This guy's offending all the right people these days.

Nukdookum comments on Jul 19, 2018:

I have no words...

Corrected: The answer is B.

Nukdookum comments on Jul 19, 2018:

I was young and curious once. I'm still curios but not so young anymore. Back when I was a young man I thought there was a formula, some secret sequence of moves or activities that would unlock pleasure in a woman. Silly me, I know. One day I was playing a game online and made some flippant comment about sex to a fellow player. She revealed that she wouldn't know because she was a lesbian. Right..ok so now I had to ask. So what is it that women like? How do I please a woman? I wanted to know the trick to making my partner happy!. Her response was another question: "What do men like?". It depends, some men are different...yup I had made a fatal error in thinking that all women were just a carbon copy. Man did I have a lot to learn. That simple conversation I had opened up the world to me. I realized that on order to be a good lover I needed to use my empathy skills, skills I hadn't developed and which were sorely in need of a boost. Over time I have fine tuned those skills focusing on her heart beat, her breathing, the temperature of her skin, the way her muscles tense or relax under my hands or pressed against my body, the way she moves grinding into me or pulling away. For me now it is impossible to ignore these signals, the joy of experiencing all of this communication during sex is far too great for me to not :listen" to what her body is telling me. Now that I have embraced being bisexual, I use those same signals to understand what he is telling me was well. Oh yeah, and if they are vocal that helps too.

Corrected: The answer is B.

Nukdookum comments on Jul 18, 2018:

Putting this here as a place holder. I don't have time to adequately respond right now. I'll be back later to enlighten or entertain.

Good morning! Today's somewhat of a special anniversary for me, as I left my hometown Nuernberg, ...

Nukdookum comments on Jul 18, 2018:

Happy anniversary.

You ARE so beautiful!

Nukdookum comments on Jul 18, 2018:

I have often compared the broken that we feel we are to the Japanese art of Kintsugi. Each time our heart breaks whether leaving a hole or shattered into a million pieces. It gets put back together with gold filling making it a unique and beautiful work of art.

Some helpful advice.

Nukdookum comments on Jul 18, 2018:

I fully agree. However in also going to flip it around and suggest the we ask ourselves how many of our friends do we like and how many do we value? I aim to always have more friends that I value than friends who value me. In my world view you first have to be a good friend in order to have good friends.

I have a question for the ladies. Why do so few women go “full bush” these days?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 18, 2018:

Last Tango in Paris!

Anyone interested in global politics?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 18, 2018:

I do like to have these discussions. Where do you want to start?

How do you like your burrito? ?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 18, 2018:

Let's go get some burritos together and also Arms around a person wrapped in a warm hug, like a burrito.

I am new here and welcome any suggestions. Peace

Nukdookum comments on Jul 17, 2018:

Be yourself. People respond to a genuine request or question better than if you are trying to wing it. Posting and commenting make points. The more you do that the more features you get access to. Filling out your profile is another good way to get points. Points won't get you a toaster, so don't think about saving them. Just post, have fun, join conversations, and meet new friends.

My huge pet peeve is that people act to coy on obvious hook ups.

Nukdookum comments on Jul 17, 2018:

I am a huge fan of the honesty model. I will mirror what others have said, honesty doesn't equate to guaranteed sex. The person you are asking is going to be honest as well and you do need to be prepared to get a negative answer. Don't think that it was the honesty that failed, that person may just have not been in the mood that night. I have been in a bad mental state, having had a bad day at work, clothes don't fit perfectly, perhaps hangry because I had to skip lunch. I could be intensely attracted to you and genuinely flattered that you asked me but I am still going to politely decline because I am feeling decidedly un-sexy and don't want to underperform giving you a horrible first impression of me. It is true that the largest sex organ in the body is the brain, and if it isn't feeling well, all of the other sex organs are not going to behave properly. As for the aversion to casual sex no matter the how the approach is made, I think that it can be a terrifying experience. Performance anxiety is real and extends into the realm of sex. "What if I say yes to this thing I want but then when we get to the deed I mess it up? I don't think I can live with the humiliation of it all. No thank you". Worse, what if you do it and feel guilty because of the lack of emotional connection. Maybe you're in an open relationship but can't step out on your partner if though it is perfectly fine with them that you do, your monogamous upbringing has a stronger hold on your psyche than than you thought. There a ton of reasons why someone might not want the 'prized' casual sex when it is offered to them. Because I like sharing and this is the deviant corner I have a story that may illustrate this concept a bit more. I had just started seeing a woman who was into the BDSM world. I was new and was glad to have her be my guide. I was on my way home one night after watching a movie with her and had called her to chat during the 30 minute drive. At some point she remarked that she was having a hard time shutting down her brain to fall asleep. I quipped that I knew a remedy for that, implying that sexual release might help if I were allowed to come back and help her out with that. She agreed but on one condition, that I not turn on the lights, not say anything, and then leave immediately after I had finished and lock the door on my way out. On the one hand I was pleased that I was going to get to spend some more time with her. The very next thought in my head though was: "What if it isn't her?" I thought I could recognize her in the dark, but without seeing (She had a hard time sleeping and had installed black out curtains in her room, it was literally pitch black in there) without hearing her voice, could I really be sure? Of course, we were dating, surely she wouldn't...

Live Your Life and Fuck Everybody Else

Nukdookum comments on Jul 17, 2018:

It is such a freeing feeling when you stop giving a fuck. I ran out of fucks to give a few yeas ago and I am living high on life right now!

I'm not here to brag. ( thats arrogant ) not who I am. Any ways. Any body else have this?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 17, 2018:

I typically have control issues. I can't relax enough to ejaculate whether by mouth or insertion (yeah, left it vague because there are many places I like to insert) and I have to really aim to let go. I suspect, if weed did anything for me, that pharmaceuticals would help me achieve the relaxation necessary. Now that said, I was at a party last Saturday with friends which became a very adult party after midnight. The Birthday girl, we'll call her 'Cheryl' asked if she could perform oral on me. Yup, my friends and I are polite like that, consent is very high on my priority list in all things, specially with sex. Well Damn, I didn't think that was possible it had been so long since I had cum from oral. The moral of the story is of course: "If at first you don't succeed, try try again."

Hard work is unamerican, one nation under marx

Nukdookum comments on Jul 17, 2018:

I certainly hope this is meant to offend like the group wants and not a real opinion.

Someone sometimes❤

Nukdookum comments on Jul 17, 2018:

I've been in a place a few times where I am really not looking for the commitment of a romantic relationship but an occasional bout of physical intimacy is just what the doctor ordered. In those times I am more than welcome to be someone's sometimes. I just need them to know that this isn't a forever arrangement, that at any point in the future my needs may change which will mean this thing will end.

Other posts brought up hook ups, watching and sharing porn.

Nukdookum comments on Jul 17, 2018:

Porn I like YuVuTu, Redtube, and I really love the website Suicide Girls. I know that last one isn't specifically porn it is full of beautiful women and designed to promote body positive feelings. Yup, I have a paid subscription because I think we should all see ourselves as beautiful people. That and I really love tattoos. I don't do hookups. I have many FWB for that kind of thing.

Have you ever seen anyone you know on a porn site or a nude picture of on the internet?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 17, 2018:

Can't say that I have.

If someone was to honestly compliment you, what would your response be?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 17, 2018:

I have learned to say thank you. It is hard getting past all of the negative things we hear and believe about ourselves over the years. I want to say that for me the good things that I want to be: Generous, Kind, Always ready to help out, Good listener, Compassionate, Good kisser, are the things which I think are true compliments when someone notices those things about me. The things which I don't really believe about myself but know intellectually to be true: I have a nice smile, that someone thinks I'm handsome, that I am really good with people, that I dress well, those are the things that I think are being said just to be polite, or as Lookin4Love said, that they are being sarcastic. I know that there are people who like sorts of different things and that statistically there are a large number of people out there that will find me attractive, but because I have some issues in believing that about myself it is harder to believe that others do to.

What's the best breakup song ever?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 17, 2018:

Each relationship is different for me so each one will have a different theme. When I got divorced it was Linkin Park. I felt their music really summed up my feelings of needing my individually back, that we were always fighting, that she was trying to get under my skin. Yeah they were my divorce sound track. Two years later when I left the wonderfully wild and adventuresome woman I had been with for the past 15 months, it was KMFDM, Disturbed, and oddly Muse which resonated with my soul at the time.

Since this group is mostly men (but to the women members of S.

Nukdookum comments on Jul 17, 2018:

It's about perspective. I haven't seen one woman on this site indicate that they weren't down for "fucking". Being intelligent human beings with feelings and an active social life they aren't going to jump into bed with random people they met online. Take some time, get to know them, create a rapport with them, work at actually wanting to be with them because you find them interesting as people, and then you might find they are quite warm and welcoming. If you treat them like sex dolls you will find that they don't like being treated as objects. Imagine that, discovering that women are people. Sorry for the snark but I find this attitude disrespectful and extremely short sighted.

Just thought you might find the title of this song (written during the Obama admin.

Nukdookum comments on Jul 17, 2018:

Great song. I thoroughly enjoyed it.

Where's your favorite place to bite? Be bitten?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 17, 2018:

My favorite place to bite is on an ass cheek. I love the feel of fleshy firmness there. For the giggles it creates in the receiver, the inside of the thigh just a few inches south of the genitals and at the base of the neck directly below the ear. As for being bitten, and I do know that I am almost unique in this regard, in addition to all of the places I mentioned above and at the top of my list is on my cock. Oh the sweet raspy sensation of teeth being dragged along the shaft slowly and deliberately. Also biting down anywhere on the shaft with moderate pressure is sure to increase the state of arousal.

I don't know about that. But I do prefer women with more teeth than tattoos.

Nukdookum comments on Jul 17, 2018:

On the contrary, I absolutely love tattoos on my partners. I love that each one has a story. I love the way people choose to express themselves. Seeing someone, any gender, express themselves through tattoos, clothing choices, unique hair styles, piercings, or whatever, I find extremely sexy.

So when you transition on Horemone Replacement Therpy (HRT) you're libido dwindles for a few weeks ...

Nukdookum comments on Jul 17, 2018:

I love you for sharing this. Thank you and congratulations!

So, who else here finds tickling sexy?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 17, 2018:

I have used it as a form of torture/pleasure for partners but it's not a fetish for me.

Love Maher . Watch it every Monday!

Nukdookum comments on Jul 17, 2018:

I do like him a lot. I agree with him most of the time. However, not to stir up trouble, but I think John Oliver is much funnier and much more on point about politics.

Do you like to have background music when you have sex?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 17, 2018:

I don't like background music, I'd rather have porn (edited, dang auto correct) playing where I can hear other people getting off around me. Though I will say that at parties there is music in the background and it doesn't distract.

Master Masturbater: Deviant or Normal?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 17, 2018:

I can go a couple of days without but normally it happens about once per day. Usually either in the morning before getting out of bed or in the evening before falling asleep. Sometimes if I have time or if I've recently experienced an intense fantasy I do it there or four times in a row, giving 15-30 minutes to recuperate between orgasms. If I have a regular partner I masturbate about 2-3 times a week.

I've been trying to organize all the folders and paper piles around here, and came across some of ...

Nukdookum comments on Jul 17, 2018:

Very beautiful. I love this.

Any other John Carpenter fans here? Favourite movies?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 17, 2018:

They Live is my favorite.

Rules of life :) boys are dumb and girls are crazy you don't know someone until you live with ...

Nukdookum comments on Jul 17, 2018:

Do unto others... Then run away. Don't believe anything you hear and only half of what you see. Be excellent to reach other!

This would be nice?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 17, 2018:

I've lived to long on my own. Thinking about this question I realize that I don't do it enough. I'm going to start immediately.

Tell me a story about a spreader bar ... pretty please!

Nukdookum comments on Jul 17, 2018:

Never used one. Based on the stories I see that I need to remedy this soon.

Another good Star Wars actor down the drain !

Nukdookum comments on Jul 16, 2018:

It shows that no matter how famous you are, depression and substance abuse can be devastating.

You know, I think a lot about judging people.

Nukdookum comments on Jul 16, 2018:

I always try to remember that I have no idea what is going on in that person's life to make them distracted enough to do whatever I'm wanting to judge them about.

Passionate Love?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 16, 2018:

I am going to say that as a child I really liked the passion for each other that Gomez and Morticia had. While it was expressed in morbid terms for the comedic effect, I felt it represented an ideal that I wanted my relationships to emulate. Morticia was coincidentally my first celebrity crush.

Favourite pervertables? This is fun, esp when it squeaks... ? [store.petsafe.net]

Nukdookum comments on Jul 16, 2018:

Mine is a good club handle which had been converted into a cane.

Why don't you guys have deviant girlfriends? What's the real problem here?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 16, 2018:

First I need to get my life in order. Then I can focus more energy into finding the right one. For now I rely on my friends and parties that turn into orgies to satisfy the kinky sex itch

I voiced this particular preference of mine on another platform and was shamed into removing the ...

Nukdookum comments on Jul 16, 2018:

More power to you. You know what you like and have perfected a technique. There is nothing wrong with that

What are your favorite Steven Spielberg movies? Mine is "Jaws" and "ET"

Nukdookum comments on Jul 16, 2018:

Mine are Amistad and Catch Me If You Can. I had to Google because I couldn't think of anything other than those already mentioned.

What is your favorite position?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 16, 2018:

My personal favorite is called a wobbly H.

Hello hello!

Nukdookum comments on Jul 16, 2018:

Hello. Welcome to the conversation. Hit me up if you have any questions! Answers are free. Answers to the question you asked cost a dollar. Correct answers to the question you asked are probably out of your price range. ?

Love And Friendship Meet

Nukdookum comments on Jul 16, 2018:

This made me smile.

Intelligence in others ?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 15, 2018:

One of my favorite words!

Them and Me-Women and Men

Nukdookum comments on Jul 15, 2018:

I agree, but I'm going to go one step further. Society, which is run by men for the most part, teaches everyone to see women as objects, putting them on display to sell everything from sodas to cars. Society teaches everyone to see men as people. I am going to have to respectfully disagree with the "It's in my genes" or "Women do it too so it's not men's fault" folks. This is a learned response which can be unlearned. Yes, I like visuals. I also like the sound and tone of certain voices (Morgan Freeman, Patrick Stuart, Candace Bergman). I can appreciate a well formed human no matter what their gender identity but I have trained myself to think of all humans as people. That said, I do know a few people who actually like to be objectified and encourage that type of behavior. I will say that it can be much fun when the other person is consenting to it.

French team is incredibly pathetic, wow.

Nukdookum comments on Jul 15, 2018:

I too was rooting for Croatia. Sadly it was not meant to be. Looking forward to Women's World Cup in 2019.

How common is it for both you and your partner to reach orgasm in a 69?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 15, 2018:

Yes, I find that if one is getting close to orgasm they lose the ability to focus...on anything. Arriving together in a 69 situation is impossible but that doesn't stop me from trying! :-P. I do prefer to engage in one or the other. That allows the receiving partner to relax into it and really enjoy the experience.

How to recognize my soulmate!

Nukdookum comments on Jul 15, 2018:

I used to work in an office building with glass doors. Brains are wondrous things and can read words backwards without one realizing it. For the first 3 weeks working there I was constantly trying to push a door that said push on the other side which meant that I was supposed to pull but my brain had already read the hsup and translated to "push" which I did becoming confused why the door wasn't working. Finally I had to train my brain that "Hsup" (pronounced Shoop in my head) meant Pull , and "Llup" pronounced Loop, meant to push. It was really odd that I still made that mistake about once a week.

So.

Nukdookum comments on Jul 15, 2018:

Oh my, what a great story. Thank goodness that you didn't die, though the grassy meadow would have been a great place to do it.

Communicating in a relationship: Do you lean towards being open and willing to work things through ...

Nukdookum comments on Jul 15, 2018:

I lean towards trying to remain calm and discussing it openly. This was really difficult in the beginning, your discussing actions or feelings which are emotionally charged which makes it really easy to become angry and defensive. The key for me is to remember that the negative feelings aren't about me or my partner. Feelings happen without anyone making them happen. I need to allow those feelings to happen and use words to analyze why and find out if there is anything we can do to help those feelings to not come back. Maybe that's paying more attention to the beginning of those feelings and stopping while it's just an odd sense rather than ignore it until it becomes full blown anger. Maybe that's adressing the underlying issue of feeling ignored or unwanted by ones partner, taking more time than normal to specifically focus on being together. Really as long as one can avoid the knee jerk reaction typical of anger and fear, a solution can be reached with good communication.

Today's question was inspired by MissKathleen.

Nukdookum comments on Jul 15, 2018:

I think we should call them Dick and Jane, just for nostalgia sake. Seriously though, I prefer using the real words. The negative connotation is in the intent of the user in my opinion. I've heard women use the c word to describe their sex parts and it didn't sound bad. Maybe I just associate with really crude folks.

Good morning! Enjoy your Sunday!

Nukdookum comments on Jul 15, 2018:

Good morning. Yeah I know it's afternoon but as the meme says, sleeping in is glorious.

So, I've been having a lot of sleep issues the past 5+ years.

Nukdookum comments on Jul 15, 2018:

I'm going to suggest that in my circle of friends sex talk happens within hours of meeting someone new and is deemed appropriate conversation. We all know why we are there and it makes things so much simpler to discuss everything out in the open. While I certainly enjoy this "no limits or filters" style of communication, I also realize that it isn't for all occasions. I know when to proceed with caution and when it is ok to ask intimate questions right off the bat. Perhaps this guy lives within that circle of friends where it is perfectly fine to ask about that kind of thing early in the relationship. He might have slipped and forgotten to whom he was speaking. He might feel really comfortable talking to you and thought it was appropriate. Or he may just have been too new that he didn't realize in some situations being direct in his communication isn't the right course of action. Like others have suggested. You should ask him about it. His response will tell you if he is just an asshole, if he thought your request was about a hookup and was proceeding accordingly, or if there was genuinely a miscommunication that he never intended.

Do you find scars sexy?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 15, 2018:

Scars make a person unique. They usually have a story that goes with how it came to be and I really love stories. Oh yeah, scars are very sexy.

Shag carpet or hardwood floor?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 15, 2018:

I like it all. It's about making my partner happy so however they to keep it, I will adapt. I do have a preference for at least some hair, I want to know I'm with a woman, not a child. I'm not knocking those who like it bare, I understand the desire there. For me though I really liked the movie "Last Tango in Paris", that 1970's bush is what I grew up looking at in playboy. I was conditioned to love it by societal norms during my adolescence.

Ladies, pick a !

Nukdookum comments on Jul 15, 2018:

I love that 1 still has her shoes on! That's my kind of woman.

I'm having a super crappy day.

Nukdookum comments on Jul 14, 2018:

Hopefully the crappy day is now over.

Can I just ask the guys something...what is it with the ass thing?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 14, 2018:

Ok I'm going to try. I love a well formed ass. I also love wide hips which usually mean a nice round ass. Boobies I can live with whatever form they take as long as there is an ass for me to admire. From a biological primal instinct motivation, wider hips mean a larger birth canal and a higher chance of a successful child. Now, I get why I am biologically drawn to this body type. I do not want children, I never have, yet I still like the booty. From a visual perspective, I find the heart shaped motif of a larger ass from behind to be pleasing to my eye. The heart shape is upside down if you want to imagine and the larger the rounded parts as compared to the waist (hip to waist ratio) creates a more pronounced heart shape which for whatever reason I find pleasing to look at. From a pleasure when having sex perspective, I am much more sensitive on the underside of my penis about a half inch below the head. I'm circumcised, my mother isn't Jewish, she said it was for cleaning proposes. I suspect the real reason was she didn't want to have to show he how to properly clean it, that was something sexual her religious upbringing didn't allow her to deal with. In any case there seem to be a ton of nerve endings where the scar is there. When penetrating from the front, facing my partner the sensitive part slides along the back wall and feels pretty good. When penetrating from the back the sensitive part rubs on the front part of the vagina which is also the front portion of the pelvis bone and feels fucking amazing! As one might realize, I really like penetrating from behind which puts my thighs bumping up against the ass, making it the focal point of mine for anyone I'm considering as a potential partner. I have other reasons but I think I'll save those for later. I feel like I've rambled long enough on this subject for now. If you really want to hear more let me know and I'll post more. (Shameless attempt to get more points).

Goodnight Kitty (Super early cause my brain is fogged today).

Nukdookum comments on Jul 14, 2018:

Good night. Take care of yourself!

I held back and observed (yeah i like to watch but that's a completely different post {little ...

Nukdookum comments on Jul 14, 2018:

Welcome aboard!

I held back and observed (yeah i like to watch but that's a completely different post {little ...

Nukdookum comments on Jul 14, 2018:

Welcome aboard!

Well Footie Peeps.

Nukdookum comments on Jul 14, 2018:

I concur. Croatia has been entertaining even though they beat my pick England. I think France is going to win but I am now rooting for Croatia.

I'm trying rice again!!

Nukdookum comments on Jul 14, 2018:

Oh shit. I forgot..I hope you remembered. Did it come out OK?

Favorite toy?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 14, 2018:

I usually just use my hands, imagination, and whatever porn is available. These are moments when I just need help sleeping or have a particular naughty thought running around my head and desire to out the fantasy. Sometimes however I miss the deviant lasciviousness of going all in and getting messy and sweaty and really losing control. For those "special" moments when I want to feel dirty, exhausted, and completely satisfied I have a wonderful pink dildo, very thick with an articulated inner structure that permits some bending but not floppy like a latex or silicone only dildo. This one has balls attached which make a great grip and also feels somewhat realistic when it bumps against me. I use that in conjunction with a clear silicone flesh-light shaped like lips on the business end. It is pure silicone so I can squeeze the air out of it once engaged fully which makes a wonderful feeling of sucking when I pull it away. The lube from both tends to drip in a slimy mess making the illusion of sex more real for me. The combination of those two make it feel like I'm in a threesome or an orgy and I can imagine any combination of partners. It usually leads to a very intense orgasm and if I weren't so limp (pun intended) and spent I'd take a shower. Those are times when I just fall asleep and wake up in a puddle of sticky sweaty sheets. Yeah I'm nasty like that and really enjoy the discomfort involved in having such an intense moment. I have a mattress protector so it's just the sheets that need to be thrown in the laundry the next day, oh and a very relaxing hot shower. Sorry if that was too much info. I have a very vivid imagination and I do love sharing stories.

There Comes A Time in life.☺

Nukdookum comments on Jul 14, 2018:

This is a good Motto to live your life by.

I'm trying rice again!!

Nukdookum comments on Jul 14, 2018:

I'll come back in 10 minutes to make sure you check on it. Shouldn't take more than 12 minutes to cook.

We’re just getting started!

Nukdookum comments on Jul 14, 2018:

This is a wonderful sentiment. Even if I'm not participating in your show I'll be in the front row watching and applauding the performance. Yeah that sounds kinda creepy and voyeuristic. Second try: I'll be there to support you in whatever form you need. I am rooting for you to succeed in your performance once the curtain lifts and until it closes.

I'd like to call into question the word deviant.

Nukdookum comments on Jul 14, 2018:

I don't think it feeds the stereotype. I love the word because it kinda has a "mischievous in a naughty way" flair and I like that party of my personality.

Top three movies you watched over and over as a kid.

Nukdookum comments on Jul 14, 2018:

Yeah, it wasn't like today where you have on demand movies, red box, Amazon prime content, and a plethora of movie channels. However in the early 70's there were three or four broadcast channels which would repeat movies once a year. There were typical Easter and Christmas movies that were kind of a tradition so those might be something that you could have watched multiple times as a child. My favorites just happened to be the once a year Halloween selection of horror movies. Then at some point in the late 70's cable television happened. I recall watching the same movie on HBO multiple times just because they played them so often. If you were lucky enough to have cable back then some of those movies might have been seen multiple times as a kid. I have vague recollections of watching Caddyshack often as a teenager. Rollerball was also a favorite that I recall watching multiple times, not like once a week but more like once every couple of months whenever it was on.

Hey, guys! I'm a newbie polyamorous female.

Nukdookum comments on Jul 14, 2018:

Welcome! I don't know any books to read but I still wanted to welcome you to the group.

How much of your sexuality is wrapped up in purely physical things?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 14, 2018:

I love this question. Yes, I crave the kind of connection that you have outlined. It is a rarity in today's world of swipe and hookup. I'm old school, I need to make love to a beautiful soul. However in the mean time a quick hookup or masturbation to fulfill my immediate needs helps to fill on the gap between lovers.

Top three movies you watched over and over as a kid.

Nukdookum comments on Jul 14, 2018:

The Little Shop of Horror, Abbott and Costello (any of them), Plan 9 from Outer Space. I used to love watching B horror movies. Now that you've sparked those memories I am going to have to find copies of them and host a party come October to watch them again.

Question of the day: manicures.

Nukdookum comments on Jul 14, 2018:

I love it! I tend to comment on manicures and pedicures when I see fresh ones. For me it isn't about the imagery wrapped around a penis. It is telling me something about you. Folks that get manicures professionally have taken time from their day and paid more than $20 on something that isn't necessary for survival. They are either taking pride in their appearance, taking time to feel good (hand and foot massages come with most mail services), or they want to feel pretty. I like to promote these things in others so I make sure to mention how much I like them when I see them. I do like non red colors (red, pink, burgundy) because they are less common. That blue is a really nice color on that skin tone. Don't get me wrong, reds can be spectacular and really draw the eye so I can appreciate them just as much but I like those who take the road less traveled. I myself have gotten manicures and pedicures for all of the reasons I listed above. I usually have my toes painted which always makes the girls giggle when I hand them the color I picked out. I have also had my nails painted for special events or parties but have always removed the color before returning to work. I don't want my coworkers to know what kind of a freak I am and start asking questions I don't want to answer. Work and personal life are separate in my world. I do try to keep my own nails well manicured, mostly because the hand massages are great.

Many people live, or have lived, in small towns and that really limits the dating pool.

Nukdookum comments on Jul 14, 2018:

I wasn't dating at the time so it didn't matter but I lived ina town called Noicattaro during the 90's when I was in Italy. Population 26,100.

So anyone in the upstate South Carolina/ North Carolina area interested in a group meet up?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 14, 2018:

Oh I'm in! I'm from Atlanta but have driven Greenville meet people before. I like the Local Cue option, no real need set aside the space unless we want privacy. Just set the date and time and we'll show up. We can push tables together and take over the place as more people show up. I'll use my Google-Fu to try and locate other game friendly with alcohol options.

Hi members am new n im called bless

Nukdookum comments on Jul 14, 2018:

Hello Bless. I'm Nukdookum. Pronounced Nuke-Duke-Umm. I hope you are having a great day!

Hello fellow heathens!

Nukdookum comments on Jul 14, 2018:

Hello Demonica...I like the name. I bet there is a story behind it, if you'd care to share. :-)

This is a great way break the ice.

Nukdookum comments on Jul 14, 2018:

Welcome back! Glad you are here. I look forward reading your insights and providing some of my own.

Spankins! Yes? No? If you like them, how do you like them best?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 14, 2018:

I like receiving slightly more than giving. I do like the sound of a spanking so either giving or receiving works for me. Sometimes I will take the spanking without the sex, that's how much I like em!

Poll: Is bad sex better than no sex at all? Bad sex, as in NOT reaching climax.

Nukdookum comments on Jul 14, 2018:

Climaxing is a goal, but it isn't always the goal for me. For me sex is about physical intimacy which usually ends up being an expression of the emotional and spiritual intimacy that I already share with that person. Most of the time, like say 70% of the time, my goal is to climax at some point during the sex. The other 30% of the time I am fine with just my partner reaching climax. To be clear, I always insure that my partner gets what they wanted out of sex, it's just my climax that is optional 30% of the time. During those times when climax isn't a need of mine, the need is usually the soft cuddly physical intimacy of having someone naked touching me and letting me touch them.

When I was 28 I was raped by a doctor on an exam table in a medical center with another person ...

Nukdookum comments on Jul 13, 2018:

WOW, what an inspiring read. These stories usually don't end this way, thanks for sharing.

Maybe a li'l too real?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 13, 2018:

I love being in love. Yes I'm sacrificing. Yes there are flirty butterflies. Yes there is that feeling of anxiety, anticipation, fear, and excitement all at the same time. Very much like Pandora's Box, there is also hope which makes all the other stuff worth it for me.

Are people who are separated welcome here? Or do I have to wait for a divorce to be finalized?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 13, 2018:

All are welcome. Open and honest communication are your best Ally. Welcome @MrChange

What is Trump doing?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 13, 2018:

I agree with everything you said. The thing is I really think he might be "Simply Insane" so I don't think he will see those actions as being something he shouldn't do.

My dojo has been asked to do a two hour personal defense class for between 40 - 50 girl scouts ...

Nukdookum comments on Jul 13, 2018:

Difficult but important. I do like the meme that suggests it would be easier to teach boys not to rape, but today it's still necessary to teach girls self-defence. I wish I had a good way to make children focus but I'm completely unqualified in this field.

Question for the single people...

Nukdookum comments on Jul 13, 2018:

Yes I do have sex with people just for the sake of getting laid. I'm going to qualify that by saying never with strangers. I'm not against it with strangers, it's just I'm not the kind of guy who picks up people when I'm out and about. I've never gone to a bar/club/party with the intent of going home with someone. I do tend to surround myself with sex positive people who are ok with sex and have safe practices that I trust. I have on occasion had sex with these friends at parties. I have also on occasion had friends over which then turned into sex. I've had sex in group settings but always with friends. Oh darn. Yes ok a few times I've had sex with friends of friends whom I didn't know prior to that evening so I guess that would be a stranger but because the group were mostly my friends who were involved peripherally, I forgot about the hand full of strangers. (I know, I'm glossing over a lot of things you want to know more about, that's a story for another time). I've never had any regrets with any of them. I still talk and interact with all of them. Even the strangers are now included in my friends. If any of my friends wanted or needed sex tight now I'd be there for them. We are always open and honest with each other. There is no other way for me to behave, I care about people and don't want to hurt them. That said. I really need to feel an emotional connection to a person in order for me to want to initiate a sexual relationship. Yes, there are people who I fantasize about having sex with based solely upon their looks, their style of clothing, the shoes they are wearing, or the sound of their voice. However, if one of those people should knock on my door and proposition me, I'd respectfully decline. Perhaps I would invite them in for a drink and conversation, but not instant sex. I'm not wired that way.I have to get to know them before I will engage in physical intimacy. Friends of friends whom I don't know get a pass because I know and trust my friends.

Guarded Girl

Nukdookum comments on Jul 13, 2018:

This is such a beautiful sentiment.

I may be off the market soon: Jason at the nail salon has great hands. manipedi shouldermassage

Nukdookum comments on Jul 13, 2018:

Good hands are one of the things I appreciate in a partner. I keep going to my salon guy Toney because it feels so wonderful when he massages my scalp during the wash phase of the hair cut.

Hugging matters ?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 13, 2018:

Hugs are almost spiritual.

Best Read ever ! [dailymaverick.co.za]

Nukdookum comments on Jul 13, 2018:

Very informative. I loved it.

I am appalled! I woke up this morning without one bad thing to say about anybody! What the heck?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 13, 2018:

I'm here to help. I am not find of this but sometimes when bad people have bad things happen to them I think "maybe there is a God?". I know, despicable. Let me have it!

Good morning ☕

Nukdookum comments on Jul 12, 2018:

I've always wondered what the difference was. Now it all makes sense!

Back in the day, (late 70s and 80s) the most important thing before you went out to partake in the ...

Nukdookum comments on Jul 12, 2018:

I recall dating in the early 80's. I drove a four cylinder six speed manual which was fun as hell to drive but the gear shift got in the way of holding hands in the car. It had four bucket seats, great for toting friends hither and you but not great for the drive in. Seriously? Who puts bucket seats in the back?!? My parents were evil.

Why would anyone want to be anything but a Pirate? Who wouldn't want to be a pirate? anyone?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 11, 2018:

...unless you can be a Unicorn, then be a Unicorn.

Go Cro! yeah!

Nukdookum comments on Jul 11, 2018:

Yup, now that they've beaten England, I hope they destroy France and win it all!

I’m just curious on the highest compatibility Percentage everyone has seen?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 11, 2018:

I have several at 100%. It is just about the profile questions but also about the likes and dislikes. I have seen a few change % up when they liked things I've posted. I have no clue whether it's real compatibility because I haven't acted on any of them yet. I don't do cold conversations well, I prefer to get to know people. So I won't be trying for a more personal relationship until I've gotten to know a bit more about what we have in common by reading everyone's comments and questions.

So if you look at me now sitting here, I'm dressed in (no lie) really soccer mom attire.

Nukdookum comments on Jul 11, 2018:

I really like this mental image.

Can't for the life of me,understand Women!

Nukdookum comments on Jul 11, 2018:

No need to understand. You just need to learn to ask first. Panties are so silky.

Yes indeed.

Nukdookum comments on Jul 11, 2018:

I feel these same things all the time.

What is your opinion about this: Do we each have a type regardless of what we think?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 11, 2018:

Yes. After hanging out at bars with my friends for a few months we were able to pick out the people our mates would find attractive. "Hey Tim, there's one for you" we would say and we were right because Tim had a "Type". Now just because someone has attributes that we find attractive doesn't mean they will be a good fit for a relationship. I agree that we are all complex human beings and for the most part do not like being put into a box. That doesn't negate the fact that we can all be categorized into loosely defined groups. I'm a man. I have a specific body type, I can be classified as tall, I have a specific skin tone, I have a number of tattoos (zero is a number), I dress in a certain manner. All of these categorizations describe me and determine whether I am in or out of the subset of another person's "type". It has nothing to do with my viability in a long term relationship and everything to do with the likelihood that I'll be approached for that first conversation at a party.