Getting close to that time. Chinese food and a movie

Jolanta comments on Dec 25, 2019:

Sounds good, what are we watching?

Jolanta replies on Dec 26, 2019:

@bklynite53 Good movie.

And nobody is being held responsible, nobody.

of-the-mountain comments on Dec 26, 2019:

More Islamic Bull Shit! The so called Palestinians which are actually Arabs kill Jews and Christians when ever they can, the Palestinian Authorities actually pay these children and adults to kill and terrorize any one in Israel! How many Jews live in Iran, Iraq, Saudi Arabia, Syria, Jordan, ...

Jolanta replies on Dec 26, 2019:

Wow, so much rubbish coming out of your mouth. Amazing. And so garbled too.

It is Christmas Day here where I am.

RavenCT comments on Dec 24, 2019:

Merry Christmas Jolanta!

Jolanta replies on Dec 25, 2019:

Merry Christmas to you too.

It is Christmas Day here where I am.

PondartIncbendog comments on Dec 24, 2019:

I'm not sure if that's good luck. It wasn't for the rabbit.

Jolanta replies on Dec 25, 2019:

true but I think rabbits feet are suppose to bring good luck.

Modern Guru

Robecology comments on Dec 24, 2019:

The back-up camera has made it safer, easier, and smarter to back-in park. We've all seen folks who back out end up hitting something...or taking forever doing so; so backing-in parking is not only wiser, it's considerate when you're leaving. And yes...it used to take a long time when you had ...

Jolanta replies on Dec 24, 2019:

I have no problems with backing and I can even back a car with a trailer, on good days at least.

I haven't been here in a long time, i started here when the site was just starting up and made a few...

wordywalt comments on Dec 23, 2019:

Two years ago, this site had a wider variation in membership and a more open exchange on all topics. Most of the unnecessarily aggressive right-wingers have left, but they did their damage. Partly to avoid the sting of bitter exchanges, more narrow interest group have segregated themselves, and ...

Jolanta replies on Dec 24, 2019:

What do you mean with more open exchange on all topics. Seems to me that people are very open here and say whatever they want. I don't think groups have formed to avoid bitter exchanges but more for the sake that it is their interests. There is still plenty of right wing assholes but they get easily blocked, bad language and bad behaviour should not be tolerated in anyway.

I haven't been here in a long time, i started here when the site was just starting up and made a few...

LiterateHiker comments on Dec 24, 2019:

@Sarcasm I joined in October 2017, a month after you did. Didn't participate in the posts for six months. Forgot I joined. At first, angry Trumpsters often attacked me for being a Democrat. I blocked and reported about 40 of them for violating community guidelines. That stopped. Yay! ...

Jolanta replies on Dec 24, 2019:

Sorry for saying nasty things, sorry but I do have a temper.

Your in-person community?

LiterateHiker comments on Dec 23, 2019:

My group of strong, female hiking partners are fun. We hike on Tuesdays.

Jolanta replies on Dec 24, 2019:

@LiterateHiker you would need to bring some kind of contraption so as soon as I no longer could walk and was under the impression that death was imminent you have to carry me to safety or somewhere where a nice fire was and someone giving me a toddy to get over my ordeal. Probably 15 minutes into the hike I think.

Gorgeous Canberra sky.

libraryman comments on Dec 23, 2019:

The fires are up in the north .What are they doing to the sky down south? Is that a sunset or a Sunrise?A re U down under know?

Jolanta replies on Dec 23, 2019:

Hello there. Yes I do live in Australia, in Canberra the Capital. The fires are just about all over the continent. They are a couple of kilometres from us, that is why the sky is the way it is. It is at sunset. Days are hazy and filled with smoke. By 21 December 2019, the fires had burnt over 3,000,000 hectares, destroyed over 700 houses and killed at least 9 people with at least one unaccounted for. So here we are hoping for rain.

Your in-person community?

snytiger6 comments on Dec 23, 2019:

After leaving religion behind, I built up my confidence and self esteem up to where I don't feel a need to belong. This goes against our evolutionary instincts. We evolved as animals which for survival purposes gathered in groups for safety, and many people still feel unsettled if they do not ...

Jolanta replies on Dec 23, 2019:

When you left the religion you acquired self confidence and of course there is and was the worship of cats for you too, he, he.

Your in-person community?

LiterateHiker comments on Dec 23, 2019:

My group of strong, female hiking partners are fun. We hike on Tuesdays.

Jolanta replies on Dec 23, 2019:

If I lived close to you, I come hiking with you too, however probably would only do 1/2 hour of it to start of because all that hiking you girls do would kill me. But I would have a go.

Your in-person community?

resserts comments on Dec 23, 2019:

Workplace, school, neighborhood, clubs, volunteer organizations, family structures — all provide long-term, real-world social interaction. I guess I don't quite understand your friend's meaning.

Jolanta replies on Dec 23, 2019:

The religious seem to think that them getting together is "special" and nobody else can attain that without religion. Dumbasses the lot of them.

Christmas day is almost here and I do not feel it at all.

ToolGuy comments on Dec 21, 2019:

Nope.

Jolanta replies on Dec 22, 2019:

@ToolGuy Yes, it is a good excuse for getting together. I wonder how many our there dread getting together with family, you know have to get together.

Christmas day is almost here and I do not feel it at all.

ToolGuy comments on Dec 21, 2019:

Nope.

Jolanta replies on Dec 21, 2019:

So how do you feel about it?

Have you ever entered into a relationship with someone who is associated with some kind of religion ...

Jolanta comments on Dec 21, 2019:

My ex husband joined an Indian cult called the Brahma Kumari. He is still in it. It destroyed our marriage. It took over his life, it was more important to him than our relationship. All our friends were gob smacked and very disappointed when it happened, they though we were the happiest married...

Jolanta replies on Dec 21, 2019:

@Rashede He always had a need for finding the meaning of life. He was a seeker all the time we were together and before I guess. He says he is happy but not that I no longer am in his life, but I say you cannot have the cake and eat it too, at least not this cake. When it happened I was very upset but over time got over it and I can understand that he has that need, however he could have it all but he did not understand that it involved a balance and compromise. So I refuse to be part of his life anymore, but you know I am now very happy. I have family and friends who love me and whom I love, I have somewhere nice to live, plenty of clothes to wear, lots to eat, nice social interactions with people. What els can one ask for.

Be aware of what you watch, hear and read. Does it nourish you? Accept nothing less.

MarkiusMahamius comments on Dec 21, 2019:

I assume by "nourish" you mean stuff that tastes bad, but is still good for you, according to my arbitrary standards?

Jolanta replies on Dec 21, 2019:

Well, yes according to your standards. Others may feel different though.

This week brought us some interesting new reporting on the whole "people be stupid" front.

Jolanta comments on Dec 14, 2019:

People with very little brain activity do those things.

Jolanta replies on Dec 16, 2019:

@Seeker3CO Just a question,you would not have anything I haven’t seen before.

I did some volunteering yesterday for the Red Nose.

resserts comments on Dec 15, 2019:

Does the Red Nose program focus on raising money or do they provide services for families? Either way, it sounds like a very worthwhile organization. And food is always a nice touch.

Jolanta replies on Dec 15, 2019:

They raise money for research and to help families.

This week brought us some interesting new reporting on the whole "people be stupid" front.

Jolanta comments on Dec 14, 2019:

People with very little brain activity do those things.

Jolanta replies on Dec 15, 2019:

@Seeker3CO Do you send pictures of yourself to others, naked ones?

Why are so many Americans so paranoid of socialism?

Jolanta comments on Dec 14, 2019:

I have lived in three different countries, Poland when it was communist, Sweden being social democratic and Australia with it's now right wing happy clappy government. The best one is SWEDEN. Americans are paranoid of socialism because they have been brainwashed by the media. They do not ...

Jolanta replies on Dec 15, 2019:

@Bilbobagins The media all around the world is controlled by a handful of people. Those handful of people have to write articles to the liking of big business because big business are the ones who pay for advertising and that is how the media makes its money, not on selling papers or TV programs. Just follow the money and you will find out.

Catholic archbishop claims LGBT activism is the new communism

Jolanta comments on Dec 14, 2019:

Well, that just shows how some people are so frightfully uneducated.

Jolanta replies on Dec 15, 2019:

@rogueflyer No, you don't understand me correctly at all. I am tolerant of religious people and tolerant of different sexual attraction than mine but I am not tolerant of fanatics or people who's sexual attractions force them on people who don't want them or hurt them.

This week brought us some interesting new reporting on the whole "people be stupid" front.

Jolanta comments on Dec 14, 2019:

People with very little brain activity do those things.

Jolanta replies on Dec 14, 2019:

@Seeker3CO What, you send pictures of yourself to know this?

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Jolanta comments on Nov 8, 2019:

I don't think there is any way that the Holocaust would be forgotten. Actually the Holocaust is the one most "talked and written" about human atrocity in the world. No other atrocity has had so much "media" attention in this world as the Holocaust. It is now coming to the point where people are ...

Jolanta replies on Dec 14, 2019:

@rainmanjr I don't know where you get this nonsense from. Everybody, but everybody around the world is aware of the Holocaust. I guess you don't believe in democracy or you believe in democracy when it suits you. The Palestinians elected Hamas as their leaders just incase you misses that bit. As far as them being terrorists, I wonder who are the real terrorists, Palestinians who are occupied and try to defend themselves or the Israelis who constantly kill and terrorise them. Many more Russians died in the second world war then Jewish people for your information and we don't hear them going on and on about it. Neither do we hear Cambodians doing it or the Chagos Islanders who want to go back home, or the Assyrians who have "lost" their homeland.

People Who Overtalk

Jolanta comments on Dec 14, 2019:

Wow, Kathleen you certainly seem to be attracting the nutters. Maybe time for a break by not dating anyone for a while.

Jolanta replies on Dec 14, 2019:

@LiterateHiker Thank you for that article. I loved it. It to have no intention to ever get married again, twice was enough. I am glad that you are not "hoping and wishing" My life is great and having a man would just complicate it too much. Men are way too needy, especially older men. When it comes to sex, you probably either will have to have one night stands, pay for it or do it yourself.

Just for kicks and giggles, I signed up for Temptingflirting.

Jolanta comments on Dec 13, 2019:

A bit of advise to you. If you truly are looking for a life companion and your kids always will come first I can guarantee that you will fail. Kids should not come first, a partner should. Kids should come a close second to your partner, always, whether that partner is the parent of those kids or...

Jolanta replies on Dec 14, 2019:

@azzow2, @ToolGuy You are talking about extremes here. I think all of us would save our children. I am not talking about saving, simply talking about that there are so many relationships that kids rule to the detriment of the relationship due to the fact that the parent puts the wishes of the kids first, no matter how unfair, unreasonable or stupid those wishes are.

Just for kicks and giggles, I signed up for Temptingflirting.

Jolanta comments on Dec 13, 2019:

A bit of advise to you. If you truly are looking for a life companion and your kids always will come first I can guarantee that you will fail. Kids should not come first, a partner should. Kids should come a close second to your partner, always, whether that partner is the parent of those kids or...

Jolanta replies on Dec 14, 2019:

@azzow2 What you are talking about are two different things. One is the abuse of children by a parent or step parent and the other is that your partner should come first in a relationship.

People Who Overtalk

Jolanta comments on Dec 14, 2019:

Wow, Kathleen you certainly seem to be attracting the nutters. Maybe time for a break by not dating anyone for a while.

Jolanta replies on Dec 14, 2019:

@LiterateHiker Sometimes it is good to have a break. You don't have to in any kind of from engage with them. Have a break, if nothing else just for Christmas. See how you fare. It may be liberating. All this hoping and wishing for the "right" one to emerge is sometimes too exhausting.

People Who Overtalk

Burner comments on Dec 14, 2019:

When i talk too much, its usually because i really dont want to hear the other person talk. Its not because i think they want to hear my opinion, its because i simply will do anything to shut them up. But these people you secribe, seem to want to spend time with you, voluntarily. Oddly different....

Jolanta replies on Dec 14, 2019:

Perhaps you should just not say a word and quietly walk away.

Happy Friday! I have no kids this weekend so I'm going to try to get Christmas stuff done.

IrishTxJudy comments on Dec 13, 2019:

My kids are grown but I still don’t get the decorating done that I need to do. Hoping this weekend I can get it done. Good luck with your projects

Jolanta replies on Dec 13, 2019:

@Haemish1 If I put my Christmas tree up, I leave it there to after easter.

"Our eyes have met our hearts have spoken So please don't let The spell be broken Phone me ...

1of5 comments on Dec 13, 2019:

This mean you met a poet?

Jolanta replies on Dec 13, 2019:

Nah, still single. Just saw it somewhere and like it and wanted to share it with other people.

Woman Whose Son Was Beaten to Death Read the Bible Before Getting Help | David Gee | Friendly ...

St-Sinner comments on Dec 13, 2019:

Even in the atheist world of tomorrow, idiots and horrific things will exist, they will be less but they will be around. Idiots only need an excuse to act badly, Today is religion, tomorrow it will be something else. If there is no God, they will invent something else. Religion only gives a cover ...

Jolanta replies on Dec 13, 2019:

There is a certain type of people who are attracted to religions or cults. It is those who find a need for a meaning in their lives, those who can see how they can benefit by lying and cheating others and of course fanatics.

Do people deserve to be loved even when they are not lovable and do some horrific things?

demifeministgal comments on Dec 12, 2019:

What are these horrific things you speak of? :S This post is too vague to give a clear answer. You mean did the likes of trump or Hitler deserve to be loved? Or is this more on a personal level?

Jolanta replies on Dec 13, 2019:

@demifeministgal It all depends on circumstances in our lives. How we are connected to that person. I think personally far too many people have rose coloured glasses when it comes to their children or someone they are in love with.

Do people deserve to be loved even when they are not lovable and do some horrific things?

demifeministgal comments on Dec 12, 2019:

What are these horrific things you speak of? :S This post is too vague to give a clear answer. You mean did the likes of trump or Hitler deserve to be loved? Or is this more on a personal level?

Jolanta replies on Dec 13, 2019:

It can be both. All our experiences with others are different.

California nativity scene depicts Jesus, Mary and Joseph as caged family separated at border

Jolanta comments on Dec 9, 2019:

Brilliant, the only thing I would want to change there is the colour of Jesus, Mary and Joseph, after all they should be of Middle Eastern appearance.

Jolanta replies on Dec 11, 2019:

@DenoPenno Well we know how Americans are easily fooled.

I red this in a health & wellbeing paper.

TheDoubter comments on Dec 10, 2019:

sounds yucky

Jolanta replies on Dec 11, 2019:

You probably done way yuckier stuff. It is a matter about you want to sleep or not.

Kiss often Hug often Look into peoples eyes. Be glad.

BitFlipper comments on Dec 8, 2019:

I can't get away with kissing. The others seem to be ok.

Jolanta replies on Dec 10, 2019:

@BitFlipper See a counsellor, they may help.

Kiss often Hug often Look into peoples eyes. Be glad.

BitFlipper comments on Dec 8, 2019:

I can't get away with kissing. The others seem to be ok.

Jolanta replies on Dec 9, 2019:

@BitFlipper if’s true that you have a bad personality, start there.

Kiss often Hug often Look into peoples eyes. Be glad.

BitFlipper comments on Dec 8, 2019:

I can't get away with kissing. The others seem to be ok.

Jolanta replies on Dec 9, 2019:

@BitFlipper So you already know the problem, what are you going to do about it.

Kiss often Hug often Look into peoples eyes. Be glad.

BitFlipper comments on Dec 8, 2019:

I can't get away with kissing. The others seem to be ok.

Jolanta replies on Dec 8, 2019:

@BitFlipper I wonder why. Perhaps it is because you insist on sticking your tung into their mouths at the first meeting.

Kiss often Hug often Look into peoples eyes. Be glad.

BitFlipper comments on Dec 8, 2019:

I can't get away with kissing. The others seem to be ok.

Jolanta replies on Dec 8, 2019:

Why not, you got bad breath?

What is our purpose in life?

Jolanta comments on Dec 8, 2019:

I have a purpose in life. It is to make others happy, to sometimes ease their pain in whatever form it comes, without hurting myself.

Jolanta replies on Dec 8, 2019:

@powder You definitely need a new purpose at once.

In Israel, religious and secular Jews fight over Sabbath shopping on Saturdays - The Washington Post

SCal comments on Dec 6, 2019:

I fail to recognize how there can be such a thing as a secular jew. Claiming jewish is claiming a religious faith, not a race. I also do not accept social conditioning that races are even real. They are not. Therefore, unless you believe in their religious views, I dont understand how one can ...

Jolanta replies on Dec 7, 2019:

@BryanLV Dosen't mean that it is so, after all most people would love to be CHOSEN, but chosen for what or by whom. If there is no god then stop bleating on about being chosen.

All those 'Free Thinkers" must be so busy of thinking something to say, or they are just busy ...

bobwjr comments on Dec 6, 2019:

Not me I don't shut up

Jolanta replies on Dec 6, 2019:

I noticed that about you, he, he.

MO Attorney General: It’s Okay for Football Coaches to Push Christianity on Kids | Hemant Mehta | ...

Jolanta comments on Dec 6, 2019:

Just imagine if someone from the local Mosque would insist on doing the same. Just imagine.

Jolanta replies on Dec 6, 2019:

@of-the-mountain doing what?

In Israel, religious and secular Jews fight over Sabbath shopping on Saturdays - The Washington Post

Jolanta comments on Dec 6, 2019:

I would like all shops to be closed on Sundays, not on religious grounds just because we need a day off from all that pressure of shopping, and don't tell me you don't have to go. Just imagine how peoples lives would change, they now had to do something else than run of to the mall, like cleaning ...

Jolanta replies on Dec 6, 2019:

@273kelvin I remember Sundays when a everything was closed and I find it wonderful. Only people with no family, friends or imagination would find it boring and dull, he, he.

Head and Neck Injuries from Staring at Smartphones Sharply Increased

Jolanta comments on Dec 5, 2019:

There should be laws against walking while talking on your phone. Not only are these people a danger to themselves but to others too.

Jolanta replies on Dec 6, 2019:

@PondartIncbendog Yes, but there are far too many cameras around. What i do is when someone comes towards me engrossed on their phone. I wait until they are rather close and then I stamp my feet hard giving them a fright, then I smile sweetly.

In Israel, religious and secular Jews fight over Sabbath shopping on Saturdays - The Washington Post

SCal comments on Dec 6, 2019:

I fail to recognize how there can be such a thing as a secular jew. Claiming jewish is claiming a religious faith, not a race. I also do not accept social conditioning that races are even real. They are not. Therefore, unless you believe in their religious views, I dont understand how one can ...

Jolanta replies on Dec 6, 2019:

You would be surprised how Jews fight about a lot of things.

Head and Neck Injuries from Staring at Smartphones Sharply Increased

Jolanta comments on Dec 5, 2019:

There should be laws against walking while talking on your phone. Not only are these people a danger to themselves but to others too.

Jolanta replies on Dec 6, 2019:

@PondartIncbendog If it was only that easy.

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Jolanta comments on Dec 5, 2019:

It's like BLAH BLAH BLAH to me.

Jolanta replies on Dec 5, 2019:

@blahblah Did not say you did.

Socialism: A Primer - Socialism is an umbrella term for everything from anarchism to ...

dandadan comments on May 25, 2019:

I agree some of what was said. What was left out is the fact that human nature and selfishness are part of our simian heritage. We are literally savage monkeys who have not risen above many of our base instincts. This is due to many factors. The truth being that as a society, as a culture, we are so...

Jolanta replies on Dec 5, 2019:

I do not agree with you there, all humans are not the same. We don't all strive to destroy everything and everyone here on this earth. I don't and I know many who don't either.

A question for older people: how has what you find attractive changed from when you were younger?

moosepucky comments on Dec 5, 2019:

Wow.... I "think" that I still want wild and crazy, but I wonder if quiet and peaceful is a better choice.

Jolanta replies on Dec 5, 2019:

The problem is you would probably not be able to handle "wild and crazy" if it appeared.

Hi my Jewish by Culture Family.

Cutiebeauty comments on Dec 4, 2019:

I haven't heard anything about apartheid.. please explain..

Jolanta replies on Dec 4, 2019:

Well have you heard about the wall in Jerusalem?

"Freedom of knowledge" is a thought I had to discuss.

Jolanta comments on Dec 4, 2019:

That’s far too much to think about, maybe better to narrow it down a bit and then as it gets going introduce more questions into the debate.

Jolanta replies on Dec 4, 2019:

@blahblah So what is the difference between debate and conversation for you? I don't see it as being any more confrontational than a conversation. Just because one doesn't have the same opinion about something doesn't mean that one automatically hates the other person and wants to fight them.

"I'm an honest person!" Well that's really believable 😂 Being paranoid and skeptical of things ...

Jolanta comments on Dec 3, 2019:

We are all a bit more or less dishonest sometimes, depending upon the circumstances. After all, how many people here have not told their children the truth about Santa.

Jolanta replies on Dec 4, 2019:

@vjohnson51 Yes when it comes to “boasting” about how honest one is, I smell something off.

Has anyone else been brought up into a family with quite a few self-centered narcissists?

K9Kohle789 comments on Dec 3, 2019:

It's possible my mother was one but she was a teacher & locked us out of the house on weekends called us in for lunch then back out again I think the TV was our babysitter in winter. She never ate, she just roamed the table to eat off our plates and bragged she was under 100 lbs and the doc wanted ...

Jolanta replies on Dec 4, 2019:

@K9Kohle789 Even though my mother was busy working she never ever had any time for me when she wasn’t, sad but true. I think a lot of women who have or had children didn’t really want them. We are spun a lie about having children, that it’s wonderful and we will be more fulfilled but for a lot of women it isn’t so.

Has anyone else been brought up into a family with quite a few self-centered narcissists?

K9Kohle789 comments on Dec 3, 2019:

It's possible my mother was one but she was a teacher & locked us out of the house on weekends called us in for lunch then back out again I think the TV was our babysitter in winter. She never ate, she just roamed the table to eat off our plates and bragged she was under 100 lbs and the doc wanted ...

Jolanta replies on Dec 3, 2019:

Yes i was sent to summer camp all summer too and that was a huge pain for me. I always felt that I was in the way but I don't think the reason was that she did not love me, just thought that it was the best place for me while she was busy working. I am sorry you had such a bad experience but then it is all behind you now and we don't get to choose our parents. Take good care of yourself.

It isn’t just about Santa. People hold onto childish beliefs for way too long I think.

rogueflyer comments on Dec 3, 2019:

I like the idea of removing the commercial aspect of buying gifts at xmas and instead maybe a Thanksgiving type diner followed by games and friendship. Maybe take Dickens lead and a game of blind mans bluff. I know of folks who have had marriage problems due to over spending on xmas. It might be ...

Jolanta replies on Dec 3, 2019:

I am for what you are saying except the Thanks giving bit. After all Thanks giving is not so great if we think about it. Celebrating the white man coming to the US, steeling land from the natives, killing them etc, etc. People really need to re think Thanks Giving.

It has recently come to my attention that the flavor of atheism--for both the individual and for ...

Jolanta comments on Nov 27, 2019:

The only thing I have notice is that being an atheist in some countries can be fatal.

Jolanta replies on Dec 3, 2019:

@Flowerwall Why don’t you answer the question.

It has recently come to my attention that the flavor of atheism--for both the individual and for ...

Jolanta comments on Nov 27, 2019:

The only thing I have notice is that being an atheist in some countries can be fatal.

Jolanta replies on Dec 3, 2019:

@Flowerwall on and on, yet you are not mentioning one country, not one.

It has recently come to my attention that the flavor of atheism--for both the individual and for ...

Jolanta comments on Nov 27, 2019:

The only thing I have notice is that being an atheist in some countries can be fatal.

Jolanta replies on Dec 2, 2019:

@Flowerwall which countries are those?

Fixing the gargoyle on your screen

Jolanta comments on Dec 2, 2019:

Thank you for all those tips, however no matter about angle or lighting I still look like Rudolph the Red Nose Reindeer, but I have stopped worrying about that. My intentions and my soul is just beautiful.

Jolanta replies on Dec 2, 2019:

@Bigwavedave Thank you for your kind words Sir.

Fixing the gargoyle on your screen

Jolanta comments on Dec 2, 2019:

Thank you for all those tips, however no matter about angle or lighting I still look like Rudolph the Red Nose Reindeer, but I have stopped worrying about that. My intentions and my soul is just beautiful.

Jolanta replies on Dec 2, 2019:

@LiterateHiker I shall do the same. Let's start a movement and all of us block him, that despicable piece of something under my shoe,

My sister-in-law works at the same conservative fast food place as I.

redbai comments on Dec 2, 2019:

I read things like this and think about how hypocritical it is to condemn Islam as worse than Christianity because of burkas.

Jolanta replies on Dec 2, 2019:

@Imatheistically That has absolutely nothing to do with Islam. It is forbidden to murder anyone in Islam. This is just a cultural tradition, all man made. As you perhaps remember Christians used to kill mainly women because they were supposed to be witches and that had nothing to do with Christianity either, all man made cultural traditions.

Love is always present. It is we who forget it - or remember.

St-Sinner comments on Dec 1, 2019:

For the ones who want to imagine, it is everywhere. For other practical people, it is just bills.

Jolanta replies on Dec 1, 2019:

But you can always look into the mirror and love yourself.

An update on Last Night Before I Went To Bed.

Grahame comments on Nov 30, 2019:

It’s looking bad down towards the coast. It must be very scary to those who lived through 2003. 500 houses burnt down in a firestorm. It was horrendous. I moved away this March. Thinking of you.

Jolanta replies on Nov 30, 2019:

Yes, I was here in 2003. It was amazing, not amazing good but amazingly bad.

An update on Last Night Before I Went To Bed.

Geoffrey51 comments on Nov 29, 2019:

Don’t know what the recommended sentencing category for arson is, but I hope it’s not misdemeanour. Keep safe and keep watching because as we know things can change anytime with a lightning strike and a gust of wind.

Jolanta replies on Nov 30, 2019:

Yes, what does one do with 14 year olds who start fires. I have no idea.

Americans don’t have egg cups. How do they eat boiled eggs?

mischl comments on Nov 28, 2019:

I'm an American, I have (many) egg cups, and I like 'em soft boiled with toast.

Jolanta replies on Nov 29, 2019:

Eggs and soldiers they are.

Americans don’t have egg cups. How do they eat boiled eggs?

JustAskMe comments on Nov 28, 2019:

I love knowing who to block straight away.

Jolanta replies on Nov 29, 2019:

You are just like an egg, very fragile.

Americans don’t have egg cups. How do they eat boiled eggs?

LiterateHiker comments on Nov 29, 2019:

Americans are not "all angry." That's a mean, inaccurate thing to say.

Jolanta replies on Nov 29, 2019:

@Grahame That just proves your point, they are angry, he, he.

Americans don’t have egg cups. How do they eat boiled eggs?

bobwjr comments on Nov 29, 2019:

We have them and we are angry because of trump and cronies . Used them as a kid

Jolanta replies on Nov 29, 2019:

You guys were angry before Trump.

Luck is a huge underestimated factor in anyone's circumstances.

ToolGuy comments on Nov 27, 2019:

Luck is when the law of entropy is in your favour and bad luck is when it is not in your favour. And since it is outside fo yourself there is little you can do about it.

Jolanta replies on Nov 28, 2019:

@ToolGuy So much to ponder on in this one. It is like the chicken or the egg for me.

Correcting Others Make You Look Bad

Jolanta comments on Nov 28, 2019:

All those men who drive you crazy what is a girl to do.

Jolanta replies on Nov 28, 2019:

@Sgt_Spanky Nah, I have very thick skin, I do.

Luck is a huge underestimated factor in anyone's circumstances.

ToolGuy comments on Nov 27, 2019:

Luck is when the law of entropy is in your favour and bad luck is when it is not in your favour. And since it is outside fo yourself there is little you can do about it.

Jolanta replies on Nov 27, 2019:

I am not so sure about that one cannot do anything about it. I have found that when I am happy and positive, things just go my way but when I am not, they don't.

"Distance doesn't matter in a relationship."

Jolanta comments on Nov 27, 2019:

You seem to be dating men who are not suitable for any relationships. My advice is to stop trying so hard to meet someone. But what do I know perhaps you are not trying hard. Anyway enjoy the things you have in your life and if you are supposed to meet somebody that will fit you and vice versa it...

Jolanta replies on Nov 27, 2019:

@LiterateHiker You may have to pay someone for it. That may be easier, he, he. I do agree with you that there only seem to be leftovers around, but remember nobody is perfect.

Guilt: the gift that keeps on giving.

Jolanta comments on Nov 26, 2019:

I think you think and feel like you are letting others down by saying no to someone or something. We women have a lot of it. Men don’t. It’s time to change and think and do what is best for you. The first time is the most difficult when we say no but it becomes easier and easier as time goes...

Jolanta replies on Nov 26, 2019:

@Seeker3CO I see you live in the US where bombardment of religion is a daily occurrence. It takes a long time to realise that we don’t have to live our lives as “others” wants us to. Our parents are often the main culprits of leaving us with horrible feelings of guilt. Sometimes there is a constant stream of well meaning verbal abuse, we will never amount to anything, we are ugly, we are stupid, and so it goes on. Until we believe it. Not an easy thing to overcome unfortunately. Do your best, look at your life and ask your self, is there any reason why you should live your life according to someone else idea.

Guilt: the gift that keeps on giving.

Jolanta comments on Nov 26, 2019:

I think you think and feel like you are letting others down by saying no to someone or something. We women have a lot of it. Men don’t. It’s time to change and think and do what is best for you. The first time is the most difficult when we say no but it becomes easier and easier as time goes...

Jolanta replies on Nov 26, 2019:

@Seeker3CO I am sorry that you do. What do you feel guilty about most of the time?

Some people think way too much and don't get to any place at all.

Heraclitus comments on Nov 25, 2019:

That's usually because they are thinking about the wrong things, or asking the wrong questions, and so go round in stagnant circles.

Jolanta replies on Nov 25, 2019:

Maybe, but maybe what they are thinking is right for them and their mental capacity only goes so far.

What do you agnostics think about "co-parenting", two people interested in parenthood but not ...

Jolanta comments on Nov 25, 2019:

Perhaps you should try to foster a child and see how that works out for you before you have one of your own. It is a very hard job and it never ends.

Jolanta replies on Nov 25, 2019:

@ToolGuy Yes, that can be so, however who knows it may be the best thing that has happened to the child and the best thing for the person who does the fostering too. It all has to start somewhere.

My garden is full of weeds, but it is far too hot to go and do anything about it, so I may as well ...

Wangobango3 comments on Nov 24, 2019:

Are you safe from the fires? I like to think of garden weeds as "living mulch".

Jolanta replies on Nov 25, 2019:

Thank you for asking. I am safe, I live in Canberra and so far so good but it is only spring.

My garden is full of weeds, but it is far too hot to go and do anything about it, so I may as well ...

MissKathleen comments on Nov 24, 2019:

Add some honey, then a few ice cubes.

Jolanta replies on Nov 25, 2019:

Why ice cubes?

When Long John Silver boasted of his piece of eight, was he talking about money?

FearlessFly comments on Nov 24, 2019:

Why quote the bible in a critical thinking group ? :P

Jolanta replies on Nov 24, 2019:

Not everything in the bible is either not true or stupid.

I have just been to our local library and borrowed some knitting books about how to make a tea cozy.

moonmaid comments on Nov 24, 2019:

I've made exactly one of those..they are awfully pretty but would only collect dust in my house

Jolanta replies on Nov 24, 2019:

I was thinking of making some and giving them away to dedicated tea drinkers.

In the city where you live, how an atheist person is looked upon or considered in general?

Jolanta comments on Oct 13, 2019:

I live in Australia and nobody cares. I am sure that there are some who care but I have not met them yet.

Jolanta replies on Nov 24, 2019:

@Grecio No matter where you come from when you move to a different country it is difficult. When you say no Muslims assimilate in the US you are very likely wrong there. How many immigrants and I am not talking about Muslims only have you encountered personally and made them feel welcome. How many have you made friends with? Can you imagine yourself if you were in their shoes and had moved away from the US, how would you "assimilate". I have found that no matter where people are from they do congregate together because where they move to it is difficult to meet the locals.

Hello I just joined today.

Everpresentdog comments on Nov 24, 2019:

I also joined to find other like minded people, everybody seems religious these days and I can't pretend I like church.

Jolanta replies on Nov 24, 2019:

Only in the US do they all or many seem to be religious. In other countries, even in Islamic ones they just don't care.

Should the USA try to keep Muslims out of their country?

Trajan61 comments on Nov 24, 2019:

Why should we let those Islamic idiots in? They will never assimilate and will try to impose Sharia law if they are ever given the opportunity.

Jolanta replies on Nov 24, 2019:

You have not learned anything.

Should the USA try to keep Muslims out of their country?

Trajan61 comments on Nov 24, 2019:

Why would we let someone like our congresswoman Omar come to the US. She’s intent on changing this country and I guarantee it won’t be for the better.

Jolanta replies on Nov 24, 2019:

How do you know?

My neighbors cat keeps on visiting me. He seems to spend more time at my house than his own home.

RavenCT comments on Nov 23, 2019:

Perhaps it's shared custody?

Jolanta replies on Nov 24, 2019:

I am going to have to send them a bill for all its food, I think.

How do you sort what you really need?

Jolanta comments on Nov 22, 2019:

A pet I would like.

Jolanta replies on Nov 23, 2019:

@DenoPenno Oh, what a pity because I have just the collar for you. One with lovely studs on it. Woof, woof.

Is it against the law for Jews to associate with gentiles?

bklynite53 comments on Nov 22, 2019:

Sorry Jolanta you are full of Drek . I will not engage you anymore

Jolanta replies on Nov 23, 2019:

Double nobb.

Is it against the law for Jews to associate with gentiles?

bklynite53 comments on Nov 22, 2019:

Jolanta — you did not answer my question and please do not call me a hypocrite as you know nothing about me. You did not ask a question- you made a statement that you read something in the Bible that says it is against the law for Jews to associate with gentiles. Once again I ask you to cite the ...

Jolanta replies on Nov 22, 2019:

Nobb.

Is it against the law for Jews to associate with gentiles?

bklynite53 comments on Nov 21, 2019:

Jolanta — I have read the Torah— please point out specifically where in the Torah that you read that. Also you are evidently referring to religious doctrine and not an actual law as it pertained to say the kingdom of Israel or the kingdom of Judea

Jolanta replies on Nov 21, 2019:

Which bit of read the Bible did you not understand? Which bit about I came across it in the Bible did you not get? Which bit about I wanted to know is it so did you not understand? Or perhaps you don't like people asking questions and getting clarification, perhaps you are one of those who only want nice, positive things said about the Jewish religion. If so you are a hypocrite.

Is it against the law for Jews to associate with gentiles?

bklynite53 comments on Nov 20, 2019:

Are you for real?

Jolanta replies on Nov 21, 2019:

Read the bible and you will know.

Happiness is a state of mind, not a destination.

Kynlei comments on Nov 20, 2019:

I believe that, but only to a certain point. If you suffer from depression, no amount of happy thoughts is going to fix anything.

Jolanta replies on Nov 20, 2019:

@altschmerz Think about the good things in your life instead of the bad ones.

Average monthly salary comparison evolution. [youtube.com]

St-Sinner comments on Nov 18, 2019:

is it right to give pure numbers without indicating the value of money in every land? A burger costs an average of $4 in the U.S. but it may cost $9 in Norway. The average rent (except in California or New York) in the U.S. maybe $1,500 to $2,000 while the same in Denmark maybe $4,000. How do we ...

Jolanta replies on Nov 20, 2019:

@St-Sinner Yes, take home money is less in Europe but they get a lot for the taxes they pay as opposed to the US.

You can look at someone and hurry past them at the same time, but is that a good thing to do?

Athena comments on Nov 19, 2019:

Does he or she have chocolate? I would definitely stop to chat. * And as an after thought - pastries... I would stop for a basket of pastries.

Jolanta replies on Nov 19, 2019:

You probably would even stop for one pastry.

❤️You are holding a cup of coffee when someone comes along and bumps into you or shakes your ...

MarkiusMahamius comments on Nov 19, 2019:

What ever is inside the cup is what we spill out Is those idiots didnt make me spill, they wouldnt have to deal with me at all. Im not "filling my cup with kindness and unicorn farts" for their sake. They need to watch their step. Idiots.

Jolanta replies on Nov 19, 2019:

@MarkiusMahamius I am not sure I can do it in the way you would understand, so I won't.

❤️You are holding a cup of coffee when someone comes along and bumps into you or shakes your ...

MarkiusMahamius comments on Nov 19, 2019:

What ever is inside the cup is what we spill out Is those idiots didnt make me spill, they wouldnt have to deal with me at all. Im not "filling my cup with kindness and unicorn farts" for their sake. They need to watch their step. Idiots.

Jolanta replies on Nov 19, 2019:

Me thinks you misunderstood this, he, he.

Not only the Irish famine but other war crimes against mankind too.

bklynite53 comments on Nov 17, 2019:

I do not believe that they are any where near the same.

Jolanta replies on Nov 19, 2019:

Of course no atrocities are the same, however that is not the point.

In the city where you live, how an atheist person is looked upon or considered in general?

Jolanta comments on Oct 13, 2019:

I live in Australia and nobody cares. I am sure that there are some who care but I have not met them yet.

Jolanta replies on Nov 19, 2019:

@Grecio None of the Muslims I know believe in Sharia law.

It's 4 am and I have woken up. There will be no more sleep tonight for me again.

RavenCT comments on Nov 17, 2019:

Misery. I hope tonight is better for you.

Jolanta replies on Nov 17, 2019:

Tonight the night, everything is going to be all right, because I love you baby, oh hold on I am here all alone, oh well never mind.