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TomMcGiverin comments on Feb 27, 2022:

And that's not including how far to the right the Dem Party has moved in the last 30 years, at least on issues related to economics and class. Being a New Deal Dem, like Bernie, is now called being a radical socialist, thanks to the DLC and the party's embrace of corporate America and their campaign donations.

Holy mole`! I have lived to see Bobby Seale , Huey P.

TomMcGiverin comments on Feb 24, 2022:

Which espisode is this and when did it originally air? Is it available to watch on Netflix? I would enjoy seeing this.

If you want to join our zoom meeting send me a PM and I will send you the link.

TomMcGiverin comments on Feb 24, 2022:

Have you taken over from Sassygirl?

Have you ever had a pain so bad that instead of crying it makes you smile?

TomMcGiverin comments on Feb 24, 2022:

Sounds serious. I would have run to the doctor immediately.

I live in the bible belt and it's getting worst being around those people who keep believing this is...

TomMcGiverin comments on Feb 23, 2022:

I pity you, young, single, without kids, and living in TX. Your dating pool is even worse, and more hostile, than mine.

And this is why teen pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases are highest in the states that ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Feb 20, 2022:

It was not surprising to me when my evangelical older sister confided in me that her fellow fundy hubby was a porn addict, so much so that he got fired from his cushy govt. job for surfing porn on his work computer during work hours...

Stirring the pot LoL

TomMcGiverin comments on Feb 20, 2022:

My late wife used to teasingly call that Male Selective Hearing.....

And this is why teen pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases are highest in the states that ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Feb 20, 2022:

They also appear to have the same attitude about Covid..

Oklahoma bill would fine teachers $10k for teaching anything that contradicts religion More ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Feb 18, 2022:

Can you say theocracy? I thought you could... There is no way this law would stand as constitutional except with the Roberts court, not any lower court at the federal level...

I have been trying to figure out how to write an effective profile on these dating sites.

TomMcGiverin comments on Feb 18, 2022:

Typical boilerplate common sense stuff. Nothing new or helpful here for me. The reality is all you can do in a profile is be open about who you are. The opposite sex will either want that or not. As far as trying to effect or control who you get messages from or the quality of people that respond to you, it's more like a guy recently said to me at a karaoke show we were at regarding rude or boorish behavior by other people, " Control is an illusion". .. And he is so right, you can only control what you put in your profile, not what other people do in response. And no matter what you do, there will be scammers, as well as rude boorish people who will respond from time to time. And even the dating sites don't try to do anything about common boorish behavior, only about scammers, if even that, and the most extreme forms of bad behavior on dating sites like stalking, harassment, and sexual assault outside the site. So be honest about who you are, realize you have no control over others, and keep a thick skin about what comes your way after you have done your part to reach out to those you are interested in. The rest is totally out of your hands, as most of it still revolves around the looks you were blessed or cursed with, and the type or number of photos you use will not change that much, if any. I give Marni credit for at least acknowledging that truth, that looks and physical attraction are way more important than what you write in your profile or your messaging, at least to most people, of either gender.

Humanists UK In 2014, a young man in Greece made a joke on Facebook about a Greek Orthodox elder ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Feb 17, 2022:

Sounds like the stoning scene in Monty Python's Life Of Brian....."Blasphemy!.. He said the word Jehovah!!"........ Some people really lack a sense of humor....

New to social media. Do you get a notice if you been blocked by someone?

TomMcGiverin comments on Feb 16, 2022:

No, you never get a notice, at least on Agnostic.com. In my experience, FB works the same way, no notice. You just discover it when you try to click on their username and get a message that says profile unavailable or you try to click on one of their posts and you get a Content Unavailable message. That is your sign, as the comedian says......

It's one of the things I look for in a partner 🤷‍♀️

TomMcGiverin comments on Feb 15, 2022:

Me too, but unfortunately, my local dating pool appears to offer almost no women that are radical or socialist like me, at least ones that are interested in dating anyone at this time. It appears that about all the women who are lefty like me, are either already taken or else not interested in dating anyone these days. Thus, it puts me in the uncomfortable position, most of the time, of having to settle for dating women that are merely "liberal" Dems, with all the accompanying tensions over their support and approval for centrist corporate Dems like Biden, Schumer, and Pelosi, and their scorn or lack of respect for Bernie. In fact, most of them supported Warren last time simply out of gender loyalty and her positioning herself as supporting capitalism, with few of them being able to recognize her fake progressivism, no matter how much I might point it out. I hate having to choose between accepting their support of neoliberal Dems and biting my tongue, or having nobody to date from Match. It's grating how many of them either care only about ID politics and multiculturalism, and/or are very comfortable with capitialism and the economic status quo, as they are comfortably in the top 10% financially, so they don't ? the system and think folks like us are either malcontents or nuts.... And, of course, the whole fake uproar over Bernie Bros just gave Warren and her supporters cover for helping the DNC screw over Bernie and insure his loss by Warren refusing to concede and throw her support to Bernie against Biden. To this day, I can't see what, if anything, Warren got from the party leaders for making sure Bernie lost. She appears to have sold out all us progressives for nothing.

Has anyone used the Facebook dating app?

TomMcGiverin comments on Feb 15, 2022:

No way. FB has no policing of scammers, so I won't bother. I would rather pay for a site like Match, which actually does a pretty good job of policing scammers and keeping them out for the most part. It's worth the money, tho Match has some faults of their own as far as deceptive practices, from my time on there.

I don't know if or who has blocked me, just who I have blocked.

TomMcGiverin comments on Feb 15, 2022:

It's interesting to see that even this group has several people I recognize that have either blocked me or I blocked them, so I guess none of us is perfect in our behavior and comments, lol.....

My first blocking for ages.

TomMcGiverin comments on Feb 14, 2022:

You're in good company. I blocked both him and LiterateHiker a long time back because I eventually got fed up with how full of themselves they each were. I was hoping they would become a couple on here, lol.....

My dating profile says I'm liberal and that Trump followers need not apply.

TomMcGiverin comments on Feb 14, 2022:

Looks like JennyRad blocked me, but I wanted to come back here and validate her point of the post about Trumpers. No idea why she blocked me, as I supported and agreed with all her points on this thread, so it must be about something I wrote somewhere else that she was offended by. Anyway, namely, that in the last couple months I have run across several of them that appeared to be suffering what the pollsters used to call Trump Shame, where people who supported Trump claimed differently in opinion polls. What are these women on dating sites doing along that line? They are claiming political positions or affiliations of Independent or Moderate, when, once you ? them about it in messaging on the dating site, you find that they support Trump and are actually Conservatives, but, like Sticks said in another thread on Agnostic, they don't want to openly identify their political viewpoints truthfully. I see that as false advertising and being purposely deceptive, which is common in dating profiles...

Growing up...

TomMcGiverin comments on Feb 14, 2022:

I am 63, I grew up in a small city in Iowa, where there were almost no colored people. Six black families total and maybe about the same number of Hispanic families. I would guess that my parents and grandparents were mostly oblivious to colored people in their community and mostly just saw them as different and not people to be socially involved with thru any initiative. If they did end up interacting with colored people, they would appear to treat them fairly and positively. But I don't think they wanted any of their children to become close or personal friends with any of them. It was just something unspoken that I sensed with them. My parents were Catholic and one set of grandparents were Methodist.

Former believers' weigh-in (way out)?

TomMcGiverin comments on Feb 13, 2022:

That's a tough call. It was either the consistent hypocrisy and phoniness of so many believers accompanied at the same time by getting to know so many non-believers that I admired and that said things making way more sense than the churches on so many issues....

I just found out about this group.

TomMcGiverin comments on Feb 13, 2022:

I wish the mods and admins would just stay out of pissing matches and let people defend themselves or block, since we are all adults and can always block if someone starts completely harassing or trolling us. Of course, I'm biased because I can trade insults or argue with the best of them, then block later if they get boring or tiresome to deal with...

I don't know if or who has blocked me, just who I have blocked.

TomMcGiverin comments on Feb 13, 2022:

I'm up to almost the same total. All I can say is, "Well done sir!" I need to get going and do more of them, lol.....

Hey you guys! Good to see this group is still up and running.

TomMcGiverin comments on Feb 13, 2022:

It's still here, but it's pretty dead most of the time. Probably because most people got tired of being slammed and blamed for any dating woes that they posted about here, so they either left the group or decided to keep their dating experiences to themselves. You are no longer the moderator, Mary, so I don't have to worry about you banning me from the group again, ha ha! I don't forgive and I sure as hell don't forget, either...

Christina Wallace: How to stop swiping and find your person on dating apps | TED Talk

TomMcGiverin comments on Feb 12, 2022:

All very common sense stuff, but, unfortunately, not very common among the women in my local dating pool on Match. They pretty much are still hung up on using the resume approach that she criticizes, so there's not much I can do about that. They seem to have a rigid, narrow checklist or shopping list of traits the guy needs to have, like full head of hair, athletic body, having kids, being Christian or Catholic, drinking moderately or more, having a successful white collar professional career, etc. In other words, no emphasis on internal or personality qualities, relationship track record, personal values, etc. Of course, they do care some about the guy being intelligent and able to speak in complete sentences while also listening to them. But those last things are just the low bar threshold they have to clear to even be considered for the second in person meeting. I do like that she tells the truth that women only need about 30 seconds to decide if there is any chemistry or physical attraction, which is what I've been saying for years, but most women on Agnostic refuse to admit or accept this. I also listened to a podcast this week from an supposed expert on dating tips, who said essentially the same thing about women, that they are just as visually oriented (and possibly also as "shallow") as men. She said that men's profile photos are just as important to women as women's are to men. Once again, it feels good to be proven right and validated on my personal observations from three years of online dating. Maybe I deserve to have a podcast or write a freaking book on it! I sure have enough data and info from my experience and that of women I've connected with on Match.

My baby girl is 14 years old