When you wake up and she's your first thought..........

Nukdookum comments on Dec 4, 2018:

I do love this feeling.

We've all been here.

Nukdookum comments on Dec 4, 2018:

From both sides of the table. If I'm going to agree to the rules I will follow them but sometimes playing with a bratty partner or being bratty with a top can be great fun.

Thanks so much for your counsel in my post yesterday. New day. New me. [youtube.com]

Nukdookum comments on Dec 4, 2018:

I am so glad to hear that you got through that very difficult situation. ?

I would. Would you?

Nukdookum comments on Dec 4, 2018:

I have. I will again. I like driving and frequently travel more than 200 miles just to see friends. For a potential partner I should be willing to do more than I would for my friends.

Morrigan Hel. Can't find the pic I want. She is/was married to Adrian Erlandsson. [k19.kn3.net]

Nukdookum comments on Dec 4, 2018:

Oh wow. Yeah I like that picture. She looks great.

Wow! That's a sexy dress... and a sexy lady... even her shoes are sexy!

Nukdookum comments on Dec 4, 2018:

Love the shoes!

Oof. Kendrick Sampson.

Nukdookum comments on Dec 3, 2018:

Oh! Hello.

Keanu Reeves circa Matrix is hot. That is all.

Nukdookum comments on Dec 3, 2018:

I concur

Many of us think that men and women, on an average, have similar sex drives.

Nukdookum comments on Dec 3, 2018:

I argue that the desire is equal. The ability to take by men gives them the confidence and privilege to visit violence on women. The societal shaming that makes it wrong for women to have multiple partners by calling them sluts but idolizes men for the same behavior creates a situation where women will act upon their desires less often than men.

How lucky am I to have met this amazing guy! I couldn’t be happier.

Nukdookum comments on Dec 3, 2018:

Congratulations! I'm happy for both of you.

True for me. Nothing comes close to immersing myself in the music, the crowd, the movement.

Nukdookum comments on Dec 3, 2018:

Yes. It is one of my favorite moments.

Sepia-Toned Seduction

Nukdookum comments on Dec 3, 2018:

Her look is enticing. I do like the sepia effect

From My Personal Photo Stash: Hungarian/Swedish Goddess Facebook Friend showing off gorgeous tat ...

Nukdookum comments on Dec 3, 2018:

That is a beautiful tattoo.

Infrared photo: Angel in a cemetery

Nukdookum comments on Dec 3, 2018:

I love the subject matter and style of this.

The only thing worse than women posting kissy faces in their dating profile is when guys do it.

Nukdookum comments on Dec 3, 2018:

I'm not a fan of the selfie with disorder in the background. Sure, I do like the candid shots of people doing housework, those can have some chaos in them. But a profile pic shouldn't advertise that you're a slob.

Okay boys and girls, Aunt Mary needs some advice.

Nukdookum comments on Dec 3, 2018:

I agree with all the other folks who commented. I can understand if you were wanting him to go to an actual holiday party and he refused citing "I don't celebrate holidays" when all you are asking is for him to come over and spend time alone with you, there is something else going on. In my world it doesn't matter what his actual reason is. He had an opportunity to be with you and is choosing "not you". If his reason were "I have to work that night." or "I already promised my mother/friend/someone important that I would help them that day", even an "I have to be home and up early on New Year's Day" would be acceptable. The "I don't do holidays" is lame and stinks of another reason he doesn't want to tell you about. It could be a different relationship. It could be something he is embarrassed about. It could be any number of reasons. The basic fact is that he had a secret that he isn't willing to share with you. If I've been seeing someone for more than three months there should be no secrets. If they are still unsure about the relationship that far in, I don't got time for that shit. I'd walk away because they aren't giving me the same amount of respect that I am giving them.

As much as this is a site for informed intellectual discussion it also runs a side function as a ...

Nukdookum comments on Dec 3, 2018:

I have met three people that I'm attracted to from this site and find a few more that I haven't yet met to be very interesting and want to get to know them as friends. I won't name them to protect their privacy. One was 800 miles away. I have visited them twice and plan on visiting them in the future. After the first visit it became apparent that we were not a good match for a long term romantic relationship. We are still friends and because I do value my friends we will continue to be friends for a long time. I met another person that I fell in love with. They live 400 miles away and after the second meeting it became apparent that a romantic relationship was not possible with them either. We are still friends for the exact same reasons I'm still friends with the first. Yes. I can be friends with someone I have romantic feelings for and not let that fact make things awkward or weird. The third person I've met lives 70 miles from me and I'm attracted to them. So far things seem to be going well. Now I know that unlike many people out there I am willing to travel much farther to meet people. I drive 30 miles to work four days a week. I routinely travel 30+ miles to visit friends and eat dinner. I have friends that live in Knoxville, TN which is 200+ miles away which I see a dozen times a year for a day or weekend. I have in the past driven to Alabama and South Carolina to meet people for dinner which I am attracted to with the intent of dating them. Some of the people I know and meet during my daily life live many hours away. Thankfully my job would allow me to work in Atlanta four days a week, work remotely on Friday from anywhere my heart desires, and spend the weekend with my "family". Obviously my situation is different than most so I don't expect everyone to have similar positive results. I have higher standards for my eventual partner so I need to increase the sample size of possible partners by extending my search radius. So far it seems to be working just fine for me.

Yes, take care of yourself...

Nukdookum comments on Dec 3, 2018:

One of the hardest lessons i had to learn as a people pleaser. I can't give my best if I'm not operating at 100%. Taking care of myself allows me to better serve others.

I love me some eggs!

Nukdookum comments on Dec 3, 2018:

But... All of their eggs are in one basket. They need to remove those tops and carry some eggs in each of those "baskets" to be safer.

Lol! “A forum for women and men to exchange thoughts about intimacy and relationships.

Nukdookum comments on Dec 3, 2018:

I agree that I would need to see specifics before being able to give my opinion. What I do know is that women have been downtrodden for centuries. I do understand that some men feel threatened by the current atmosphere of equality for all. Yes, sometimes I do feel that some arguments can be over the top but having lived for half a century with my white male privilege I am fine if things seem a bit unbalanced towards women for a few years while we adjust to the new paradigm.

"Baby, It's Cold Outside".

Nukdookum comments on Dec 3, 2018:

Society changes. Things which were acceptable yesterday are no longer acceptable because we now realize that pressuring people into having sex is wrong. Things which glorify inappropriate behavior from the past should be removed from the public eye. Keep them in museums to be appreciated for what they were at the time but let's stop showing our youth that inappropriate behavior is socially acceptable just because "that's the way it's always been."

What's the worst reaction you've gotten to one of your kinks?

Nukdookum comments on Dec 3, 2018:

Worst reaction: "You're broken. What happened to you that made you this way? I think you should see a therapist and get that fixed." Best reaction: "Ok. Sure, I'll go to Naked Thanksgiving with you. It sounds like fun!"

What was your biggest fight with a Significant Other?

Nukdookum comments on Dec 3, 2018:

In the past I had these more often and more frequently. They got resolved when I calmed down enough to discuss the situation rationally. I always learn something from these types of things. If you don't learn from your mistakes you are doomed to repeat them. Today I have a much better command of the English language, I am much more in touch with my feelings, and I can express myself very well concerning all things. Most importantly I am able to discuss things without getting angry at my partner or making them feel self conscious about the topic. These traits make conflict resolution so much easier. I doubt I will ever have another fight with a significant other. Disagreements will get resolved before they reach fight level.

Question 27: If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would ...

Nukdookum comments on Dec 3, 2018:

If I were to meet someone who is a potential partner I would want them to know that human connection is really important to me. That my close friends are like family to me and that I am always going to be there for my friends in need. I would want them to get along with my friends and enjoy doing most of the things I get together with friends to do. I would insure that I respect their choice in friends and would never ask them to choose between myself and their friends. I would explain to them how important consent was to me and let them know that I would never judge them for anything they said it did unless it was cruel to other living creatures. I would tell them that communication is important and that they should feel free to bring up any subject without fear of repercussions. We need to be able to talk about things which bother us so that they can be resolved before they become to large to fix. Lastly I might tell them to watch Sense8 to understand the level of connection I crave with those closest to me.

Every artist should post this to their page.

Nukdookum comments on Dec 3, 2018:

I do love the original work that I bought from an artist that I admire. It was expensive but I know the years of effort that went into the painting.

I do, because I have old age pain... and to keep from killing stupid people.

Nukdookum comments on Dec 3, 2018:

Not killing stupid people is an excellent reason.

Good morning everyone! The weekend is over, grab some coffee or whatever and get up!!! Have a super...

Nukdookum comments on Dec 3, 2018:

Good morning.

This would be most of us in this group. I know I would.

Nukdookum comments on Dec 3, 2018:

If there were snow on the ground I would definitely do this.

When somebody is a believer then he/she told you that he/she will pray for you.

Nukdookum comments on Dec 3, 2018:

I usually go with "Thank you". I may not agree with their choice in belief system but the sentiment behind that phrase is heartfelt and doesn't need to be punished.

I went to a holiday concert with a "friend with benefits".

Nukdookum comments on Dec 3, 2018:

You can use those things to restrain someone but you also have to remember that they are anchored down and can't be pulled around on the bed. Also, no matter what material you use you must always check to insure that the binding is not cutting off circulation. It isn't enough to check Immediately after the tie, every five minutes or so you need to feel the fingers and toes of the bound extremities to make sure they aren't getting cold. If they are cold then blood isn't getting to them and you need to release the binding Immediately. Sure being in the moment is great but you need to be informed otherwise you can cause serious damage. You don't want to break your toys. Learn the proper use and care of them.

Leave your past in the past ?

Nukdookum comments on Dec 3, 2018:

Great advice

Show me your teeth..

Nukdookum comments on Dec 3, 2018:

I like teeth.

At the airport waiting to board my flight to Sicily by way of Amsterdam.

Nukdookum comments on Dec 3, 2018:

Have a great trip.

Lets hear your opinion

Nukdookum comments on Dec 3, 2018:

I have before and I will again

A new take on the sexy librarian.

Nukdookum comments on Dec 3, 2018:

I have some overdue books. I should be punished...

Simply cute...

Nukdookum comments on Dec 3, 2018:

She is a cutie!

How are you supposed to date when everyone you go out with thinks that they are the only one you're ...

Nukdookum comments on Dec 2, 2018:

I had one woman tell me I wasn't serious about her because I was chatting with multiple women and had friends with benefits. I hadn't even been on a date with her. Some people are hard wired that way. Let them get mad. Do what you need to do. If they don't agree with your dating style, they probably aren't a good match anyway. You do you and you'll find a partner.

Never ever lol

Nukdookum comments on Dec 2, 2018:

I learned this the hard way. Tap the sack, sure. Hit it? I can't take that much pain.

As a follow-up to my previous post, here's me doing laundry. Can I get some honest feedback?

Nukdookum comments on Dec 2, 2018:

You look good. I love the sly smile and mischievous look.

Wisdom! ?

Nukdookum comments on Dec 2, 2018:

Oh this just made my day!

SHAVED GENITALS?

Nukdookum comments on Dec 2, 2018:

I like the way shaved genitals feel. I find it is difficult to shave around my nutsack without stretching and pulling things in odd directions but hey a man's got to do what a man's got to do.

Regarding my previous post, I'm sorry I bothered you guys with it.

Nukdookum comments on Dec 2, 2018:

No apology necessary. You were down and needed to hear that you were loved. I'm glad that you found hope and will be enjoying yet another day in the presence of us "lovable bastards". You may have found your tribe!

Good Sunday everyone! Chat room open tonight.....

Nukdookum comments on Dec 2, 2018:

Ok. I might break that one but I'd have fun breaking it. She is the reason the phrase "I hate to see her go but I love watching her walk away" was created.

I tried ballroom dancing last night.

Nukdookum comments on Dec 2, 2018:

Happy birthday!

Question 26: Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share ... “

Nukdookum comments on Dec 2, 2018:

I wish I had someone with whom I could share my outings with friends. All of my friends. Camping buddies, dinner parties, gaming friends, body positive parties, and those times when I just want to lay back on the beach, stare up at the star filled sky, and pick the one we most want to travel to

Sparkle sparkle

Nukdookum comments on Dec 2, 2018:

Glitter is the herpes of crafting.

Submissive types : what do you consider the most effective disciplines?

Nukdookum comments on Dec 2, 2018:

Disciplines as in punishment for things which I did wrong? Spanking is out though bratty play can be fun. I had a top once explain to me that she didn't punish. She used behavior modification. The goal of discipline is to change behavior. You either want to avoid bad behavior or you want to instill good behavior. I have found that to avoid bad behavior "nothing" works the best. Once, when I was new to this I had received some instructions. I had come over and the instructions were to use the restroom, disrobe, lay on the bed, attach the ankle cuffs which were obviously tied to the bed, turn on the music, put in ear buds, and wear the blindfold. She would be home shortly... I was paranoid and made sure the house was empty. It wasn't. She was hiding in the back room waiting to have some fun once I was properly immobilized. I had trust issues. She sent me home after explaining why nothing more was going to happen that evening. I learned to follow directions after that. In order to instill good behavior, model the discipline after the behavior needed. Once I forgot to get a door for my partner. A behavior that she had specifically asked for me to do when we were out together. I wasn't thinking about her needs so she had me do this. Every morning for a week I was to get the breakfast she had requested the night before and deliver it to her house at precisely 8:00am (my work schedule was flexible so this was within my ability to accomplish without penalizing my ability to generate income). I was to replate it onto her own dishes and serve it to her at the dining table. Every two hours at different specified times during the day I had to text her a specific message. I had a three minute leeway on those times. After work I was to come to her house and tell her everything I liked about a body part of hers that she would indicate upon my arrival. I basically spent that entire week thinking about her, focused on her needs, and understanding how to go about my own life while never forgetting that she was the most important person in my life. That definitely changed my behavior, which if course was the goal.

Feeling a little teary-eyed about a blanket I just finished crocheting.

Nukdookum comments on Dec 2, 2018:

This is a beautiful thing.

What do you think?

Nukdookum comments on Dec 2, 2018:

I would go to that restaurant.

Or has a beautiful soul but might not have the perfect body.

Nukdookum comments on Dec 2, 2018:

I seek out beautiful people. I never leave a friend.

I need study more maps.

Nukdookum comments on Dec 2, 2018:

I love it. Around the world in 80 minutes!

What do you think?

Nukdookum comments on Dec 2, 2018:

Great picture of the back of her phone. It would have been better if she had made an effort to put the phone out of frame.

There's just something sooo sexy about a woman puffing on a stogie

Nukdookum comments on Dec 2, 2018:

I love the look on her face. Such sublime trust and expectation in that gaze upwards.

There is something very sexy about this picture.

Nukdookum comments on Dec 2, 2018:

Her smile is genuine, her gaze is inviting. The knee in the foreground whispers that she isn't wearing pants and the slightly mussed hair hints at the reason why. This is an alluring photo and I would go with this woman wherever she wanted to take me.

Question 25: This one's just too cumbersome (“Make three true 'we' statements each.

Nukdookum comments on Dec 2, 2018:

To avoid being graphic in this venue I am going to give a general description of the to ten sweetest things partners have done for me over the years. When I think of the things which mean the most to me they are simple yet profoundly personal experiences which may or may not appeal to most people. Invariably they all involve a kiss. When my partner surprises me by recalling a conversation that we had weeks or months prior and acts upon that information followed by or including a kiss, those are the sweetest moments in my life. They are sweet to me because my partner was listening. Not just hearing the words but understanding me as a person and showing me that they truly get me at my core.

I have been trying to figure out if I should post this and let alone where to put my dating life in ...

Nukdookum comments on Dec 2, 2018:

I'm curious. You said that the bunny onesie on Notes was the sexiest thing you saw all night. My question is this was sexier than the two topless women making out on the bed? It's ok if that is the case. I recently saw a seriously sexy shark onesie so I know those can be sexy.

Phat Fanny Granny

Nukdookum comments on Dec 1, 2018:

I could get into that! I like the round ass. Now I'm hungry

Hey all! I'm going to be in Greenville, SC this evening, and West Palm Beach, FL, Sunday through ...

Nukdookum comments on Dec 1, 2018:

I am already booked this Sunday. Hopefully someone is available.

So very sexy!

Nukdookum comments on Dec 1, 2018:

Oh the things I could do with that.

This was fun on FB, but I'm sure you guys will make me squirm. yay!

Nukdookum comments on Dec 1, 2018:

Swimming or sewing.

Not everyone's cup of tea (from what I understand), but I've always had a thing for Dominic Purcell.

Nukdookum comments on Dec 1, 2018:

He looks good. I wouldn't kick him out of bed.

Come on men. I know this turns you on!

Nukdookum comments on Dec 1, 2018:

I love that the shoes match the outfits.

I'm considering doing a photo shoot of myself tentatively (and only half-jokingly) named The Clothes...

Nukdookum comments on Dec 1, 2018:

It is always interesting to see other members.

I reached Level 8! THANK YOU, Sexual Deviants'.

Nukdookum comments on Dec 1, 2018:

Congrats. You've obviously worked hard to get there!

For the ladies...

Nukdookum comments on Dec 1, 2018:

I like it. Probably not for me but I can window shop.

Someone who really loves you....❤❤❤

Nukdookum comments on Dec 1, 2018:

Yes they do. That kind of person is a keeper

M. Shadows of Avenged Sevenfold ?

Nukdookum comments on Dec 1, 2018:

Oh I do like the tats. He would be fun.

Someone has potty fingers

Nukdookum comments on Nov 30, 2018:

Put a plate of glass on it and it would make a great coffee table.

Thank you I just found this group a few days ago.

Nukdookum comments on Nov 30, 2018:

Glad to be of service.

More London Andrews ❤

Nukdookum comments on Nov 30, 2018:

So fucking gorgeous!

Scotch? Straight up or on the rocks? Straight up please!

Nukdookum comments on Nov 30, 2018:

Looks like it's on his rocks.

What are the biggest/most effective turn ons for you in a person?

Nukdookum comments on Nov 30, 2018:

Adventurous.

I just saw Downsizing.

Nukdookum comments on Nov 30, 2018:

What I took away from that movie is that there are eight toes of fuck. Love fuck, hate fuck, sex-only fuck, break-up fuck, make-up fuck, drunk fuck, buddy fuck, and pity fuck

Oooooh my! Scarlett Johansen with a more natural red and smoky eyes. So sultry!

Nukdookum comments on Nov 30, 2018:

Yes!

Would you date someone with herpes? Considering everything else about them was great...

Nukdookum comments on Nov 30, 2018:

I was watching Adam Ruins Everything. S1E10 had some interesting information on the disease. Nothing concrete about how it is spread but some good information about how common it is and what health risks are associated with it.

Bow-chicka-wow-wow! Anybody got any adventures planned this weekend?

Nukdookum comments on Nov 30, 2018:

This weekend I have a wedding to go to on Saturday. Sunday I'm eating lunch with a couple of friends, taking one of them to the airport, grabbing dinner with a different friend who will then be accompanying me to see Black Violin in concert at the Atlanta Symphony Hall. There could be shenanigans but it is more likely that it will be a quiet weekend on that front.

Which was your favorite Saturday Morning Show?

Nukdookum comments on Nov 30, 2018:

Superman

Rainbow!!!

Nukdookum comments on Nov 30, 2018:

The hair looks great. I know it's not the reason for the photo but that corset and dress are fantastic! I can't tell if the semi circles are a tattoo or part of the outfit. Edit: Upon closer inspection it looks like a very nice undergarment. I will be doing some research later to see if I can find where it is sold.

Guess who hit level 8 this month?

Nukdookum comments on Nov 30, 2018:

Congrats!

Another day dawns in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico.

Nukdookum comments on Nov 30, 2018:

Nice view. Sounds like a relaxing place to visit.

Family emergency going on.

Nukdookum comments on Nov 30, 2018:

I think my relationship with my mother sucks. I had to cut ties because of stupid drama and I'm ok with that. I wish it could be better but I have tried in the past to repair it and all I get is more drama and justification for it.

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

Nukdookum comments on Nov 30, 2018:

I don't care if it matches. I mean I have friends that dye their hair, armpits and bush included. I find that to be really exciting, electric blue everywhere.

That look

Nukdookum comments on Nov 30, 2018:

Yeah. I've seen that look before. I wouldn't mind at all seeing it again.

? Help! I'm all wet!

Nukdookum comments on Nov 30, 2018:

Oh hot damn. This is my kind of sexy.

Nice smile

Nukdookum comments on Nov 30, 2018:

Yes. That smile is inviting.

Black Female Atheists!?

Nukdookum comments on Nov 30, 2018:

I know a bunch. Maybe a dozen.

What age range most turns you on? I find myself attracted to a large range.

Nukdookum comments on Nov 29, 2018:

It's the intellect and the attitude not an age that turns me on.

I'm sorry for posting this here, but most folks i know are in this group.

Nukdookum comments on Nov 29, 2018:

You have many friends here. Please don't use a permanent solution to resolve a temporary situation. If you don't want to call the number already listed below you can text CONNECT to 741741 anywhere in the US. I would take your own advice. Before making a really difficult decision based on depression please seek professional help and talk to someone.

What was the name of the first person you fell in love with?

Nukdookum comments on Nov 29, 2018:

First love? I didn't know what love was at the time but in kindergarten there was a girl Kelly. Then in second grade Yvette. Linda in highschool. Almost married that woman but didn't. Evie was the first time I fell for someone and I know that it was love and not infatuation. Since my divorce over a decade ago there have only a few. Kim, Robin, and Jessica.

Question 23: How close and warm is your family?

Nukdookum comments on Nov 29, 2018:

Sadly I do not. I was raised by a single mother who had to work long hours to take care of me and my siblings. She wasn't present some of the time through no fault of her own. She was a serious believer and instilled (in my case tried) the fear of God in us. She was intelligent and never once tried to dissuade my thirst for knowledge. I haven't spoken to my family since 1997, well the last letter I sent them was that spring. I saw them last in 1996. I just decided the drama was to much to deal with and that I needed to surround myself with positive influences. Sometimes I wonder what they are up to but my curiosity is never enough to want to re-establish a line of communication. That ship has sailed and I'm a much better person with my chosen family and friends.

Question 22: Here's another one we'll have to rework: "Alternate sharing something you consider a ...

Nukdookum comments on Nov 29, 2018:

It is hard to pick. I know a bit about many of the members here. I'm going to choose someone who I don't normally interact with just to challenge myself. @TristanNuvo - I find him to be very empathetic, he has a big heart and cares about people. I admire that. He is talented and well spoken. Everything I've seen him comment on had been great to read. He is perceptive. There have been times when I've gained insight based on the things he wrote. Finally he has a deliciously smoldering gaze. I mean that as a compliment and not as a come-on.

Something occurred to me recently that you guys might appreciate.

Nukdookum comments on Nov 29, 2018:

I think the answer is obvious. The "best" people whether monogamous or polyamorous are taken because there are good catches. You have to get them when they are looking before anyone else snatches them up. They are usually in relationships precisely because they are "good". I'm guessing that they too know that they are good catches and have higher standards than the not-so-good ones. If you want to catch someone "good" you need to show them that you bring "good" to the table yourself otherwise they will look right past you in their search for an equal.

What a sultry look....

Nukdookum comments on Nov 29, 2018:

I do like the look she is giving the camera.

Does anyone else enjoy watching gay (male) porn?

Nukdookum comments on Nov 29, 2018:

Yes. Gay porn is hot. I like porn where there is more touching and kissing and paying attention to non genital portions of the body.

Good morning all! ?

Nukdookum comments on Nov 29, 2018:

This weekend I'm taking a friend to a concert at the Atlanta Symphony Hall. A bit of culture to help celebrate my upcoming birthday.

Lightly sanded...

Nukdookum comments on Nov 29, 2018:

Nice one!

Be honest now.

Nukdookum comments on Nov 29, 2018:

Yes. I just did this last Friday!

This is so me, who else can relate? ???

Nukdookum comments on Nov 29, 2018:

Pie!

Happy to be home....?

Nukdookum comments on Nov 29, 2018:

Sexy but not my cup of tea. Leigh can have her.

How long could you resist this look?

Nukdookum comments on Nov 29, 2018:

Forever. I would break that. I like to play rough and she doesn't look like she could take it.