Is alcohol necessary for your first 'date'?

TomMcGiverin comments on Dec 4, 2019:

Not for me, I don't drink. As for my date, it's up to them, altho I would be turned off by someone who got drunk around me and would not see them again. I prefer meeting during the day if possible for a first meeting and having coffee or tea with them. Incidentally, Homer is not exactly my idol, but Bender rocks!

Ok. Can we agree on one thing?

TomMcGiverin comments on Dec 4, 2019:

Money being equal to speech in our political and legal system, along with the corruption it causes in our politics due to this legalized form of bribery, is the fundamental problem with the US. Until this is fixed, our real, longstanding problems that make life harsh and grossly unfair to workers and the rest of the 99%, will never be solved and our government will serve only corporations, the rich, and Wall Street. The answer is to get rid of legal protection for campaign donations as being speech which cannot be regulated, and replace our current system with public financing of campaigns, along with restoration of the Fairness Doctrine and required free air time for all qualified candidates in elections. Like there already is in Europe.

30 Years of Speeches [youtube.com]

TomMcGiverin comments on Dec 4, 2019:

Exactly! I would rather vote for and trust someone who has been consistent for decades than someone like Warren who was still a Repub about a decade or two ago and flips back and forth between being a moderate or a progressive on her policy stands. People who say Bernie is too old or out of touch because he has kept saying the same things all these years are fools who know nothing about trust or substance and instead are focused only on image, identity politics, and flash. They deserve to get screwed by liars like Hillary who talked progressive against Bernie four years ago and fooled a lot of the sheeple into thinking she was as progressive as Bernie.

Should I ever need to dive into the online dating pool again, this will be my profile pic.

TomMcGiverin comments on Dec 4, 2019:

Good luck with that... I'm sure that pic will get you far....

Only the best for you!

TomMcGiverin comments on Dec 3, 2019:

I'm totally with the cat that says winter is not their season.....

Why not? It amused me...

TomMcGiverin comments on Dec 3, 2019:

This kitty doesn't look too thrilled about it......

Canadian Family Kept Dead Father’s Corpse in Bedroom for Six Months in Hopes God Would Resurrect ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Dec 2, 2019:

Better hope they all stay healthy....

Favorite Iowa alcohol? (wine, beer, spirits - pick your poison.)

TomMcGiverin comments on Dec 2, 2019:

I haven't drank alcohol since 1996....

Bad car accident versus...

TomMcGiverin comments on Dec 2, 2019:

Need to respect the wishes of cats. Resistance is futile......

If you voted for Trump in 2016, would you vote for him again in 2020 and if so why or why not?

TomMcGiverin comments on Dec 2, 2019:

I'm too intelligent AND too much of a humanist and socialist to vote for Trump. As for now, it's Bernie or bust...

If Trump is re-elected, what would your response be--if none of these fit, make your answer as a ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Dec 2, 2019:

I will lose what little hope I have left and go on living my life and trying to take care of myself as best I can while expecting the worst in our politics and economy for the future. Trump being re-elected will not be that much different than having Biden or any of the other centrist, corporatist, war-mongering Dems.

what is the point of sending me profiles of people that match me if i can't connect to them, it is ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Dec 2, 2019:

Good luck with all that. Even tho you haven't written a bio here for your profile, the strip club reference will not get you very far with the women here. Jus' sayin'....

Hard to know exactly where to post this.

TomMcGiverin comments on Dec 2, 2019:

All a matter of which economic class you identify with and who you feel is deserving, the poor or the rich. Unfortunately, most Americans are wannabees, as in wannabe rich someday, so they favor the rich over the poor as who deserves help from the rest of us.

Dying too young.

TomMcGiverin comments on Dec 2, 2019:

Healthcare is a commodity in the US, not a right. So patients are just consumers to be milked financially by the system until they are dead or broke.

Nation "Too Broke" for Universal Healthcare to Spend $406 Billion More on F-35 | Common Dreams News

TomMcGiverin comments on Dec 2, 2019:

There always seems to be enough money for corporate welfare and the defense budget. Consumers of healthcare just have inferior lobbyists.

Obama just lost my respect.

TomMcGiverin comments on Dec 2, 2019:

I lost what little respect I had for Obama as soon as he became prez and showed who his appointees were. I knew then he was another sellout corporatist warmonger. Still an asshole now...

Tis the season, lol. Hope all had a good turkey day weekend.

TomMcGiverin comments on Dec 1, 2019:

I am that poor kitty in the middle, as I hate both country and X-mas music...

I wonder what would happen if Trump decided not to go for a second term.

TomMcGiverin comments on Dec 1, 2019:

I've got nothing on this one...

I guess this is just a rant.

TomMcGiverin comments on Dec 1, 2019:

All that kind of talk sort of validates my longtime cynicism that many women in the dating game put a man's money way ahead of his heart and character....

So how many of you guys think this is “fair”?

TomMcGiverin comments on Dec 1, 2019:

I always make it clear, beginning with the first meeting for coffee, that I will gladly pay for their coffee if that's ok with them. After that, I make it clear that I expect we will each pay our own way on things as we are getting to know each other. If a woman objects to the latter, I have my answer that they are expecting me to pay for their company and/or sex later on and I will move on to finding someone that wants a relationship of equals. I will not get caught up in usual patriarchy BS or a situation of being a Sugar Daddy. If someone doesn't want to be with me "for fun and for free", they should be with someone else....

I rescued a stray cat, named it King.

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 30, 2019:

Is Kingsley a Maine Coon?

Super kitty!

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 30, 2019:

Cats make bad superheroes. They have other priorities.....

Christian Zealot Beheads Girlfriend Because She Refused To Repent | Michael Stone

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 30, 2019:

"When they said, Repent, Repent,... I wonder what they meant"...-Leonard Cohen " The Future". Always be wary of those who claim God speaks directly to them and gives them orders or instructions. They may not be violent, but they are most likely deluded and nuts....I guess most of them are harmless, but not those who say God instructs them to kill, esp. the anti-abortion nuts.

So on thanksgiving, I was at Frankie's parents home.

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 29, 2019:

I think it's time for Frankie's parents to join the 21st century. Are they Amish or something? Just kidding. I mean, it's a little late to forbid or prevent you and Frankie sleeping together after you two have already produced a kid.

I am curious about your day. Did you have any family mishaps or faux pas?

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 28, 2019:

My day went very well. I was invited to Thanksgiving dinner with some relatives of my girlfriend and I really enjoyed meeting and getting to know them some. A refreshing change from my family in that they all seemed to really enjoy and like each other. No detectable tension. It spared me a three hour drive to my older sister's home in Kansas City. I had been invited there, but ended up scrapping that plan yesterday due to the predicted weather today, which turned out to be ok for travel. However the weather for Fri. is going to be bad, so coming home then would have been a pain. All for the better, as things turned out, by staying local for the holiday. PS- Even tho I'm sure everyone there but me was Catholic, religion never came up (same with politics) except for some passing references to an old church that was part of the holiday memories of most of the group. They also did a prayer before we ate, which I think is a long tradition of their family, and I just silently bowed my head with them. I should also state for the record that my older sister and her hubby are fundy Christians who voted for Trump, so there's that too....

I think both us men and women have run across something like this or similar to this, ie, missing ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 28, 2019:

You never really know about their looks until the in-person meeting and it rarely, at least for me, ever gets to that point.

Guys, if you want to move in with her, remember this motivation.

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 28, 2019:

If only it were that simple....

So imagine you've talked to someone a bit and now meeting her/him for the first time.

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 28, 2019:

It's very hard to predict. You have to just show up and go with the flow.

Hi Everyone, I'd like everyone's opinion here.

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 27, 2019:

Sounds like ghosting to me. I would move on and let it go in this case.

Ideal role of religion in society?

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 27, 2019:

Tonight I was watching Monty Python's Life Of Brian, and it struck me that the movie's title character, a Christ figure, said it very well in jest. He said, "You don't need a messiah, you have to work it all out for yourselves".

I’m looking for a FWB or NSA situation, I am educated and free a lot Monday to Friday during the ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 27, 2019:

Good luck with that......

All older members of the site will probably find this very interesting - [theglobeandmail.com]

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 27, 2019:

This doesn't surprise me at all. I don't want at this time to be a caregiver or have one in my life. I don't plan to marry again and I would be fine with having separate residences with an arrangement of sharing time at each one. Sounds like many of these people have thought it thru and come up with good plans. The challenge is finding ways to deal with eventual aging and illness while maintaining the relationship.

DID Trump just throw Giuliani under the buys? [facebook.com]

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 27, 2019:

Trump is the kind of turd that will throw anybody under the bus, including members of his family....

I am watching a great little British film (Ladies in Lavender), where an attractive young woman on ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 27, 2019:

Some men apparently never seem to catch on that they are not God's gift to women, or other such nonsense.

As of yesterday, I am down 40 lbs in 15 weeks.

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 27, 2019:

That is great progress all around. Good for you Judy!

Biden staffer quits over lack of input and Biden’s stance on immigrants. [twitter.com]

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 25, 2019:

Uncle Joe is out of touch on race. What a surprise... If it weren't for misplaced loyalty and nostalgia for Obama on the part of blacks, Biden wouldn't even be polling over single digits....

How corporate America invented ‘Christian America’ to fight the New Deal

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 25, 2019:

"Everybody knows the dice are loaded, everybody rolls with their fingers crossed. Everybody knows the war is over, everybody knows the good guys lost...." --L. Cohen

How corporate America invented ‘Christian America’ to fight the New Deal

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 25, 2019:

Marx warned about this long ago, that religion was a tool used by capitalists to divide the masses.

Tonight is date number three with a woman I met on the Okay Little Winged Guy site.

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 24, 2019:

90% of my first messages on dating sites went unanswered too. It's the nature of the game unless you are above average-looking. If you are, it seems you get a lot more responses.

First, you cut taxes for the rich and the deficit explodes.

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 24, 2019:

The cartoon is truthful. It has always been there plan and also that of the corporate Dems as well, including Obama. Which is part of why I hate him....

Duncan Hunter: Married Republican congressman used campaign donations to fund five extra marital ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 24, 2019:

Typical Repub family values....

I fear this will be the case: 😺😺😳

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 24, 2019:

Can't help being selfish..

Tonight is date number three with a woman I met on the Okay Little Winged Guy site.

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 23, 2019:

What movie, I'm curious....

Looking for interesting ppl in & close to N. E. Arkansas ONLY please👍 Where's my herb lovers at?

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 22, 2019:

You might consider Match.com. They just added a feature in their profile in which the member is asked their stand on weed, same as they are on smoking habits for tobacco, drinking alcohol, etc.

Follow up to my earlier post

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 18, 2019:

They say there's someone for everyone, maybe even for each of those fish........

This is funny. Cat Brings Home Bag Of Illicit Drugs [catsoncatnip.co]

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 16, 2019:

I love the pic of the gangster/dealer kitty.

Most of the world now thinks religion is the cause of the world's problems! [usnews.com]

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 16, 2019:

I really don't think the root cause is religion as much as greed, extreme individualism, tribalism, fear of differences in others and, most importantly, governments run by the rich, corporations, and corrupt politicians. The world could be rid of religion and these other problems would still lead to things being very fucked up.

Who do you think of when you vote?

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 16, 2019:

For me, in a word, "No". Most of my adult life I did not have much money or privilege, so I vote according to that experience as well as my values, which boil down to fairness, equality and the greater good.

Stray Cat Kept Coming To Police Department, So Cops Built Her A 'Cat Condo'

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 16, 2019:

Some cats have it better than humans...

Yeah, we'll go with that...

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 16, 2019:

Kitty needs a diet.

On your third date, and she tells you about her FWB

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 15, 2019:

Better that she told you early on than later. Personally, I would not continue seeing someone who was so casual about sex that she was already having a continued FWB while also meeting and dating other men, but I'm sure some other men wouldn't really mind or let that hold them back from continuing to see her if she was attractive to them and they were as casual about sex as she is. Obviously tho, in either case, one would want to proceed cautiously with her about sex and use protection.

Why do young women prefer older men?

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 15, 2019:

Most don't. The ones that do usually are attracted by the man's money and fame.

Ohio Law Would Allow Students To Give Wrong Answers Because Of Religious Belief | Michael Stone

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 14, 2019:

It's funny in a sad, ironic way how much the American religious fundies have in common with the Taliban and Islamic fundamentalists, and yet, they are totally clueless about the similarities........

Ohio Law Would Allow Students To Give Wrong Answers Because Of Religious Belief | Michael Stone

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 14, 2019:

Kind of defeats the whole purpose of education, but, you can't fix rigid belief and orthodoxy.....

"Change Your Mind About Dating" "It’s your life, take it seriously.

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 14, 2019:

Generally good advice, as you can only control your own self improvement, not others. On the other hand, dating is a competitive process, at least online dating is, and you are competing against the rest of the field that have things in common with you that are compatible with any particular person or are what that person is seeking in a partner.

I have kinda given up on online dating for the time being.

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 14, 2019:

I can relate. Music is huge to me and I could never date someone who was much of a country music fan, as I hate that genre and the whole culture that goes with it. Same with smoking and someone who is very religious. I am currently dating someone who is a practicing Catholic, but she is not big on it or pushy about it. She also likes country music, but it is not one of her favorites. She is a non-smoker like me, so it's been working so far. The biggest point of conflict tends to be if we discuss politics, because I am a Bernie Sanders socialist and she is a moderate Dem who supports Biden.

What are your political views all about? Do they include protecting the planet?

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 13, 2019:

You sound like a Green. Good luck finding a major party that agrees with you.

It’s the DNC, Stupid: Democratic Party, Not Russia, Has Delegitimized the Democratic Process – ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 13, 2019:

Duh.....Nothing new here.....This is why I can't stand to watch MSNBC these days, no coverage of the primary campaigns or discussion of the issues that really matter to voters, just the bullshit Russiagate stuff......

Youth same old story!!! LOL!!!

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 13, 2019:

Hypocrisy is common and timeless, it seems......

I was reading a post by a member about how hard it is to find love with another atheist because not ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 13, 2019:

I have been honest in both kinds of situations and suffered the consequences. Lost a job partly because of that and have also lost out in dating prospects too. You have to decide which losses you can afford. Good luck.

Good Evening Everyone! Last night I made it to a Sushi Meetup where 25 of us filled a Japanese ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 13, 2019:

All of the good ones are taken?

Listening to impeachment hearing.

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 13, 2019:

The Dems in the House would be smarter to end the impeachment hearings by voting for censure, instead of impeachment, and inviting the Repubs to join them. That would help the Dems more in the next election than wasting time on a symbolic impeachment attempt that everyone knows will not remove him from office. Most voters do not care about the impeachment issues vs. the far more important issues of the economy, health care, college costs, endless war, etc..

Will we see something like this during the impeachment hearings?

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 13, 2019:

One of my favorite comedies. So prophetic.

Elizabeth Warren Votes for Massive Increase of War Budget | Left Voice

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 13, 2019:

Sad to say, I have heard that Bernie is not much better on this issue. He does have the guts to vote against stupid wars, but not against military budgets.

Do you think Trump wins the next election?

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 12, 2019:

Well, I'm a born pessimist to begin with, but I am becoming resigned to the idea that the Dems will nominate a non-inspiring centrist like Biden, Mayor Pete, or Harris, who will then lose to Trump. In fact, I even think that Warren would lose to Trump, so I am not optimistic, unless Warren ending up getting the votes of not only Bernie's supporters, but also the votes of all the usual non-voters that Bernie has inspired. But I don't see that happening because she does not inspire the same poor non-voters that Bernie does.

"Uneducated White Voters" Interviewed. It's Really Bad - Free Speech TV

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 12, 2019:

No surprise here. I wish that critical thinking skills were taught in our schools below the college level, but they aren't and will probably never be. Failing that, it's too bad that people are allowed to vote without demonstrating those skills, but you can't have everything. We are stuck with the decisions of these gullible people as part of our democracy. Helps me understand why some socialists and the communists did not want to have democracy once they achieved power, because they did not want to lose it later due to gullible people falling for capitalist propaganda.

Mostly expired!

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 12, 2019:

I would also add that online dating is not for the thin-skinned, due to all the lying, game-playing and rejection that go with it.

Has anyone tried out a Unitarian Church?

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 12, 2019:

They are open to non-believers. They vary greatly, just like Christian churches, in the culture of their individual congregations, including church politics, snobbery or how welcoming they are to newcomers, the level of classism practiced by most church members, etc. All the usual human failings.... All you can do is check out that church and see what you think. I have been a member of two Unitarian churches in my area. One was very welcoming, not that classist, and very supportive of my late wife and me. The other one was very classist, snobby and not very inclusive for most of the time I spent there. Both were very accepting of non-believers and most of their congregations were non-believers.

Modern version....

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 12, 2019:

Sometimes it's quite a challenge....Reminds me of the poster that says something like, "My main source of stress is not being able to choke the living shit out of people that deserve it"......

Favorite questions (good or bad) that you ask or that have been asked of you (on the first few ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 11, 2019:

I have been asked, "How long have you been on the dating site?" The implication of the ? seems to be that the longer you have been on there and are still looking for a partner, the less desirable you must be to the opposite sex or else the less functional or realistic you are about what you want in someone and how to relate to the opposite sex. To be fair, I sometimes have asked the ? myself, but when I do I make none of these assumptions about the person, no matter what their answer is, because my real motivation in asking the ? is to get an idea how much of the frustration or lack of with online dating they have been thru and whether it is comparable to mine or not.

Mostly expired!

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 11, 2019:

Sounds about right.

Veteran's Day

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 11, 2019:

I like the bumper sticker I saw the other day that said " I will be opposing the next war".....Since most of us realize that since Vietnam every war has really been more about oil, resources, or empire, rather than the actual defense of the US or innocent people abroad.

Whats going on with on-line dating NOW? See what research shows:[cbsnews.com]

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 11, 2019:

Interesting report. None of it surprises me. Many people spend years on dating sites without finding a LTR. It took me two years to find one that even went more than a few dates and has now lasted two and half month. It's definitely not in the financial interest of the dating apps for you to find a lasting relationship right out of the gate or even after six months....

Some 1st hand experience.

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 10, 2019:

Proud to see from the comments that our whole group has their minds in the gutter, hee, hee.....My first experience was in a car....

I guess they should stick with dogs?

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 10, 2019:

Cats have their own priorities.....

Well Jamie, er, hard at first?

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 9, 2019:

I'm sure Jamie has enough love to share with all of the men on Agnostic, lol!

Photo filters are the bane of Internet dating.

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 9, 2019:

Photo filters on a dating site profile are bullshit and I avoid anyone who uses them as I figure they are immature and trying to be deceptive about their appearance. I am also turned off the by photos with fish lips or duck face expressions. Very immature-looking on the faces of middle aged women.....

Can you post a song with short or sweet in the title?

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 9, 2019:

Of course, Sweet Jane, either Lou Reed's solo version or the original by his band, The Velvet Underground.....

When was the last time you were kissed. AS YOU AGE, are you getting more amorous, or less?

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 8, 2019:

A couple days ago. Hopefully again tonight. Before I began dating my current girlfriend around the end of Aug., it had been a few years for me......As far as the ? of amorousness with age, IDK...

Do you think this could be the same cat I posted earlier, all grown up?

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 7, 2019:

It's ears look like bat wings.

This seemed worth sharing.

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 7, 2019:

I am fine with the rest of the list because none of those things causes any harm to others, esp. innocent people. But guns do, so I am not ok with unlimited gun rights.

Ladies...do you see this issue at all?

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 7, 2019:

I am barely over your 5 year age limit for being older than you and I am willing to date 8 years older than me. So not all men near your age are seeking women 15 years younger. You are over generalizing. Also, a five year limit limit in either direction is too narrow. Anybody in the dating industry or the mental health field will also tell you that. The choice is yours, of course.

Priorities

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 6, 2019:

I'd settle for 6/10 with a lot in common, esp. since I'm only a 6/10.

So what do you call the feeling you get when you see someone's pics and profile and you are ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 5, 2019:

I call it another day on Agnostic.com. I can't count the number of times I've seen a profile of someone my age that seemed very interesting and attractive, but lived at least hundreds of miles away. Now I am not looking anymore as I am dating someone local that I like and on paid dating sites I have never considered anyone who lived more than an hour away. I'm assuming that by "existing relationships", you are talking about family and friends that keep you tied to your present location.

I could use some feedback.

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 4, 2019:

Sounds like you are describing the suburb where I live. I have found what works for me is to seek my whole social life in the nearby relatively large city, Des Moines, that is much more diverse and less conservative and religious. It involves a lot of driving, but it's worth it. The condo community I live in has lots of rules, but it really doesn't affect me because I don't socialize with them or spend any real amount of time here outside my condo apt.. Meetup groups, even in the Des Moines area, have been a waste of time for me in almost every case, as they seem to cater to and attract pretty much people who are much younger than me. My local senior center is also useless for socializing. Everyone there but me is pretty much way older and also not very educated or interesting. They are all also very conformist and pretty religious. I just go there to eat free lunches by myself and be left alone.

75-Year-Old Volunteer Visits Animal Shelter Every Day And Naps With Cats

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 4, 2019:

I would enjoy doing something like that, as I enjoy both napping and having a cat nap with me.

I am curious as to whether other women find the following passages (taken verbatim from a message to...

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 4, 2019:

The fact that he is a Trumper says volumes about his attitude towards women......

Good Morning all!!!

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 3, 2019:

You're never alone with a schizophrenic, especially if you are one...........

Has anyone here ever felt good about online dating apps etc.?

TomMcGiverin comments on Nov 2, 2019:

They are very impersonal and most of them do not allow you to put enough info into your profile for people to learn enough about you for matching. Thus, with most dating sites it comes down to people selecting others to contact mostly based on the attractiveness of their profile photos. In other words, as bobwjr once said, "It's mainly a beauty contest." I have met some nice women in the two years I've used dating sites, but only one so far that was mutually compatible enough to see more than a couple times and actually date. Pretty poor results overall for over two years of looking. But it's been worth it since I did meet one woman that was compatible and I was never wanting anything poly, so there............

So who's in Iowa?

TomMcGiverin comments on Oct 31, 2019:

Good luck Brad. I used to live in Ames, near you, but now live in Ankeny. Your best bet of meeting non-believing women to date would be the Unitarian church in Ames. Good luck with finding any local women to date from this site. It won't happen. But since you're willing to relocate, you may have some luck here, unlike me.

Opinion: Why millennials are skipping church and not going back

TomMcGiverin comments on Oct 28, 2019:

After reading the article, and looking at my own experience, I would say that most of these millennials are going to be in for a long life of loneliness without much in the way of community or social support systems after they leave church behind. Unfortunately, for most Americans who don't do church, it takes some effort and doing to come up with other sources of community and social support that most of us used to get thru churches, community organizations, unions, political organizations, and community groups. We will see.

Would you ever date somebody who is religious, if they respected your beliefs and did not try to ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Oct 28, 2019:

I've been dating someone for almost two months now that is a believing Catholic, but she is aware I am Agnostic and ok with that, at least so far. Time will tell. We don't discuss religion at all. It's possible that because of her religion she might want me to marry her sometime down the line, something I am not really interested in doing again, but would be willing to do for the right person if they were compatible in everything else. But even then, I would for damn sure get a prenup, as my late wife and I did before we married.

I've been grieving a lot for Kea, both while she was sick and since we let the vet euthanize her ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Oct 28, 2019:

Sorry for your loss. She looks like such a sweet, cute kitty.

Only Ever Vote For Your Own Race - AOC should have endorsed Julian Castro because he is Latino, ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Oct 23, 2019:

Identity politics is bullshit. I wish people would get past voting on race and gender and instead vote on policy as well as whether the person's character and record make them trustworthy that they would actually work for those policies instead of selling out or caving to big money once they got in power.

Hello from West Des Moines. New to group and to site.

TomMcGiverin comments on Oct 20, 2019:

Good luck finding anyone to date from our area that is in our age group.......

Can you post a one word band name?

TomMcGiverin comments on Oct 20, 2019:

R.E.M.

Hey, all.

TomMcGiverin comments on Oct 18, 2019:

I've never tried one again with someone and I am not open to relocating.

I had a coffee with the woman I've chatting with for about three weeks.

TomMcGiverin comments on Oct 18, 2019:

That's why I try to meet within a few days after I begin trading messages with a woman. But lately, it seems like most of them are very reluctant to meet and several in the last couple months have just strung me along with trading messages and saying they want to meet, then, not long after that, suprise!, they ghost me. Probably because they met another guy from the dating site that was more interesting. So sick of the games people play. I am now dating a woman from Batch that I met at the end of Aug., and so far we are getting along well. I am thinking of going exclusive with her in the next month or so and just suspending my membership with Batch indefinitely to see where this relationship goes....

Hot Mature Flies Waiting for Viagra Spiders! Sign-up Now! These ads showed up on my Facebook ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Oct 13, 2019:

In my two years of experience on paid dating sites, the better female prospects never reach out to me first. Only two women ever did that seemed at all attractive looking enough for me to be interested in them, but otherwise, those two were not compatible for me. The blunt truth is that most of the time, the only women who ever reached out to me first were below average looking and, because of that, they probably weren't getting much interest from men on the site, so they would resort to pursuing men instead of waiting to be pursued on the site.

What are the TOP 5 ‘must have’ qualities that your potential partner MUST have before you would ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Oct 4, 2019:

Besides the obvious, like mutual physical attraction, sense of humor, intelligence, some common interests, etc., my five dealbreakers are: Not politically conservative, not strongly religious, not very family-oriented (includes not being wrapped up in seeing their grandkids all the time), not a big fan of country music, and finally, no addiction issues or being a big drinker. Also would not get along well with someone for whom sports is the center of their social life, which, in Iowa is pretty common with women who are big on college sports as the center of their social life. I like some sports, but prefer other, more intellectual stuff for my usual entertainment.