Need help reconciling my sons suicide and my ex wife's beliefs.

Budgie comments on Apr 29, 2020:

I am sorry for your loss. As she is your ex I would suggest when you are around your children lots of positive experiences, make sure they know you love them, answer their questions honestly but with tact as I don't know their ages a lot depends on that. If they comment on their mother a statement such as "She believes in a god and is dealing with this her way." It really depends on what she is telling them. While your grief is horrible at times you are going to have to think more about them and their needs than yours. I dealt with the death of a student in a class of 5/6 year olds (traffic accident) a lot of them were very matter of fact about it, sad yes but they did not fully understand I think. Her parents were deeply religous and we discussed what they believed (that she had gone to heaven). This is a complex issue so you may want to think about getting some professional help if your children are school aged maybe they have someone on staff they can talk to. I know that I had someone on call if I needed it or felt that a child needed it. You are walking a difficult path at present and the only rule I can think is treat everyone with respect and dignity, even if they don't treat you with it.

How would you feel if someone gave you unsolicited advice about your appearance?

Budgie comments on Apr 29, 2020:

I would look him up and down real slow and say "Your opinion does not matter to me so please be on your way. When I want your opinion I will give it to you."

Oh how I love spring, and roses.

Budgie comments on Apr 28, 2020:

I love the colours in the rose it seems to illuminate it from the inside.

A simple solution Shakey went to a psychiatrist.

Budgie comments on Apr 27, 2020:

As a child I was worried about there being a wolf under my bed that was waiting for me to go to sleep so it could eat me. (Very specific I know but they took me to the damn museum that had a pic of a child in bed with a wolf beside her) So after all of the shining a light under the bed and watching me leap into my bed from the doorway at night (during the day the wolf was not there) Dad took the legs off my bed and problem solved.

This man was my introduction in irreverence towards church authority. [youtube.com]

Budgie comments on Apr 27, 2020:

I used to watch this with my parents who thought he was hilarious.

"Fuck you" Sign language performance - YouTube

Budgie comments on Apr 27, 2020:

Sign language uses facial expressions to emphasis meaning. I love Adam Hills who uses a sign interpreter for his show. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=azF9wnVgBQ4

Not sure everyone will find this funny but the music is great. [youtube.com]

Budgie comments on Apr 26, 2020:

Was waiting for something like that. They were just so noisy.

I'm confused.

Budgie comments on Apr 26, 2020:

Legislation on how it can be used and by whom. I am still in the "over my rotting copse" camp on this one. I don't have a phone that would accept it and I hardly ever have my phone on me. It is a great alarm clock so it lives beside my bed. If I have it on me it is turned off unless I need to use it or I know someone is going to try and contact me. My friends all know this and accept it.

The stupidity of religion.

Budgie comments on Apr 25, 2020:

I think she is an incredible woman but likely to whip someone into a sexual frenzy I am not sure about. Especially from looking at her hair.

Yeah he went there.

Budgie comments on Apr 25, 2020:

I love Randy Rainbow but this latest from the moron in chief just beggars belief. That he would throw out a suggestion in a press conference (that is what think tank sessions are for) I have seen other medical professional trying so hard to not laugh as they comment on this. It is serious as we all know the braindead drumpferteers will try it.

Landscapes — 1: Tollymore Forest Park, Northern Ireland, 1969.

Budgie comments on Apr 24, 2020:

Great photos, I went to uni in Ballarat so the lake is a familiar place for me.

dug up some photos from a road trip, 10 years ago, that included driving north among ice fields in ...

Budgie comments on Apr 24, 2020:

Great colours in them, great shots all of them.

Who would do such a thing?

Budgie comments on Apr 24, 2020:

We used to get a tin of these from my Dad's work every year. As kids we polished them off real quick and Mum never stopped us I suspect she just wanted the tin real quick.

Y'all look at this beauty! 1st photo is from yesterday.

Budgie comments on Apr 23, 2020:

It is a lovely flower, great shots.

Police Lip Sync [youtu.be]

Budgie comments on Apr 23, 2020:

Love these but my favourite (also one of the first of these I saw) was this one. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rTxd0LQ2XD4 I think my favourite bit is at 1 min 57. But when I saw the one side by side with the cheerleaders some of these guys can move better than the girls.

Led Zeppelin - Going To California (Live at Earls Court 1975) [youtube.com]

Budgie comments on Apr 23, 2020:

Always good to hear Led Zeppelin

Doing my first shift testing people for covid tomorrow wish me luck .

Budgie comments on Apr 23, 2020:

Please take care of yourself.

EVERYONE IS A WINNER - HOT CHOCOLATE .

Budgie comments on Apr 22, 2020:

One of my favourite songs.

Roses (well a rose) and oh my goodness my bearded iris..........

Budgie comments on Apr 22, 2020:

Great photos of the iris.

So, I'm sitting here contemplating my navel (a slice of one in my Margarita), and I got the notion ...

Budgie comments on Apr 21, 2020:

That is a stunning shot. I love the colours of the rose, they are amazing it looks like it is lit from the inside. The little spider is also very cute.

These were taken last August.

Budgie comments on Apr 21, 2020:

They are all beautiful photos. I love reflections in water and the waterlily one is stunning. Sorry to hear that at this time there was a horrible event in your area.

Today's walk: pretty flowers with 'bonsai-like' stems!

Budgie comments on Apr 21, 2020:

Damn it I have at least 7 small ones outside in pots waiting to be planted. Give me a sec I will remember the name of the damn things. DESERT ROSE !!!!!!!! Finally trust me it was painful trying to remember what it was called. They can grow huge.

Lmao stupid

Budgie comments on Apr 21, 2020:

That would imply it has a brain to begin with and I seriously doubt that. Enough neurons are firing to breath and move but I think that is about it.

Just a thought on Pell.

Budgie comments on Apr 20, 2020:

I would suggest that he should have been made to stay in Victoria as then it would be easier for the cops when they get another case against him to grab him up. It is disgusting that he has been freed. He should not have been allowed to travel and I hope he catches the disease.

I would love to see how they make this app compulsory, and what would they do with me?

Budgie comments on Apr 20, 2020:

Given I would never have it on me (I have a minor phone that lives beside my bed it is a great alarm clock) or it would be turned off, in the bottom of a bag etc. I use it when I am travelling to ring for taxis etc not as a means to keep in touch with friends and family so it would be pretty ineffective oh and I would forget to recharge it (have to do that with the little one it has expired)

This was one of my favorite Dawkins Debates.

Budgie comments on Apr 20, 2020:

Sorry I loved the bit by Richard and but the moment the paedophile started speaking it made me feel ill. That he can be as morally corrupt at he is and sit there spouting rubbish about how xtianity saved people and then to say they are new testament people (I am pretty sure the ones around in the Roman times he spoke of would have been old testament and isn't all of it the word of god?) I could not listen to him.

Ok. Game time. Pick your Quarantine House! I'm a 1 or 6

Budgie comments on Apr 18, 2020:

If I could only pick one then 6 but I may be heating up the iced tea.

I wanted a different take of Florence: A "framed" Firenze... (2017)

Budgie comments on Apr 17, 2020:

Love the way you have managed to get it all in focus I am still learning that skill, At present it is either foreground or background with me. The colours in this are really interesting.

Sailing away.

Budgie comments on Apr 17, 2020:

I love sailing and this looks so calm and free.

These are a couple of the wild flowers of my beloved Menorca which I have not seen in over 25 years,...

Budgie comments on Apr 17, 2020:

Great close ups of the flowers.

Happy little cactus flower.

Budgie comments on Apr 17, 2020:

To get that detail of the pollen, the yellow against the red really stands out.

From my daily walk: 2 photos of Brickell Bay

Budgie comments on Apr 17, 2020:

The sun's rays in the second one are great.

Some photos from my garden

Budgie comments on Apr 17, 2020:

i love the fact you got bees in them and the last one with the bee coming in for a landing is great.

Flowers...

Budgie comments on Apr 17, 2020:

I love the rosebud, I think I like the single flowers best as you can get in close and really get the details.

Gosh I do love spring!

Budgie comments on Apr 17, 2020:

I love photography with plants, would love to know how the bud in number 5 turned out. Great shots.

Today Thursday walk...2 more photos.

Budgie comments on Apr 17, 2020:

I find all of the empty places oddly comforting and serene. I like how you have framed them.

So.

Budgie comments on Apr 17, 2020:

Don't know if this will help bit this is how Sue-Ann Post told her religious parents that she did not believe in their god any longer. It cracks me up. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ula-PDhXLEY

In memory of a man who shaped my childhood and gave me my irreverent, black and twisted sense of ...

Budgie comments on Apr 15, 2020:

The Song would be my theme song and these guys just make it so funny and when I sing to the original I add their bits to it. People sometimes look at me weirdly because of that.

High On Emotion. - Chris de Burgh. [youtu.be]

Budgie comments on Apr 15, 2020:

Love his songs I remember this one the best. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lqZEp4Fb6qw

Breakout [youtu.be]

Budgie comments on Apr 15, 2020:

I love her singing style, her voice is very smooth.

[getpocket.

Budgie comments on Apr 15, 2020:

I have no doubt that the child saw angels and jesus, he had been indoctrinated and people were probably praying at his bedside. Enough of his brain was firing to project images to him nothing more than that. I am sorry his life has been destroyed by his cult worshipping family, and greedy, neglectful father. You use a phone while driving you are neglectful.

Just a shelf of books?

Budgie comments on Apr 14, 2020:

I might have to steal this to share elsewhere.

The two biggest challenges that I have encountered in dating are women who smoke and women are too ...

Budgie comments on Apr 14, 2020:

Basically religious, smoker and drumpf supporter. Depends on how heavy the drinking is and why the marijuana usage (I actually had a partner for whom imbibing in marijuana was preferable to drinking when we went out partying) Age differences can get a bit difficult but mainly because of where you are at different points in your life. I am also a vegetarian so if they are a meat eater it can get tricky.

Yes or NO? [sciencefriday.com]

Budgie comments on Apr 13, 2020:

What a great creature. We get some big ones where I live but nothing that big.

I feel such emotion in Brian's playing... [youtu.be]

Budgie comments on Apr 13, 2020:

Nice thanks for the share.

One of the reasons I enjoy new series is the new music.

Budgie comments on Apr 13, 2020:

Love this song and Sense8. My brain was screaming at me as it started but not because of Sense8 but these guys who I am in awe of their skill and ability leave me speachless and I have seen them live twice now. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=14H2qw4ToI8 This is Hamish McCann from the English Gents.

Toddlers - YouTube

Budgie comments on Apr 12, 2020:

This is so sad, the brainwashing the trivialising of their mythos, down to toys in an egg, since the idea of the egg was stolen from the pagans celebration spring. The whole thing is sickening.

Why the broad disparity in death rates from COVID-19?

Budgie comments on Apr 11, 2020:

This may be a better place to get data https://coronavirus.jhu.edu/map.html you can see where in the cycle the people are, maybe the deaths relate to how many people were infected at once and the health care systems ability to deal with the crisis. The people who got infected old vs young how accurately is the country reporting the results, how many people are they testing? I believe in Sweden if you do not need hospital care then you are not tested you are told to stay at home isolate and treat yourself as needed. So they may only be testing the ones that come to hospital ie the one having problems and in the higher risk bracket. The number crunching can only come when this is over and final figures are in and then to compare it to all different factors. It is a complex problem that a simple table is not able to display.

Does anyone know who this band is?

Budgie comments on Apr 11, 2020:

This band popped up on facebook today could it be the one you are looking for. https://www.spirit-of-metal.com/en/band/UFO

Happy Tuesday to my wonderfully supportive group! I hope it finds you doing well.

Budgie comments on Apr 10, 2020:

Douglas Adams a writer said that he loved deadlines he loves the whooshing noise they make as the go past. I struggle I try to plan and be ahead of the game but until the deadline is looming over me I just can not get motivated. The number of times I wrote an assignment until 4am because I did not get enough written before and it is due in now are too many to count. I have tried lists, calendar notes, making myself do it (I can never think of anything to write and then sit there for an hour) then bang 5 hours of solid work and it is sort of finished, (never edited) My stuff always gets in on time (mainly because I have now trained myself to believe the due date is a week before it is due)

Happy Friday! How would you describe your sense of smell?

Budgie comments on Apr 10, 2020:

I used to have a decent sense of smell now I am lucky/unlucky to smell anything. Generally unlucky in that the smells that get through are bad ones. To smell a flower I have to shove my whole face into it. A mix of almost constant hayfever and a few blows to the nose over my lifetime (accidents not fights) Also affects my sense of taste as the two are linked which is a pain.

I bought the skein of boucle yarn in the center years ago and tried it with several projects that ...

Budgie comments on Apr 10, 2020:

I have also bought yarn for one project to have to abandon that and use it for another. Glad you got to use it finally looks great.

A friend in the UK posted this one today... I bet we've all seen things in the wood?

Budgie comments on Apr 10, 2020:

I so see an emu

Dr. Fauci Reports That Alcohol May Help People Survive Coronavirus Briefings | The New Yorker

Budgie comments on Apr 10, 2020:

I don't listen to morons so any alcohol I am taking is merely recreational.

Red red wine Bob Marley ( I like his version the best) [youtu.

Budgie comments on Apr 10, 2020:

Played both this one and the UB40 one at the same time (small time lag) and these two sound the same. The timing throughout the song stays the same between the two versions. Right up to about the 3 min mark when the official verson of UB40 stops and this one continues. I started a search for a live version and found this. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tM7eaX5U8dw But is that Bob Marley?

As Long as You Follow - Fleetwood Mac - [youtu.be]

Budgie comments on Apr 10, 2020:

A great band with many a great song.

Visage - Fade To Grey.

Budgie comments on Apr 10, 2020:

I remember when this came out in Oz it was so ground breaking for the group I was with. Played it to death, loved the video clip it was so different to what was being made at the time.

Just needing to vent I think.

Budgie comments on Apr 10, 2020:

I am in the throes of constructing an e-mail to be sent to the union rep and my senior about how I felt being forced into that situation. That it was a waste of my time and next time can I please be allowed to get on with some actual work rather than having to endure this rubbish.

Keep your fallen friends and family alive in your memories and they will live on in many ways.

Budgie comments on Apr 10, 2020:

The great Sir Pterry said ‘Do you not know that a man is not dead while his name is still spoken?' – Going Postal and ‘No one is actually dead until the ripples they cause in the world die away…’ – Reaper Man Read more: https://metro.co.uk/2015/03/12/rip-terry-pratchett-10-of-his-most-moving-quotes-about-life-and-death-5100810/?ito=cbshare Twitter: https://twitter.com/MetroUK | Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MetroUK/

This could be fun.....

Budgie comments on Apr 9, 2020:

There are three drunks guys at the end of the bar, one is sleeping on my feet, another is rubbing against my legs and he has never done that before so I am worried if I move I will scare him and the third is yelling at me for food.

AC/DC - Thunderstruck [youtube.com]

Budgie comments on Apr 9, 2020:

Gotta love some Accadacca.

Lighthouse Family. - Lifted....a favourite of mine from a great duo! [youtu.be]

Budgie comments on Apr 9, 2020:

Such great songs from these guys.

The Choirboys - Miserere [youtube.com]

Budgie comments on Apr 9, 2020:

I thought is was going to be The Choirboys from Australia and thought I had never heard of that song, got a bit of a surprise.

Gone the Rainbow - Peter, Paul and Mary - [youtu.be]

Budgie comments on Apr 9, 2020:

I learnt this on the flute many years ago. It is such a sad song.

John Mayall & The Blues Breakers - The Bear [youtube.com]

Budgie comments on Apr 9, 2020:

I am drinking this works well with the brain at present.

These adverts out of Australia are always right to the heart of the matter and hilarious.

Budgie comments on Apr 9, 2020:

I am an Aussie and I had not seen this but I love it.

Everything old is new again, if you have stuff, best to take care of it because those container ...

Budgie comments on Apr 9, 2020:

Wow she shrunk a lot in the intervening years.

Yesterday, I saw the first bloom, we had 88 degrees and sunny today and about 25 more opened up, If ...

Budgie comments on Apr 8, 2020:

I like the close up of the flower, I have been trying to take photos of my mother's waterlily which is flowering but have difficulties getting it close without a bad background.

1 1/800 sec.

Budgie comments on Apr 8, 2020:

They came out well the colours are great.

Went out to get some air and watch the osprey.

Budgie comments on Apr 8, 2020:

I like the second one where the bird is turning to look at you. The blue sky behind the bird really shows it off well.

And then there where two. (laughed way to hard at this one)

Budgie comments on Apr 8, 2020:

Wow to get two cats the same hope he keeps them both and they get on with each other.

Her responses. Lol.

Budgie comments on Apr 8, 2020:

She is awesome what a great way to deal with the situation and he is so stupid he does not understand what she is doing to him.

Run to paradise, The Choirboys [youtu.be]

Budgie comments on Apr 8, 2020:

Seen these guys live bounced all night and had a ball so much energy.

The Show Must Go On, Three Dog Night [youtube.com]

Budgie comments on Apr 8, 2020:

I find the guy in the red vest creepy, in all of the video's I have watched of them he just creeps me out.

Jackson Browne with Crosby, Stills and Nash - The Pretender - Madison Square Garden [youtube.com]

Budgie comments on Apr 8, 2020:

Love it when two bands/singers I like get together.

Dog owners! (Hope you know Titania Mcgrath...)

Budgie comments on Apr 7, 2020:

Face palm moment

The difference between an xtian and an athiest.

Budgie comments on Apr 6, 2020:

oops posted in the wrong group was meant to be in memes. Sorry

Landscapes — 1: Lough Shannagh, Mourne Mountains, Northern Ireland, 1967.

Budgie comments on Apr 5, 2020:

I like the framing of number two the shrubs in the foreground against the water and land in the back.

Bogies all over

Budgie comments on Apr 5, 2020:

Love the flowers but cutting them back is a complete pain.

In The Air Tonight - Phil Collins - [youtu.be]

Budgie comments on Apr 5, 2020:

I was at uni when this came out, spent many a drunk night singing this with friends.

This was my first trip to Europe.

Budgie comments on Apr 4, 2020:

My favourite ones would be 2, 3, 7 and 9.

Today's walk by the Brickell area: a climbing plant doing her job!

Budgie comments on Apr 4, 2020:

I first noticed the creases in the tree as it bent. I would be inclined to get just the tree and climbing plant in and less of the background. But that is just me. Would be interesting to see it in a months time.

These are some very old shots from Spain in 1972.

Budgie comments on Apr 4, 2020:

The one of the two boys looking at each other with the suntans or the sun on their faces I like as well as the viaduct.

This picture was taken summer 2019.

Budgie comments on Apr 4, 2020:

Beautiful the only thing I would try to do (and I understand that it may have not been possible without scaring the bee) is to get the flower in the center of the frame, but that could just be my OCD talking.

On a scale of Cat, how are you doing today??

Budgie comments on Apr 2, 2020:

I am the same but for dogs. Never see one that my brain if not my mouth does not scream, "Puppy"

I know, it's spring! But when I lived in the North, autumn was my favorite season.

Budgie comments on Apr 2, 2020:

I love the colour of the leaves the contrast with them and the green of the grass really catches my attention.

Another nice tree I saw yesterday while strolling down near the house...

Budgie comments on Apr 2, 2020:

I really like the second photo showing all of the sweeping branches.

I’m glad in these days of StayHome that I have my pot garden with flowers blooming as one of my ...

Budgie comments on Apr 2, 2020:

I like the detail on the first one.

[youtu.

Budgie comments on Apr 2, 2020:

I love this song. I saw the interview Adam Hills did with Brian Cox go to 5:50 if you don't want to watch the entire interview. http://apolloschildren.com/video-item.php?id=502

Today in 1939, Marvin Gaye was born.

Budgie comments on Apr 2, 2020:

I first heard this song by Credence then I heard Marvin's version I like both. My Favourite is by the Doug Anthony All Stars, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5brqK2xIIns

[youtu.be] Simply Red. - I Won’t Feel Bad...live in Montreux, Switzerland. 1996.

Budgie comments on Apr 2, 2020:

His songs are always great and his voice is just so uplifting.

This has one of those intos you recognize immediately...go Nancy! [youtube.com]

Budgie comments on Apr 2, 2020:

Yet another song that I as a tweenager loved it did not fully understand it. Still love it despite knowing what it is about.

Spring still hasn't come here, but at least the sun still sets here.

Budgie comments on Apr 2, 2020:

Love the sun through the clouds and the pattern the clouds are making. Well done.

Some pretty wild flowers, a tulip and my fat pony enjoying a walk through some tall grass.

Budgie comments on Apr 2, 2020:

I like the tulip the most.

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Budgie comments on Apr 2, 2020:

I love my country and the fact most of the things here can kill you. But I did a search and this one is from South Africa. That said it is was a Great White they do move from Australia to South Africa so could be a big girl. The croc is also not that large when you look at the pic with a hand on it. https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/2013/01/13/giant-crocodile--shark-head-south-african-beach_n_2467794.html?guccounter=1

I've seen this type of thing play out before, never ends up well.

Budgie comments on Apr 2, 2020:

Yeah that is not going to work out well for him.

I WANNA STAY WITH YOU - GALLAGHER & LYLE .

Budgie comments on Apr 2, 2020:

I know this one as well. Wow so many songs that I have sent to long term storage.

A Taste Of Honey, Al Hirt [youtube.com]

Budgie comments on Apr 2, 2020:

I think this record is in my Dad's collection of records.

Prince Charles has been known to talk to them.

Budgie comments on Apr 1, 2020:

If you have read Good Omens I like Crowley's approach when a plant starts looking poorly he takes it around to say good bye to all of the others. His plants grow out of fear.

Yes! Lol!!!

Budgie comments on Apr 1, 2020:

RSI because of bitch slapping.