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Congratulations on keeping the hippie mindset.

Fred_Snerd comments on May 12, 2020:

Do you ever wonder how much of our generational culture is sold to us? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=64yjlIBSI9A

TomMcGiverin replies on May 12, 2020:

I agree. Most people probably don't actually reflect on their memories and just accept whatever generalizations and message is given to them in mass media.

Congratulations on keeping the hippie mindset.

TomMcGiverin comments on May 12, 2020:

This sketch is so funny and sick because all of it is so true. It makes me ashamed to be a boomer. Both generations have their faults and also share the same problem of having huge blind spots about their faults. I am proud to say that I never became either of the first two types of boomers. I met ...

TomMcGiverin replies on May 12, 2020:

@Fred_Snerd I am 61 yo, so when I graduated college in 1981 it was the beginning of Reaganomics and I had already mostly missed out on the good times economically. My only piece of the gravy train for the boomers was being able to attend college at the lower rates of cost at the time and also having FT work in the summers off from college at a good paying job. But after college, even tho I had no college debt, I spend most of my adult working life working at low wages with no benefits while using free health clinics, buying low cost inadequate health insurance and hoping I didn't get seriusly ill. So I can relate to some of the millenials's problems as I lived them for much of my adult life.

What goes around comes around .

motrubl4u comments on May 9, 2020:

I wish that fuck would die slowly and painfully. He deserves no less. I say this as a Missourian

TomMcGiverin replies on May 9, 2020:

Branson may be the Disneyland or Las Vegas for hicks from rural America, but for me it would be like visiting hell....

50 years ago 3 girls who were living in a youth hostel moved into a huge 6 bedroom house.

BitFlipper comments on May 8, 2020:

I'm pretty sure that if more women spent time with us unattractive guys they would like us.

TomMcGiverin replies on May 9, 2020:

@Cyklone Shallow Hal is a touching fable and moral lesson, but it is not based in reality as far as my observation and experience with attraction have been. The movie provides a new way of looking at attraction, but that is not how people are wired.

New Trump Press Secretary Tells Reporters She’ll Never Lie to Them At her first briefing ever...

GEGR comments on May 3, 2020:

What a Surprise ?? Another Lying Blond Republiturd Bimbo .

TomMcGiverin replies on May 9, 2020:

She does look like someone out of central casting for the Fox News expose movie Bombshell....

More than 12,000 Catholic churches in the U.S. applied for PPP loans – and 9,000 got them

Triphid comments on May 8, 2020:

WTF, people are going hungry AND the Churches get hand-outs they don't need anyway, where the F**K is the Social Justice?

TomMcGiverin replies on May 8, 2020:

In those prosperity evangelical churches those private jets and cadillacs don't just buy themselves, hee hee...

Social distancing support cat.

dalefvictor comments on May 6, 2020:

Is this the cat that talks?

TomMcGiverin replies on May 6, 2020:

Nope. That cat is Sylvester. This cat just keeps away annoying neighbors..

Should a company who hires workers to work in the heat and cold be responsible for these workers ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Jan 27, 2019:

I worked for a few years at a place that literally was a sweatshop and the ownership and management couldn't have cared less about the health and safety of the hourly workers there in the laboring jobs. There was no AC except for the offices and barely any heat on the work floor. This place really ...

TomMcGiverin replies on May 5, 2020:

@Larry68Feminist Yup, that's one of the many joys of living in a right to work for less state..

Do you think the police even realize this?

FearlessFly comments on May 4, 2020:

Not to excuse racism, but openly carrying firearms is widely legal in the US (irrespective of what you or I might want).

TomMcGiverin replies on May 4, 2020:

@Lorajay When black Americans openly carry guns, the cops look at it totally different than when white Americans openly carry. It was that way in the 60s with the Panthers and it still is today.

Do you think the police even realize this?

TheInterlooper comments on May 4, 2020:

Do you think most citizens realize this? https://ucr.fbi.gov/crime-in-the-u.s/2017/crime-in-the-u.s.-2017/topic-pages/expanded-homicide

TomMcGiverin replies on May 4, 2020:

I think most whites don't care as long as the victims don't look like them..

Do you think the police even realize this?

Barnie2years comments on May 4, 2020:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yJqfNroFp8U=share

TomMcGiverin replies on May 4, 2020:

Reminds me of how nervous the Black Panthers in the 60s used to make the racists and conservatives nervous with how well they knew the gun laws and proudly carried weapons while openly declaring war on the police and racist pols back then. Ah, good times....

Hundreds of Armed Protesters Gather at Michigan’s State Capitol Hundreds of armed protesters,...

NR92 comments on May 2, 2020:

What if they had anti Capitalism slogans? Don't you think they would be arrested immediately and all TV channels would broadcast breaking news about armed commies trying to coup

TomMcGiverin replies on May 2, 2020:

@johnnyrobish I agree. You can bet your ass that if any black folks showed up heavily armed they would at least be arrested if not shot on sight, a la how the Black Panthers were treated in the old days. Same thing if they were left wing protesters, they would at least get tear-gassed and arrested while their protests would be ignored by the corporate media.

Sorry the picture went sideways I tried fixing it but couldn't.

Spudgun comments on May 2, 2020:

My cat likes to jump in the dryer as soon as the laundry is dry and still warm.

TomMcGiverin replies on May 2, 2020:

It's all about getting max heat..

OMFG.

ChrisCampbell comments on May 1, 2020:

pick Nena turner as vp if he wants to win joe should

TomMcGiverin replies on May 2, 2020:

@SeaGreenEyez I agree that him picking her would not help him at all towards winning.

OMFG.

ChrisCampbell comments on May 1, 2020:

pick Nena turner as vp if he wants to win joe should

TomMcGiverin replies on May 2, 2020:

@SeaGreenEyez Then it will be Klobuchar. She already let it slip a while ago that she was going to be on his ticket.

It seems to be everywhere.

HippieChick58 comments on May 1, 2020:

I have a neighbor cat that will never be that victim. He acts friendly, but as soon as you are within reach he has 40 claws and 80 teeth aimed at your jugular. I talk to him but never ever try to touch him.

TomMcGiverin replies on May 1, 2020:

@TheGreatShadow Sounds like a client for Jackson Galaxy, pet behaviorist...

OMFG.

ChrisCampbell comments on May 1, 2020:

pick Nena turner as vp if he wants to win joe should

TomMcGiverin replies on May 1, 2020:

@SeaGreenEyez It will be Klobachar or Warren.

JUST GOT BLOCKED ON FACEBOOK AGAIN!!!!!! This time for answering a question.

TomMcGiverin comments on Apr 30, 2020:

No good deed goes unpunished...

TomMcGiverin replies on Apr 30, 2020:

@Triphid No shit. They are about as tolerant as The Taliban...

Did you know? MSNBC is trying to rebrand itself as progressive media. 😂

ToolGuy comments on Apr 23, 2020:

But will it actually be progressive?

TomMcGiverin replies on Apr 27, 2020:

Of course not! What more proof do you need than the facts that they supported the Iraq War, fired Phil Donahue for being against that war, fired Ed Shultz for wanting to cover Bernie fairly during the 2016 campaign, and finally for their Bernie blackout that lasted almost a year during this last primary campaign. They are just as anti-progressive and pro-corporate as Fox News, the only diff is they play to the Dem audience instead of the Repub audience and they worship at the altars of PC and identity politics, just like NPR, instead of openly promoting bigotry like Fox.

Do you agree with Hedges about Sanders? [youtu.be]

RoboGraham comments on Apr 26, 2020:

I love Chris Hedges

TomMcGiverin replies on Apr 27, 2020:

He is the most truthful about our system, even more than Nader, who keeps trying to tell people that we are not yet under fascism and that electoral politics or mass movements can change things. Hedges admits how bleak things actually are and that radical change will take more than Nader or Sanders suggest, that it will take general strikes and mass non-cooperation with the corporate system.

How any woman or man who loves women could ever vote for this disgusting narcicistc man.

Observer-Effect comments on Apr 26, 2020:

It drives me nuts to see women vote for that asshole. Some kind of Stockholm syndrome?

TomMcGiverin replies on Apr 27, 2020:

Kind of like progressives that vote Dem every four years as part of backing the Lesser Evil. The worst kind of Stockholm Syndrome, in my book..

No surprise here.

TomMcGiverin comments on Apr 25, 2020:

Everybody knows...

TomMcGiverin replies on Apr 25, 2020:

@Fred_Snerd Waking up is good, but what will people do once they wake up? Right now we can't protest in the streets. Until enough woke people start voting third party, nothing will change.

Dating religious people

SCal comments on Apr 24, 2020:

I responded to a similar post on this matter just days ago. The post, and thus my comment, were deleted. So I will just repost it here: Women who are nonbelievers are in high demand. It's near unanimous in this thread, and every other thread like this apparently, that most women say no ...

TomMcGiverin replies on Apr 24, 2020:

@BryanLV I wouldn't be concerned, but we don't want cause problems for the admin., so we err on the side of caution.

Dating religious people

SCal comments on Apr 24, 2020:

I responded to a similar post on this matter just days ago. The post, and thus my comment, were deleted. So I will just repost it here: Women who are nonbelievers are in high demand. It's near unanimous in this thread, and every other thread like this apparently, that most women say no ...

TomMcGiverin replies on Apr 24, 2020:

@BryanLV I was referring to Match. The originator of this group asked us at the start of the group to not use the actual names of the dating sites we were using in case someone posted something that might offend them. A precaution to prevent lawsuits against Agnostic.com

Dating religious people

SCal comments on Apr 24, 2020:

I responded to a similar post on this matter just days ago. The post, and thus my comment, were deleted. So I will just repost it here: Women who are nonbelievers are in high demand. It's near unanimous in this thread, and every other thread like this apparently, that most women say no ...

TomMcGiverin replies on Apr 24, 2020:

@BryanLV Good luck. After two years on Batch, and almost no success with the small number of non-believing women on there in my local area, I met someone who is a practicing Catholic that is compatible and respectful of my lack of belief. It helps that she is not strongly religious. If I had held out for only dating fellow non-believers, I would still be alone.

Dating religious people

SCal comments on Apr 24, 2020:

I responded to a similar post on this matter just days ago. The post, and thus my comment, were deleted. So I will just repost it here: Women who are nonbelievers are in high demand. It's near unanimous in this thread, and every other thread like this apparently, that most women say no ...

TomMcGiverin replies on Apr 24, 2020:

Sadly, your comment matches my experience and observations regarding non-believing women. Non-believing men who are seeking a partner realistically have to be more flexible than their female counterparts or they will likely end up alone. Those men have to be open to dating women who may be believers, but are not strongly religious and are respectful of the man's non-belief. Holding out for only women who don't believe will, for most of us, be a recipe for never finding anyone. Because we will not win out over the competition from other men who are non-believers that have more going for them in other areas (looks, money, etc.).

I've found a new way to weed out the majority from dating sites.

BitFlipper comments on Apr 24, 2020:

I must admit: I don't have a natural smile. I have a smirk. When I smile it looks fake. So my pictures are all natural smirks.

TomMcGiverin replies on Apr 24, 2020:

That's funny to hear since I know you are not a Repub. It has always seemed to me that most Repub pols and conservative pundits as well, seem to have a constant smirk, like George W. Bush, rather than a natural smile.

A very spirited critique of the government's handling of the COVID-19 recession by a very furious ...

PondartIncbendog comments on Apr 23, 2020:

I just found this guy yesterday. He's a hoot.

TomMcGiverin replies on Apr 23, 2020:

@RoboGraham I have two thoughts on this guy. One, say it, don't spray it. Second, Sam Kinison lives..

Good Afternoon Everyone! Happy Thursday! My stimulus check finally came - US mail to the wrong ...

WonderWartHog99 comments on Apr 23, 2020:

## It's been difficult to ignore how frequently I see people leaving Wally Mart with large screen, high res televisions.

TomMcGiverin replies on Apr 23, 2020:

@WonderWartHog99 I agree that it seems pretty bone-headed for people who obviously don't have a big cushion of emergency money saved in the bank to be splurge-buying big TVs from Walmart or Sam's Club, but it is what it is. Not going to change anytime soon...Trying to make the money last by spending it only on food and bills would seem to be more prudent, but who knows...

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MattJKeller comments on Apr 22, 2020:

Any mention of god or a close personal relationship with Jesus "No Drama" The "Karen" haircut pro-trump, conservative, anti-abortion Grammar and writing style like a 12 year old(omg, lol, never uses puncuation) NO text at all. Unless there is something compelling in their picture(cool band ...

TomMcGiverin replies on Apr 23, 2020:

@MattJKeller Thanks Matt.

This article in the Atlantic seems to think that the never trumpers will forge a coalition with the ...

JayOleck38 comments on Apr 22, 2020:

I would vote for my last bowel movement before I would vote for Trump....but then I'm not really enjoying any of the economic benefits of Trumps administration.

TomMcGiverin replies on Apr 22, 2020:

@JayOleck38 No, just a proud socialist. I know how un-American that sounds to most people and I get your snark....Seriously tho, not all of us boomers sold out and became selfish and greedy. However, too many, probably most of us, did....That's why most of the boomers voted for Biden over Bernie in the primaries. I am sad and disgusted at my generation for that.

This article in the Atlantic seems to think that the never trumpers will forge a coalition with the ...

JayOleck38 comments on Apr 22, 2020:

I would vote for my last bowel movement before I would vote for Trump....but then I'm not really enjoying any of the economic benefits of Trumps administration.

TomMcGiverin replies on Apr 22, 2020:

I'm enjoying some of them, but I want more for those less well off than me and I was want more economic security for us all.

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Apunzelle comments on Apr 22, 2020:

Smoking Conservative Christian Being pro-Trump Bald More than 35-40 minutes away Any mention of “god” Too many shirtless selfies No photos without hats

TomMcGiverin replies on Apr 22, 2020:

@Apunzelle Pretty insulting for someone who claims they have empathy. Time to block.

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Apunzelle comments on Apr 22, 2020:

Smoking Conservative Christian Being pro-Trump Bald More than 35-40 minutes away Any mention of “god” Too many shirtless selfies No photos without hats

TomMcGiverin replies on Apr 22, 2020:

@Apunzelle, @MattJKeller I disagree Matt that writing a long or fairly complete profile is a waste of everyone's time. Esp. if in many cases it would save time for the other gender. I still think it is somewhat arrogant to go with a fairly vague, short profile, but it is their right. People are either empathetic and equality-minded towards others in the dating game or they aren't. Unfortunately, most people aren't, but that doesn't make it right or them any less selfish for being that way.

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Apunzelle comments on Apr 22, 2020:

Smoking Conservative Christian Being pro-Trump Bald More than 35-40 minutes away Any mention of “god” Too many shirtless selfies No photos without hats

TomMcGiverin replies on Apr 22, 2020:

@Apunzelle I'm not frustrated with it currently, as I found someone mutually compatible after a long, frustrating two years on Match. But I remember well how it was and wanted to make the arguments on behalf of bald men who are tired of women who have that as a dealbreaker, but won't include it in their profile. It ends up feeling the same as a job-seeker who is constantly applying for jobs that seem appropriate for them, but they keep getting rejected with no reply because the employers are not being very specific or honest about what they are looking for. And believe me, from the working people who I have spoken to in the last several years, that is exactly how it is for most job-seekers, the employers hold all the cards, they rarely approach you about a position unless you are one of the more sought after people in your line of work, and few of those who apply for a job these days ever hear back from the employer. Don't try to tell me that people in that low power position should just suck it up and not have feelings about those who are in a higher power position that treat them as being less important in their time, effort, feelings, etc. Just ask any frustrated job seeker. People either have empathy or they don't. You seem to have little in that area, so I am done with you. Few of us expect others to change for us, but we have the right to our feelings about their actions and how they treat us in general, whether it's an employer or someone on a dating site. Even if it's nothing personal, it still displays an attitude of selfishness or arrogance, and it's not something to be encouraged or praised. Where is Deiter when I wish he was here on this thread? He used to write eloquent volumes on power dynamics and the way those with more power treat those with less so arrogantly and without empathy...

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MattJKeller comments on Apr 22, 2020:

Any mention of god or a close personal relationship with Jesus "No Drama" The "Karen" haircut pro-trump, conservative, anti-abortion Grammar and writing style like a 12 year old(omg, lol, never uses puncuation) NO text at all. Unless there is something compelling in their picture(cool band ...

TomMcGiverin replies on Apr 22, 2020:

@MattJKeller Exactly what is a Karen haircut? Just curious, it's probably related to my being older so I haven't heard of it.

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MattJKeller comments on Apr 22, 2020:

Any mention of god or a close personal relationship with Jesus "No Drama" The "Karen" haircut pro-trump, conservative, anti-abortion Grammar and writing style like a 12 year old(omg, lol, never uses puncuation) NO text at all. Unless there is something compelling in their picture(cool band ...

TomMcGiverin replies on Apr 22, 2020:

@MattJKeller I agree Matt. The problem is the whole defensive attitude of women with the take it or leave it, attitude and the whole thing of emphasizing the kids so much you wonder if they are really seeking a partner for a couples relationship that involves kids or instead more of just an escort to family gatherings and spending family time to the exclusion of any alone couples time. Showing the kids in a profile pic is also an innappropriate exposure of those kids to people who may be predators.

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Apunzelle comments on Apr 22, 2020:

Smoking Conservative Christian Being pro-Trump Bald More than 35-40 minutes away Any mention of “god” Too many shirtless selfies No photos without hats

TomMcGiverin replies on Apr 22, 2020:

@Apunzelle I don't think you will ever agree with me or get my point of view because you are a woman and the fact is that online dating, by default, ends up being the men doing most of the pursuing. So let me try another way of looking at it that might help you empathize a bit more. You dismiss my viewpoint rather blithely, saying "It's just online dating, take it as it is, etc.". Be that as it may, online dating is, unfortunately, an important thing for most single people, esp. those over 50 and those who are retired, as they are no longer in the wider social networks that are usually there for people who are younger and working that allow them to frequently meet other singles. So, let's suppose you were job-seeking and in that situation you are always having to make the first move or contact with prospective employers. But those employers were not being completely open or honest with you and other applicants about what they are looking for in an employee. Maybe their criteria that is being withheld involves age, how frequently you have left jobs, who knows what else. Can you honestly say that you would just laugh it off or not feel bad over time if you kept getting no replies after applying for a hundred jobs or more and none of them ever responded with any feedback about why you were rejected? Because that is the lot of most men on dating sites who are average-looking or below. I know this because I have chatted with many of them on Agnostic over the last two years about this stuff. I highly doubt it would not bother you.

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Apunzelle comments on Apr 22, 2020:

Smoking Conservative Christian Being pro-Trump Bald More than 35-40 minutes away Any mention of “god” Too many shirtless selfies No photos without hats

TomMcGiverin replies on Apr 22, 2020:

@Apunzelle I guess we will have to respectfully disagree on this. I think that the more complete and honest the profile info, the better. By doing so, you are saving the other gender time and effort that would otherwise be wasted pursuing potential dating partners that will never be interested in them. Hardly seeming like "arrogant assholes" for being open and honest about their wants, at least in my book. I bet there are plenty of people who agree with me on that point, esp. men who are not above average-looking...

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Apunzelle comments on Apr 22, 2020:

Smoking Conservative Christian Being pro-Trump Bald More than 35-40 minutes away Any mention of “god” Too many shirtless selfies No photos without hats

TomMcGiverin replies on Apr 22, 2020:

@Emerald I think there is some truth to that, but at the same time there are many women that would never date a bald man and just don't want to look shallow, so they won't say it in a profile. Which is their right, but it still seems a bit inconsiderate.

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Apunzelle comments on Apr 22, 2020:

Smoking Conservative Christian Being pro-Trump Bald More than 35-40 minutes away Any mention of “god” Too many shirtless selfies No photos without hats

TomMcGiverin replies on Apr 22, 2020:

@Apunzelle The problem is that if you don't put it in your profile, then guys who are bald will not know that about you and waste time messaging you since you seem compatible, at least in their eyes, based on what IS in your profile. Online dating is always going to be frustrating and full of rejection, but it would be somewhat easier if people were more open and honest about their dealbreakers and what they are looking for in the info they include in their profiles. Leaving things out that are dealbreakers for you seems, at least to me, to be sort of a form of false advertising and possibly also an attitude of "my time is more valuable than yours" by not trying to avoid others wasting time reaching out to you when they already have traits that are dealbreakers for you. In a nutshell, treat others as you would want to be treated, as an equal, not as someone less important. Just because you can easily swipe left on bald guys doesn't mean that they are less important than you and that their time and effort is less important than yours. Stating the dealbreaker in your profile gives them the info to intelligently pass you by or swipe left, instead of messaging you and wasting their own time and effort. The fact is that in most online dating, the men are left to do most or all of the pursuing, or initial messaging. As a woman, you have the privilege or option of being able to sit back and get lots of interest and messages from prospective men. So it is mostly quite a different situation for you than for a man as far as what happens when someone leaves dealbreakers out of a profile. Imagine if you were a man and having to make the first move or send the first message most of the time and almost all the men were not saying anything in their profiles about whether a woman being overweight was a dealbreaker for them? You would feel bad about it because almost all of your messages would get no replies, for that reason. And I bet you would then feel different about your position that people should not put those dealbreakers in their profile because it would "make others feel bad" about their physical traits. Few people approach online dating with a compassionate attitude of empathetically imagining everything being on the other foot.

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Apunzelle comments on Apr 22, 2020:

Smoking Conservative Christian Being pro-Trump Bald More than 35-40 minutes away Any mention of “god” Too many shirtless selfies No photos without hats

TomMcGiverin replies on Apr 22, 2020:

At least you're honest about baldness being a dealbreaker. Most women aren't, at least in their profiles, and so it gives false hope and leads to wasted time for bald men like me to message them on dating sites. I would guess that at least 40% of women feel that way about baldness, but won't say it in a profile because they don't want to be seen as shallow, whether they are or not in being that way. Of course, like everything, it goes both ways. Most men are the same way about women being overweight.

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MattJKeller comments on Apr 22, 2020:

Any mention of god or a close personal relationship with Jesus "No Drama" The "Karen" haircut pro-trump, conservative, anti-abortion Grammar and writing style like a 12 year old(omg, lol, never uses puncuation) NO text at all. Unless there is something compelling in their picture(cool band ...

TomMcGiverin replies on Apr 22, 2020:

You live in Illinois and I live in Iowa, both are Midwest. I can tell you that in this region almost all the women that have kids are very family-oriented and go on about their kids in their profiles, including most of them having photos of their kids in the profile. So your dealbreaker about kids would pretty much limit you in this region to only dating women without kids, which, in your age group, would be a really small pool, esp. with women who aren't religious or conservative. Welcome to the dating puddle.

Let's discuss censorship.

Paul4747 comments on Apr 18, 2020:

A) Censorship generally means something the government does. This is a private site, it's their house and their rules. The 1st Amendment has nothing to say about it. B) That said, I self-censor more than anything. I have a skewed sense of humor, but I ask myself, "Would I want to read this, if ...

TomMcGiverin replies on Apr 18, 2020:

I am grateful that this site is pretty hands off about bad language. Otherwise, I would feel seriously handicapped in expressing myself (kind of like driving without ever having the use of my middle fingers) and probably move on from here. I suspect many others feel the same way. We are all adults and can handle profanity.

TRANSFORMED:

TomMcGiverin comments on Apr 18, 2020:

Could have become worse..

TomMcGiverin replies on Apr 18, 2020:

@OldGoat43 Not necessarily. Most dogs have good character, just not as loveable or cute as cats are to me.

Ocasio-Cortez offers her services to the Biden campaign [wsws.

Lorajay comments on Apr 17, 2020:

Purists are America's most dangerous commodity. No one is perfect. No one is right all the time and no one is wrong all the time.

TomMcGiverin replies on Apr 18, 2020:

@Piece2YourPuzzle Quite true. Most of them are callous, soulless people who have sold out long ago.

Some stimulus checks are being sent to wrong accounts: 'The bank account number is not even close'...

Beowulfsfriend comments on Apr 16, 2020:

I just wait for the check. Anyone see the guy who got 800k deposited. It was taken back in less than 24 hrs.

TomMcGiverin replies on Apr 18, 2020:

Sounds like the goof that happened to the guys from Office Space...

Joe moving kinda slow

RoboGraham comments on Apr 17, 2020:

Look out, the Biden Bros will be arriving shortly to call you a Russian troll bot.