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I ran across a friend who was in a similar situation that I was recovering from.

demifeministgal comments on Jan 31, 2019:

What the heck are these supposed seven centers of consciousness? How does this author define or conceptualize consciousness?

OK, I have a lady friend who forgot how to fuck.

demifeministgal comments on Jan 29, 2019:

Yes it is valid, she is experiencing traumatic flashbacks. She may not be ready for a sexual relationship at this point. Try using some empathy would ya?

Hi folks.

demifeministgal comments on Dec 25, 2018:

I guess try to discover the reason one became addicted in the first place, to gauge if it's not just a chemical dependency but also a psychological dependency. For example, some addicts become addicted by self-medicating since they never received treatment or care for undiagnosed mental health issues or for trauma or adversities they experienced growing up. Identifying and addressing those underlying issues is well worth the time and contemplation.

Ritualized compulsive comfort-seeking (what traditionalists call addiction) is a normal response ...

demifeministgal comments on Dec 25, 2018:

So does this person completely ignoring the chemical dependence that is often a part of addiction? And that one does not have had to endure childhood adversities to become addicted? A limited and poorly thought out article, imo.

The entitlement is staggering.

demifeministgal comments on Dec 25, 2018:

Is this real life? Not a satirical post? I wouldn't even give the $20. I'd be like too bad your kids need gifts but it is not my responsibility to buy them extravagant gifts. I don't even buy myself extravagant gifts why would I buy your spawn such gifts? heh

So today I'm sitting eating breakfast with my Dad.

demifeministgal comments on Dec 25, 2018:

I don't know if my father has these thoughts about animals but he has genocidal thoughts about non-whites, especially jews, at least weekly, if not daily, so I get where you are coming from, sort of. :/ they both suck -_-

@SiteSupport I'm trying to make my posts private but as I go back in time im not given the option.

demifeministgal comments on Dec 10, 2018:

I cannot do it on my laptop or desktop either. :/

My daughter is such a bitch.

demifeministgal comments on Nov 22, 2018:

I don't think anyone should shame a woman for needing to use narcotics or other substances for pain management. I don't get why mothers have to shit on other mothers for not doing things just as them or being as strong as they were. So glad not to be in the judgey mom club. Childfree living is great. Sidenote they should not be abusing or neglecting the granddaughter. fck that

Get away from me with your sense of entitlement and attempts at emotional blackmail.....

demifeministgal comments on Nov 19, 2018:

when all else fails, breeders resort to manipulative bullshit to get their lil crotch fruits more gifts they will forget about in a few months time. Pathetic.

Day before yesterday I woke up at 5 AM.

demifeministgal comments on Nov 19, 2018:

Have you tried doing a sleeping study to see what's wrong? I am doing one soon :D

Do you have days when you simply wish you didn't exist?

demifeministgal comments on Nov 19, 2018:

Yes. I often wish my breeder had had the balls to do what she was considering and aborted me. And I know she was considering this cuz the cnt told me so as if I should be fckng grateful she didn't do it! -_-

A Strong Woman Doesn't Seek Revenge. She Let Karma Do Her Dirty Work

demifeministgal comments on Nov 12, 2018:

Meh. Karma is not real. If it were good things wouldn't happen to shitty people and bad things wouldn't happen to good people. Fck moving on. Get justice where it is deserved and stand up for yourself dammit. None of this let things go bullshit. If a person mistreats or harms one person without consequence they are more likely to harm others!

Sex on the first date... good idea, or bad idea?

demifeministgal comments on Oct 27, 2018:

I think people that rush into such intimacy and expect to find a life partner out of such an encounter are playing with fire. If you are looking for a life partner, you should probably determine if y'all have compatible values and temperaments and other things. The sex will come once a solid foundation is built/established. Otherwise it may just be HOOKUP or casual fling for either or both parties. I've noticed people looking for commitment but jumping into the sack too quick tend to have difficulty in the romance department. I could be wrong. Just my 2 cents ;)

[yahoo.com] Sexism Not Racism is What Lauren Underwood is Facing in Her Run For Office

demifeministgal comments on Oct 27, 2018:

Technically one can face both. It is called intersecting oppression. So racialized sexism.

Give The Survivor a Right to Receive Justice

demifeministgal comments on Oct 20, 2018:

ooh we are giving first time offendors a pass for their first offenses now? How mighty fucking convenient. Shall we all commit one heinous crime just once and get a slap as well? Or is that only reserved for rich and well connected scumbags?

Senator Elizabeth Warren has been proven to be a liar! She claimed to be Native American to take ...

demifeministgal comments on Oct 16, 2018:

whats your source of evidence? And how are you able to validate she used her Native American status to get a job? Or is that just a petty ASSumption on your end?

It's only 1:30 not seriously late but I don't see sleep in sight.

demifeministgal comments on Oct 14, 2018:

I would recommend practising good self care now... if you are not at your best or cannot walk you cannot help him... work on getting yourself right and good so you can in turn, eventually help him. But in the meantime try NOT to feel guilty for being human and needing some down time... you're still a great friend imo (Y) (Y)

I started a new group that was denied.

demifeministgal comments on Oct 14, 2018:

Yeaa the groups dedicated to posting sex/sexy pics or talking about sex ad nauseum do not promote agnosticism either and yet...

When the man is more intelligent

demifeministgal comments on Oct 13, 2018:

Because teaching your sons about consent is too bloody difficult... better to let them go about as sex obsessed beasts with no impulse control and load em up with tech devices... fckng handmaidens :/

My foul mood just got worse.

demifeministgal comments on Oct 13, 2018:

Sidenote your career of helping low income people and being their advocate is very noble and admirable. You should be proud and I respect the hell out of your (past?) career choice. Keep being a good human (Y) :)

My foul mood just got worse.

demifeministgal comments on Oct 12, 2018:

I too am struggling to find a new job. And it's hard as a relatively newish grad without much experience. I feel your pain. *solidarity hug*

A question for all my female friends: As a woman, do you feel society has achieved gender ...

demifeministgal comments on Oct 11, 2018:

As you can see the USA ranks 49th and Canada ranks 16th. Still have a long way to go. Understanding the topic first from an economic, political, and historical standpoint helps. Most people seem to think because their personal lives are going okay that gender equality has been achieved. That is false and they are wrong. https://www.undispatch.com/heres-every-country-world-ranks-gender-equality/

A question for all my female friends: As a woman, do you feel society has achieved gender ...

demifeministgal comments on Oct 11, 2018:

From a sociological standpoint gender equality has not been achieved anywhere in the world, though the nordic countries are pretty damn close. Do not take my word for it. https://www.un.org/sustainabledevelopment/blog/2015/09/no-country-has-yet-achieved-equality-between-men-and-women-un-human-rights-chief/

The worst date you've ever had.

demifeministgal comments on Oct 11, 2018:

We went to the movies. The guy was very distant and did not talk much. We had amazing intellectual convos online, but in person he became a shy quiet hermit. On the subway home he intentionally sat two seats away and put his feet on the seat next to him so I couldn't sit next to him. When he was getting off to say bye, I was going to at least shake his hand or hug him bye, and he stretched out his arm to keep me at a distance and yelled bye! It was as if I had some super contagious deadly disease. When I called him out on it online he rebuffed me by saying it was not a date when CLEARLY in our messages there was evidence of us arranging said date. Blocked him after telling him not to be so damn rude on dates.

Permission to step outside the marriage?

demifeministgal comments on Oct 9, 2018:

I do not know if I agree with the sentiment that "loving someone means ensuring their happiness above yours". Also, I would be paranoid the guy would get an STD/STI and infect us both. I guess he could get a sex doll or sex robot (if affordable) to meet those needs. heh

Men who cannot express their feelings

demifeministgal comments on Oct 9, 2018:

Yes this is a frustration I have with my male FWBs at the moment. He sucks at communication and against all odds, I try to get him to open up. Interestingly, he opens up when we are arguing to one up me or when I become more distant from him. ughh super introverts :/

My ex called last night.

demifeministgal comments on Oct 9, 2018:

I take no pleasure in being the bigger person. For me it would be I told ya so or that's what you get sucks to be you attitude. Do what makes you feel best. :)

Greetings , I not" Out" as yet to my friends as an Atheist/ Agnostic , too many religious friends.

demifeministgal comments on Oct 4, 2018:

I had/have the same issue in reverse with black/Latino men. Very religious and/or spiritual and difficult to find the atheists among them I have shared values with (aka a conservative atheist is just as bad as a religious person in my book). My thoughts? It sucks when attractive and intelligent men are "God fearing/God loving" heh

Not (HOW) .. But (WHY) the whole universe existe?

demifeministgal comments on Oct 4, 2018:

You are conflating abiogenesis and evolution, as many religious tend to do. Here is a religious man that you may listen to explaining the difference to you: https://thinkingthroughchristianity.com/2011/01/evolution-vs-abiogenesis-know-the-difference.html Also evolution is defined as the change in allele frequencies that occurs over time within a population. Not this monkeys to humans hogwash you have been brainwashed by your preacher/religious leader to believe.

Friends I find myself confuzzled.

demifeministgal comments on Oct 4, 2018:

ughhh.... bullet dodged in my opinion. Who knows how many superstitious or illogical beliefs she had. I find I am drawn and attracted to the nerdy intellectual types more than the creative New Age spiritual types. What a foolish reason to reject you. I would guess she's had bad experiences with saggitarius' in her life OR she's heard bad stories about saggitarius men OR some stupid article told her that her sign should avoid those types of men. In any case, I'd argue it is an illogical coping mechanism she uses to try to keep herself safe. That's my 2 cents.

Do you believe that a cure for cancer exists, but it's not available to the public because medical ...

demifeministgal comments on Oct 3, 2018:

I have to wonder how many of the yes votes come from jaded Americans, who cannot see past their American bubbles to realize if a cure existed in another nation, that information would be leaked or made available. Now whether the treatment would be made available to most Americans, by their insurance companies, that I would argue probably not.

Do you think a boy really knows how to act with a girl and how does he learn that?

demifeministgal comments on Sep 28, 2018:

Nobody comes out of the womb knowing instinctively how to act. This is stuff that is taught to the child through socialization, role modelling by parents and loved ones and through conditioning. So if the only examples of behaviour a boy sees is toxic and aggressive and bad, whether it be from parents and family as well as from media and peer group/mentors, odds are high he will grow up to be a shitty guy. Now if he has some positive influence or receives negative repercussions or consequences for his poor behaviours he may unlearn what he was taught. But that's a big IF.

It's been two weeks since my mother passed and I know I'm not holding up very well.

demifeministgal comments on Sep 28, 2018:

That facebook group I told you about is still an option if you are willing to try and join: https://www.facebook.com/groups/GBBGroup/

Opposite beliefs in a relationship

demifeministgal comments on Sep 24, 2018:

A big issue in relationships, especially in cases where both parties are not willing to compromise, is lack of shared values. The fact that he is so damn stubborn and you go above and beyond for him may begin to wear thin in time, and you will grow to resent him or be bitter against him. Open and honest communication with him is key and some self reflection and introspection on your end if you wish to continue with him as a partner long term. Good luck

Physical feature that is the best turn on?

demifeministgal comments on Sep 24, 2018:

Interestingly, same for me: nice smile is key trait, nice arms (not a fan of skinny or slim arms) and a normal shaped head. There is something about a slope head that is off putting.

There are days I understand, and the are days I don't.

demifeministgal comments on Sep 17, 2018:

Someone very close to me had seizures and I would definitely be on your side with calling her out, or heck, even cussing her out. The few times I've seen people have seizures in public the response was one of shock, fear and stepping in to help. And this wasn't even in an emergency room setting. But then I am in Canada and maybe we are just different here? o.O

Should one bring/send flowers on a first date?

demifeministgal comments on Sep 17, 2018:

LOL "not coffee. A real date" Real date? heh

Seriously?

demifeministgal comments on Sep 17, 2018:

There is also an assumption among some that all women can cook or are pro cooks... this becomes evident in the phrase do you like to cook? Or do you wanna cook together? ummm no.

I got my puppy! Everyone say hello to Roxy!

demifeministgal comments on Sep 17, 2018:

awww sooo cuuute :D <3 hello roxy! May your daddy be good to you and may you have a long awesome life filled with delicious doggy treats and nice belly rubs.

Societal religiosity has fostered this notion that sex is this holy spiritual enactment.

demifeministgal comments on Sep 17, 2018:

Why should it be as frequent as drinking water and eating food though? So daily? Or multiple times per day? According to what medical or biological standards, exactly? Or are your thoughts based simply on your high libido?

Early this week, two of my close family members passed away within 24 hours of each other.

demifeministgal comments on Sep 14, 2018:

Yes. That is one of the two things I have stated being jealous of christians of when my granny passed away: their sense of community/closeness AND their methods of being able to deal with grief easier/easily. :/

Hey I don't know if this belongs here or not If so I'll take it down later if people complain about ...

demifeministgal comments on Sep 14, 2018:

I don't think you should basing your self worth and feelings of worthiness on how much money you earn. Because ANY time you have money struggles or eventually retire you will feel like shit and depressed. I would try to fill that void with something better something that can be sustained in your life long term.

Good advice

demifeministgal comments on Sep 14, 2018:

WTF is life force energy? sounds like new age BS to me. Other than that neat list.

Marrying...

demifeministgal comments on Sep 12, 2018:

And shared values. And make sure the person is able to attentively listen. As in follow the conversation.

It's with deep sorrow that I share the news that my mother, Ellen, passed away today.

demifeministgal comments on Sep 12, 2018:

At least her suffering and your anticipatory grief is over. When my granny died I had no way of coping from an agnostic/atheist point of view. I joined this group on facebook that's catered to grief and bereavement for us non believers.... feel free to join if you like! https://www.facebook.com/groups/GBBGroup/?fb_dtsg_ag=AdypRJfxaa3nI5lJW8O19csMxc3cOq4eS796YobQ0Csk7g%3AAdybkkKAJdynTxFmHvp8X7O27J2NekxQveHYNlZXEXm0GQ

Awww .. let me see.

demifeministgal comments on Sep 9, 2018:

dogs > babies. Dogs are superior to all humans. :D <3

My birthday is Friday, September 14th.

demifeministgal comments on Sep 9, 2018:

Going NC is never an easy decision to make. One does not make it lightly. As others may have said he is probably struggling as well but you just cannot see it (since there is no contact).

I am heartbroken.

demifeministgal comments on Sep 7, 2018:

Be gentle with yourself and remember to bond with your mom as much as you can her last days. And let yourself feel let yourself cry. When my granny got the home nurse care and they weren't sure how long she had I knew then she would die. I HATE crying, especially around people. But I literally broke down on the subway ride home in my friend's arms. If you are anything like me, do not try to soldier through and have a strong front. Let the emotions play out as they shall. I am sorry you are struggling. *hugs

An observation… I grew up in a family where feelings were always suspect.

demifeministgal comments on Sep 6, 2018:

I value both sides. When I am in a neutral or logical frame of mind I prefer and value the clinical approach as I highly value scientific and evidence based things. When I am depressed or my anxiety is high I prefer the reflective compassionate replies. But in those cases I will try to make it obvious, or else overtly state I want people to be gentle. People are not mind readers after all. :)

So what do you do when you've been dating 3 months, are very happy and then find out that your ...

demifeministgal comments on Sep 3, 2018:

Top 3 reasons for divorce are related to sex, money and kid(s). You need to be on the same page with this and let him know you are 100% (or whatever percentage it is for you) not down to have a child. Good luck to you.

Are you skeptical of someone in their late 30s, 40s who has never been married?

demifeministgal comments on Sep 3, 2018:

What if the person does not believe in the institution of marriage for themselves? Are you willing to be less skeptical of folks that have been in long term committed or common law relationships (the latter of which are common among millenials in my area)?

Posting this here as well as under "Family & Parenting" because it's also impacting my mental ...

demifeministgal comments on Sep 3, 2018:

My mother was dying for a LONG TIME, many years in fact. Once she stopped the chemo I KNEW, if nobody else did, that that was the end for her sooner or later. And for me, at least, her death was kind of a relief. Because I had been waiting so long that when it happened it was like FINALLY. It is called anticipatory grief. I trust that you and your mother had a loving and good relationship, so her passing may hit you very hard. I would say before she passes tell her anything you've wanted to and ask anything you've wanted to or been curious about because once she's gone that is it. And then when she is gone, take solace in all your fond memories and times together. At least that last bit is what I was told. Also take solace in the fact she's lived a full and rich life, not everyone has that privilege. My mother died at the age of 49 after losing her battle. :(

Hey guys, glad I found this website.

demifeministgal comments on Sep 1, 2018:

I used to have a friend from Jamaica (we lost touch when he got engaged lol). It's a country I would like to visit one day. I went to school with many jamaicans so I know just how religious they are! Welcome to a religious free zone :D

Do you "dress your age"?

demifeministgal comments on Sep 1, 2018:

I don't think I dress my age. I dress rather conservatively and covered up. So very rarely can you see skin or even curves if I am wearing loose jeans or dress pants. So because I do not dress like a scantily clad sex worker and do not "flaunt it" people assume I dress older or younger than I actually am. But why the fck must I dress like a sex kitten and flaunt it? Maybe I do not want to flaunt anything because that garners more attention from perverts and creepers. Let the others flaunt it and deal with the unwanted attention! NO THANK YOU!

Some people are really a piece of work.

demifeministgal comments on Aug 28, 2018:

ughh do we have the same fam member? My fam member pulls the same 2-faced BS with me too. One minute trying to uplift me and the next tearing me down or talking shit behind my back. FCK THEM BOTH! >:(

Lost in hell with Jon Snow because that's how I roll.

demifeministgal comments on Aug 27, 2018:

I broke up with hades because it was supposed to make me famous. LOL B-)

What would you do?

demifeministgal comments on Aug 16, 2018:

Hell I've even counselled a stranger lady at a bus terminal for like an hour to encourage her to leave or kick out her abusive ex. I would make the same silly mistakes as you and get fckd over just as bad if not worse. Good luck to you sir. goodam empathy I swear >:(

What are some alternatives to marijuana to help calm myself down?

demifeministgal comments on Aug 16, 2018:

I have been told meditation and grounding excercise may help. Trying to make yourself focus on the present. So stuff like squeezing a stress ball, colouring an adult colouring book, slowing your breathing and taking deep breaths, etc. etc.

Drugs for insomnia.

demifeministgal comments on Aug 15, 2018:

I have tried two different things now and neither helped me stay asleep, though both helped me fall asleep. FML

Not surprised by the Texas plates.

demifeministgal comments on Aug 12, 2018:

ughhh. This mentality pisses me off. We have over 7 billion people on this earth! Goodness forbid a few of us actively and logically choose to abstain from child rearing. My conservative catholic family members also believe not reproducing means a woman is selfish and lazy. Of course it can't have anything to do with the motherhood gap in wages and career, the fact childrearing has become unaffordable for many, the fact that millenials are taking longer to establish ourselves than the past generations, etc. No, it cannot POSSIBLY be a logical and sound decision we've made for ourselves. Intellectually lazy dolts.

On dating sites, everyone says they like long walks on the beach.

demifeministgal comments on Aug 12, 2018:

Maybe in the older age range. I occassionally see millenials posting about liking long walks on the beach. They tend to focus on their gym rat or athletic lifestyles instead.

Does anyone else get called a narcissist when you express your anxieties to your loved ones?

demifeministgal comments on Aug 12, 2018:

Sounds like projection and it sounds like SHE is the actual narcissist. She even has flying monkeys doing her bidding, if gaslighting you and cannot admit she is wrong or apologize. Sounds like a narc from my family that is no longer with us. Check this out for a list of symptoms and see how many match her: https://psychcentral.com/disorders/narcissistic-personality-disorder/ Or this: https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/9741.php

My adult son and his wife are ostracizing and punishing me.

demifeministgal comments on Aug 12, 2018:

I may be biased, but it is not a simple choice to cut out one's parents from one's life. Most of the time, if a parent has been cut out it is due to a deep wound inflicted by said parent on the child. I would do some introspective thinking and think back long and hard and try to determine if you did anything hurtful in his life and try to make ammends for it. Keep in mind if he has decided to go NC (no contact) unfortunately you will have to learn to make peace with his decision.

G'NITE puppy! rocked to sleep

demifeministgal comments on Aug 10, 2018:

YAAY! Finally cute doggies here and not the endless barrage of cats. :/

So over whelmed.

demifeministgal comments on Aug 8, 2018:

Some community centers offer funding for pet care or vet visits. Worth researching and looking into if there is some organization in your area that covers such expenses for the future.

To the ladies... How do you feel when you ask out a guy you like and you get a rejection?

demifeministgal comments on Jul 30, 2018:

The guys that have rejected me have done so by just ignoring me. It was hurtful to my pride, but they were out of my league. By that I mean they were super educated and successful and I am not as educated or accomplished as them. Though I am a chicken and can only approach guys I am interested in online. heh

This felt like the safest place to share this.

demifeministgal comments on Jul 29, 2018:

I know you did not ask for advice but sometimes you can do focus groups for a little spare money. I am sure there must be ones in New Jersey that you could even apply to through facebook groups. I found this site: https://focusgroups.org/newjersey/

You have to make love to my mind.

demifeministgal comments on Jul 22, 2018:

Yup. It's just part of who I am. A demisexual that does not do one night stands and avoids the hookup culture like th plague.

Woman are pressed in Stereotypes.

demifeministgal comments on Jul 22, 2018:

This sums up my point nicely

Woman are pressed in Stereotypes.

demifeministgal comments on Jul 22, 2018:

I think that women that dress really promiscuously are also not empowered or free just like the women in hijabs are not. I think both are experiencing different sides of a similar cone, as in dressing up for the male gaze or to be ornamental or a sex object for mens' pleasure is not much better than women covering themselves up. But, I support both group of womens' choices to dress however foolishly they so choose,

Woman Dies After Trusting "Black Salve" Fake Cancer Cure Over Real Medicine

demifeministgal comments on Jul 21, 2018:

Yup. My family member when the BS natural route thanks to some fcker that sold a book saying cancer treatments actually causes more cancers or causes cancer to spread within the body. She is dead now. She had one of the most treatable types of cancers and if she had done a second round of chemo I think she would be here now. Oh well her superstitious thinking and religious reliance on god to "heal her" fckd her over good. She is dead now. Classic Darwin Award

I was a side chick once without knowing it.

demifeministgal comments on Jul 20, 2018:

I accidentally dated a narc fckboy too. The proverbial FAKE, SJW Nice Guy TM. He seemed to good to be true and he was. I told his other side chick he had no intention of being with her and was using her for sex and the fcker convinced her to call the police on me and file a harassment police report. Honestly I hope he uses her until she's fckd up beyond repair. >:D

Do you think it's possible to try to sway someone's opinion and influence them to make the choice to...

demifeministgal comments on Jul 20, 2018:

No. Once people get children or the idea of children and family into their heads, no logical argument can sway them. They are operating off of emotions at that point. :/ I would still try to reason with a woman if a pregnancy could kill her and leave her other kid(s) motherless or if a woman was in an abusive household though to reconsider.

I take my dog with me when I run.

demifeministgal comments on Jul 19, 2018:

My sister's dog would come downstairs to chill with me and sleep and snore around me almost every night. The lil punk :p

Question for the single people...