Men, is it more attractive for a woman to be a settled home body (housewife type ) or someone who is...

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 20, 2018:

My experience has been that the traits that attract them are the same ones that broke us up later. They liked that I was independent because they did not want to be a meal ticket They liked it that I had a love of bad language and inappropriate humor because they did too They liked it that I knew how to do things rather than wait for them to do everything for me. Til they had me, then all those things became a problem. My lack of religion was only a slight factor in my opinion.

Your idea of the perfect first date is???

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 20, 2018:

Something other than the beach, a movie, dinner or a bar

How do people feel about people who are childless?

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 20, 2018:

I feel that they did what was best for them. Unless you are absolutely certain you want them, you shouldn't have them.

I reside in the furthest point of Kissimmee where it ends and Saint Cloud begins.

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 17, 2018:

I used to live near Osceola high school. Spent 18 months living on boggy creek rd too.

What should you never try in life?

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 17, 2018:

Farting when you have diarrhea

Anyone doing anything Fun this weekend

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 17, 2018:

I'm watching my oldest grandson graduate high school tomorrow night. He already has an academic scholarship for college. I was kicked out of high school for being pregnant in 1979 and got my G.E.D. the following year. My daughter quit when she turned 18 in senior year. So did her brother They got G.E.D.s but still, I would have liked to see them do all that senior stuff.

Beware of talking much about ex's

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 16, 2018:

lol

Do you have a specific movie, TV show, or commercial you quote from on a regular basis?

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 16, 2018:

I used to quote star trek a lot along with an occasional batman phrase- the series. I find myself increasingly using stuff from Game of Thrones though.

If really attractive people are considered "eye candy" then, that probably makes me more like "eye ...

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 16, 2018:

Guess I'm an eye apple

One word describing your last relationship with someone religious...

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 15, 2018:

frustrating

What percent of your purchases are made on-line?

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 14, 2018:

Aside from groceries, 80%

Why are you still on Facebook?

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 13, 2018:

Family mostly but I also use it as photo dump while traveling or geocaching. I save a lot of links for home repair/remodel or things I am saving for my granddaughter when she gets old enough to have one. My brother died many years ago leaving young children behind. His wife remarried and I lost contact. Eventually my niece found me through facebook. She was not the last long lost person to find me so I keep it. I don't air my dirty laundry on it but I also do not sugar coat my opinions either.

Every now and then I see a glimmer of hope.

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 13, 2018:

From 13 year olds? Wow! Hopeful indeed

I'm writing this here as this group is about relationships.

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 11, 2018:

If her last relationship messed her up so badly that she needed therapy, a few months is not enough time. I think it is too soon for HER. That doesn't mean you can't be something to her but I would suggest keeping it somewhat low key for a while.The rebound guy usually gets hurt

Truth State something you KNOW is true No opinions please

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 11, 2018:

I KNOW I'm hungry

I believe that I was meant to travel.

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 6, 2018:

I am a financially deficient explorer. I will likely never make it overseas but since my daughter sells cruises for a living, I have been to the caribbean a couple of times and climbed several mayan ruins along with other places. I found some dna cousins and will be making an 8 hour drive to spend some time with one of them next month. Ive been thinking that perhaps I may take some online friends up on their offers of a place to stay and venture even further someday.

This is going to be a odd question/ How does every one feel about the Boy Scouts changing the name ...

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 6, 2018:

My granddaughter loves science and math, wanted to play football but was forced to be a cheerleader instead. She cant sew for shit, cooking is of no interest so I think she will probably want to join if it is available here. Probably not since this is a backward hell hole but if it is available and she wants to join, I will happily drive her.

Patheos.com, Reliable?

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 6, 2018:

https://mediabiasfactcheck.com/2017/03/18/daily-source-bias-check-patheos/

Hi.

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 6, 2018:

Here's another point for ya

So, "Duke" is just a nickname.

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 6, 2018:

Sam by family because my initials spelled it out Shar in school Shepup by a boss in the 80s that stuck Currently I am called either shepup or Lucyfer

05.

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 6, 2018:

I also felt some guilt and starting thinking of all the ways I could have acted differently but my actions did not get him killed, the person who decided to kill him is to blame. It has been nearly 24 years and now I mostly just feel sad about what could have been.

Has anyone met somewhere here and actually had a date?

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 6, 2018:

Had lunch with the one other person within 10 years of my age near me. We really had little in common but at least we tried

Ok.

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 5, 2018:

So I'm not the only one at a loss

Great googley moogley!!!! Can everyone just take a chill pill and calm the fuck down already?

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 5, 2018:

Somehow I'm missing all these drama filled posts and groups. A part of me wants know what I'm missing but I think most of me is happy about that loss.

Its very hard to meet women down here in the south if your not from the south.

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 5, 2018:

Depends on what part of the south you're in I guess. I did spend some of my early childhood in southern IN but even though I grew up right here in this backward town, I would prefer someone NOT from here lol

How many of you achieved your degree under a dim light and many late night homework sessions.

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 5, 2018:

I still occasionally wake up in a panic because in my dream, time is short and work is long.

So, I weenied out.

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 5, 2018:

Im glad to see nobody giving you shit for that decision. Do what you gotta do. I do not go around proclaiming my lack of belief but several people at my current location are aware of it. When I was in your area, it became obvious after I had been there a few years but when I decided to relocate down here, I removed most of the stuff from my truck just to keep the shit down. Im established enough at this point that I could weather it so am not so down low about it but I absolutely kept it quiet at first.

Anyone play Scrabble, Words with friends, or word feud apps?

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 4, 2018:

I play words with friends but have to delete the app whenever I want to use the phone for geocaching.

[reddit.app.link] Good to see some folks are serious about water conservation.

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 4, 2018:

lol

So yesterday I saw a post from a member who was thinking of leaving our little world.

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 4, 2018:

I've been spending less and less time on here for a couple of reasons and I find myself just scrolling along like I do on facebook. The growth of the site as made some topics posted much more repetitively than it used to and much of the new content being posted is just too inane for me. When it was new I checked it daily despite not making posts myself then left for a few months. Came back I think in Feb and so much has changed since then. I know most of you are wondering "who is this sherrymartin person?" but there are a few of you whose names I recognize and always open your posts but all too often I do not have the time or patience to find them in the sea of inanity

Hello all! Amy here, from Georgia.

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 3, 2018:

Me too

How do you want to be buried?

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 3, 2018:

On a body farm

So why are women disgusted by men with...uuuhh, platinum (silver?

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 2, 2018:

I have never heard a woman say this

How Do You Feel About Relocating For Love?

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 1, 2018:

I moved 3 hours away once and it was a bad deal for me. He changed once we were in the midst of his people. I just bought a house and my grandkids all live here so I see it as unlikely within next 5 to 8 years. In 5 to 8 years I plan to retire from current job and may be more open to a move. I can always rent my house out

I'm single. Not looking but not opposed to finding or being found.

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 1, 2018:

Me too.

Anyone else hate what they do for a living?

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 1, 2018:

My job is ok. I joke that I've put up with this shit so my children never would. People that would never be nasty to wait staff because they fear spittle in their food have no issue calling me names, or saying I'm full of shit or a hundred other indignities

Does No Kids = Bad Person?

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 1, 2018:

Nonono. As the child of someone who had kids they didn't really want, do NOT have them if you have the slightest doubt as to whether you want them or not.

Star Trek Discovery fans?

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 1, 2018:

I pay 5.99 for it. The commercials are limited

As an atheist/agnostic, what would you do if the Dark Ages were to come back?

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 1, 2018:

Bend over and kiss my ass goodbye since it's too late for me to pretend to believe

The Freebird Club - Social travel & homestay club for people over 50

Lucy_Fehr comments on May 1, 2018:

Will have to check it out since i am a solo traveler

What is your political affiliation?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 30, 2018:

NPA

I'm furious, I just found out that my ex who's told me he can't afford to give me any money towards ...

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 30, 2018:

My son's teeth came in through his palate and had to have mouth gear and braces later. It cost 10k nearly 20 years ago. When I asked his father for help, I was told it had to come out of the child support. This kid was sick all the time because you are not supposed to have holes in your palate. I delivered pizza in addition to my day job for about a year to pay for them His STEP children all had braces. He had another son from before we were married that also needed braces. His wife said no. He agreed. Piece of shit. Both of them

Moving to Crestview, FL in less than a month! Hello, Emerald Coast!

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 30, 2018:

That's barely Florida LOL

Politness and Courtesy

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 30, 2018:

I work in a field where it is acceptable to treat service staff like shit so I go out of my way to be nice to people

Can you guess which one

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 29, 2018:

lol

My meme was deleted? I thought bad taste was encouraged

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 29, 2018:

And I was kicked out of the group. One would think that I would get a warning or an email or something if I violated a rule in a group wanting offensive memes.

Why somebody can't wash his jeep: [youtu.be]

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 29, 2018:

lol

I’ve posted a bit about my friend Bob that recently passed.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 29, 2018:

My father died of a coke overdose. Didnt even know he was a user and I was the only one that didnt know.

I'm asking a question posed to me by my 12 year old as I am interested to read the responses, "why ...

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 29, 2018:

Because it enriches lives in the here and now. Many organisms work together as a group to achieve a common goal But science has shown that altruistic behavior releases endorphins

I went for a walk along the San Andreas fault line yesterday and felt an overwhelming transcendent ...

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 29, 2018:

I was geocaching in the woods once and saw a palm tree that had fallen but had continuted growing and curved upward from a completely prone position. It was as tall as the surrounding trees from the curved part so was probably the longest/ tallest palm I had ever seen. And so many other things but I guess the short answer to your question is nature

The commonplace insanity of customer service.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 29, 2018:

I work in an affluent area but most of our regulars are ancient. There are 4 old men waiting every morning for the doors to open and two or three of them sit on the bench outside all day. One of them is a perv that finds a reason to hug the females and get a handful of boob. We have the old ladies that stroll every aisle every day, cant see shit but drive to and from the store in cars. There are really only 2 regulars that make my day: a former state trooper that lost his leg while apprehending a suspect but has no bitterness and is funny as hell. And an older woman who used to comment on my lavender hair and commiserates with me on how ridiculous it is that I had to give it up. Those old men on the bench irritate me because they just sit there preventing people waiting for the bus to have a seat. I see people with canes leaning against a column or the wall while their asses just sit there all freaking day. And they always have shit to say to people. The other day, I was pushing my cart with only 2 bags in it because I was also eating from a sampler plate. I finished eating and threw the plate away in front of where they sit and grabbed my bags to walk out to the truck and one of those assholes said "why did you bring the cart if you are just gonna carry your bags?" and shook his head at me. Since I was in uniform, I had to be less nasty than I wanted to be, so gave him a look, waited a couple of seconds and said "because my hands were full until just now" what I wanted to say is "why do you sit in front of travel agency all day if you're not gonna take a vacation?" I better not be one of those people when Im elderly.

I did not know where to post this, they don't have a category for something like this.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 29, 2018:

I have some idea of how you feel; The grief for what might have been.

Surgeons Reattached This Girl's Leg Backwards. No, It Wasn't a Mistake [livescience.com]

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 29, 2018:

From reading the headline, I was like wtf but after reading the article, I am thinking "that's cool"

Simple solution ..

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 29, 2018:

LOL

Has anyone tried a home DNA kit?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 27, 2018:

To update my previous post, I just sent in my Ancestry sample in hopes of meeting more relatives since it is more popular with people interested in geneaology

The process of selecting a jury is known as "void dire" which means to speak the truth,but in a ...

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 27, 2018:

Voir Dire

Any GISHers out there?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 27, 2018:

Never heard of it but I am also a geocacher. Can you explain what it is?

Rewrite the "Academic (e.g. science)" category?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 26, 2018:

I agree. I usually don't agree with suggestions for new categories but I too think academics and science could be separated and still work

In the world of online dating and the need to get to know someone ASAP to weed out time wasters or ...

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 26, 2018:

Political position Religious status Don't have a third since most of what I care about is covered by those two

Is anybody curious about how members came up with their online names?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 25, 2018:

It was a chilly october day in southern Indiana when two teens decided to bump uglies in order to get preggers and force their parents to sign permission to get married papers. The resulting progeny was named Sherry

I got my first geocaching injury of the season! I’m hoping there are other geocachers out there so...

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 25, 2018:

Some recent injuries. In the first one, my knee was cut up pretty good but the dude taking the pic didnt notice that the knee wasnt in the shot

I got my first geocaching injury of the season! I’m hoping there are other geocachers out there so...

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 25, 2018:

If you aint bleeding, it's a T1 lol

Hermit that I am, I had never heard of it so I looked it up.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 25, 2018:

I do it solo most of the time so it would be a fine activity for a hermit.

Are there good, safe hiking paths anywhere in Florida?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 23, 2018:

I geocache solo and walk a lot of trails alone. I do carry a walking stick however. Thieves and robbers generally do not hang out in the woods but it is possible you could run into some teenagers although I never have. What I do when Im considering a new area is to pull it up on google maps or earth and switch to satellite view. Often times these "wilderness" areas are within shouting distance of homes. If there is a lot of geocaches hidden within it, it is safe.

Hmmmm.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 23, 2018:

I find the opposite to be true

Any Westworld fans here?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 23, 2018:

Have both recorded. I am about 10 days behind in tv watching

Why astrology is retarded The fact that so many people (mostly female) are so impervious to logic...

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 23, 2018:

Numerous words could have been used rather than retarded. I too, would like to see the stats proving that more women than men believe in astrology

At what age did you find your calling / success / attain your life long goals?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 22, 2018:

I bought house before I was 30 but then fell in love and made a series of mistakes. Got cancer around 10 years later and lost everything I had except my dog and pick up truck Just bought another house at age of 50 but still have same soul sucking, empathy killing, gotta get up at 2 or 3am daily so have no life job.

We all know that it is not uncommon for people to post pictures 15-20 years old as current.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 22, 2018:

Forty years ago at 15 and one year ago at 53

Who else thinks that the point system on this site is too stringent...?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 22, 2018:

I busted my ass to get to level 7 because my favorite color is red. Sure would like a Tshirt though.

It would be a waste, but......

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 22, 2018:

I'd be willing to travel a few hundred miles to see something like this LOL

I'm still trying to wrap my mind around why some people voted for Trump and continue to support him.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 22, 2018:

Hillary was not my first choice and I nearly voted for Stein but in the end I voted for Hillary because a Trump presidency frightened me. I guess the silver lining is that people are becoming aware and involved.

Good Morning, it is interesting, as in "may you live in interesting times," living in the bible belt...

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 22, 2018:

I suppose using the nickname LucyFer doesn't help but it scares off most of the crazies

How and where do you make new friends in the area you live in?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 22, 2018:

Actually, I really haven't. I've tried to reconnect with the friends I had when I lived here before with some limited success but am realizing that we have all moved on. Just gonna fill my time with other pursuits

Anyone else using the app sometimes find that when you pull your phone from your pocket or purse go ...

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 21, 2018:

Nope. Not yet anyway

New here, any MST3k fans?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 21, 2018:

I loved the original back in the day. Haven't seen the new one. MST is probably why I make fun of most movies I watch

Am I the only atheist that doesn’t smoke pot?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 21, 2018:

I don't

Does it bother anybody when you see someone clicking, like, on all posts & comments?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 21, 2018:

Where is the " who has time to count the likes by any one person?" I typically like any post I open and read to acknowledge that I read it. I like replies to my comments for the same reason and I have upon occasion liked every comment made on a post I created. I really do not care how many times someone clicks like

Rocky Horror Picture Show

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 20, 2018:

love it

This morning a coworker and I were sharing our views on gender issues.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 20, 2018:

She still thinks being LGBTQ is a choice

So...the member Desperado. Does anyone else find his name calling and insults offensive?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 20, 2018:

Only the second comment could be considered abusive since he said "you liberals" thereby making it personally directed at someone. Is he following a particular person around and posting these comments? If not, I don't think he should banned just yet.

You do what you have too do.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 20, 2018:

I wish I had followed this advice when I was younger

It is spring in Nebraska and that means.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 20, 2018:

Then there was my first marriage. But I dont think you meant that LOL

It is spring in Nebraska and that means.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 20, 2018:

April 3 tornado in southern Indiana in 1974. Shit I just put two and two together; we moved to Florida that summer LOL Of course, I live on the east coast of Florida so hurricanes abound. The last 2 years near miss cat 5 canes made me get hurricane shutters cuz fuck that shit of worrying about how to get plywood up on my house when my employer forces me to be at work until winds reach 40mph sustained and I work 14 miles from home.

To all the women out there, how many of you would be brave enough to post a picture of yourself with...

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 20, 2018:

All of my pics are me without makeup. I wear makeup so infreqently that I have to have a new tube of mascara each time because it dries up. My opinion of the why and should they use those things would likely offend so I will leave it at "I feel no obligation to use those things"

Are online "friends" really friends?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 20, 2018:

Not so much for me but I can see where it would be a benefit to people with social anxiety issues, communication problems or even an inability to get out

Any suggestions on locating meetings of people like ourselves, thought I would ask before googling ...

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 20, 2018:

slim pickings in my area. The meetup group is nearly all retired elderly academics with PHD's who are good people but I'm 55

Tell us please - The most recent POSITIVE comment someone made about you.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 20, 2018:

A woman at work has told me several times that I am the best she has ever seen in my position. Even better than her deceased best friend that had it proir to me.

If you had to legally change your name what would you switch it to?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 20, 2018:

Lucy Fehr

Have you ever met someone who truly changed your life? tell me a little bit about it

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 18, 2018:

When I was 16, I was sleeping in a hospital lobby and a nurse took me home with her for the night. I dont even know for sure what town we were in but the words snake river come to mind. It was years before I fully understood the risk she took since she had an infant at the time.

When you are involved with someone, what is your comfort level with how often you see them?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 18, 2018:

A couple of times a week. More if something is going on. Less if the relationship sucks. I kinda knew I should end it with my ex when I found excuses to not see him for 2 weeks. Had to force myself to call him. We lived 7 miles apart But I know people that see each other every day and seem happy

So in order to get a job, I colored my hair tonight. I think I look younger?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 18, 2018:

I started dying my hair 6 years ago after we got a new manager younger than my daughter. He was replacing people because he wanted a fresh look. That means younger. I started going gray in my 20s and was used to seeing it. Everyone said I had a nice shade of gray but the young people see old. I am nearly 55 and pass for low 40s all the time. In fact a 38 year old tried to pick me up this past weekend. Hauled ass when I mentioned I had grandchildren. Pic taken last night- Im the one in the back.

What is your M.O. with receiving "butt dials" from those you're potentially interested in?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 18, 2018:

Same as any other butt dial; hello? hello? hang up

How Y’all, Youse and You Guys Talk.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 18, 2018:

I took one of these last year and it said Wisconson where I have never been. This one says Greensboro, Raleigh, Richmond where I have also not been except to drive through on my way to Ohio. There were several questions where I use more than one answer so I suspect that made a difference as well. I was born in southern rural Indiana but moved to Florida when I was 12. Have lived here since mid 70s

Customer service point of view.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 17, 2018:

This! I've had a man raise his cane at me, been called a liar too many times to list, been waved over, fingers snapped at me, etc. All manner of comments and hand gestures intended to humiliate me by bullies that know they can get away with it. In the past, men have "accidently" touched my ass and/or breasts, grab me by the arm or shoulder to keep me where they want me. make comments about how I must be in bed. And I am expected to not only tolerate it but actually fucking thank them for shopping there. Half the time, the store management is treating the female staff the same damn way.

Has anyone tried a home DNA kit?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 17, 2018:

My search started with an interesting story: my mother was given up for adoption in 1946 at the age of 9 months because her birth mother's husband came back from overseas and demanded she do so since he had been gone too long to be the father. Birth mother claimed father was an incarcerated native american. Since my mother had coal black hair and I have olive skin, it was believed. except we are 99.99% white. My mother was born in a town that has a population of under 1000 today. Much smaller then. The surname of the couple that adopted my mother was Cox. One of my DNA cousins had an uncle with last name of Cox. Same general area It is possible my mother was adopted by her own father. Who had black hair.

Would you rather be crazy rich or deeply in love?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 17, 2018:

Crazy Rich- I can rent all the love I want LOL

Things that people put in dating profiles that are pet peeves. Discuss.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 17, 2018:

Shirtless in every pic. Or holding booze in every pic. And the phrase "if you don't look like your picture, you're buying me drinks until you do"

Greetings! I enjoy hiking and geocaching, mostly in the eastern Missouri area where l live.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 16, 2018:

Im a geocacher but live in Florida.

How many of you older people listen to current pop music, or is it only "noise" to you?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Apr 15, 2018:

I listen primarily to classic rock but there are some current artists I like such as Lady Gaga and Pink. I also like Meghan Trainer and some of Bruno Mars stuff.