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Jacques Berlinerblau "How to Be Secular: A Call to Arms for Religious Freedom" Some quotations ...
Barnie2years comments on Jun 16, 2018:
This proves to me that having an opinion and writing a book about it is pretty much open to anyone.
"It's OK, everything happens for a reason.
Barnie2years comments on Jun 16, 2018:
I have this issue every time there is a tragedy and the news crews find some simpleton to interview who says god spared them, their home, their family, their pets, while not acknowledging that by saying that, their god then becomes responsible for the destruction, death, injury and mayhem that has happened to their friends and neighbors? You can’t have one without the other, sorry! When that tornado goes through that little town, where almost everyone goes to the same church, worships the same god, and that pencil line of destruction missed your home... If I was one of the homeowners that lost everything, I might be tempted to strangle you when I hear you say god spared you but aimed for me! ?
Jeff Sessions cites Romans 13, a Bible passage used to defend slavery, in defense of family ...
Barnie2years comments on Jun 15, 2018:
http://www.patheos.com/blogs/friendlyatheist/2018/06/15/stephen-colbert-blasts-jeff-sessions-for-defending-cruelty-with-a-bible-verse/
Jeff Sessions cites Romans 13, a Bible passage used to defend slavery, in defense of family ...
Barnie2years comments on Jun 15, 2018:
As pointed out last night on The Late Show by Steven Colbert, the passage quoted is completely different a few paragraphs later. I will see if I can get the clip. As with most biblical quotes, they contradict each other within the same books.
Trump: Kim's people sit up when he speaks, 'I want my people to do the same'
Barnie2years comments on Jun 15, 2018:
He is so totally envious of every world dictator, it’s palpable!
For atheists - what makes you believe no deity exists?
Barnie2years comments on Jun 15, 2018:
Because nothing attributed to a god can not be attributed to chance, circumstance, or reason. So called miracles are not duplicatable, which would not be the case were there a puppet master who supposedly was creating them. I tell people who get in my face, flip a coin or pray, the result will be just as dependable. ?
Kim Jong Un Offers to Host Peace Talks Between United States and Canada | The New Yorker
Barnie2years comments on Jun 12, 2018:
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Standardized expectations are not always a good measure of success.
Barnie2years comments on Jun 12, 2018:
Education is what separates us from animals. Standards of education keep it going in an efficient way. It may not work for everyone, but we seemed to have advanced better than any other creatures.
Church Is Taking Appearance Of Gigantic Marilyn Monroe Statue In Stride | HuffPost
Barnie2years comments on Jun 12, 2018:
How appropriate! Makes up for all the crosses, Ten Commandments statues, and Jesus statues the curches insist on erecting on public land when they own millions of their own tax free acres all over the place! ??
This one is cute too... [facebook.com]
Barnie2years comments on Jun 11, 2018:
Take away? Even small is better than nothing! ????
Kind Words.
Barnie2years comments on Jun 11, 2018:
A friend of mine went through this. It eventually reversed and most of her hair grew back. Glad you got the unexpected morale booster, they are always welcome.
You would think by now I'd know which posts on Twitter to walk away from so I don't see stupid shit ...
Barnie2years comments on Jun 10, 2018:
So sad when you invent a god that you use for your own convenience without taking in all the ramifications of what you say you believe. If you truly believe this crap, that your god is all powerful, then you have to hold it responsible for every tortured child, every pedophile, every disease that those children will suffer (we won't even talk about the adults). You are worshiping the most evil bastard to never exist. Thanks, I'll pass myself. Mankind is by it's nature no prize, giving birth to a child who will become a burden not just on your the life of the mother, but others, just for the sake of some other person's belief is not at all what being a human is about. Animals give birth because they have no means of controlling it, and when they overpopulate, disease and natural selection take over the task of thinning the population (though hunting, killing gods creatures, is quite permissible for most christians, even the pacifists). Take your religion out of my laws!
Neanderthal dna
Barnie2years comments on Jun 5, 2018:
Wow! You are very special!! ?
What do you think?
Barnie2years comments on Jun 5, 2018:
? Like most folklore, it has little to do with reality. If you can believe the Earth was formed in six days and a virgin birth is possible, you have severe reality issues anyway. Why not believe a Middle Eastern Jew would look just like you two thousand years ago.
A 64-year-old put his life savings in his carry-on.
Barnie2years comments on Jun 1, 2018:
This is like forfeiture laws. You get arrested in many states under suspicion of a crime. They come in and seize your property and bank accounts before they even have a hearing. The ou go to trial, are exonerated but your property is gone with a boatload of expensive legal work to try and get it back. Basically government highway robbery.
A 64-year-old put his life savings in his carry-on.
Barnie2years comments on Jun 1, 2018:
This is like forfeiture laws. You get arrested in many states under suspicion of a crime. They come in and seize your property and bank accounts before they even have a hearing. The ou go to trial, are exonerated but your property is gone with a boatload of expensive legal work to try and get it back. Basically government highway robbery.
Coffee Large or Small
Barnie2years comments on Jun 1, 2018:
I’m a sipper. With a large mug, I would have to reheat it several times.
Are you cheating if you are open to your partner about your other relationship(s)?
Barnie2years comments on Jun 1, 2018:
By definition, I would think that if you are in an agreed upon open relationship, the word cheating does not apply. If you are cheating, then you are withholding information from your partner and hiding your affair as much as possible. It’s kind of like going into a store and they have a rack of merchandise marked “Free” and the next shelf has priced items. If you take a free item it is not shoplifting. If you take the priced item, you are. Best example I could come up with quickly! ?
Would you consider having sex with a bearded man?
Barnie2years comments on May 30, 2018:
I get tired of shaving sometimes and grow one. I keep it trimmed, I can’t deal with hair getting in my mouth or food. Then, at some point I nick some off with the trimmer, and start yo get into various configurations, depending on mood: from goatee to fumanchu. At some stage, I get tired of trimming and start shaving again. I have found overall women accept it as well as men accept their women making drastic changes to their hair style, going long to short, or short to shorter. They get used to it either way for the most part.
Do you remember your dreams?
Barnie2years comments on May 29, 2018:
One more little thought on the subject. Dogs and cats seem to have dreams. Anyone with a pet can tell you that they frequently are moving their paws and making sounds as they dream. Also, little kids have dreams and nightmares, long before they have a whole lot of things to remember. My stepson had night terrors, where in the middle of the night he would be screaming and thrashing, yelling random words out. They would last for maybe 10 minutes or so, then he would calmly go back to sleep. He was about three at the time, if I recall, and I read up that it is fairly common around that age group and they outgrow it after a year or two, which he did. So the idea that dreams have some hidden meaning is hard to imagine given that they can happen to all creature and all ages, with no possible interpretational basis.
Do you remember your dreams?
Barnie2years comments on May 29, 2018:
I used to seldom have dreams, that I was aware of at least, and generally only had a vague memory of those that I did remember. However, one of the medications I got put on after my heart issue has changed all that, and I now dream every night, all night long, sometimes they seem to start before I am even asleep! And while they are not nightmare, they always involve a lot of activity or frustration, running around, crazy stunts, or on rare occasions, sex. So I wake up in the morning, I am exhausted, more tired than when I went to bed. Waking for a bathroom stop doesn't even help, since I go right back into the dream where I left off as soon as my head hits the pillow! I have changed one medication that the doctor thought might be causing the issue, but it didn't have any effect on it, I would love to go back to my nice quiet blank sleep nights! Too tired to try and figure out hidden meanings for the dreams!
Hey there, I have been an atheist since forever, no religion growing up to speak of.
Barnie2years comments on May 27, 2018:
This being a non believer website and forum, it should not be an issue. I have no problem with it.
Hello! I'm brand new here...?
Barnie2years comments on May 22, 2018:
If they are important people to you, say thank you, and accept that they can’t function in their life without their pretend invisible friend. If they are of no importance to you, tell them god never did one single paper of your homework, never babysat your kids when you had a class, never paid for one of your classes. You are responsible for everything that happens in your life, good or bad. If they have such low self esteem as to believe some magic force provides for them, feel sad for them. Unlike you, they can never fully appreciate their own strength and accomplishments.
Study Shows Canadian Women Think Being Bilingual Is Sexier Than Having A 6-Pack - MTL Blog
Barnie2years comments on May 22, 2018:
Bonjour! Je parle français aussi bien que l’anglais. Mais pas de « six pack ». ?
Warning rant ahead!!! My mother sent me this text: "Ahmed had told me that spot growing fast ...
Barnie2years comments on May 22, 2018:
I find religious people funny rather than pathetic. A few month back I had V-fib, was basically dead for 10 seconds until my car crashed and the jolt put me back into rythme. A very religious friend of mine, who knows I am Atheist, told me that god saved my life so that I could accept him. After I stopped laughing I told her she just gave me a good reason not to believe, since by her logic, if I was a believer I would have stayed dead!! ? That made her stutter and back pedal pretty quick.
Warning rant ahead!!! My mother sent me this text: "Ahmed had told me that spot growing fast ...
Barnie2years comments on May 22, 2018:
Any excuse to flaunt their piety is a good one. The fact that you were subjected to two close together was just a fluke, which is what us non believers call miracles! ?
U.S. top court backs companies over worker class-action claims
Barnie2years comments on May 21, 2018:
The working people are already at a disadvantage with the current court tilted to the Right. If Trump gets to appoint any more justices, it will take decades before we even have a chance to push the court to a humanitarian majority. With Kennedy looking like he may retire, sadly the probability of a super majority of conservatives on the court is almost inevitable. I dread the consequences!
Crow Funerals (L) [facebook.com]
Barnie2years comments on May 21, 2018:
Crows are a very smart birds. Them and Ravens can lean speech, they are very social and quite hard to sneak up on. They communicate with their caws and cackles. We get thousands of them roosting near our one mall and downtown at times. What a mess they make! I have seen cars that were parked under the roosting trees become totally covered in crow poop to the point you could not tell what color it was originally!
Well, I voted this past Tuesday.
Barnie2years comments on May 21, 2018:
Primaries are generally not a good forecast of the general election, especially in areas where there is not too many people running in one or the other party. I know on my ballot here in PA, for my district, there was pretty much no choice, unless you wanted to write in someone, since only one Democrat was running for each office (our incumbent governor, senator, etc.), except the lieutenant governor. Thant was the only one that had an actual choice. We can only hope that by November will have screwed things up so badly that the Republicans will stay home out of disgust and the Democrats register and show up at the polls!
Love is the answer.
Barnie2years comments on May 20, 2018:
Very optimistic and sounds like a Beatles song. But not in the reality of human interaction. In point of fact, one could say the latest Texas shooter went on the killing spree because his love was not reciprocated. Love is often used as a tool, if unreciprocated, an excuse to harm. People love their religion, their kin and clan, their country, their leaders. Not all of these are healthy love, but love non the less. And reality is that we all know how loving the church is to those not in the fold, gays, Atheists, other religions and other beliefs. So while it sounds lovely, it is not within the realm of possibility.
Gold. Just....gold. Read the comments. [m.facebook.com]
Barnie2years comments on May 20, 2018:
? Sex Ed in jewelry form, cool!! Touch the emerald!
I feel the need to call bullshit on the "No Drama" tagline I've seen on dating sites, and here, in ...
Barnie2years comments on May 20, 2018:
No drama to me would mean they don't want a person in the middle of a contentious divorce. Or with major family issues, either children, parents, or siblings. Or it could mean drug or alcohol issues. In other words, in the middle of the plots of your average soap opera. Dram as entertainment is far more interesting than drama in real life.
What was the most harrowing experience that you have ever had?
Barnie2years comments on May 18, 2018:
There has been a few. Getting caught in a whirlpool at a New Jersey beach, having my face slammed into the bottom sand, in about 5 foot of water, as I had been swimming along. Was only about 5 or 6, and I didn’t think I could get out of it, but once I hit bottom it let up. Another was crossing an ice covered quarry with a friend. He was ahead of me and had gotten to the bank and around to the path out. I was still about five foot out, when the ice started to crack, and suddenly I was in the cold water of a deep quarry, struggling to find the edge. I was dressed for winter, with heavy clothes. I would come up for air, see my friend on the path, curse him out for not coming to help me, go back under, kicking, trying to find the edge. I came up for the third time, and was running out of steam! Sank again and suddenly I felt solid ground. I clawed my way up the steep bank and around to the path, I gave my friend hell for not coming to help me (he really couldn’t have done much without risking sliding in himself). Then we had to try and figure out how to get me dried off before we went back to his house, since we were not supposed to be in the quarry. After we found we couldn’t get the snow covered wood to light up to start a fire, we rode our bikes to his house. Then, as luck would have it, no one was home anyway. We tossed my clothes in the dryer and never told anyone, until many years later.
Compatibility issues
Barnie2years comments on May 16, 2018:
When I was doing online dating (not on here), sometimes I put Atheists, sometimes other, sometimes left it blank. None of them produced results, so I am not sure it made a difference.
Prosecutor: Children tortured "for sadistic purposes"
Barnie2years comments on May 15, 2018:
I saw pictures on the news. She seemed proud of the fact that the place looked like a dump, the bathtub was full of poop (animal I assume). And I am sure the home schooling was top notch!
Has Australia's most recent mass shooting been publicized in any other countries?
Barnie2years comments on May 14, 2018:
https://abcnews.go.com/International/wireStory/grandfather-suspect-australia-mass-shooting-official-55140891 It was on the evening news, ABC, MSN and FOX
Jewish or Muslim Agnostics or Atheists
Barnie2years comments on May 14, 2018:
It seems like many Atheists, even if they are not on here, leave the Jewish faith or are non practicing. Given the treatment of those who leave the Muslim faith, from family banishment to death, I would think many would be leary of joining any group that would make them easier to identify. But I hope you get some responses from other faiths. They are out there!
Hello everyone.
Barnie2years comments on May 14, 2018:
Everybody, non believers, believers, can have a medical problem. From the Pope to Stephen Hawking, we are born, we live, some have medical issues, others get through life in relative good health. What you believe has no bearing on how your life proceeds health wise. Praying won't do a damn thing for your health, otherwise there would be no need for hospitals, modern medicine and medication. Take care of yourself, let your doctor help you through your issue, and maintain a positive attitude. Those will help you get back on your feet, not getting on your knees.
How do the men here feel about having a relationship with ?
Barnie2years comments on May 13, 2018:
When I was 19 I had a relationship with a friend from work who was 39. My first wife was a year and a half older. The biggest age difference the other was also 20 years. At this stage of my life (66) I am more interested in someone in my general age bracket, but would never let age, higher or lower, be the primary concern over how I feel about someone I feel attracted to.
How Has Your Sexual Libido Changed As You Have Aged?
Barnie2years comments on May 12, 2018:
I was very sexual in my younger days, had my share of fun, both married and out. After my last marriage to a woman who made sex with me seem like a burden that she had to deal with a couple of times a month, it hasn't been the same. I want LOVE to be turned on, and that is kind of hard when I can barely get a dinner date. I was always very open about sexuality, have no real hangups when it comes to normal body fluids. I have always put my partner's pleasure ahead of mine. Masturbation is fine to keep the prostate in shape, but I sure do miss the smell, feel, taste and warmth of a female human body next to mine! ;-(.
Procrastination mode engaged.
Barnie2years comments on May 12, 2018:
I blame it on lazy myself! And time challenged! It just seems that the older I get, the faster time goes. I figure I will start something that should take about 20 minutes, and an hour later, it still isn't done. Or I think I will sit and relax for a half hour, and the next time I look at the clock, two hours went by. The time gremlins get very active as I age!! LOL
Death of a loved one
Barnie2years comments on May 12, 2018:
I agree! Has nothing to do with an afterlife either. If your death was preceded with a painful disease, an emotional torment, torture of some kind, loss of mental capacity, death is a release. You have none of those things anymore. If the death was in an accident, a murder, or other sudden causes, then they are not in a better place, they are dead before their time. My Dad suffered with a lot of pain, nervousness about everything, and a loss of interest in life for several years before he died. Death for him was a better place than the daily loss of his spirit and joy of life. I look forward to my own death even now as a relief from the slings and arrows of daily life. I would not precipitate it, nor do I fear it.
Whats On Your 2-Do List Before You Die?
Barnie2years comments on May 12, 2018:
Mine's a two for! I want to be in love with a sexy lady and take her for one of the river cruises in Europe. Either up the Rhine from Vienna to Amsterdam, or East from Vienna to the Black Sea. Going to sleep every night after a day of exploring some exotic city with my arms wrapped around my gal, memories to die for!
My dads entire life he was an Atheist.
Barnie2years comments on May 10, 2018:
I could envision my Mom doing this if she had the chance! She was brought up Brethren, an anabaptist Christian faith. My Dad’s family was Methodist, and because we moved around a lot and it was much easier to find Methodist churches, she pretty much joined that faith. But it was too late! My sister and I were already grown and non believers. I the anabaptist faith, babies are not baptized. You concecrate yourself to the faith when you are old enough to make the decision to accept god (Amish and Mennonites are the same). One of her biggest regrets is that my sister and I were never baptized, because in her mind, whether we believe or not, if we had had water sprinkled on our heads and some mumbo-jumbo spoke over us, we would at least stand a chance of getting to heaven. I generally try to refrain from laughing. But I could truly see her, if I was in a coma or unable to defend myself, sneaking a preacher in and doing a Christian Intervention! ? It won’t make a damn bit of difference to me, but I am sure it would make her feel better, so I would never ban her from my room!
Growing up in the baptist cult.
Barnie2years comments on May 9, 2018:
I have never abandoned family over their or my beliefs. My sister and I are the only Atheists in my close family. When I was married, it was never a problem with the in-laws. I don’t go around making a big deal of my non belief, and I don’t make a big deal about their chosen belief. Kind of like the last couple of decades of my Dad’s life. He was a staunch Republican, me a progressive Liberal. When we were together, we just didn’t talk politics. Or, if he went on a rant against Obama, I just let it go off and then we went back to other subject. If you can accept your chosen path without waving it like a flag in everyone’s face, they should be able to deal with it if they love you. If they can’t, just limit the time spent with the family members who are most hateful, and keep the door to communication open to those who are trying to understand. And don’t make it a crusade for your lifestyle, while not denying who you are. Just be the better person.
I've been following the story of the teenage boy in Alabama who was pronounced brain dead.
Barnie2years comments on May 7, 2018:
Machines are fallible and the human body can do odd things. One of the reasons most states require a three day waiting period before a body is cremated. In this case, he suffered a major head trauma. His brain may have gone into a hibernation mode, just as some trauma requires induced coma. If he was seeing fields, he was having dreams, relaxing dreams. And thank goodness they waited a bit to start harvesting organs. I’m not sure they don’t rush that sometimes.
I've been following the story of the teenage boy in Alabama who was pronounced brain dead.
Barnie2years comments on May 7, 2018:
https://www.wral.com/boy-declared-brain-dead-recovers-after-parents-agree-to-donate-his-organs/17535368/ This is one, but there is a whole page full of the story. You know this kind of “miracle” gets the theists all close to orgasm!
This Angry Young Preacher Says Atheists Are All Coke-Drinking Video Game Addicts – Friendly ...
Barnie2years comments on May 7, 2018:
Wow, I am seriously out of the loop! I drink Diet Coke, never play video games. I guess it’s like other animal societies where the young have to act up to show the elders how tough they are, or like new gang members who are required to shoot someone to prove they are worthy of being a member. The young preacher has to demonstrate his knowledge of Evangelical bullshit and get the congregation frothing at the mouth to be accepted by his elders.
I have bitched all winter about wanting the cold to be gone.
Barnie2years comments on May 6, 2018:
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Has anyone met somewhere here and actually had a date?
Barnie2years comments on May 6, 2018:
We are planning on meeting this week, so I would have to say YES!
Today I said goodbye to my friend.
Barnie2years comments on May 6, 2018:
I have pre-arranged and paid for my funeral expenses. I specified that there was to be no viewing, other than my son or stepson, if they so chose to. My body was to be cremated (I am a listed organ donor) and there was to be NO religious ceremony whatsoever in my name. If my mom, should she still be living, or my son, who has embrassed religion thanks to his wife, need to pray, they can do it on their own. My son accepts my Atheism, so I don’t foresee a problem with him, and he will deal with my mother’s needs to deal with their god issues. I also purchased a special biodegradable urn, which when planted in the ground with a seed in the top will become a Maple tree. My version of life after death or reincarnation, depending how you want to look at it. ?
Calvin and Hobbes is my favourite
Barnie2years comments on May 4, 2018:
Love K&H! I own at least four of the books, loved the newspaper strips!
Okay, so with religious zealots, who don't believe in science, running all of our agencies, what's ...
Barnie2years comments on May 4, 2018:
Works for me!
Has anyone else seen this?
Barnie2years comments on May 3, 2018:
Wow! In Egypt and most other Muslim countries, stating you don't believe in their God can get you killed! Freedom of speech is not a right over there, not even a possibility without inciting violence. Hope the kid made it out alive.
Intolerant Liberals?
Barnie2years comments on May 2, 2018:
What a great article! The most recent example of Right Wing double standards is all the hand wringing and teeth nashing over the comedy presentation at the Correspondents Dinner and a comment about Sarah Huckabees eye shadow, which was not the actual punch line of the joke. Those making the most noise are voters and supporters of a man that mocked a disabled reporter, called a female primary opponent ugly, makes fun of people's stature, perspiration, family connection and none of it in a comedic way, in a comedy venue. The Right finds this kind of evil humor from their president perfectly acceptable.
How did you celebrate your 21st birthday?
Barnie2years comments on May 1, 2018:
Way too long ago to remember! ?
Space Cadet?
Barnie2years comments on May 1, 2018:
Oh no, the Rethuglicans are putting the screws to NASA, but they love to play soldier, especially when it doesn't involve the lives of any of their family members. And I am sure he has watched way too many episodes of Star Wars and Star Trek, which he tends to confuse with reality. ??
Anybody else see this
Barnie2years comments on Apr 30, 2018:
Falls right in there with clouds that look like Jesus! ?
Should public nudity be legal?
Barnie2years comments on Apr 29, 2018:
I am totally supportive of nudism. I grew up in Europe, where religious driven body shaming does not have the strangle hold it does here in the US. I have been to nudist camps, beaches and resorts and had a great time. But on the other hand, I don’t believe in imposing my naked body on people who’s personal sensibilities make them view the human body as something disturbing. There are entire villages in France that are clothing optional. We could use some of thos over here in the good old hung up USA, but my guess is the “righteous” for miles around would go on the warpath! ?
What is it do you think that makes you resistant to organized religions! Is it the structure?
Barnie2years comments on Apr 29, 2018:
Because organized religions are personality driven, much more so than deity controlled. Why is there thousands of Christian sects, why? They are all working out of the same book. Religion is driven by the con men who make up the rules and collect the tolls. From the Popes to Martin Luther, from the TV evangelists to the tent ones, from Shakers to Amish, they are driven by the personalities of their founders and their leaders who follow in their footsteps. This is why I don’t believe in Religion, appart from the fact that the idea of a god defies any logic based in reality. They have less validity than many social clubs.
Extended Survey about Atheism - This survey is for atheists/non-believers/agnostics, etc.
Barnie2years comments on Apr 28, 2018:
They closed the survey it said when I tried the link.
Has anyone ever belonged...
Barnie2years comments on Apr 28, 2018:
Freedom From Religion Foundation. Contributing member for a couple of years now.
Dating: what's your ideal age range? How important is age?
Barnie2years comments on Apr 28, 2018:
When I was 19 I dated a woman 39. But at 66, a 71 year old would have to be a very special person! I have met some that would qualify! But my normal search area would be 5 to maximum 10 younger.
“The Perfect Man” Americans Love a Con Man!
Barnie2years comments on Apr 28, 2018:
I came VERY close to getting scammed! I had run into a few others, but most of them were pretty easy to spot and tripped themselves up early in the game. But one, on a legitimate foreign dating site (one of my friends met his wife on it) came very close to costing me a lot of money. Fortunately, at the last minute I started doing some research and all it cost me was depression and a little heartbreak (not major, because in the back of my mind, I knew it was too good to be true). My guess is the article made it seem lopsided to women getting ripped off because a lot of men would be too embarrassed to report it or file a complaint.
Sometimes I find an American post that I cannot understand because we have different words; or ...
Barnie2years comments on Apr 28, 2018:
I am quite certain that Canada and definitely Australia have some totally unique ways of saying the same things. Having grown up in Europe with teachers from a variety of English speaking countries, I can generally sort out what a variety of the differences mean.
How many atrocities have occurred throughout history, under the guise of religion, due to the lack ...
Barnie2years comments on Apr 28, 2018:
Sadly, humanity has often reversed course before moving forward. The forces of evil and fear of change are too often stronger than those of progress and forward thinking. Progress always wins in the end, but the detour of recidivism can be harrowing.
Dating after 50
Barnie2years comments on Apr 27, 2018:
For us people of a certain age, dating and finding that special someone is way more of a challenge than it is for the younger people. Dating is much easier for some than others at any age, but the older we get, the longer we are alone or not in a relationship, the harder it becomes as far as I can tell. When we are young and starting out, we meet someone who knocks us off our feet and fall in love. Chances are, we live at home, have limited income, big plans for the future and looking for someone to go through life with. Once we meet that person, we start our plans together, careers open up and we make life choices that meet our needs. And than the shit hit the proverbial fan, for whatever reasons, the relationship goes south, we don't meet each others needs, love dies, family and work take a toll on the romance and we get divorced, sometimes several times. Each time, we go in hoping the person will be the storybook romance we see others have, best friends, shared interests, shared families. But it doesn't work out. Then for many, there comes a time of just being single. For many women, it seems to be while their kids are growing up, they don't want to bring new men into their lives and have it not work out. For men, it could be a career that is just too demanding to have time for romance and the effort of dating. Or we just have no interest in the heartbreak. Time goes by and through some means (On-line dating, chance encounter) we meet someone who stirs up interest, maybe go out a few times, get to feel like we enjoy each others company. But unlike the young lovers, we have each a long history, own our homes, have our own families and friends, habits and interests that have been nurtured for years. Our own financial situations, debts, and spending habits. Maybe one likes to eat out most nights, one like to cook at home or eat spur of the moment. If you get together, do we spend our time in your place or my place? If we decide to be a couple, what do we do with the finances, our family obligations, our furniture and collections? Admittedly, some are better at this than others. Some people have limited possessions, no financial obligations and the transition is fairly easy, but most not so much. This is not to say it can't work, I have certainly known a few who made the transition without too much drama and had a very successful end of life relationship. But I have known many more that could not make it work. I have limited hope in finding that person, but have not closed the door as some on here have. But I try to keep my hopes realistic and accept that I may just die alone. I have grown comfortable with my own company after 10 years of being by myself. Not how I pictured my life, but better than being in a bad marriage as I see so ...
Diamond and Silk
Barnie2years comments on Apr 27, 2018:
I have ignored them in the past when they showed up on little TV news blurbs.
Does anyone else find it bizarre how countries like The US and the UK try and call the shots on ...
Barnie2years comments on Apr 27, 2018:
I am not sure the UK has nuclear weapons, but France exploded quite a few in the Pacific over the years (as far away from France as they could get ?).
Christians wage war against Sweet Jesus
Barnie2years comments on Apr 23, 2018:
I see violence in their future as they enter this country. The US Evangelical Christian is as militant as Radical Islamist when they feel they are being wronged. I wouldn’t want to work at one of their outlets, that’s for sure.
I just have to share this email that I received from a coworker.
Barnie2years comments on Apr 23, 2018:
First, he should be arrested as a seditionost and terrorist. Second, his position has been adopted by the current president, which means the people rebelling are going to have to be the “others” he so fears. Third, the “America” he misses so badly never existed in the first place. It was built by those he hates the most, only they were called slaves, coolies (Chinese slave labor that built the railroads), native Americans who were forced off their fertile ancestral lands into barren lands, then pushed off them again when they contained oil. This is the proud heritage this ass speaks of so proudly. American conservatives and Right Wing fundamentalists are dangerous and until they are neutered by voters and at some point rendered powerless, they will be as dangerous as the Taliban ever was in Afghanistan.
Has anyone come across any fake profiles?
Barnie2years comments on Apr 19, 2018:
Ha, ha. One wanted to contact me by email. I gave her an address, even though she was way too young (mid 30’s). When she contacted me and she was looking for “a God fearing....” man, the jig was up! I send a message back and told her she might want to look somewhere besides an Atheist website for her God fearing men. English grammar was off as well as some other obvious signs of fake profile. She came back with some shaky run around. Gave me a good laugh anyway.
Have we really evolved that much from when these signs were out on display here in America?
Barnie2years comments on Apr 17, 2018:
The signs aren’t there, but the sentiments are. And thanks to the current administration and their so called religious freedom interpretation of law, the signs will soon become commonplace once again.
Let’s Stop Pretending Christianity is Actually Relevant, Okay?
Barnie2years comments on Apr 17, 2018:
Loved this! Just sent the link to a young Christian friend who trends to the classic American Christian Right. I hold out some hope for him and he seems open to criticism more than many more mature Christians I know.
What is a liberal snowflake?
Barnie2years comments on Apr 17, 2018:
A figment of the Far Right’s imagination. Or anyone who does not accept that the country is not a theocracy overseen by an Orange despot. ?
Mourning a death
Barnie2years comments on Apr 16, 2018:
I have found most religious people I know seem to suffer as much, probably more than I do. I consider myself a realist. Every thing that lives dies. No one escapes. I admire their lives well lived, sad if they are short (lost my first son at 15 months old), grateful if they are long (my father died 3 years ago at 90), and happy for the time I got to spend with them. I may miss them, but I accept that life is fleeting and those alive carry on.
What happens after death?
Barnie2years comments on Apr 16, 2018:
Death is void. The only part of you (or in this case your dog) that stays behind is the happy memories you shared with the people around you, your children or in this case puppies that will carry on your DNA and photos taken. I find it the highgth of idolatry for humans to believe they are so important in the scheme of the universe that their lifetime is not enough, they need an extension in some form. We are born from the random matching of one of millions of sperm with one random egg. We spend whatever time we manage to survive on this earth and then at some random time, we die. End of story. Anything else is memories and fantasy for those who remain. And I actually find that comforting.
Who else is spring cleaning?
Barnie2years comments on Apr 14, 2018:
I tend to nothing on a schedule. Spring cleaning makes as much sense as New Years resolutions. Why does it have to be spring, when there are so many much more fun things to do? The warmer weather is great for going hiking, playing outside, motorcycle or bicycle rides, visiting friends and any number of things much more fun than tortureing yourself about what to throw out, what to keep, cleaning every speck of dust, given that with spring pollen, most of it will be back with a vengence within a few days anyway. If you have to pick a season to clean, do it in the winter when you are stuck inside anyway on cold dreary days.
Fighting in the middle East will continue as long as the religions hate each other because of the ...
Barnie2years comments on Apr 14, 2018:
It will continue far beyond that. Even taking relgious beliefs out of the equation, these are decendents from nomadic tribes thousands of years old, they have been at war with each other for those thousands of years. They were ruthless killers the entire time. Then only real thing that changed is the weapons they use and the devestation they cause. No religion could change that.
Marcus Green on Twitter: "Kentucky Gov.
Barnie2years comments on Apr 14, 2018:
http://www.wtae.com/article/republican-vs-republican-attack-ads-pennsylvania-governor-paul-mango-scott-wagner/19749168
Marcus Green on Twitter: "Kentucky Gov.
Barnie2years comments on Apr 14, 2018:
The degree of desperation and hate in these states and now our federal government has absolutely reached an all time low! The elections are going to require at least an R rating and should be banned from prime time, given the venom and subject matter of the current Republican primary commercials in Pennsylvania.
How about.
Barnie2years comments on Apr 12, 2018:
Regret, much like worry, is wasted energy. I have often told people that life doesn't have a rewind button. Those things you did, or did not do, in your past are what got you to where you are now, good or bad. You can affect the future, you live in the present, the past is over and done. And, as a non believer, there is nothing after! ? Don't waste it trying to rethink what could have been. In the long run, it might have turned out worse.
Teen Age Sex, the worst outcome!
Barnie2years comments on Apr 12, 2018:
Actually, the first answer is better than the two middle ones, but why choose a arbitrary start age? There are many kids who don't wait even until their teen years to become sexually active in some way. Why wait? Make it age appropriate as much as possible, don't threaten and don't lie. These defeat the purpose.
Ken Ham Can’t Find Enough Creationist Employees, So He’s Loosening Restrictions – Friendly ...
Barnie2years comments on Apr 11, 2018:
Ha, ha! My guess they pay pretty crappy too. Money is always the bottom line.
Prostitution, how do you feel about it?
Barnie2years comments on Apr 11, 2018:
Interesting article on this subject. https://www.theverge.com/2018/4/11/17188772/trump-sesta-fosta-bill-switter-sex-workers-mastodon
WOW and/OR implications anyone?
Barnie2years comments on Apr 11, 2018:
This is way beyond what I want to know. And given the current state of the world, not only does AI not scare me, but I'm thinking it could do a better job than humans.
Fair Weather Beggars Warmer weather has a foot in the door and soon those with cardboard signs ...
Barnie2years comments on Apr 9, 2018:
I drove city bus most of my working life. A lot of these people are scammers. The one guy in particular used to get off work (I think at Alcoa Aluminum) then set up at the mall exit for a couple of hours with a variety of cardboard signs he carried in his backpack. One said he was a homeless veteran, yet on Veterans Day, when anyone with proof of service could ride free, he paid his fare. A couple of the others used to coordinate schedules so they each had a turn. I donate nothing to them.
What do you say on facebook to friends or family that have lost a loved one?
Barnie2years comments on Apr 8, 2018:
I say my thoughts are with you at this difficult time. If it is a close friend, I would offer my help in any capacity they might need.
I just got a video call from my ex boyfriend who is working on a project for Brookings Institute in ...
Barnie2years comments on Apr 8, 2018:
I stayed friends, after a cooling down period of about 5 years, with two of my three wives. The second one just died last year, so now I only get to talk to one, but I help her and her son out as much as I can. And since I don't have any other relationship, it gives me some human contact. Besides, I fell in love with her little boy as much as I did with her and I am the only father he has ever really known, since her choice of men has been rather crappy at least as far as he is concerned. I would say a lot of your "friendship" with this fellow will depend on how his wife chooses to deal with it. I never got friendly to the point that I wanted to hand around with either of their boyfriends. Luckily, they didn't hand around too long! LOL!
Prostitution, how do you feel about it?
Barnie2years comments on Apr 7, 2018:
Found this to be interesting. For such a divisive activity, not sure how accurate the numbers are. But still gives at least a snapshot of the usage of paid sex workers in several countries. https://prostitution.procon.org/view.resource.php?resourceID=004119
What moral code do you follow now that you are non-religious?
Barnie2years comments on Apr 7, 2018:
The same as if I were religious. Do no harm.
Prostitution, how do you feel about it?
Barnie2years comments on Apr 5, 2018:
Prostitution should be legalized and regulated as any other business. Everyone sells their body, if not their soul, when they go to work, especially in physical jobs. Is a coal miner, a sweatshop factory worker, or even a professional athlete not selling their youth, their bodies to the highest bidder? If they are doing it willingly, with full knowledge of what the risks are, what is the difference? Except religion decided long ago that if it could control people doing the things they enjoyed the most (sins), they could easily control other thoughts and actions of their believers. So they threaten hell and damnation to those who don’t subscribe to the churches whim, and when that doesn’t work, use their influence to create laws to met out earthly physical punishment. Anything that provides physical pleasure needs to be a sin, because if you’re having too good a time in life, the afterlife reward starts to look a little less enticing and you might not feel the need to go spend your money at church to buy your way into heaven next Sunday. And religion is a business for sure.
Cremation or burial for your funeral?
Barnie2years comments on Apr 3, 2018:
Ashes to ashes as they say. And I already have my biodegradable tree growing urn! Ashes in the urn, seed in the top and plant it, water it, and a maple tree shall grow. I told my son when all those little propeller seeds come down, and the leaves in the fall, they will be cursing me out for decades! ??
I think I understand a little bit of what's behind the idea of "blasphemy", and as I see it, the ...
Barnie2years comments on Apr 3, 2018:
Blasphemy has less to do with the physics of the universe and more to do with the fear of insignificance. If people are permitted to mock or defame the religious uber being of whatever religion happens to dominate the culture, it demeans the greatness of that entity. And, since there is no such thing as a god to meet out punishment, the only way to instill fear and obedience in the flock is for the human believers in that diety to punish the maligner, usually physically and in a horrible manner so as to scare the rest of the population into quiet submission to the leaders of that relgion. In areas of the world that are wracked by poverty and violence, it is even more important for them to fear not believing, as they might be less willing to accept their lot and fight against the ruling, supposedly god chosen leaders.
My hair is dark again. Like my soul.
Barnie2years comments on Apr 3, 2018:
You look great either way! I have never been hung up on hair color.
DON'T BE AN ATH-HOLE.
Barnie2years comments on Apr 2, 2018:
Just for the record, I only recently got on this site and I find the topics extemely varied both in content and context. As for if I would make statements in social media outside of this site? I have been for years on Facebook. It has offended some people who don't have stopped my newsfeed (many of whom still remain friends in real life) and brought new friends from people I had no idea felt the same way. If you are offended by posts that dig into the creepyness of religion, you are not madated to read them. If you think they are the only subject posted on here, I am not sure what you have been looking at, but it might be time to widen your search. I have seen (and contributed) posts on dating, cooking, recreation, sexuality and any number of other subjects, none require you to point out the hypocricy of relgions.
How would everyone feel about being refused a date because you’re an atheist?
Barnie2years comments on Apr 1, 2018:
You’re better off without him. Chances are he would have other issues down the line as well.
Does anyone still balance their checking account?
Barnie2years comments on Apr 1, 2018:
I use Quicken, have since 1989. I balance all my accounts, to the penny. If there is a discrepancy, II will work at it until I find the problem, even if it’s only 5 cents! I even keep track of my cash expenditures!
Stumbled on this article today.
Barnie2years comments on Apr 1, 2018:
Interesting premise and also helps explain why the fundamentalist and most severe religious believers can overcome the much greater numbers of secular or even moderates believers. They use the power of community and shared faith to organize and back regressive political parties and candidates, with little abstention. While non believers debate the differences between Atheist and Agnostic, Liberal and Progressive, the religious conservatives are circling the wagons tighter with little dissent, making it easier to get them to vote en mass with little critical thinking. As much as I enjoy being an Atheist, my prognosis for the near future of liberalism and turning the tide of religious dominance of politics is dim. Our best chance of effecting change is the implosion of the Republican Party by its own greed and total lack of humanity. If they can become as fractured as the Democrats, there may be a time when our country can reclaim the mantel of a great democracy. At the moment, we have become more and more an Oligarchy, run by corporate greed and Christian Theocracy. Only if the masses of scattered liberals and moderates can find common ground can this path be changed.
Well, it is (what's so dang) Good Friday... [youtube.com]
Barnie2years comments on Mar 31, 2018:
I frequently find myself humming or singing this song when things in my life seem to be going in the dumpster! Great tune, funny movie. ?

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