It is so hard to be alone.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 22, 2021:

Tell me about it. Aren't we all alone, at some point or another?

Surgeon general: No 'value' to locking people up over marijuana use | TheHill

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 22, 2021:

That animal looks stoned and happy, leave it alone...

What what's the deal with this site?

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 22, 2021:

This site is a failed experiment, as far as it being a dating site. The admin., who appears to be long gone from being involved here, apparently created the site with hopes of it being a dating site, but it never achieved the kind of critical mass in membership to make local dating an option for most members here. So it continues, at least for now, as a social network site for non-believers. I still think it's superior to FB as far as the level of discussion here. Like it or lump it... I think the other commenters have covered the rest of your ?s.

Should there be a word for people who have rejected Covid-19 vaccination and later regretted it?

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 22, 2021:

I'll take " What is a moron?", for $200, Alex....

It has been a long time, a really long time, so long that the next time I'm with a woman and things ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 21, 2021:

Good funny line there, but speak for yourself chief. I will be prepared, at least as far as supplies. How ready I will be mentally or emotionally, that may be a different matter. We'll see. I may end up being in the same boat as you. The last time I was with anybody new, AIDS and HIV were a real concern. Nowadays things are much safer in general. And, lucky for me, the women I date these days at my age are either already in or past menopause, or already had their tubes tied, so pregnancy is pretty much a non-issue.

Have I missed the one?

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 21, 2021:

Not saying all your thoughts and feelings aren't sincere and valid, but don't you think all this intensely personal sharing, unsolicited and to total strangers is a bit too much? I suggest some therapy, if you haven't had it already, and good luck with the search for a mate. For what it's worth, I have my own tale of love and regret. As a kid, a neighborhood girl that I had a crush on for years turned out later have had some romantic interest in me as well, at least by our high school years, when a mutual friend told me she was interested in me that way. But I never acted on my feelings for her, as a child or as an adolescent. It probably never would have worked out anyway for us as adults. But I learned my lesson and moved on soon from that. What is the lesson? When you have feelings for someone that appears to be single, be a man and act on it. It may or may not work out, but at least you will know how they feel and you never have a chance with someone if you don't try. Since then I have had no regrets regarding women that turned out to be incompatible or that rejected me. It has always been worth the effort.

Weapons grade antivaxxer stupidity is alive and well in France: [bbc.com]

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 20, 2021:

Stupid exists and grows wild in all countries, even in socialist ones it seems.

Yes get vaccinated they lie

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 20, 2021:

Why should we be surprised or outraged? Being a Repub pol automatically exempts you from hypocrisy, whether it's this or being a chickenhawk draft dodger when it comes to supporting wars of choice after avoiding the one you should have had to be in.

Fox News treats its viewers as fools with latest vaccine disinformation campaign | Salon.com

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 20, 2021:

So what? The swine just fall for it and eat it up anyway..

Yup, cause body aches,chills and a fever for 3 hours is the greater risk.. [aol.com]

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 20, 2021:

I wish the stupid suffered only on their own.

Defend the Cuba Revolution and Struggle for More Socialism, Not Less! “Capitalism transforms ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 20, 2021:

I find Common Dreams particularly disappointing. They will occaisionally publish articles that are critical of the Dems, but they will almost never allow viewpoints or articles that promote the support of third parties instead of the fake opposition Dems. And esp. around election time, every two or four years, they impose a blackout on discussion of third parties, deleting comments and banning commenters for advocating voting third party instead of for Dems. It's obvious that CD is a Dem Party front, the same as MSNBC, where the real purpose is trashing the Repubs, but more importantly making sure no real progressives or third party candidates get elected at the fed level.

Loneliness and Dysfunctin: [nytimes.com]

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 20, 2021:

Jeeez, I get tired of people constantly posting links with paywalls or registration required to read the fucking article. I am getting to the point that I will probably stop even trying to click the links to them.

Hello people, some of you won't like me because I will possibly disagree with some things that you ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 20, 2021:

Thanks for warning us in advance. I will make up my mind after I see what your thoughts and ideas actually are when you present them. Some others, no doubt, will see your preemptive disclaimers as defensive and controlling. Best of luck.

Newsflash idiots

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 20, 2021:

That would make sense, but the churches have too much political power.

Family Bonds...

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 20, 2021:

The two parent cats kissing is so cute..

Some thoughts I have after chatting with a friend about some exploitative patterns in relationships.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 19, 2021:

I think both you and Lauren make a lot of good points. I may be just an old, out of touch Boomer, but I do think that Millennials are often very stunted when it comes to communication skills, not really their fault, but due to so much exposure to impersonal, short term attention inducing things like video games, texting, etc. Those things lead to a lot of them having difficulty with doing face to face conversation and actually listening to and engaging verbally with other people. It also leads to having stunted social skills about forming friendships that are close and committed, I think. Hell, yes, I think school should at least offer courses in this kind of stuff for kids before they finish high school. Not because they necessarily are going to get married soon after that, but because at least some of them are going to be having sex, getting pregnant, and living together, even if they didn't consciously plan to at that age. And they are going to need all the help they can get in navigating those situations anyway, with communication skills and relationship skills being critical.

Idiocracy: a disturbingly prophetic look at the future of America – and our era of stupidity | ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 19, 2021:

I have seen it and it looks like a documentary for the future around the time I hope to be dead by.

Jesuspeaks to politicians in Virginia

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 19, 2021:

Duplicate post much??

Monday morning cuteness...I want some

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 19, 2021:

Why not pizza? I have seen cats that will eat lasagna.

I officiated a wedding yesterday and ended up doing divorce counseling for a woman in the ladies ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 19, 2021:

You're talking about the same woman in both cases, right?

Joel Osteen driving a $325k Ferrari is ridiculous and warrants scrutiny.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 19, 2021:

I am sure if there really was a God like the Old Testament one who struck down sinners, the lightning bolt would have hit him long ago. Living proof there is no divine judgement.

Lean creates a feeling of euphoria and relaxation that makes you feel dreamy, almost like you're ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 19, 2021:

You are one twisted, funny dude, man, but I like you! The reason we don't see many fat old people is that most old people don't have as much appetite as younger people. Probably because they are not as active, for one thing, and their metabolism doesn't process food as fast or well as younger folks. Also, older people don't digest as well, so they cut down on their intake to be more comfortable. So it results in less obesity. You still see old people, tho, that have bellies hanging over their waists, as their abdominal muscles get really weak and flabby and belly fat does build up there, even tho the rest of them is thin.

Lambada kitty! [vm.tiktok.com]

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 19, 2021:

Those hairless cats kind of creep me out, but this video is hilarious for the other cat's reaction.

Arlene, my housekeeper of 12 years, passed away last month.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 18, 2021:

Maybe, like they do at most Unitarian memorial services, they should have allowed friends of the deceased to be able to get up and share some reflections on the person who died. But I know that is rarely done or allowed at Christian churches, which is too bad. Their house, their rules. I know that when I die, my closest friend will have all the say about my memorial service, unless I have another partner by then, and I have directed them to only allow the speakers that I have already designated to speak about me at the service. That is for two reasons. First, my siblings have had little contact with me during my adult life and frankly, they do not understand, appreciate, or respect me, so I don't want them to be able to comment on me at the service, when they are basically strangers to me for the last few decades. Secondly, I have seen way too many instances at memorial services where someone the dead person despised, got up there during the open sharing period for friends and family of the deceased and used the platform to spew out a lot of phony baloney admiration or complimentary stuff about the deceased. I am not trying to control the service from the grave, so to speak, but simply trying to preserve the values and attitude of trying to practice truth and integrity the same way I have in my life. I also know I can count on my friends who I designate to also mention some of my faults and character flaws, as well as my virtues and positive acts, so there will be balance, lol...

Billy Cox makes me gag a little at times, but I like this one.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 18, 2021:

I can see how this guy might at times be a little too sappy, but I agree with the attitude of this meme and how it sums up a healthy relationship.

An update on my daughter Becky.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 17, 2021:

Hope it works. I'll be keeping her and you in mind.

I'm 58 and looking for a partner.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 17, 2021:

I hear ya, and I feel your pain. I have had all those experiences and more. In fact during one four month stretch, I got stood up by four different women for the first in person meeting for coffee. I felt like giving up then, but I didn't. I doubt you're doing something wrong, that's just how the online dating game goes, at least if you are an average-looking man, which I am and you appear to be. I get a response rate of about 5-10% from my intitial messages I send to women. The reality is that women do not feel they owe you a reply, unless they are interested in learning more about you and possibly meeting you. I don't live in Australia, so I don't know what sites you're using, but I get messages too sometimes from women who live outside the area of my dating range, 55 miles away. It sounds like the latest date sort of ghosted you. Yup, been there too. The reality is that women feel that the best way to reject someone is to just ghost you, rather than give you an explanation. Same with messaging. Not replying is the safest method to them because it gives you no false encouragement about them. Same with ghosting after they meet you. I don't agree with that method, but a lot of women feel very afraid for their safety, so they ghost, because it gives you no encouragement to keep contacting them, and it doesn't give you any false hope about them being interested in you. The bottom line is, a lot of women are cowardly, as are a lot of men, and online dating makes it easy to be selfish and impersonal. I've had women tell me they feel afraid of being stalked by men they have rejected, even if the man doesn't know where they work or live, or even what their full name is, or their phone number. I think that is sort of paranoid and irrational, but I've heard it used as a justification for ghosting. Finally, I have learned that many times, just because things seem to be going well with the process of getting to know a certain woman from online dating, it should always be remembered that things can and often do turn on a dime. The woman may have talked with her female friends about you and changed her mind about the potential relationship because of that, and you'll never know if that happened. Same thing with parallel dating. She could be, and often they are, if they are average or above average-looking, in contact and messaging or even seeing in person, a few other men or even several other men. And thus, even if things seem to be going well, she may dump you for one of the other men she likes more or feels more compatible with. The problem is that online dating is like gays in the military was a couple decades ago in the US, the rule is Don't Ask, Don't Tell, as far as asking or revealing if you are seeing someone else or in contact with someone else. ...

The bullshit repubilcans

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 16, 2021:

No shit, that's exactly how it works for the left, whether it's voting rights, anti-war, or BLM, we get the bare knuckle treatment and they get the kid gloves. Same way BLM gets lots of cops, military, tear gas, rubber bullets and injuries, while conservative protesters get no arrests at the scene, no rough treatment, and the cops pulling back to let them do as they wish, or even taking selfies with them and giving them aid, like in Kenosha, WI. And of course, no national guard troops when they protest. It removes all doubt which side the government, the military, and the cops are allied with, and it sure ain't anyone on the left.

Covid symptoms: Is it a cold or coronavirus? [bbc.com]

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 16, 2021:

It can be hard to tell. I had Covid in Dec. and recently I felt the same symptoms for about a day as I did then. So I went to Urgent Care clinic and got tested for Covid. It was negative, and I felt much better the next day, was fine after that.

Truer words , very powerful

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 16, 2021:

I do believe that is true. I had to be taught to fear other people, esp. people who were different than me in color.

The Myth of Capitalistic Efficiency [youtube.com]

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 16, 2021:

It's been long obvious to anyone with intellectual honesty that to capitalists and rich people, the lives of peasants who are killed or chewed up and spit out in the pursuit of profits, don't count for squat. Capitalism is war, conducted by other means than conventional war, against everyone but the rich. And their side has been completely winning for several decades now, while the bodies of peasants pile up by the millions. The war has cost none of the lives of the rich, as none of them have been executed in a revolution, like there was in France long ago. The commentator is naive, as the capitalist has no real incentive to provide adequate food or health care to their workers, who can be easily replaced with other easily exploited workers, They are no better or different than machines to the capitalist, just replace them as soon as they age or wear out.

Humor

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 16, 2021:

I have not really noticed any difference in humor between the two groups.

Mike Lindell, the My Pillow Guy, has picked August the 13th as the day Donald Trump will be ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 16, 2021:

I used believe in when Santa and the Easter Bunny were coming on a particular date, but that didn't make either of those happen, so rotsa ruck to Lindell on his prediction with Trump's reinstatement.

Biden DOJ Indicts 16 Members Of Violent White Supremacist Gang – Breaking News USA

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 15, 2021:

About fucking time...

According to one of my friends, I’m going to the Christian Hell just because I’m Pro-LGBT.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 15, 2021:

As Mark Twain said, "Hell for company, Heaven for virtue"...

How many in this group knew this over 5 years ago?

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 15, 2021:

I knew five years ago..

Now that's a prayer lol

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 15, 2021:

A big Amen from me!

These days I mostly just want someone to talk to.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 14, 2021:

I've never had kids, and that is by choice, so I have no idea what it's like to live with a 12 yo. I only have my Covid isolation of about 14 months, where about the only adult verbal conversation was pretty much on the phone. That period was really hard on me socially and emotionally, but your situation is probably as tough or tougher. Hope you find some relief and adults to talk to.

Humble vs Ego

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 14, 2021:

Interesting stuff. I admit that I love being right, in general, but most of the time I have no interest in proving myself right to others, at least in the city I live in, because I am too well aware of how much I am outnumbered by people who are not as intelligent, educated, or experienced in being around a diversity of types of people as me. So I don't bother wasting my breath or energy on them. They are simple, small-town hicks, even tho it's a city of tens of thousands. And it's not worth the hassle of trying to change or confront them and have them gang up on me and retaliate by hassling me later. My city used to be a small town of about 10K, until the late 20th century, when it began to attract lots of people from rural areas that wanted to live close enough to the good jobs in the Des Moines and West Des Moines area, but far enough away to not have to live around or send their kids to school with, POC. The vast majority of them are conservative Christians, racists, and Trumpers, and there's no changing them.

I'm defiantly happier since I been an Atheist and my mind opening to more things like dating outside...

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 14, 2021:

I am open to dating someone who isn't white, but am very skeptical about it ever succeeding, since it's tough enough to find a woman even in my race that shares my offbeat, at least for Iowa, cultural and lifestyle traits. In fact, I recently connected and even met up in person with a woman who was black, and we seemed to hit it off well. But then she blocked me a couple days later on the dating site, after not returning my first phone call to her, etc. My guess is she was just too young for me, nine years younger, and used to dating men who preferred texting to actually talking on the phone, like I do. Live and learn, I need to date women my own age who are not into all the texting and being tied all the time into social media and tech. Someone more old fashioned, like me. The experience made me gunshy about ever approaching someone again on a dating site who isn't white, as she seemed to have no problem with that. First time that I ever tried someone not white.

An excellent point

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 14, 2021:

I have a couple friends who are way different than me on politics, and the only way we can get along is if we leave that topic off limits. One of them is a Libertarian, the other is a very centrist Dem who keeps refusing to recognize the faults and corruption of the Dem Party. But both of them agree with me about morality and share my morality, so I am willing to keep them as friends because of that.

What do y'all think about suggesting a correction to a mistake in someone's online dating profile?

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 14, 2021:

I've been there and will never do it again. Even politely pointing out an error in someone's profile gets a hostile, defensive reaction, in my experience, no matter how much you explain that you are trying to help and are interested in them. As a Catholic priest said to me, the first time I ever heard this saying, "No good deed goes unpunished." It always leads to the other person rejecting you, even tho on paper, at least, you seem compatible before the correction and the conflict it leads to.

Oh helll,,,, you know this was coming up at some point.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 13, 2021:

I always considered a lot of contemporary Christian artists to be either eccentrics who couldn't succeed in secular rock or pop, or in other cases, washed-up has beens from the rock scene who went the Christian route as a way to boost or extend their music career. Same way a lot of rockers go country after they get too old to do rock music anymore and no longer have any edge to their music. Similar to Christian movies, low quality versions of Hollywood films.

Dating in Arizona: Here's a quote from a woman's profile: "No I haven't gotten.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 13, 2021:

I think the profile proves the woman is nuts and someone to take a hard pass on, unless you enjoy crazy with sex and think she's hot enough looking to take the risk for some casual sex. Your call.

A strange case of identical cats.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 12, 2021:

Tuxedo Junction...

Some little asshole (Renfield) stepped in wet acrylic paint and left little Caribbean Blue paw ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 12, 2021:

Bad Renfield!! Looks so cute and innocent there. Who, me??

Fauci Says ‘It's Horrifying’ to See CPAC Crowd Cheering Low Vaccination Rates

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 12, 2021:

I wish Covid would wipe out a lot of these assholes, if only it didn't hurt other innocent people in the process...

Rebel HQ - Woman Thinks Her White Privilege Is Harassment [youtube.com]

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 12, 2021:

This Karen needs to be bitch-slapped so bad!!

Big tip you are wrong

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 11, 2021:

And in my mind, you wind up getting what you deserve...

Gallup agrees with Pew.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 11, 2021:

Marx said it long ago, "Religion is the opiate of the masses", and in this case, esp. so for the poorer masses....

I am very talented

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 11, 2021:

But for many people, alcohol provides an excuse for making them, and in our legal system, it often provides an out for not being legally liable for bad decisions or behavior.

And When I Die.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 10, 2021:

This is one of my classic rock/soul tunes that I sing at karaoke, that always seems to go over big with crowds, even here in the Bible Belt of Iowa.

Religious extremists.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 10, 2021:

Not surprising. FL has a lot of crazy there.

Truth as far as I'm concerned.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 10, 2021:

I can imagine it. Those people who no compassion, empathy, or conscience. When you are as rich as God, you start to think you are God.

First thing, let's establish I am NOT a genius.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 8, 2021:

You will probably have to find your like-minded friends online or drive to a Unitarian church wherever the closest one is. Or find a meeting of Atheists and Freethinkers by looking online for where the nearest meeting is, and attend those. That's the price of living in the sticks... It appears that you live somewhere in rural Washington state. I live in a decent-sized metro area, but unfortunately, it's in the middle of a hick state full of farms, so I am in the same boat as you as far as dating. But at least in my area, it's not that hard to find some intelligent non-believers. The problem is that at my age, they are mostly already taken or coupled up. Another way to maybe meet some intelligent, offbeat people is to check out a local community theater group, wherever the nearest one to you is. When I was young and living in a new town, that was where I quickly found a group of like-minded people for friendship, even if it didn't have anyone for me to date from the group. They were mostly older than me, but fun to party and hang out with.

The proof is the pudding.. how about just stitched on the sweat shop clothes.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 7, 2021:

No fucking shit..... And some of the blame also goes to consumers, both middle class and above, who voted with their dollars to support this outsourcing of jobs instead of continuing to pay a little more and buy from the American suppliers that were still available early in this outsourcing process. Every spending decision we make as consumers is political, whether we realize it or not....

Jen Psaki had enough of Greene

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 7, 2021:

No brains, very pretty, and a complete psycho. Sounds like the dream girl of most male Trumpers.....

Not feeling good today and my nurse is sleeping on the job. Go figure.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 7, 2021:

Most cats don't do much besides snoozing. 20 hours a day seems about right.

In 1927 in Plains, Georgia, a three-year-old boy named Jimmy Carter lived next door to an auto ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 7, 2021:

He is by far the most decent man we have had as president in my lifetime.

I decided to browse through the singles group and noticed many of our pictures are in there several ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 5, 2021:

I agree with your point. I think that nowadays the site has way fewer active members than a year or more ago, and that the admin. has flown the coop. We no longer get emails from the site with alerts for new posts for groups we are in or responses to our comments and posts. So it appears the site is running on autopilot. I have been thru this before with another discussion site, and eventually that site was overrun by scammers posting their ads on it to the point the site became unusable. I hope that doesn't happen here, but if it does, I won't be surprised.

100 Years After First Diabetes Breakthrough, Canadian Scientists Believe They’ve Found a Cure ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 4, 2021:

That would be so wonderful if it works and was made available and affordable to all with the disease, as diabetes causes so many other health problems and has such an effect on quality and length of life.

When it comes to God I'm not an atheist. I'm currently an Empirical (Weak) Agnostic.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 4, 2021:

Duplicate post much???

'I Really Like When Men': Woman's Devilishly Smart Dating Advice Will Change Your Life

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 4, 2021:

I take it you posted this sarcastically.

Can't really follow the narrative w/out your Translator...

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 4, 2021:

And if we had a free and fair mass media, instead of the corporate media of gatekeepers and apologists for the ruling class, they would call the Repubs on these fake terms, but we don't. So they get away with using these terms unchallenged, and most of the sheeple fall for it.

Searching for the right one is not easy I'm 34 I'm single never married before anyone comes up here ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 4, 2021:

I was 37 and terminally single before I met my late wife in 1995. I was never married until age 41. So you never know what can happen with time.

Sometimes the presents cats bring are surprisingly not so appreciated...

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 4, 2021:

It's the thought that counts...

War criminal Rumsfeld dies, but his militarist legacy lives on That Rumsfeld reached the age of ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 3, 2021:

Nice to know that if there were a hell, one of Cheney's buddies is already there waiting for him now.

Sounds like something I would do

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 3, 2021:

I might feed the tip jar like her, but I would be unable to refrain from calling the customer a Karen and telling her off in every way the helpless employee couldn't, knowing full well that if a manager got involved, I would not be penalized for defending the employee as long as I didn't cuss, assault the other customer, or threaten to do so. The manager would probably privately thank me later and I would not be scolded for confronting the other customer.

Stole this from a friend.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 3, 2021:

My late wife was married to an addict before me. They had a long and even sometimes happy marriage, but in the end, she had had enough of the turmoil and struggles, so she kicked him to the curb (figureatively) once she was able to survive on her own. And just as she expected, he died alone and drunk far from home, attempting a geographic cure where he thought he could start over again. The cops found him dead and alone in a hotel room. She found out because her name was still listed as his emergency contact in his wallet, so they called her. By then, he was so estranged from his daughter, that she wasn't listed in his ID papers, and my wife had to call her with the news. She wasn't really surprised either.

Born on the Farce of July: The Lie of MAGA Patriotism

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 3, 2021:

Good essay. He spells out exactly what I have always hated about what I call rah-rah fake patriotism, the kind promoted by the actual fascists and the country music crowd in their songs. With few exceptions, country music has always blindly supported America's wars and blind patriotism as well. Most of its fans are not exactly the most educated and brightest bulbs.

Disturbing Plea Agreement For Former Cop That Murdered Innocent Individual

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 3, 2021:

"Everybody knows, everybody knows. That's how it goes, and everybody knows".....- L. Cohen

July 1st, 1966

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 1, 2021:

Congrats on lasting so long. You've been married almost as long as I've been alive. That's hard for me to comprehend.

A thought on the trend of toxic threesomes.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 1, 2021:

Alrighty then.... Fairly confusing post. Not sure who you are referring to, you and two other people, a threesome you heard about.....?

No money for gas is the least of transportation issues.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 1, 2021:

Those are very valid reasons why some people can't work outside their home. But for right wingers, these are merely excuses, since right wingers see the unemployed as being morally failed people and undeserving of any sympathy or help, that is, until they themselves are unemployed. Then, it suddenly becomes someone else's fault, not theirs. They are hypocrites of the highest order.

I'm 34 single never married don't have children and I'm looking for a woman that will accept me for ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 1, 2021:

Aren't we all?

Fundie Family Member: If you are an atheist you will burn in hell for all eternity.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jun 29, 2021:

Good one...

One of the most meaningful essays I've read recently Let go of the people who aren't ready to ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Jun 29, 2021:

I think Lou Reed summed it up well many years ago. " I do believe. If you don't like things, you leave"....

You are not just a cat ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Jun 29, 2021:

Aww, how sweet. This is true with some cats, others are totally indifferent, as long as they get their food, water, and litter box cleaned.

Pause for a minute and let it soak in

TomMcGiverin comments on Jun 28, 2021:

Because there's one kind of treatment for protestors against the status quo and the rights of the underdog, and another for protestors supporting the rights and rule of the ruling class. Why is there a difference? Because the police have always been more about protecting the wealth, property, and safety of the ruling class rather than doing the same for the peasants.

Good, very good.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jun 28, 2021:

Cats are so easily amused..

Hi—I’ve been close to AWOL for a few months while I focused on rekindling a relationship.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jun 28, 2021:

Yeah, but dogs and cats are much more loyal and reliable than most humans are in romantic relationships, so better to rely on pets.

Black Christian Stockholm Syndrome

TomMcGiverin comments on Jun 27, 2021:

Reminds me a little of that scene in Cool Hand Luke where the prison warden tells Luke he is only being cruel to Luke " for his own good". The difference here is that, for the black Christian, they really believe their slavery to the religion is for their own good. In the movie Luke, instead, knew the line was BS, and told the warden, sarcastically, " I wish you'd quit being so good to me"... Of course the warden, being the sadistic MF that he is, hits Luke twice and yells at him to never talk to him that way again, "Nevah, nevah!"....

CNN Brianna calls out Tucker Carlson, he is white rage

TomMcGiverin comments on Jun 27, 2021:

He's also a rich, entitled asshole, who, like his hero Trump, gets enraged at anyone who doesn't kiss his ass. He so needs to have his ass kicked physically by someone, but it'll never happen.

Miami condo collapse: Inspection reports note 'concrete deterioration'

TomMcGiverin comments on Jun 27, 2021:

Proof of why honest building inspectors are so important. Same thing with building codes being enforced.

Structural engineer warned of problems before the collapse

TomMcGiverin comments on Jun 27, 2021:

One reason I live in a three story building in a state where earthquakes are unknown.

Terri Conley: We need to rethink casual sex | TED Talk

TomMcGiverin comments on Jun 26, 2021:

Usually, I don't watch TED talks that are posted here on Agnostic, as they are normally an hour long or more. Fortunately, this one was shorter and to the point. One thing I got from this is that Americans are very irrational about sex, which I already knew. And I bet that the more religious they are, the more irrational they are about sex. Secondly, the talk makes it clear that the myths are all about morality that is imposed on sex and those that practice it in non-conforming ways. Nothing new there either that I hadn't already known. We would all be better off if we took morality out of our attitudes about sex and kept it focused instead on just two things, which are, whether people are honest with others about their sexual practices, such as cheating, etc. and secondly, that sex should be between consenting, informed parties who are not exploiting others. Lastly, the main value imposed on sex should be practicing it safely for the protection of self and others from disease, but abstention should not be the primary method for achieving that.

Those who forget history are doomed to repeat it , Never again

TomMcGiverin comments on Jun 25, 2021:

I heard that history doesn't repeat itself, but it rhymes...

Keeping the customer satisfied!

TomMcGiverin comments on Jun 25, 2021:

With most cats, that would be the purrfect gift.

What are your dealbreakers?

TomMcGiverin comments on Jun 25, 2021:

This topic has been posted before, I really have nothing to add to what has been listed or repeat my previously posted list except, someone who loves country music and has no intellect or is anti-intellectual.

I spent 32 years learning the lesson

TomMcGiverin comments on Jun 24, 2021:

That's a long time to waste on someone, about a half or a third of a lifetime.

"None of these things are happening in any other developed nation.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jun 22, 2021:

I wish more of you would quit posting links that require either a subscription or some kind of registration. I want to just either be able to simply read it or not without any work. If it requires any work on my part, I will pass it by, since I already can find a lot of the same news and commentary on Commondreams.org, even with its faults and apologist slant for the Dem Party.

Seven justices - including two appointed by Donald Trump - rejected, for the third time, a ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Jun 22, 2021:

This is the same as Roe vs. Wade, the Repubs and their judges oppose it, but they know they don't dare rule against it, or it would kill the Repubs in all future elections, so they let it stand when it comes down to eliminating it.

Dad has passed out after a long day with the kids

TomMcGiverin comments on Jun 22, 2021:

Poor big papa...

Unfortunately not surprised

TomMcGiverin comments on Jun 17, 2021:

Guess they must be feeling some embarrassment, not that that ever stops them from pursuing their agendas. Orwell would be proud of this latest example of Newspeak....

Is anyone else a winner?

TomMcGiverin comments on Jun 16, 2021:

But it seems so real, it has be legit (snark).

Supermarket cashier killed in U.S. state of Georgia in mask-wearing dispute | Reuters

TomMcGiverin comments on Jun 16, 2021:

Just goes to show how foolish open carry laws are when they allow assholes to be given carry permits.

Covid: US death toll passes 600,000 as vaccination rate slows [bbc.com]

TomMcGiverin comments on Jun 16, 2021:

I think the final total US death count from Covid is going to end up somewhere short of 700K, but that's assuming there is not a later severe outbreak from one or more new variants of the virus that the current vaccines are not effective against.

Who else identifies as an introvert?

TomMcGiverin comments on Jun 15, 2021:

Not me, but I generally prefer one on one interactions rather than a group social situation. I am more comfortable and relaxed in the former situation where I can go with the give and take and concentrate better on the conversation. As I understand it, a true introvert would prefer alone time to even a one on one social situation. I enjoy some alone time, but I enjoy time with a friend or partner more.

Genesis of Homeless by Mr. Hefferman (?

TomMcGiverin comments on Jun 15, 2021:

None of this surprises me. We would have little to no homelessness if we had socialism instead of bare knuckles capitalism. Any liberal who chooses charity over socialism as a way to combat homelessness and poverty is being selfish and willfully in denial.

The Fucking President Has Fucking Dementia: Notes From The Edge Of The Narrative Matrix ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Jun 15, 2021:

I was saying that about Biden way back during the primary debates, but no Dem loyalists would believe me or allow themselves to hear or consider it.