We said goodbye to my mom on Friday in a lovely service.

Eldovis comments on Sep 16, 2018:

My younger brother died last month... I am sad, but I hold on to good memories, and live the rest of my life in his name also.. Sorry about your loss.

Carin replies on Sep 19, 2018:

I'm very sorry to hear about your brother.

Any one up?

DianaGuarino comments on Sep 17, 2018:

Meeting someone just for sex. This is not a joke. This is dangerous.

Carin replies on Sep 19, 2018:

@Burnedhawk Murder or other violence, & diseases.

Any one up?

seattlepanda comments on Sep 17, 2018:

I also wonder about. I use the term in lieu of FWB.

Carin replies on Sep 19, 2018:

FWB implies some sort of ongoing thing though, doesn't it? While I was thinking hookups were mostly one time things? Maybe not...neither appeals to me so I haven't exactly studied it!

Any one up?

JackPedigo comments on Sep 17, 2018:

Thank you. This motivated me to look into my settings to be sure I did not select that option.

Carin replies on Sep 19, 2018:

Good idea!

Any one up?

Looking4-Others comments on Sep 17, 2018:

I changed my profile to looking for friends only since I know the possibilities are slim to none of actually "Hooking Up" with any that interests me which is many. I really don't know why that's even listed because none of the women I've read profiles of are interested in that. Besides I think it ...

Carin replies on Sep 19, 2018:

Totally! & the ones that check every single box are extra creepy--or maybe just desperate?

Exercise your right

azzow2 comments on Sep 17, 2018:

Women are the majority of the population. I have heard it said women elect the president.

Carin replies on Sep 19, 2018:

Yes we are--& many more men than women are ineligible to vote due to having committed felonies. It's so disappointing to me that we can't unite & use that awesome strength.

Exercise your right

JackPedigo comments on Sep 17, 2018:

Let's see; after women got the right to vote what was the first thing they got passed, Prohibition! Lets be careful with generalities. Also, I just heard on NPR that even though over 60% of women are against tRump 28% still support him.

Carin replies on Sep 19, 2018:

@JackPedigo I don't know if Prohibition was a "huge" mistake. Was anyone really harmed? I can think of many laws that have had truly disastrous results. I read somewhere that certain types of diseases decreased, along with admittances to insane asylums. Women saw the harm that drunken husbands & fathers were inflicting on their families, & in those times women had fewer protections & legal rights if they or their kids were being harmed. Many of the early suffragettes got their start in the temperance movement & desired the vote so they could protect their families.

Barbie wanted to join in too

JackPedigo comments on Sep 17, 2018:

Hmm I wonder if she will sue Ken for sexual harassment!

Carin replies on Sep 19, 2018:

I think "Just do it" indicates consent!

Barbie wanted to join in too

Hathacat comments on Sep 17, 2018:

This kind of grosses me out.

Carin replies on Sep 19, 2018:

Yeah I hate pounding. But Barbie is plastic.

Barbie wanted to join in too

Looking4-Others comments on Sep 17, 2018:

G.I.Joe?

Carin replies on Sep 19, 2018:

I would prefer him over Ken.

The sequel

Deiter comments on Sep 17, 2018:

How about a movie about the LGBT experience starring actual LGBT? Too soon?

Carin replies on Sep 19, 2018:

I appreciate that insight! Don't know if you are old enough to remember TV shows & movies where Native Americans or Hawai'ians were played by whites with bad makeup. Always bugged me.

So, Ive been talking to this guy on a dating site for a couple days.

Infoguy211 comments on Sep 16, 2018:

The millisecond he mentioned a country from Africa, my internal alarm bells went on full alert. Nothing good will come from anyone claiming to be from that continent.

Carin replies on Sep 19, 2018:

No, I know good people over there.

So, Ive been talking to this guy on a dating site for a couple days.

ArgosFriend comments on Sep 16, 2018:

Odd you should mention this. I was chatting with a guy in England, and all the sudden, my modem made this weird kind of ringing sound. He was calling me to video chat!!! I told him I had never done that, and he tried again. HUGE RED FLAG. I didn't know why it was a red flag, but my gut told me ...

Carin replies on Sep 19, 2018:

I hate it when they do that too. It's pushy & they should ask first.

Things Men Do To Upset Women? What Do You Think?

FrayedBear comments on Sep 17, 2018:

And men do we give a brass razzoo?

Carin replies on Sep 17, 2018:

If you want to keep having failed relationships, I guess so. Maybe you should just stay single.

Things Men Do To Upset Women? What Do You Think?

Seeker55 comments on Sep 17, 2018:

Sometimes it sure seems like you're damned if you do...and damned if you don't, so....full speed ahead!

Carin replies on Sep 17, 2018:

You have a lousy attitude.

Why do, some, women expect to pay their debts with sex?

Katastrophe69 comments on Sep 17, 2018:

Mixing business and pleasure never works...

Carin replies on Sep 17, 2018:

@HeraTera Yes, maybe that is where he went wrong, although I still think his former friend is a jerk.

Why do, some, women expect to pay their debts with sex?

TheDoubter comments on Sep 17, 2018:

need agreement beforehand

Carin replies on Sep 17, 2018:

@TheDoubter So someone asks to borrow money & you tell them you want money back, not sex? Sounds awkward.... Or, someone who owes you money wants to have sex & you rather romantically tell them you still want your money back? Just trying to picture that....

Why do, some, women expect to pay their debts with sex?

TheDoubter comments on Sep 17, 2018:

need agreement beforehand

Carin replies on Sep 17, 2018:

I think it would be hard to anticipate her doing that though...

Would you ride o on the back of an elephant in the jungle of Africa?

escapetypist comments on Sep 16, 2018:

If you don't live with passion, you'll live with regrets

Carin replies on Sep 16, 2018:

@minhmeister Well, it takes all kinds but I was sort of feeling sorry for you there!

FEMA Will Test a System That Would Allow Trump to Text Directly to Your Phone

mikecagain comments on Sep 16, 2018:

I hope there will be a "no call list" we can add our phone numbers to, to say we don't want Trump texting us.

Carin replies on Sep 16, 2018:

I read it will not be possible to opt out. Thank goodness for caller ID.

Would you ride o on the back of an elephant in the jungle of Africa?

escapetypist comments on Sep 16, 2018:

If you don't live with passion, you'll live with regrets

Carin replies on Sep 16, 2018:

I would have more regrets if I lived without passion.

I am a loner and an outsider.

ladyprof70 comments on Sep 15, 2018:

It seems to me that the idiot in high school (who was just being an adolescent jerk) created doubt in your mind about your ability to be in a relationship that was only strengthened by your partner. I do think she was waiting for you to abuse her in some way -- not consciously -- but she doesn't ...

Carin replies on Sep 16, 2018:

What I would have said, but probably not as well!

PSA Ladies ------This has been going on for years but it is now a THING.

Charity comments on Sep 15, 2018:

Woe! Makes me glad I'm in my mid 40s and have had a hysterectomy. That's freakin scary!

Carin replies on Sep 15, 2018:

You could still get a disease. Or a couple of them.

Oh. My. Word. Straights don’t have gay sex?!? [friendlyatheist.patheos.com]

KateZilla comments on Sep 15, 2018:

this woman needs some serious sex to enlighten her

Carin replies on Sep 15, 2018:

For sure! What odd ideas she has.

Itsy-bitsy celebration

Carin comments on Sep 14, 2018:

What a great song! Congratulations!

Carin replies on Sep 14, 2018:

@19dacar52 Thanks you guys! Maybe I will try to come up with something non-goat related. I think I talk about them too much already.

Inherited qualities.?

sfvpool comments on Sep 4, 2018:

How not to parent.

Carin replies on Sep 14, 2018:

Me too! I was afraid to have kids for the longest time because I was afraid I'd get mad at the baby & throw it down the stairs. Thankfully, when I finally got brave enough to have a kid, I was never even tempted to do that.

Inherited qualities.?

jacpod comments on Sep 10, 2018:

My parents were so awful I decided I would have nothing from them. left as soon as I was able ot look out for myself at fifteen and my brother did the same.

Carin replies on Sep 14, 2018:

Funny, I was just discussing parenting philosophies with another mom & realized the one I started out with was just "whatever they did, I'm not doing that to my kid." That's not a parenting philosophy! It was a good start though, & luckily I found a bunch of loving, gentle & conscientious moms to hang out with.

Earthy Questionnaire-I have never done 10 things on this list. How about you?

weeman comments on Sep 12, 2018:

19 not sure what a stock tank is

Carin replies on Sep 14, 2018:

@Willber Also for livestock to drink out of. Mine is both!

Earthy Questionnaire-I have never done 10 things on this list. How about you?

Donwhy comments on Sep 12, 2018:

It's easier to list what I haven't done: Milked a goat and forgotten an egg in my pocket. I'm not sure what that means.

Carin replies on Sep 14, 2018:

It means you now have to wash your jacket! (Sometimes you also have to wash your clothes if you try to milk one of my crazy does too.)

Earthy Questionnaire-I have never done 10 things on this list. How about you?

KateZilla comments on Sep 12, 2018:

Done Everything except forgot the egg in my pocket... how do you for get that?

Carin replies on Sep 14, 2018:

When the goats squeeze past you to get the chickens' food & you have to drag them out of there before they kill themselves with it.

Earthy Questionnaire-I have never done 10 things on this list. How about you?

idoubtit comments on Sep 13, 2018:

The only one I haven't done is "swum in a stock tank".

Carin replies on Sep 14, 2018:

Hey me too! I've never even seen one big enough! Maybe we were supposed to do this when we were little kids?

Itsy-bitsy celebration

Carin comments on Sep 14, 2018:

What a great song! Congratulations!

Carin replies on Sep 14, 2018:

@LiterateHiker I need to make better comments I guess. I'm not original enough to make posts.

I did something really dumb last night, and now I'm paying for it.

JustLynnie comments on Sep 14, 2018:

Dried garlic? That's a lot! Not sure how you can save it.

Carin replies on Sep 14, 2018:

@TheGreatShadow Yeah I could turn that into 5 gallons trying to fix it up! That's why I now just do a bowl of it to see if it even does any good. My daughter would throw the whole thing in a colander & rinse all the sauce off & start over. She's so sensible. But I don't want to waste all that sauce so I end up making gallons of expensive chicken food... I can't help it! Good luck--tell us how it all works out, like did you have to go buy a dog or some chickens?

I did something really dumb last night, and now I'm paying for it.

JustLynnie comments on Sep 14, 2018:

Dried garlic? That's a lot! Not sure how you can save it.

Carin replies on Sep 14, 2018:

@TheGreatShadow Just do whatever you want to try & fix it with a small portion of it first, to see how it comes out. Then do the whole batch if you find something that works. Took me 20 years to figure that out. This kind of stuff is the reason I always have dogs & chickens.

Would you date a woman that had sex on the first date?

oliver-o-neill comments on Sep 3, 2018:

No, but she is not a slut, just not the kind of person I would like to date. Each to their own.

Carin replies on Sep 14, 2018:

@oliver-o-neill Having sex on the first date of course.

First glimpse of my neighbors out on the ( Terrace?

Paracosm comments on Sep 12, 2018:

Maybe they're private people? I'm not overly fond of socializing at home unless I invited people over.

Carin replies on Sep 13, 2018:

Would you actually do what they did though?

First glimpse of my neighbors out on the ( Terrace?

mollygirl comments on Sep 12, 2018:

That's kind of ugly. A wave is not a commitment. A smile is not a promise. It costs nothing. I don't understand that. Someday they may need a cup of sugar.

Carin replies on Sep 13, 2018:

Give them salt instead!

Would you date a woman that had sex on the first date?

nvrnuff comments on Jul 21, 2018:

I see no issue with it.

Carin replies on Sep 13, 2018:

@Marcie1974 Yes, I really do take to heart that personal is political. Almost everything in our lives is connected to politics in some way, from the food we eat to how much money we make.

Would you date a woman that had sex on the first date?

oliver-o-neill comments on Sep 3, 2018:

No, but she is not a slut, just not the kind of person I would like to date. Each to their own.

Carin replies on Sep 13, 2018:

What about your role in this hypothetical situation then?

Are you a romantic? Are you passionate in a nonsexual context?

Holysocks comments on Sep 9, 2018:

I am definitely romantic, but also becoming a cynic.

Carin replies on Sep 13, 2018:

Me too.

Are you a romantic? Are you passionate in a nonsexual context?

PalacinkyPDX comments on Sep 11, 2018:

I'm an 'affectionatist' and a 'co-cozyist.' Romantic is a little too theatrical to me, like someone's trying to put on a show or sell something. If I love you, you don't need to sell me on yourself or make a big show of it. Consistency means more than grand gestures.

Carin replies on Sep 13, 2018:

I really love how you described that! My feelings exactly!

What kind of fish is for dinner?

IrishTxJudy comments on Sep 12, 2018:

I like catfish, but I like cod or halibut. Not a fan of salmon. Trout is good. I haven’t had smelt since I lived in Michigan

Carin replies on Sep 13, 2018:

I have a pet catfish named (not very imaginatively) Whiskers, who is at least 24 years old. Whiskers ignores everyone but me.

What kind of fish is for dinner?

Donwhy comments on Sep 12, 2018:

I have been told, on very good authority, not to eat ANY fish, or meat. I am a sucker for a fad diet.

Carin replies on Sep 13, 2018:

Me too--no animal flesh of any kind for over 30 years, during which time I gave birth to an almost 8 pound baby plus twins weighing in like normal newborns. I nursed them for years too. Meanwhile at 57 I have normal blood pressure, only slightly elevated cholesterol, & no chronic diseases. I guess I'm at the age I need to go vegan to keep my cholesterol normal. Working on it....

What kind of fish is for dinner?

MarvelAnn comments on Sep 12, 2018:

None. I'm allergic.

Carin replies on Sep 13, 2018:

@azzow2 You'd think it would be kind of humiliating to be an Allergist. They have little idea what really causes an allergy, no idea how to prevent them in most cases, & are limited to mostly treating the symptoms.

What kind of fish is for dinner?

Justjoni comments on Sep 12, 2018:

All you salmon lovers - do you eat farmed? Or ever-diminishing wild caught? Know that federal plans to log all over the Pacific states, and Alaskan Tongass, as well as Canadian logging, is destroying and will further destroy habitat for salmon eggs and fry. It’s criminal!

Carin replies on Sep 12, 2018:

The farmed fish are a threat to wild fish, releasing drugs they have been fed as well as diseases & parasites caused by overcrowding in the net pens. Not to mention concentrated waste. There have also been escapes of fish that could mess with the wild fish's genetics.

Was Rand correct

genessa comments on Sep 11, 2018:

rand is correct once in a long while, definitely by accident. this isn't one of those times. he dead wrong, as usual. g

Carin replies on Sep 12, 2018:

@Happyonearth I really don't know!

Was Rand correct

t1nick comments on Sep 11, 2018:

Their are some distinct differences in how Ayn Rand defines selfishness and how we understand selfishness from a "selfish ape" (evolutionary science) understanding. Ayn Rand was looking at selfishness as a consequence of an economic drive. The selfishness she purports refers to an individuals ...

Carin replies on Sep 11, 2018:

Very true.

The 1 Self-Esteem Practice That Cannot Fail: Claim no failure.

Captain747ex comments on Sep 11, 2018:

This guy is lost in his own delusional world. I seriously don't think he knows where donnyville ends and reality begins.

Carin replies on Sep 11, 2018:

@Captain747ex Agreed. A very dangerous one.

Was Rand correct

genessa comments on Sep 11, 2018:

rand is correct once in a long while, definitely by accident. this isn't one of those times. he dead wrong, as usual. g

Carin replies on Sep 11, 2018:

@Happyonearth I guess I'm not literate enough to spell her name right, huh? I tried.

The 1 Self-Esteem Practice That Cannot Fail: Claim no failure.

Captain747ex comments on Sep 11, 2018:

This guy is lost in his own delusional world. I seriously don't think he knows where donnyville ends and reality begins.

Carin replies on Sep 11, 2018:

The only reality is what he says it is.

Was Rand correct

genessa comments on Sep 11, 2018:

rand is correct once in a long while, definitely by accident. this isn't one of those times. he dead wrong, as usual. g

Carin replies on Sep 11, 2018:

@genessa Yeah I can't stand her books.

Was Rand correct

genessa comments on Sep 11, 2018:

rand is correct once in a long while, definitely by accident. this isn't one of those times. he dead wrong, as usual. g

Carin replies on Sep 11, 2018:

Thought they were quoting Ayn Rand.

I just stumbled upon a YouTube video posted by a mother who lost her male fetus at thirteen weeks.

Carin comments on Sep 10, 2018:

People don't know how to grieve with dignity any more. But yeah, hard not to look....

Carin replies on Sep 10, 2018:

I felt bad looking at pictures of cojoined twins, like they are animals in a zoo or something. It dehumanizes them & I think it dehumanized me too. So much so that I have not wanted to click on stuff like that again, even though I have a lot of genuine interest in health & medicine.

Dammit autocorrect!

TheDoubter comments on Sep 9, 2018:

is the r in dirk the wrong letter?mis

Carin replies on Sep 9, 2018:

Pretty sure it's a knife like weapon-but too lazy to look it up.

Hi, my name is Fin I'm guessing you gain levels via navigating the site and posting different ...

Carin comments on Sep 9, 2018:

You can find out what things get you the most points by clicking on "About" at the top of the page, & then (I think) FAQs.

Carin replies on Sep 9, 2018:

You get 20 points for uploading a photo.

Annoying Christian rhetoric

Quazi comments on Sep 8, 2018:

I voted for blessed. It takes away from people's hard work as well as gives credit to chance

Carin replies on Sep 8, 2018:

& they end to look rather smug when they say it.

All women are beautiful.

TristanNuvo comments on Sep 7, 2018:

And men are what?

Carin replies on Sep 8, 2018:

I wondered that too! If we are saying all women are beautiful I would assume that makes all men handsome?

100% match

Anne209 comments on Sep 5, 2018:

Yes it is; but how long will it last? :-)

Carin replies on Sep 7, 2018:

Best reply!

I've never been so self conscious of where my mouse is at than on this site now.

fauxname11 comments on Sep 5, 2018:

You sound paranoid

Carin replies on Sep 7, 2018:

No, you may have missed some recent posts by guys on unwelcome hovering. For some reason it bothers them.

Is it really so wrong to want to be a priority to someone?

IamNobody comments on Sep 6, 2018:

Why would that be wrong?..... isn't to be a priority to someone the whole idea? Even better when that someone reciprocate the same way

Carin replies on Sep 7, 2018:

Some people seem to think it's too much to ask.

Removing myself from a painful situation?

RavenCT comments on Sep 6, 2018:

He needs to tell her - politely - to knock it off.

Carin replies on Sep 6, 2018:

@KissedbySun Wow they must be evil twins. My ex-to-be's motto must be "If it's not important to me, it's not important." One of many reasons for the slow demise of our relationship.

Have you noticed a pattern to the men or women you go for?

Christiep77 comments on Aug 30, 2018:

I almost always go for older men. 10-20 years older.

Carin replies on Sep 6, 2018:

@Hathacat Same here--I liked guys in their thirties when I was young, & married one. But a guy 10 or 15 years older than I am now is NOT what I'm looking for.

Removing myself from a painful situation?

RavenCT comments on Sep 6, 2018:

He needs to tell her - politely - to knock it off.

Carin replies on Sep 6, 2018:

@KissedbySun If he really wants you to go, he should do SOMETHING to make the event as enjoyable to you as it is to him. Stand your ground till he's willing to admit that if it's bothering you, it IS a problem, no matter how he feels about it.

Your sitting on a park bench I come to sit on the bench as well.

Anniemae comments on Sep 4, 2018:

I’m a plethora of useless knowledge and I don’t know a stranger. Come sit next to me!

Carin replies on Sep 5, 2018:

Hey me too!

Why am I always the friend… Found out a guy I liked who I thought liked me decided to ask ...

rogeralyn comments on Sep 3, 2018:

Hmm well, just my 2 cents but my explanation is that guys feel chemistry too we just don't know that we do, so when a guy says that it means he likes your company and likes to hang out with you but doesn't see it ever going anywhere involving anything physical.

Carin replies on Sep 4, 2018:

So he needs more encouragement? Or more overt flirting? Please explain...

Why do so many males hover or look at my profile?

Carin comments on Sep 3, 2018:

I've seen a few guys post this same stuff. They often think these men are gay. I have no idea if they are or why they look at your profile. Learn to ignore unwanted male attention just like we women are expected to do.

Carin replies on Sep 4, 2018:

@wowspring Oh OK. Some of the others did feel that way.

Why do so many males hover or look at my profile?

thislife comments on Sep 3, 2018:

I have used the setting where "hovers" aren't shown to me. It only shows up if somebody clicks. That has been helpful since hovering seems meaningless to me.

Carin replies on Sep 4, 2018:

It is meaningless.

What's your favorite burger place?

Carin comments on Sep 3, 2018:

I like Burger King because their veggie burgers are really good. I also like Subway, which is considered fast food by some. Their veggie sandwich is scrumptious. But I guess we are only talking burgers.

Carin replies on Sep 3, 2018:

@jc2018 The patty is bigger than the meat ones & very juicy!

Do you say coo-pahn or q-pahn? Milk or melk? Pillow or pellow?

Carin comments on Sep 2, 2018:

The first of each pair. Do you think it's regional or related to social class or something else?

Carin replies on Sep 3, 2018:

@marksam8484 Some like cockney & Liverpool. But not all.

Has anyone here had to deal with a Covert Narcissist?

Alvinsmama comments on Sep 3, 2018:

Not sure what you mean by covert but my second husband always had a big ego (I assume he still does) and wouldn't do anything that didn't reflect well on him. When we went to church, if he didn't like the minister, we would go to another church even if it was a different denomination. So glad I ...

Carin replies on Sep 3, 2018:

I'm already shaking my head! Glad you got away!

Do you say coo-pahn or q-pahn? Milk or melk? Pillow or pellow?

Carin comments on Sep 2, 2018:

The first of each pair. Do you think it's regional or related to social class or something else?

Carin replies on Sep 3, 2018:

@marksam8484 In England the social classes are often recognizable by their accents...

Ok someone tell me should I like this or hate this?

Carin comments on Sep 2, 2018:

I love it! But isn't it a little strange that they only have one person of color in the photo, in the back ground almost?

Carin replies on Sep 2, 2018:

Is your pride getting in the way of your happiness?

bleurowz comments on Aug 31, 2018:

It was never pride, but fear. And low self-esteem. Building that up has helped me to take more risks.

Carin replies on Sep 2, 2018:

Is your pride getting in the way of your happiness?

WaywardAtheist comments on Aug 31, 2018:

Fear more than pride while trying to "read" the other person.

Carin replies on Sep 2, 2018:

Discovering more and more why Benjamin Franklin thought turkeys were smart.

Snickers77 comments on Sep 1, 2018:

Carin replies on Sep 2, 2018:

Discovering more and more why Benjamin Franklin thought turkeys were smart.

TristanNuvo comments on Sep 1, 2018:

I'm not sure what to think. Honestly, what does turkeys being smart have to do with being single?

Carin replies on Sep 2, 2018:

@thislife I'm fine chatting about turkeys & worms.

Discovering more and more why Benjamin Franklin thought turkeys were smart.

273kelvin comments on Sep 1, 2018:

Darwin was fascinated by worms. He must have had good instincts because they have found a new species. It has evolved on an arsenic waste site. The amounts of DNA differences definitely classify it as the first case of evolution in mankinds time span, that we know of.

Carin replies on Sep 2, 2018:

Do you like worms? I have a good worm story that also happens to relate to the original post. Many years ago I was walking down one of our narrow streets (no sidewalks) & right at the edge of the pavement I actually saw a mole tunneling under the surface, really fast. Now that alone was pretty surprising because they hear or feel the softest foot steps & freeze or go backwards. In a few seconds I saw the reason for the mole's carelessness--earthworms began to almost literally SHOOT out of the soft ground to escape the mole! They knew when to leave what is normally their safe place & come up on the dry ground. I saw right then that worms do care about their lives & have some fairly complex behaviors. One of the cooler moments in my life.

Your evening laugh

Carin comments on Sep 2, 2018:

Anyone is better than what we have.

Carin replies on Sep 2, 2018:

@Heidi68 Yeah, he might be even scarier than T.Rump!

Do you say coo-pahn or q-pahn? Milk or melk? Pillow or pellow?

LilAtheistLady comments on Sep 2, 2018:

More importantly: do you say ah'ern or eyeron. Having a slight twang, I say ah'ern (iron). I'm actually interested in how dialects in other states say "iron". Also i say coopawn, milk, and pillow.

Carin replies on Sep 2, 2018:

I was taught in school that I-run instead of iron was just a mispronunciation.

How does this Joseph Campbell quote tie in with your atheism/agnosticism? Or not?

Carin comments on Sep 2, 2018:

I think I love everything he says. & I think that is what I've been searching for most of my life. I feel like I'm getting closer. Or was, till my life got weird about 18 months ago. But still working on it, just more slowly.

Carin replies on Sep 2, 2018:

I guess it ties in with Atheism because we don't have a religion with a built in purpose for life. We have to find our own, real one. Or decide there is not one at all.

Advice needed please

CK-One comments on Sep 1, 2018:

Take care of your family first before you try to share. It is important to keep your family safe and with a roof over your head. Work on getting a better job. The rest will work its way out.

Carin replies on Sep 2, 2018:

@CoCoCatina I am just so impressed with your bravery!

Who is in process of sewing Christmas gifts? What are you making?

Carin comments on Aug 31, 2018:

I'm sewing a few dolls for preschoolers in Africa. They like it if I send a long strip on cloth so they can carry their little babies on the backs just like their moms do.

Carin replies on Sep 1, 2018:

@MissKathleen It did have a very nice feel to it. The next fabric I'm going to use is from a baby sling. Just a little stretchy & soft & smooth.

Who is in process of sewing Christmas gifts? What are you making?

Carin comments on Aug 31, 2018:

I'm sewing a few dolls for preschoolers in Africa. They like it if I send a long strip on cloth so they can carry their little babies on the backs just like their moms do.

Carin replies on Sep 1, 2018:

@MissKathleen I didn't really think they were either, but I just didn't like how they look. I sent photos to the program director in Malawi (who is African) & he said the kids would love them. I don't know what the fabric was. It was donated or thrift store. Slightly stretchy & felt a little like suede. Seemed very good quality. I think felt would soon be a mess over there. I honestly know little about fabrics & sewing so I can only sew for desperate people! (;

Legalization of all drugs

Carin comments on Aug 31, 2018:

The 2 deadliest drugs are already legal-alcohol & tobacco.

Carin replies on Sep 1, 2018:

@Lucignolo Maybe it's just another conspiracy thing, but I heard consumption actually did you down, as did admissions to asylums, during prohibition. I do believe the bootlegging made organized crime bigger though. Interesting about Portugal! I wonder how that made addictions drop? I grew up partly in Germany & the same thing with the wine. I thought it tasted awful & still do!

Legalization of all drugs

Carin comments on Aug 31, 2018:

The 2 deadliest drugs are already legal-alcohol & tobacco.

Carin replies on Sep 1, 2018:

@Lucignolo It is--but does it mean that them being legal is why more people use & kill themselves with them? Or does it mean it's just silly to have much less lethal drugs be illegal while those 2 are killing thousands a year? Or, would people abuse the other drugs more if they were legal & start killing themselves at the same rate that alcohol & tobacco users do? I have NO idea....

What is the difference between hovering and viewing??

Carin comments on Aug 31, 2018:

I have no idea either!

Carin replies on Sep 1, 2018:

@BeccaVa I can't see it. Maybe someone I blocked?

Who is in process of sewing Christmas gifts? What are you making?

Carin comments on Aug 31, 2018:

I'm sewing a few dolls for preschoolers in Africa. They like it if I send a long strip on cloth so they can carry their little babies on the backs just like their moms do.

Carin replies on Sep 1, 2018:

@MissKathleen Here are the first dolls I made. I didn't like how the faces came out & my kids said they looked racist, so now I send the dolls with no faces & supplies for people there to embroider faces & also make the hair, which takes me forever. I decided I liked the design for the smaller doll too, & only sew that one now. You can see the fabric strips I send with each doll too.

Why does it say the group is about sewing?

Carin comments on Aug 30, 2018:

Hi everyone. Here are the gifts I sew. They are flannel, washable sanitary napkins for school girls in Africa. Many families, being already too poor to afford enough food, are unable to afford Kotex. The girls miss school every month. They often get behind & drop out of school in ...

Carin replies on Aug 30, 2018:

@MissKathleen I have a facebook page called Help Girls in Africa that is devoted to this. Sometimes people send me fabric. There's a very large organization called Days For Girls who have an excellent website that goes into a lot of detail.

My new cookie cutters!!!

Carin comments on Aug 30, 2018:

For the next church bake sale???

Carin replies on Aug 30, 2018:

@Allikat You're brave! Maybe you can make them look like cuddling teddy bears.

So this pisses me off.

Carin comments on Aug 30, 2018:

You can just put theirs on the clean table or in a dryer; it's a common thing to do. But I wouldn't turn on the dryer--some stuff could be damaged by that.

Carin replies on Aug 30, 2018:

@Spag84 I never could afford places with laundry.

So this pisses me off.

Carin comments on Aug 30, 2018:

You can just put theirs on the clean table or in a dryer; it's a common thing to do. But I wouldn't turn on the dryer--some stuff could be damaged by that.

Carin replies on Aug 30, 2018:

@Spag84 Me neither! I wasn't sure if you had to pay at apartment laundrymats.

Why does it say the group is about sewing?

MissKathleen comments on Aug 30, 2018:

@Carin Then start one! It used to be about something else, but no one talked about that, either.

Carin replies on Aug 30, 2018:

OK here it is!!

I need a diary post.

birdingnut comments on Aug 30, 2018:

I'm so sorry..sounds like you have ptsd..I did also after my ex. You could try CBD oil, sold in most health food stores, since studies show it relieves depression and anxiety. I can't get any here in Thailand (I moved here in 2010, after the divorce) but I'm taking cannabis oil to treat cancer, ...

Carin replies on Aug 30, 2018:

@CeliaAnne Nyquil is full of alcohol so no wonder!

Why does it say the group is about sewing?

sweetcharlotte comments on Aug 30, 2018:

Glad you pointed this out. I wanted to show off a couple of costumes I made for my granddaughters. I couldn't find this group. I'll do it soon.

Carin replies on Aug 30, 2018:

Can you please message me if you find the real sewing group? Thanks!

Can a relationship go back?

IamNobody comments on Aug 30, 2018:

Life is too short to get caught up in the social prejudice called cheating. It's not black and white, there are many layers of gray in between. Unfortunately society (ironically mostly because of religion) have programmed people to shut the door to even consider any discussion. At least before ...

Carin replies on Aug 30, 2018:

Those discussions need to take place before the person decides to cheat. & it's not just about sex, it's about honesty.

Your thoughts on pubic hair fashions?

patchoullijulie comments on Aug 29, 2018:

Well, I am going to go against the train of preference and go ewww! ickkk! on the hairless bod. It reminds me too much of the pre pubescent condition. But I am a huge supporter of each to his/her own. :D

Carin replies on Aug 30, 2018:

Yes. I think would feel like a pedophile with a man with no body hair! How can a guy look manly without any hair on his body?

So this pisses me off.

Remi comments on Aug 29, 2018:

I don't play with that shit. If it's been sitting in there a while I take it out and leave it on top of the washer. Sometimes I would even get my stuff dry and be gone before they came for their stuff

Carin replies on Aug 30, 2018:

@Sheannutt As long as you put it somewhere clean, they have no grounds to complain.

Another quote from Mikhal Bakunin: "All religions are cruel, all founded on blood; for all rest ...

Carin comments on Aug 30, 2018:

Never understood why people all over the world thought their gods wanted to see blood.

Carin replies on Aug 30, 2018:

So many cultures developed the idea independently.... Could that be evidence that gods are real & hate us?

I really dislike changing clocks twice a year.

chalupacabre comments on Aug 28, 2018:

Remember hearing that it was to help the farmers out. What, farmers aren't smart enough to adjust their clocks or alarms to suit their needs? Time to scrap that nonsense.

Carin replies on Aug 29, 2018:

The cows also get very uncomfortable when milking is an hour late for no apparent reason.

I don't understand why people on dating sites do not post a picture of themselves.

Carin comments on Aug 29, 2018:

I just don't want to I guess. I hate pictures of me. Lots of people send me messages anyway.

Carin replies on Aug 29, 2018:

@mikebeed I got some good dates anyway.