

What is the most outlandish or improbable theory you've ever heard?

TerriCity comments on Feb 23, 2018:

That the H. Clinton campaign was running a child pornography or trafficking (I've forgotten the details) ring from the basement of a pizza shop. What's really crazy is that a lot of people believed it.

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 23, 2018:

Hey....from the basement of the pizza parlor....which a quick check of building plans showed that the entire building HAD NO BASEMENT. But why let Facts get in the way?

If we're serious about drawing distinctions between "acceptably dangerous" and "unacceptably ...

AnneWimsey comments on Feb 23, 2018:

You are absolutely correct in your assessment of the semantics! IMO there is actually plenty of law about guns on the books...look them up! (until Cheeto allowed mental cases & batterers to get them!) BUT Congress has, for at least a decade, failed to fund one thin dime for enforcement! That's ...

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 23, 2018:

@jayneonacobb Ummmm, cars? Exact parallel....no one has an implicit right to own something that can be deadly, but we as a society find them useful & desrable, so we enact laws to lessen the burden on those injured by their cress use/misuse, and attempt to more severely regulate the really dangerous users.

Should religion be taught in schools?

TonyATO comments on Nov 12, 2017:

Fuck no. There are places for that like church and jail. Schools are supposed to be for learning useful things. Should we teach the kids astrology and read their horoscope in the morning too? Religion is the same thing.

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 23, 2018:

@JeanLafitte45 there is no astrological charting in Wiicca

Soooo.

GreenAtheist comments on Feb 21, 2018:

What you describe is a medical job site inflicted disability and qualifies you for instant Social Security disability payments 35% higher than your age 62/67 retirement benefit "earned" ....this is in addition to pension/medical retirement benefit earned. ....if any of these benefits are delayed or ...

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 22, 2018:

@GreenAtheist I forgot another thing...my daughter married a "smart" guy making "lots of money under the table"...great, until they applied for a mortgage. He had no work history, they only qualified for a mortgage based on her income alone.

DDD

Sacha comments on Feb 21, 2018:

Sometimes I wish my boobs were a DDD! tehehehe ;) Then I could smoother all my dirty dark secrets with them lol

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 21, 2018:

@kiramea a good doctor can work with you & get insurance to pay!

Soooo.

GreenAtheist comments on Feb 21, 2018:

What you describe is a medical job site inflicted disability and qualifies you for instant Social Security disability payments 35% higher than your age 62/67 retirement benefit "earned" ....this is in addition to pension/medical retirement benefit earned. ....if any of these benefits are delayed or ...

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 21, 2018:

@misstuffy do you know that the IRS pays a reward of 10% of recovered money from tax cheaters to someone who turns them in? Yes indeed! AND to all of you who think it is smart to get paid under the table....not only are you going to be in this gals shoes, but when it comes time to draw Social Security, you will have cheated yourself HUGELY. Not to mention, what a great retirement plan your employer has.........

If man doesn't exist does the the universe exist?

DobbinPitch comments on Feb 20, 2018:

I'm gonna try to be polite, but I'm gonna fail. This question is just as dumb as the tree falls in the forest question. Observation is not necessary for things to exist or events to occur. If a tree falls in a forest and there's an atmosphere for sound waves to travel in, it makes a fucking sound. ...

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 21, 2018:

Freaking ! What he said!

What does "coffee" mean to you?

silverotter11 comments on Feb 18, 2018:

You need to do a stand up comedy routine!! TOO funny the way you write about it. I laugh 'cause been there done that. I had one guy when I checked my messages trashed me as a bitch cause I did not response to his text messages - I had given him my phone number and TOLD him it was a land line, no ...

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 21, 2018:

Possessing your land line phone number, anyone can get your home address and internet profile in less than a minute! Please, everybody, do NOT give out a landline number to someone you do not know! NEVER,

If you could go back in time and change only one thing, would you?

Or-Humanist comments on Feb 20, 2018:

Wouldn't change anything. The path is how I got to here. And I am pretty happy where I am.

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 21, 2018:

I love where I am in life right now.....everything about it! And I realize it is a product of where I have been. But I would not wish some of my experiences on Anyone, so why would I wish them on me?

DDD

Sacha comments on Feb 21, 2018:

Sometimes I wish my boobs were a DDD! tehehehe ;) Then I could smoother all my dirty dark secrets with them lol

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 21, 2018:

No you do not! My first bra, at age 10, was a C and things went downhill from there...many styles look awful with DD boobs, the underwire bras to hold them up are Very expensive & Very uncomfortable, no matter how hard you shop! My trapezoid muscles are completely nonexistent...killed off by bra straps. Doing DIY on my yard & home, I cannot tell you how many times they got poked, slammed, bruised. I just (5 weeks ago) underwent reduction surgery....to a nice B...at age 69.. They took off 2.5 pounds! It is So much easier to breath, so much easier to stand upright! No more rashes, no more gobs of sweat making the bra soggy, yippee! The recuperation is long, but no way as long as i have suffered with these stupid things poking forward. In addition, plenty of studies show that women with big boobs are perceived as dumber than women with small boobs....i also am finding men looking me in the face more...men of all ages! Plus, i saw my feet while upright for the first time....too funny!

I didn't figure I'd encounter trolls on this site.

AnneWimsey comments on Feb 20, 2018:

Oh, sweetie, there is more than one. Smartass-ism is fine by me, what i look for are the posts that require you to posit the existence of a supreme being in order to discuss the ostensible question........fun fun fun!

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 21, 2018:

@birdingnut BAH humbug...their hubris ,to post on this site, earns them all I can dish out?

How do you tell religious people that you're an atheist?

AnneWimsey comments on Feb 19, 2018:

I fervently wish to go back just 20 years where people kept their business, political or religious, to themselves!

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 21, 2018:

@GreenAtheist Monica herself, aged 25, Never alleged any force or coercion...where is that idea coming from?

What was a fact taught to you in school that has been disproven in your lifetime?

AnneWimsey comments on Feb 20, 2018:

In 5th grade i made the observation that the Americas' outlines seemed to fit with the African/European outlines and was severly made fun of by the teacher. I find Plate Techtonics absurdly satifying!

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 21, 2018:

My experience happened in 1958, or thereabouts....Plate Tectonics was not invented yet

How do you tell religious people that you're an atheist?

AnneWimsey comments on Feb 19, 2018:

I fervently wish to go back just 20 years where people kept their business, political or religious, to themselves!

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 20, 2018:

@GreenAtheist So, who in the the highway department ordered her to his room? Because of course they would be named in any lawsuit! Consenting adults, one of whom has made a ton of money & a nice career from her " kiss & tell". Unlike a Real victim such as Anita Hill!

If you could go back in time and change only one thing, would you?

dahermit comments on Feb 20, 2018:

I would never get married. Courting behavior is pleasant enough, but marriage changes everything and is not all that pleasant. I would have gotten a vasectomy and lived out my life as a serial monogamist with no more than a one-year long relationships. I remember the '60's song..."We will live ...

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 20, 2018:

I sometimes sing that at karaoke...love that song!

I didn't figure I'd encounter trolls on this site.

RavenCT comments on Feb 20, 2018:

Did you know you can block people?

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 20, 2018:

@RavenCT was their name "Toyota"? Lol!

How to battle the proliferation of political correctness?

godef comments on Feb 19, 2018:

And unfortunately, it tends to be those on the liberal side that are the worse about this, as Bill Maher likes to point out. Author John Grisham once made a statement in an interview that in essence said a casual viewer of child pornography is not bad as a person who creates that pornography, which ...

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 20, 2018:

@Betty so you think that children would continue to be abused in this horrible way if nobody was interested in child porn? REALLY?!?!

The Multiple Intelligences Theory: What types fit you best? Least?

AnneWimsey comments on Feb 20, 2018:

Tarot readings and horoscopes tell you the exact same things without massive expenditure of tax dollars, because people hear Only what they Want to hear! Prove it to yourself.......hide the month info on any horoscope, it will apply to you. Pick your "best matches" from this list....come back a ...

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 20, 2018:

@silvereyes ain't that the truth!

How to battle the proliferation of political correctness?

godef comments on Feb 19, 2018:

And unfortunately, it tends to be those on the liberal side that are the worse about this, as Bill Maher likes to point out. Author John Grisham once made a statement in an interview that in essence said a casual viewer of child pornography is not bad as a person who creates that pornography, which ...

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 20, 2018:

@godef the Effect, however, is exactly the same! I reject your apology for these users!

The Multiple Intelligences Theory: What types fit you best? Least?

AnneWimsey comments on Feb 20, 2018:

Tarot readings and horoscopes tell you the exact same things without massive expenditure of tax dollars, because people hear Only what they Want to hear! Prove it to yourself.......hide the month info on any horoscope, it will apply to you. Pick your "best matches" from this list....come back a ...

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 20, 2018:

@silvereyes My point is the massive waste of tax dollars for grants for this crapola!

Do you think that men have become more feminine recently?

dovakiinky comments on Jan 31, 2018:

TLDR The fact that you obviously believe in a gender binary automatically just makes this whole post trash. Gender is a spectrum. Men aren't becoming more feminine. People are actually and openly expressing themselves now without the fear of being tortured to death. Trans individuals have a 1 in ...

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 20, 2018:

Well said, and "about damned time"!

How do you tell religious people that you're an atheist?

AnneWimsey comments on Feb 19, 2018:

I fervently wish to go back just 20 years where people kept their business, political or religious, to themselves!

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 20, 2018:

@GreenAtheist yes, the scandal pretty much opened Pandora's box. And I still say what a middle aged man ges tup to with another adult (because middle-aged men Never go nuts) is/was none of anybody's beeswax!

What does "coffee" mean to you?

JimG comments on Feb 18, 2018:

Damn, are you sure there were no indications beforehand? It's really hard to believe that people could be that batshit crazy and not tip you off somehow. On the subject of coffee, I think of coffee as just coffee; not much more than a casual chat.

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 19, 2018:

@ElizabethI you seem to be a lovely empathetic person...but honey, this ain't the time to use it! Making excuses for men before you even know them is not a good idea...when you find yourself "justivying", RUN!

What does "coffee" mean to you?

markdevenish comments on Feb 18, 2018:

you'd better hone your listening skills a bit better. you should be able to tell a legit prospect within 15 seconds on the phone let alone in person.. rely on your instincts and you will be saved from the muppetts

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 19, 2018:

@ElizabethI Never give out any personal info like a phone number! If it is a home phone they can look up your address in about 10 seconds, if they are savvy, even from a cell phone! At the first sign of inappropriate sexy remarks, RUN! They are testing you to see how far you can be pushed. Do you think anyone generally interested in making a new friend would do that? Would you allow a remark that made you squirm to go unchallenged in person? Not acceptable!

What does "coffee" mean to you?

AnneWimsey comments on Feb 18, 2018:

As you beautifully described in your first sentences, "coffee" is a way to meet someone. I give out No personal info, like phone number, until a face to face meeting. I also insist on at least 3 or more texts/ whatever beforehand, the crazy ones cannot hold it together longer than that. ...

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 18, 2018:

Type your comment here Nasty, manipulative crapola...Never get that close to a stranger......if really crazy, you take the risk oof truly enraging him so that he tries to play you back somehow.....if he is merely a user, you are wasting your precious time...on to the next frog!

What do you know well enough to teach others?

AnneWimsey comments on Feb 16, 2018:

Home repair & maintenance

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 17, 2018:

@kensmile4u thankyu, thankyuvurrymuch!

Why Do We Allow Blatant Bullying Here?

AnneWimsey comments on Feb 16, 2018:

Well, why are you waiting for someone else to speak up? I appreciate your concerns, but in my experience attempting to defend someone earns you anger because the person you are "defending" feels put down because you feel they need defending. I do! If I am competent enough to post something, I am ...

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 17, 2018:

@BlueWave No, I did not...the essence of snark, lol!

Don’t set the bar too high ;)

sassygirl3869 comments on Jan 1, 2018:

We try not to be non-judgemental don't we? It isn't easy. lol.

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 16, 2018:

@LeighShelton i do not try to be non-judgemental...ever!

Why Do We Allow Blatant Bullying Here?

AnneWimsey comments on Feb 16, 2018:

Well, why are you waiting for someone else to speak up? I appreciate your concerns, but in my experience attempting to defend someone earns you anger because the person you are "defending" feels put down because you feel they need defending. I do! If I am competent enough to post something, I am ...

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 16, 2018:

@BlueWave Snark as a response to ignorance, or deliberate discourtesy, is the Only answer, other than silence

What do you know well enough to teach others?

AnneWimsey comments on Feb 16, 2018:

Home repair & maintenance

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 16, 2018:

@kensmile4u moved my bathroom, made the old one part of the kitchen, the adjacent tiny dining room became the bath, complete with deep tub (ordinary tubs are so shallow!)

How to respond to the "God is energy" belief/claim.

Jack-of-scythes comments on Feb 14, 2018:

...and the "God particle" that the physicists at CERN are looking for would be called that because...

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 14, 2018:

The term is NOT what you think it is/means...Google it?

So, I "met" a guy on another dating site months ago, we have exchanged emails sporadically, ...

GreenAtheist comments on Feb 14, 2018:

Can anything other than religion explain why so many sociopaths are running loose inside USA ?

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 14, 2018:

1. Follow the money! Scammers can reach more people, more quickly, through social media. 2. Just like pedophiles or others, a constant percentage of the population...unchanged for centuries......but the population has increased, so, yes, they are more of them. Yet another reason to get the population under control?!

Have you ever used affirmations?

AnneWimsey comments on Feb 13, 2018:

I do know if you keep telling yourself you are ugly, worthless, stupid, it has Terrible effects on you! So I must believe that telling yourself you are competent, attractive, worthy, etc would be very good for you! Elite athletes are coached on how to use such thoughts to help them win, there are ...

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 13, 2018:

@silvereyes When I did Agility with my dogs, it was an accepted axiom that telling yourself "be sure you don't (whatever)", meant for sure you Would do it. We always used positive phrasing, "I am going to do (whatever) perfectly" Directing a dog around a course unknown to the dog in 45 or so seconds really leaves No time for negativity!

More Dating Preferences

Crimson67 comments on Feb 13, 2018:

I prefer to drive myself most of the time. If it is a first date, I'd rather they not know where I live. Once we've gone out for awhile I am more flexible but I still prefer to just meet somewhere.

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 13, 2018:

Safety first! Good for you...i am the same!

Okay single folks, how are you spending Valentine's day?

AnneWimsey comments on Feb 12, 2018:

I am hosting Soup Night for my over-55 Singles Social Club. I make a big vt of soup, supply bread/rolls & condiments, they bring sandwich fillings or desserts. Anyone near SE Connecticut, email me, you are welcome!

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 13, 2018:

@carlyhorton I save turkey bones from Thanksgiving & Xmas ham, throw in a few beef rib bones, browned onions, and boil...then add different kinds of beans and lots of vegies, garlic, parmesan, tomato paste...comes out the same only different every year, sort of like minestrone.

Do you feel somewhat annoyed or angry when you find out someone is testing you?

AnneWimsey comments on Feb 12, 2018:

"Testing"....like to see if you can be trusted? Or are honest? I do not have a problem with it as I too wish to know these things about others.

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 13, 2018:

@EmeraldJewel I actually cannot think of an example from my life of this...since I am 69+, it must have happened......?

I know there is some debate about the existence of climate change, however, here in little NZ the ...

AnneWimsey comments on Feb 3, 2018:

"warming is controversial"?!? The daffodils my grandmother planted around the family home, now owned by my brother, come up and bloom At Least 3 weeks earlier than when i was a child (i am now 69). So do the ones i transplanted here over 30 years ago. Go tell the daffodils it isn't ...

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 13, 2018:

@dc65 my grandma died in the late 50's...so the daffodils predate that!

I am caught between a rock and a hard place! I have to move in less than month, I must go thru an ...

AnneWimsey comments on Feb 12, 2018:

Books will eventually get silverfish eating the spine glue or mold/mildew between the pages. Stop thinking of them as a permanent life fixturse. You can get all of them at your library and/or your computer!

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 13, 2018:

@Freedompath you know you can use them to make shelves & coffee tables...will that help you keep a few more?

Tell Me About The Worst Date You Have Ever had....

Rugglesby comments on Feb 12, 2018:

Mine was from an online dating site, we agreed to meet for coffee, she insisted I pick her up, which I really advise girls against. She lived about an hours drive away in the next state. Went to the door, introduced myself. Drove to another suburb, walked around a large shopping precinct and ...

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 12, 2018:

There is a reason you both get yourselves Only to a coffee look-see! The fact that she was willing to let you know where she lived without knowing anything about you is a HUGE red flag!

Anybody here ever traveled/vacationed in Quebec?

Dick_Martin comments on Feb 12, 2018:

My experience, now old, is that most can speak and understand English but will not admit it.; especially if it is a situation where you can make a fool of yourself. Here is an example: My son-in-law played in an adult hockey league. They had a weekend tournament in Quebec. At breakfast he ...

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 12, 2018:

@Dick_Martin she stated he got White toast....

Anybody here ever traveled/vacationed in Quebec?

Dick_Martin comments on Feb 12, 2018:

My experience, now old, is that most can speak and understand English but will not admit it.; especially if it is a situation where you can make a fool of yourself. Here is an example: My son-in-law played in an adult hockey league. They had a weekend tournament in Quebec. At breakfast he ...

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 12, 2018:

This makes no sense, as in french #8 is pronounced "wheat" more or less.....i think they confused the type of bread with the amount...i have found All Canadians to be excessively polite, always!

Domestic Violence in the News.

Dougy comments on Feb 11, 2018:

Have your doctor referred you to a Psychologist or Psychiatrist ? They are doing amazing things with medication these days . I've been on that route for almost 25 years , & I'm still impressed .

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 12, 2018:

Because I mostly keep on an even keel, I would decline meds.......posting on here & reading all your comments has been Very helpful to get me over this "hump"! Thank you all!

Finally watching Wonder Woman.

AnneWimsey comments on Feb 11, 2018:

I did not see her as being a "sexual kitten"! I saw her responding with intelligent curiosity to a totally new situation.

AnneWimsey replies on Feb 11, 2018:

@Akfishlady she was dressed like everybody else dressed on the island she grew up in...the scene when she is trying on " modern clothing" so restricting & binding to a woman's movements, was both hilarious & sad & a major contrast to her freedom & no-males former life vs the "world of men"