What do atheists cry out during sex? ... lol I need some serious answers from y'all.

Nukdookum comments on Jul 11, 2018:

I use explicatives and it seems to work fine. Also using the other person's name seems to get pretty good results.

To me (or for that matter, to any rational minds), religion is another form of superstition which ...

Nukdookum comments on Jul 10, 2018:

I think it is the fear of oblivion that makes people want to hope in an afterlife. When I was 20 I recall having a conversation with my 40 something boss. He asked about my beliefs and I was straight with him. He asked if I feared death. I did not, I was twenty, death was the furthest thing from my mind. I asked why he wanted to know. His reply was that if I didn't believe in an after-life did the thought of ceasing to exist scare me? It's nothing, why is that scary? Furthermore, if I'm right, I won't know. I explained that the nothingness of before I was born wasn't scary so why should the nothingness of after I'm gone scare me? I'm now older and don't like the fact that my knowledge will be lost. That everything I've learned over the years is seemingly for nothing if indeed there is nothing after this. I can certainly understand why the human condition, upon nearing death, is comforted by the idea of a heaven.

If you could only pick one...

Nukdookum comments on Jul 10, 2018:

Grammar errors.

I did it! I made it! Thanks for helping me get to Level 8, everyone!!!

Nukdookum comments on Jul 10, 2018:

Congrats

Commiserations go to Belgium.

Nukdookum comments on Jul 10, 2018:

I think England will win.

What are some of your personal “rules” that you never break?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 10, 2018:

Rule #1. No photographic evidence. Rule #2. No children, no pets. Rule #3. Whenever possible choose the positive response to a bad situation. Rule #4. Treat everyone with dignity and respect. Rule #5. Never use sex as a bargaining chip. Rule #6. Try anything once, you never know what could be your next obsession.

Sexual Compatibility - How better to phrase it?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 10, 2018:

I think the question should be "How flexible are you in your own sexual practices in being able to meet a potential partner's needs?" As you indicated, most people want sexual compatibility. But the real question is how far are you willing to go in order to achieve "compatibility"? One might have never experienced anything other than missionary sex which on the face of it could lead a potential partner who has been down the BDSM road to think that there is no chance for compatibility. Knowing how "adventurous" a potential partner might be is much more informative than just comparing compatibility or drive levels. Perhaps it should be something like "Rate yourself on these three aspects of sex on a scale of 1 to 10. How adventurous do you think you are?, How high is your sex drive?, How important is emotional intimacy to your desire for sexual relations?" I think this would make a much better starting point for the discussion about compatibility.

MEN: What would your reason be for asking a woman what she does for a living, upon meeting her?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 9, 2018:

I am looking to understand who she is. I realize that the short answer won't give any insight because we are not defined by the job we do. However just the fact that she gave me her job title instead of explaining the job or going into details the me a lot about her. If she is responding in one phrase bits or short answers that says to me that she isn't interested in continuing the conversation. Me: "So, what do you do for a living?" Her: "Lawyer" or "Accountant" Me: "Interesting" and now I'm looking for someone else to talk to. Me: "So, what do you do for a living?" Her: "I represent immigrants who are applying for citizenship. I speak Spanish and can translate for them in the US legal system, help them fill out paperwork, and generally give people hope of a new life" Me: "Wow, that sounds like really satisfying work! Did you find that learning a new language made you appreciate the culture more?" This last scenario does indeed tell me about who she is and in the process also gives me more covering hooks to explore. When I'm asked the same question I use it for similar purposes, to continue the conversation. Her: "So, what do you do for a living?" Me: "I work for Coke" pause for the inevitable declaration of Pepsi or Coke followed by which product is their favorite. "I work with the touch screen vending machines. They send data back every day." I then launch into how exciting my (maybe not exciting for everyone) data analytics job is... How I make folks happy by helping them out with Excel questions, how I enjoy automating tedious tasks, and my ongoing attempts to keep a good work/life balance.

I would like to begin a discussion of the validity of posting a credit score limit on your profile ...

Nukdookum comments on Jul 9, 2018:

You're assuming that a higher credit score is a better financial situation. Credit scores were developed by the banks to determine who is a "good risk" for lending money. The higher your credit score the more likely you are to all for credit, pay your bills, and keep a balance on that credit thus paying interest continually making money for the bank. Personally I despise this juxtaposition of "willingness to pay banks interest" as a measure of ones wealth or financial acuity. In my mind the financially responsible person wants to pay as little interest and fees to banks as possible.

Thoughts & Prayer's

Nukdookum comments on Jul 9, 2018:

It is scary how deep this goes. Perhaps in the end this investigation will really "drain the swamp" and we can start fresh in 2020 with a real administration that will focus on education and healthcare.

Really just want to meet someone who doesn't let religion and politics get in the way of of making ...

Nukdookum comments on Jul 9, 2018:

My problem isn't the religion or the politics getting in the way of friendship. However I cannot be friends with someone who condones hate against another human being. I cannot be friends with someone who believes that some humans are better or more deserving than other humans. You can have whatever political and religious views you want as long as you treat all humans with the dignity and respect that we all deserve. Whether you hate subsets of humanity yourself or you promote that hate in others by supporting policies designed to discriminate, we cannot be friends. I'm not saying anyone here hates others, I'm just saying that sometimes ones political or religious beliefs make it impossible for me to associate with you.

The Tories "Proud Record"

Nukdookum comments on Jul 9, 2018:

Wow, looks similar to why the conservatives America are in power and why we have been cursed with a minority of gullible people being able to put Trump in office.

Does anyone else enjoy balancing their checkbook as much as I do? :s

Nukdookum comments on Jul 9, 2018:

I used to keep a very detailed spreadsheet. All I would have to do is indicate which charges showed up on my statement and compare the balances. I haven't had a credit card in over a decade. Back when I did use credit I was adamant about balancing and checking for identity theft. Now I just keep a mental total and check online weekly to keep me honest.

Does anyone find the duck face photos attractive?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 9, 2018:

I don't find the photos themselves attractive. I find them hilarious and think it's great to see people acting silly sometimes. I love seeing people be themselves. Because I am attracted to folks who don't take themselves too seriously, those who feel free enough to do them are more attractive to me than those who don't.

I recall a few decades back when people would make fun of how messy Mexican food was to eat.

Nukdookum comments on Jul 8, 2018:

I recall a thing we called Sloppy Joe being around long before Buffalo wings.

We've got to add some international members so we can insult in foreign languages.

Nukdookum comments on Jul 8, 2018:

Tua Madre indossa stivali da combattimento!

I'm sure someone has asked it before but I'm looking for polite or maybe no so polite, depending on ...

Nukdookum comments on Jul 7, 2018:

I've learned to say "thanks" and move on. Calling someone on their hypocrisy is never time spent productively, even when I'm not dealing with serious life crap. Now, like a lot of other posters if someone wants to pray for my lack of religion or wants to suggest I'm going to hell, then I have a mouthful for them.

What is vulnerability to you?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 7, 2018:

Being vulnerable to me is opening yourself up to being hurt by someone else. I was talking to a woman at work and we were talking about things which hurt us in the past. She said to me "How can you ever trust again?" I only sighed deeply and explained that in my viewpoint you can only ever experience love in the exact amount of pain that you open yourself up to experiencing. You have to be vulnerable in order to experience love. If you want yourself off so that you cannot be hurt, then you are also closing yourself off to love. I value human connections and that cannot happen unless I'm willing to connect with others first. In order to do that I have to give them something of myself, making myself vulnerable. I love life and yes sometimes there's pain. But the times when there is no pain are absolutely amazing!

Well we're down to the final four in the World Cup. Who do you think will win it all?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 7, 2018:

I believe France will defeat Belgium though I'm rooting for Belgium to win that match. I think England has the better team but Croatia has enough skill to pull a victory or if the hat. I think that will be an exciting game to watch. I'm rooting for England to win. That puts the final as France vs England and I want England to win.

What makes the difference between being logical and just being negative?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 7, 2018:

I believe that positivity is a thing and does affect my life. I know it sounds like voodoo mysticism but I have spent a lot of time thinking about this. I like to think I'm a logical person but I do realize that my superpower is justification so I can't say for sure whether my thoughts are justification or the truth. Let's take for example something minor, an idiot driver on the way to work. I'm in a hurry and his lack of attention is slowing traffic around him. I could react negatively, yelling or maybe just negative thoughts which put me in a bad mood. When I get to work that negativity is still going to be on my mind. I may be less forgiving when I run across co-workers who seem to be hindering the process, causing them too experience negativity and put them into a funk as well. These micro-negativities will ripple outward and reflect back into my own psyche as I interact with my coworkers all day long. Now let's assume instead of getting upset at the driver on my way to work I choose to thank the universe for teaching me patience. If I think about what's important in life I may realize that enjoying life is more important than punching a time clock at a certain time. Yes there are consequences to being late but there are also consequences to ignoring opportunities to see the beauty that surrounds us. I may choose to slow down and look at the trees or clouds and appreciate nature's beauty, lifting my spirits. I arrive at work a few minutes later than planned but I inform my boss of the horrible traffic in a can pleasant manner and perhaps I get off with just a warning this time. Now when i interact with my coworkers I'm happy and smiling with the thoughts of nature's beauty rattling around my head, or maybe it was a song, whatever joyous thing I chose to focus on instead of the negativity. Now my mood is equally infectious, ok not going to make the office break out into a dance number like in a musical, but I will impact my coworkers moods in tiny ways throughout the day. Those ripples of happiness are going to impact my mood all day long as I continue to interact with coworkers. At the end of the day I'm going to feel like I've accomplished so much more in this version of the day than I would have stressing the negativity around. Sure, there's a chance something could snap me out of my funk in the first scenario making the day a success just like there is a chance something could bring me down in the second scenario. However, choosing the positive reaction will result in a happier me (and my coworkers) at the end of the day more times than not. And that's not even taking into account all of the people we touch after we leave work. My happiness ripples affect the checkout person at the grocery store, me neighbors, my workout class taking ...

Why can't red and blue just get along?

Nukdookum comments on Jul 7, 2018:

I think we can live together. I don't think people have gotten more polarized, we're still the same folks that have always been, trying to live our lives safely and happily. I think the people in power have discovered the profitability in creating polar issues and the visual media has discovered the profitability of showing tragedy. These two concepts create the illusion that we are divided. If I watch television or use social media, yeah it sure does look like we are divided. However when I talk to people face to face, no matter which side of the discussion they are on, we mostly agree.