The one thing that religion offers that secularism fails to equal is the transcendence of self, the ...

UpsideDownAgain comments on Dec 24, 2018:

I think there are a lot of non religious people who believe in transcendence of self and similar things. I know a handful. They don't tend to be organized and aren't as easily identified but they exist. Guess you don't have to count them as secular but then maybe it's not a question of only ...

genessa replies on Dec 25, 2018:

@rcandlish whose truth? you speak as if there is one "truth," like one big thing we have to find in a gigantic scavenger hunt called life. that's a good way to miss out on what life really is about, and no, don't ask me what that is, because it's not one thing either, and it certainly isn't the same for everyone. g

To all who celebrate it, in whatever way, have a Very Merry Christmas, or whatever you call it.

genessa comments on Dec 24, 2018:

i am curious. what do you think people call christmas besides christmas (or yule, same thing, right?) i mean, that phrase threw me. is there some secret name of which i am unaware? g

genessa replies on Dec 24, 2018:

@irascible yes but those are not names for christmas. "whatever you celebrate" i would not have questioned, but "whatever you call it" means call christmas. you may certainly wish someone a merry saturnalia (and i will gladly wish it back upon you -- and there is nothing wrong with occasional appropriate cheekiness or even rudeness!) but you won't be using another name for christmas. i'm being tough on you, my friend! that's just how i am -- picky picky picky! but i can't help it. i'm a stickler for... something or other. g

Is anyone else NOT celebrating Christmas? I feel like i'm the only one.

genessa comments on Dec 23, 2018:

i'm jewish. christmas, to me, is an annoyance, and would be even if i were not an atheist (which i am). g

genessa replies on Dec 24, 2018:

@Closeted me too! the marathon is like a consolation prize lol. g

Is anyone else NOT celebrating Christmas? I feel like i'm the only one.

genessa comments on Dec 23, 2018:

i'm jewish. christmas, to me, is an annoyance, and would be even if i were not an atheist (which i am). g

genessa replies on Dec 24, 2018:

@Closeted sounds potentially funny :-)) if it was me i'd be singing about how annoying it is from hallowe'en through mid-january but yeah it gets intense right about now. the only good thing about it is the doctor who christmas specials. i love doctor who and can forgive it nearly anything. g

Is anyone else NOT celebrating Christmas? I feel like i'm the only one.

genessa comments on Dec 23, 2018:

i'm jewish. christmas, to me, is an annoyance, and would be even if i were not an atheist (which i am). g

genessa replies on Dec 24, 2018:

@Closeted i understand your intentions are good in providing me a link to south park but since i can't stand south park, i'm not clicking. if you have a summary and it's funny, feel free to provide same, or not if it's too much bother, but i don't want to watch any south park, thanks. g

List your strangest encounter with an unknown person.

genessa comments on Sep 22, 2018:

often a woman's strangest encounter is with a man who wants something from her, and sometimes gets insistent. i have had a few of those. my second day in los angeles i was followed home by a strange young man who obscenely details all the things he wanted to do to me. i told him in no uncertain ...

genessa replies on Dec 24, 2018:

@HankSherman it didn't impact my life but i guess it made enough of an impression that i remember it after all these decades. then again, i remember all kinds of silly stuff lol. yes, she was a bully, indeed. g

List your strangest encounter with an unknown person.

genessa comments on Sep 22, 2018:

often a woman's strangest encounter is with a man who wants something from her, and sometimes gets insistent. i have had a few of those. my second day in los angeles i was followed home by a strange young man who obscenely details all the things he wanted to do to me. i told him in no uncertain ...

genessa replies on Dec 24, 2018:

@HankSherman you'd think! but no one stood up to her. it is possible they knew her from previous encounters (i didn't; i was new to japan and it was also my first trip to tokyo, whence we departed for fujisan) and knew better than to rile her. she seemed the type not to allow herself to be suppressed; she might have started an even bigger scene if we'd done more than ignore her. g

The top 100 best science fiction novels of all time seems to vary between whoever publishes it, but ...

genessa comments on Dec 23, 2018:

i don't know what the purported best 100 sf (speculative fiction, thank you) novels (so short stories and collections are out) are but i have my own list, not necessarily of 100 or even nearly 100, and in no particular order, and this seems as good a place as any to try, off the top of my head, to ...

genessa replies on Dec 23, 2018:

@MrLizard oh do. some of it is surely dated by now and guess what? it won't matter! it will still be a mindbending experience. g

The top 100 best science fiction novels of all time seems to vary between whoever publishes it, but ...

genessa comments on Dec 23, 2018:

i don't know what the purported best 100 sf (speculative fiction, thank you) novels (so short stories and collections are out) are but i have my own list, not necessarily of 100 or even nearly 100, and in no particular order, and this seems as good a place as any to try, off the top of my head, to ...

genessa replies on Dec 23, 2018:

@MrLizard me too! it was my first heinlein, even before stranger in a strange land, and it had both time travel AND a cat in it. what more do i need? g

List your strangest encounter with an unknown person.

genessa comments on Sep 22, 2018:

often a woman's strangest encounter is with a man who wants something from her, and sometimes gets insistent. i have had a few of those. my second day in los angeles i was followed home by a strange young man who obscenely details all the things he wanted to do to me. i told him in no uncertain ...

genessa replies on Dec 23, 2018:

@HankSherman the bus ride wasn't any more pleasant, although i didn't have to ruin any apparel. i was among a gang of journalists being transported halfway up fuji to interview akira kurosawa. one journalist was a real pest; she kept haranguing is that we had better not interfere with her interview with a certain film person (i didn't know the person then and can't recall who it was now), someone we had no intention of bothering, since only she seemed to be interested in him anyway. she was loud and obnoxious and made the trip a minor hell. i would rather have ruined some boots than spend another second with her! g

Merry Christmas and a happy new year to all the ladies out there.

genessa comments on Dec 22, 2018:

how come you have all the atheist words and all the believer words on your profile? how can you be an atheist and a believer? g

genessa replies on Dec 23, 2018:

@Geoffrey51 are you saying this doesn't look odd to you at all? this person checked all the boxes. some of them definitely conflicted with others. i don't think he was fine-tuning the definitions, especially since his greeting refers to a holiday that belongs to a religion that has at least one god in it. g

Dem senator vows to donate salary for each day of government shutdown | TheHill

RiverRick comments on Dec 23, 2018:

That certainly looks good for the cameras... Trump is liable to find out abut this and extend the shutdown just because...

genessa replies on Dec 23, 2018:

i don't think she is doing it for the cameras. trump... i wouldn't put anything past him. g

Dem senator vows to donate salary for each day of government shutdown | TheHill

wordywalt comments on Dec 23, 2018:

One of the few senators with real character.

genessa replies on Dec 23, 2018:

actually there are a lot of them. no republicans, though. not ALL dems but all but maybe five (i can think of three who need to be primaried but won't be because of the nature of their states). but a whole LOT of dems. g

I wonder if this counts as gaslighting.

genessa comments on Dec 23, 2018:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/here-there-and-everywhere/201701/11-warning-signs-gaslighting psychology today, 11 warning signs of gaslighting g

genessa replies on Dec 23, 2018:

@irascible no problem. i did a little research after i made the post and this seemed reasonable. g

Merry Christmas and a happy new year to all the ladies out there.

genessa comments on Dec 22, 2018:

how come you have all the atheist words and all the believer words on your profile? how can you be an atheist and a believer? g

genessa replies on Dec 23, 2018:

@Geoffrey51 well, i think if you have checked "atheist" and "religious" on this site, there is a problem, regardless of what you believe in. g

What would cause you to end a relationship?

genessa comments on Dec 22, 2018:

i have ended three romantic relationships. i had one ended for me by the other party because he found someone else, but we both knew we were basically friends with benefits anyway. the first relationship i ended was my first sexual one, and every time we made love, it hurt. i left him for a ...

genessa replies on Dec 22, 2018:

@nicknotes there is no way out but there is still us, and there is still every day until there isn't. g

What would cause you to end a relationship?

genessa comments on Dec 22, 2018:

i have ended three romantic relationships. i had one ended for me by the other party because he found someone else, but we both knew we were basically friends with benefits anyway. the first relationship i ended was my first sexual one, and every time we made love, it hurt. i left him for a ...

genessa replies on Dec 22, 2018:

@nicknotes what choice have i got? i cry when the cats die! i won't cry when i do; i'll be dead. i will see him lost to himself before i see him die, barring accidents. how can i approach that crying? there is time for crying. g

What would cause you to end a relationship?

genessa comments on Dec 22, 2018:

i have ended three romantic relationships. i had one ended for me by the other party because he found someone else, but we both knew we were basically friends with benefits anyway. the first relationship i ended was my first sexual one, and every time we made love, it hurt. i left him for a ...

genessa replies on Dec 22, 2018:

@nicknotes i never expected it, but it happened :-)) of course there is always a downside. we're old, i might have cancer, and he has both alzheimer's and myotonic dystrophy, both of which are destroying his body and mind. but we have each other for now. g

As the new year approaches.

genessa comments on Dec 22, 2018:

odd, since i am watching a dvr'd episode of "how we got to now" that deals with the measurement of time. g

genessa replies on Dec 22, 2018:

@MissKathleen at the same time, it is NEVER now! well, okay, never except in the dentist's chair. it is always now there. g

What would cause you to end a relationship?

genessa comments on Dec 22, 2018:

i have ended three romantic relationships. i had one ended for me by the other party because he found someone else, but we both knew we were basically friends with benefits anyway. the first relationship i ended was my first sexual one, and every time we made love, it hurt. i left him for a ...

genessa replies on Dec 22, 2018:

@nicknotes there will be no next time. i am with the man i love, who loves me, and we've been together about 18 and a half years now. g

How would you explain Easter without referreing it to as the ressurection of Christ?

FitVeganDancer comments on Mar 30, 2018:

Easter is based on the story of the reserection of Jesus. There is no point denying it is based on a religious belief. Just explain to her that some people believe that story and others do not. The easter bunny is based on an old German tradition. Simple honesty is the best approach.

genessa replies on Dec 22, 2018:

easter is actually based on ishtar, pronounced the same as easter, from scientific american: "Easter was originally the celebration of Ishtar, the Assyrian and Babylonian goddess of fertility and sex. Her symbols (like the egg and bunny) were and still are fertility and sex symbols (or did you actually think eggs and bunnies had anything to do with the resurrection?)" https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/anthropology-in-practice/beyond-ishtar-the-tradition-of-eggs-at-easter/ the fact that christians coopted the celebration (keeping the name, if not its spelling) doesn't mean that the holiday is "based on" the resurrection of "christ." it means it's been CHANGED to represent that. g

Would you date a man without a steady paycheck?

genessa comments on Dec 2, 2018:

you want brutal honesty? okay. i am not sure why you are excluding men when there are certainly men who date men, and considering that at any rate a man might have the same considerations about a woman. i am not sure why you consider being between jobs, often a euphemism for being unemployed, as ...

genessa replies on Dec 22, 2018:

@MuzikDan no, that was me quoting you. "um, so what?" meant "what do YOU mean by so what?" duh! don't tell me i said something when i was quoting YOU. what a doofus. what is the purpose of talking to people who are so dumb they don't know what they themselves said? i'm through with YOU! g

How do you measure intelligence?>

ASTRALMAX comments on Dec 22, 2018:

You have posed an interesting question and the first word the springs to mind is context, in what context? For example, you can take someone from the Amazon Jungle and someone who is a graduate in philosophy and give them a 'standard' intelligence test. The philosophy graduate will probably excel ...

genessa replies on Dec 22, 2018:

@MichaelSpinler i had only a b.a. degree and a tiny bit of teaching experience when i began teaching in japan. some other teachers had more or less experience and/or appropriate education than i did, but i knew one who played hangman with his students every day. that's not teaching! i mean that's ALL he did. that was his lesson. i actually taught my students, and some of them actually learned. g

How do you measure intelligence?>

ASTRALMAX comments on Dec 22, 2018:

You have posed an interesting question and the first word the springs to mind is context, in what context? For example, you can take someone from the Amazon Jungle and someone who is a graduate in philosophy and give them a 'standard' intelligence test. The philosophy graduate will probably excel ...

genessa replies on Dec 22, 2018:

@MichaelSpinler regardless of how one measures intelligence, having a degree doesn't make anyone anything except the holder of a degree; it doesn't even make them eligible for a higher salary in most fields. it most certainly doesn't add to intelligence. your friend is confusing intelligence with formal education, and probably would also confuse formal education with education itself. this is not by any means a slam on formal education, but the degree is the acknowledgement that someone has undergone the formal education. the degree isn't the education. the formal education also doesn't make a person more intelligent although it can help a person better channel his/her intelligence. there is no guarantee that it will. all of this presupposes that no one even cheats to get the degree, and that in itself is a false supposition, but as i say i am leaving that aspect out in making my statement. your friend doesn't just have a different take on measuring intelligence, or even a different definition of intelligence. s/he is just plain wrong. g

This is the New Green Deal: [vox.

Seeker3CO comments on Dec 22, 2018:

By and large, the Democratic Party serves the same corporate masters as the GOP.

genessa replies on Dec 22, 2018:

@Seeker3CO but i already know that corporate greed etc. bla bla. i know that. that doesn't make the assertion that it is endemically true of both parties true. that part is false, demonstrably false, and demonstrably part of the russian propaganda plan that worked so well people are still saying it. yes there are corporate shills in both parties. NO, it is not endemic to the democratic party and YES it is a way of life and the raison d'etre for the republican. that's what's true. g

This is the New Green Deal: [vox.

webbew1 comments on Dec 22, 2018:

I believe that a bunch of people in congress (on both sides of the aisle) attempred to attach pork to this initiative which would outlaw any and all negative speech against the state of Isreal. No initiative, no matter how vital, usurps the right to free speech. Without the right to free ...

genessa replies on Dec 22, 2018:

have you got a source for this belief? everyone adds pork but this sounds like something that was attempted locally in the southwest, NOT like something that happened in congress, and it certainly would not be a bipartisan effort. g

This is the New Green Deal: [vox.

Seeker3CO comments on Dec 22, 2018:

By and large, the Democratic Party serves the same corporate masters as the GOP.

genessa replies on Dec 22, 2018:

by and large, that is a talking point promoted by the russians. it doesn't happen to be true, but it sounds good, doesn't it? g

Remember Lilly Tomlin on Laugh In?

PalacinkyPDX comments on Aug 31, 2018:

It was Flip Wilson who popularized that phrase.

genessa replies on Dec 22, 2018:

you beat me to it! i was about to say it, but i scrolled down to make sure i would not be repeating anyone's post. g

BANNING OTHERS IS BAD FORM.

MarkiusMahamius comments on Dec 21, 2018:

I feel i should report you to admin for telling people how to act. Also, and this may be hard to swallow, but not everything that gets written is valuable.

genessa replies on Dec 21, 2018:

@MarkiusMahamius lol g

Now that Kelly and Mattis are gone, or on the way, who is be left to protect us from Trump's ...

genessa comments on Dec 21, 2018:

since when did either of them protect us from trump? trump didn't listen to mattis, and kelly is a vile racist liar. everyone said he would keep trump in check. he didn't -- and who was there to keep kelly in check? g

genessa replies on Dec 21, 2018:

@itsmedammit my post stands! g

BANNING OTHERS IS BAD FORM.

daylily comments on Dec 21, 2018:

A member should be able to block whomever they choose to block, for *whatever* reason they choose. You're using "banning" and "blocking" as if they are the same thing, which of course you know they're not. Imho, all this bully-tinged instruction is a little over the top. You stress how awful it is ...

genessa replies on Dec 21, 2018:

@Jacar have i done so yet? i don't block people because i disagree with them, not that i couldn't; it just isn't how i use the block feature. i block people if they get personal, get nasty, are obviously trolls and/or scammers, if they use gaslighting techniques. not that it would be any of YOUR business whom i blocked or why. you're borderline gaslighting, saying you never said what you actually said, and saying you said what you clearly did not. so... no, not yet. if you want me to, there is no point in beating about the bush. you have a block feature too. g

BANNING OTHERS IS BAD FORM.

MarkiusMahamius comments on Dec 21, 2018:

I feel i should report you to admin for telling people how to act. Also, and this may be hard to swallow, but not everything that gets written is valuable.

genessa replies on Dec 21, 2018:

@Jacar i didn't claim that blocking helped anything. i disputed your claim that it impaired something. actually i understood your ideas just fine. i totally disagree with them. that doesn't mean i didn't understand them. it simply means i think you're wrong. and yes, the way you wrote it, it was a command. g

BANNING OTHERS IS BAD FORM.

genessa comments on Dec 21, 2018:

banning others is not necessarily bad form. blocking doesn't reduce admin's access to a damned thing. if someone thinks i am the one to be block, that person is free to block me, just as i am free to block trolls, scammers and anyone else with whom i don't want to engage for any reason, none of ...

genessa replies on Dec 21, 2018:

@Jacar your actual ideas were WRONG. i comprehended them quite well enough, thanks. amazing how people don't even know what they, themselves, are saying and doing.. no one is attacking you. "go back to facebook" is a worse attack than any response you've had. sad for you. i don't personally have a horse in this race. i just don't want people believing that blocking people "reduced the groups [sic] effort to isolate the real offenders." g

BANNING OTHERS IS BAD FORM.

daylily comments on Dec 21, 2018:

A member should be able to block whomever they choose to block, for *whatever* reason they choose. You're using "banning" and "blocking" as if they are the same thing, which of course you know they're not. Imho, all this bully-tinged instruction is a little over the top. You stress how awful it is ...

genessa replies on Dec 21, 2018:

@Jacar you did not write that it is not in our best interest. you wrote not to do it. you wrote it in capital letters. you wrote in the imperative and you wrote that it was bad form. your reasons why we shouldn't do it did not happen to be true, either. g

BANNING OTHERS IS BAD FORM.

genessa comments on Dec 21, 2018:

banning others is not necessarily bad form. blocking doesn't reduce admin's access to a damned thing. if someone thinks i am the one to be block, that person is free to block me, just as i am free to block trolls, scammers and anyone else with whom i don't want to engage for any reason, none of ...

genessa replies on Dec 21, 2018:

@Jacar no it doesn't. the ONLY thing it affects is two people's ability to see each other's posts. not a single other thing is affected in any way. g

BANNING OTHERS IS BAD FORM.

MarkiusMahamius comments on Dec 21, 2018:

I feel i should report you to admin for telling people how to act. Also, and this may be hard to swallow, but not everything that gets written is valuable.

genessa replies on Dec 21, 2018:

@MarkiusMahamius when you're right, you're right right? g

This time of year is difficult for some people.

ZantiMisfit comments on Dec 21, 2018:

Why not. You can still enjoy the Superbowl party and not really care about the game :)

genessa replies on Dec 21, 2018:

@Marine why? superbowl parties are full of people who care about the superbowl. i wouldn't have a good time at one. it's not a shame, though. i have plenty of stuff i DO enjoy. everyone doesn't have to enjoy the same thing. g

I am 30, and am just now considering using my GI Bill to attend university.

genessa comments on Dec 20, 2018:

university is not for learning a trade, in general. there are exceptions: medical school springs to mind! but if you want to learn a trade that will be in demand, i can't help you choose an appropriate industry but i can say trade school is a better bet. university is for becoming a better ...

genessa replies on Dec 21, 2018:

@thinktwice these days that's rare. i wouldn't turn it down, even if it meant not going to harvard! g

I am 30, and am just now considering using my GI Bill to attend university.

genessa comments on Dec 20, 2018:

university is not for learning a trade, in general. there are exceptions: medical school springs to mind! but if you want to learn a trade that will be in demand, i can't help you choose an appropriate industry but i can say trade school is a better bet. university is for becoming a better ...

genessa replies on Dec 21, 2018:

@thinktwice if it hasn't changed since my dad came back from service, and it might well have changed but i don't know that, the g.i. bill covers it all. i'd say take advantage of it. that's a pretty valuable reward to turn down. g

I am 30, and am just now considering using my GI Bill to attend university.

genessa comments on Dec 20, 2018:

university is not for learning a trade, in general. there are exceptions: medical school springs to mind! but if you want to learn a trade that will be in demand, i can't help you choose an appropriate industry but i can say trade school is a better bet. university is for becoming a better ...

genessa replies on Dec 21, 2018:

@thinktwice this is also true. i don't think it's necessarily true of the poster here. it sounds as if he is asking what to study at university, not whether to go to university. g

I am 30, and am just now considering using my GI Bill to attend university.

genessa comments on Dec 20, 2018:

university is not for learning a trade, in general. there are exceptions: medical school springs to mind! but if you want to learn a trade that will be in demand, i can't help you choose an appropriate industry but i can say trade school is a better bet. university is for becoming a better ...

genessa replies on Dec 21, 2018:

@thinktwice i am glad someone likes it! (not being sarcastic!) my guy tried it and he just hated it. to each his/her own, definitely. back to the topic: i am not saying there is no point in trying to find a trade. i just don't think university's sole purpose, or even main purpose, is to establish a trade, unless, as i've said, you're planning to go to med school (or law school, or something like that). university can be for so much more. g

This time of year is difficult for some people.

ZantiMisfit comments on Dec 21, 2018:

Why not. You can still enjoy the Superbowl party and not really care about the game :)

genessa replies on Dec 21, 2018:

um... that is not true of everyone. g

BANNING OTHERS IS BAD FORM.

MarkiusMahamius comments on Dec 21, 2018:

I feel i should report you to admin for telling people how to act. Also, and this may be hard to swallow, but not everything that gets written is valuable.

genessa replies on Dec 21, 2018:

haha indeed, not everything written is valuable. (i don't read romance novels. am i screwing my education by eschewing them or is it okay to be selective in life and still not consider oneself overly insular?) among those things i find less valuable than other things is a SHOUTED command from someone with no authority to command. i don't block for that, but if i did, how would that make me a bad person? g

I'd like to break the mould, as it were, by suggesting a couple of good things about Donald Trump.

genessa comments on Dec 19, 2018:

neoliberalism is a good buggaboo for pretty much anything, isn't it? meanwhile, trump doesn't understand trade agreements; he just repeats shit he hears on fox. even a broken clock etc. etc., but he still doesn't get it. nor does he care, except to the extent that he will happily destroy america ...

genessa replies on Dec 21, 2018:

@OwlInASack one year i went back to the usa from japan, where i then lived, to visit. it was new year's eve, i was staying with friends, and they went out. i went... to a supermarket. i had forgotten how big a supermarket was, how much variety there was in the produce department! i stayed for HOURS, just gawking! g

The “impending” bump stock ban is unconstitutional.

genessa comments on Dec 20, 2018:

the new law doesn't suddenly make people criminals. it gives them every chance to comply. g

genessa replies on Dec 21, 2018:

@SkotlandSkye i have no such belief, but then, if you can read into my words that i am emotional, you can read anything into them, can't you? your belief about what i do or don't believe is faulty. and i have nothing to say to, nor to learn from, you. g

I am 30, and am just now considering using my GI Bill to attend university.

genessa comments on Dec 20, 2018:

university is not for learning a trade, in general. there are exceptions: medical school springs to mind! but if you want to learn a trade that will be in demand, i can't help you choose an appropriate industry but i can say trade school is a better bet. university is for becoming a better ...

genessa replies on Dec 21, 2018:

@thinktwice that is cool for people who have a talent and/or affinity for such work. it doesn't work as well for people who wouldn't do well in that field. g

The “impending” bump stock ban is unconstitutional.

genessa comments on Dec 20, 2018:

the new law doesn't suddenly make people criminals. it gives them every chance to comply. g

genessa replies on Dec 21, 2018:

@SkotlandSkye oh PLEASE. you have no idea how emotional or unemotional i am. don't make stuff up and don't assume. you're not debating further because you have nothing to say. that's fine with me. g

Am i hallucinating or did senator mazie hirono just say "bullshit" on tv (all in with chris hayes)?

Hellas comments on Dec 20, 2018:

Check out @SRuhle’s Tweet: https://twitter.com/SRuhle/status/1075922306399170562?s=09

genessa replies on Dec 21, 2018:

haha i was not alone! it came out so naturally it caught my attention only a few seconds afterwards. wait... wait, did i hear... really??? g

The “impending” bump stock ban is unconstitutional.

genessa comments on Dec 20, 2018:

the new law doesn't suddenly make people criminals. it gives them every chance to comply. g

genessa replies on Dec 21, 2018:

@SkotlandSkye okay, then we should not have ANY laws, according to your reasoning, because people break them anyway. sorry, stop buying into your particular preferred soundbites and stop telling others to stop buying into what you imagine they're buying into. i'm not buying into anything. i'm just using common sense. it's worth a try. g

I'd like to break the mould, as it were, by suggesting a couple of good things about Donald Trump.

genessa comments on Dec 19, 2018:

neoliberalism is a good buggaboo for pretty much anything, isn't it? meanwhile, trump doesn't understand trade agreements; he just repeats shit he hears on fox. even a broken clock etc. etc., but he still doesn't get it. nor does he care, except to the extent that he will happily destroy america ...

genessa replies on Dec 20, 2018:

@OwlInASack yeah not all americans are ignorant though lol those of us who know better eat REAL cheese! boy oh boy did i have a good time when i encountered a supermarket in france. the selection, omg! you can just LIVE on bread and cheese! g

I'd like to break the mould, as it were, by suggesting a couple of good things about Donald Trump.

genessa comments on Dec 19, 2018:

neoliberalism is a good buggaboo for pretty much anything, isn't it? meanwhile, trump doesn't understand trade agreements; he just repeats shit he hears on fox. even a broken clock etc. etc., but he still doesn't get it. nor does he care, except to the extent that he will happily destroy america ...

genessa replies on Dec 20, 2018:

@OwlInASack i have been a cheese fan for my whole adult life. now that i know i have diabetes, cheese is also a lifesaver, since it has virtually no carbs. i don't know if you've been to america and/or had kraft cheese food products but they are not cheese. they are anti-cheese. i like REAL cheese, soft, hard, mild, sharp, as long as it's real! i especially love havarti, gjetost, fontina and... well, everything else lol g

I'd like to break the mould, as it were, by suggesting a couple of good things about Donald Trump.

genessa comments on Dec 19, 2018:

neoliberalism is a good buggaboo for pretty much anything, isn't it? meanwhile, trump doesn't understand trade agreements; he just repeats shit he hears on fox. even a broken clock etc. etc., but he still doesn't get it. nor does he care, except to the extent that he will happily destroy america ...

genessa replies on Dec 20, 2018:

@OwlInASack i just plain do not appreciate wine, ESPECIALLY good wine, as i prefer sweet wine (and meat, but not so much when speaking of dessert!) but i can't have it anyway so it's moot. i did enjoy ONE particular bottle (not the WHOLE bottle) of blue nun once. i wish i knew what year it was. other such bottles were eh, but that one bottle was really tasty. that was a long, long time ago. again, moot for me oh, the cheddar, i am jealous! g

I'd like to break the mould, as it were, by suggesting a couple of good things about Donald Trump.

genessa comments on Dec 19, 2018:

neoliberalism is a good buggaboo for pretty much anything, isn't it? meanwhile, trump doesn't understand trade agreements; he just repeats shit he hears on fox. even a broken clock etc. etc., but he still doesn't get it. nor does he care, except to the extent that he will happily destroy america ...

genessa replies on Dec 20, 2018:

@OwlInASack not i, as i never liked win much, but give up ANY kind of cheese? i just couldn't do it! g

I'd like to break the mould, as it were, by suggesting a couple of good things about Donald Trump.

genessa comments on Dec 19, 2018:

neoliberalism is a good buggaboo for pretty much anything, isn't it? meanwhile, trump doesn't understand trade agreements; he just repeats shit he hears on fox. even a broken clock etc. etc., but he still doesn't get it. nor does he care, except to the extent that he will happily destroy america ...

genessa replies on Dec 20, 2018:

@OwlInASack 'perk i can eat camembert! g

What quality(ies) of the opposite sex do you appreciate the most?

genessa comments on Dec 20, 2018:

i am not being sarcastic when i say that i refuse to generalize. i don't divide up admirable qualities (or the other kind) by gender. g

genessa replies on Dec 20, 2018:

@PalacinkyPDX ugh yes i am afraid so. fortunately for me i saw that book at the same time i discovered richard feynman's books, looked one way, looked the other, went with feynman, never looked back! g

I'd like to break the mould, as it were, by suggesting a couple of good things about Donald Trump.

genessa comments on Dec 19, 2018:

neoliberalism is a good buggaboo for pretty much anything, isn't it? meanwhile, trump doesn't understand trade agreements; he just repeats shit he hears on fox. even a broken clock etc. etc., but he still doesn't get it. nor does he care, except to the extent that he will happily destroy america ...

genessa replies on Dec 20, 2018:

@OwlInASack diabetes. can't drink. never liked drinking much anyway except icky sweet drinks like kahlua cream. so... club soda! but talking to nice people makes the world a better place :-)) g

The “impending” bump stock ban is unconstitutional.

genessa comments on Dec 20, 2018:

the new law doesn't suddenly make people criminals. it gives them every chance to comply. g

genessa replies on Dec 20, 2018:

@SkotlandSkye as if they're not already illegal? the idea is to make them harder to commit, not to make it easier to punish people after the fact. duh. g

Have you, or will you put up a tree this year?

genessa comments on Dec 20, 2018:

i'm jewish (and an atheist). i don't put up trees. i like when they grow in the earth in their natural environment. g

genessa replies on Dec 20, 2018:

@itsmedammit yeah but i wouldn't want a plastic tree in my home either. i don't even like artificial plants so much lol, though they do have their uses (especially when you have cats who'd eat real ones). g

I'd like to break the mould, as it were, by suggesting a couple of good things about Donald Trump.

genessa comments on Dec 19, 2018:

neoliberalism is a good buggaboo for pretty much anything, isn't it? meanwhile, trump doesn't understand trade agreements; he just repeats shit he hears on fox. even a broken clock etc. etc., but he still doesn't get it. nor does he care, except to the extent that he will happily destroy america ...

genessa replies on Dec 20, 2018:

@OwlInASack oh make mine a nice fizzy club soda! but you're right, even if your jersey locale were NEW jersey it'd be a hell of a commute for me :-)) g

What quality(ies) of the opposite sex do you appreciate the most?

genessa comments on Dec 20, 2018:

i am not being sarcastic when i say that i refuse to generalize. i don't divide up admirable qualities (or the other kind) by gender. g

genessa replies on Dec 20, 2018:

@PalacinkyPDX oh i HATE that book! i am against everything it stands for! g

If I have the intention of dating, should I reveal that I am unemployed, have learning difficulties ...

genessa comments on Dec 19, 2018:

you just did! to tell you the truth, if i were dating, i wouldn't look at people's profiles unless i liked what they said on subjects other than dating, on the community side of this site. once i got to know and like someone that way and we began to message, i would be less put off (if put off ...

genessa replies on Dec 20, 2018:

@TomMcGiverin no, he is asking about here, and saying what he has already done on other sites. g

A federal law has been passed that requires all bump stocks to be surrendered or to be destroyed.

genessa comments on Dec 19, 2018:

https://www.atf.gov/rules-and-regulations/bump-stocks the announcement by the btf. https://www.justice.gov/opa/press-release/file/1120876/download the rule itself there is no mention of agents' going door to door demanding owners turn over their bump stocks. this rule actually just adds ...

genessa replies on Dec 19, 2018:

@dahermit it is my opinion but your opinion that my opinion is biased is biased. it's just logic. why would anyone need a bump stock? why would that need be so great that a law that in general keeps a bad, dangerous thing out of the hands of bad, dangerous people could be trumped by that need? do you need a bump stock to stop a burglar in your home, or kill a deer? the ONLY people who NEED bump stocks are people who intend to harm other people. it is not good for anything else. so no, my opinion is educated, and informed by common sense, NOT biased. g

How do we define existential nihilism?

genessa comments on Dec 18, 2018:

yep you're not a nihilist. does the label matter? there might not be an existing label for your beliefs. does that negate them? i think not. by the way, "feelsy idealists" are not who butchered the meaning of nihilism, if indeed it was butchered. maybe it wasn't butchered but you just found ...

genessa replies on Dec 19, 2018:

@Cuberon_Blocket i appreciate that, but i have spoken honestly and from the heart. if that comes off as aggressive, so be it; it is what it is. people interpret as they will, but i am not trying to be edgy or trying to BE anything, in fact. all i am doing is reacting honestly to your post, and to your subsequent comments. g

How do we define existential nihilism?

genessa comments on Dec 18, 2018:

yep you're not a nihilist. does the label matter? there might not be an existing label for your beliefs. does that negate them? i think not. by the way, "feelsy idealists" are not who butchered the meaning of nihilism, if indeed it was butchered. maybe it wasn't butchered but you just found ...

genessa replies on Dec 19, 2018:

@Cuberon_Blocket well, on the one hand it could be considered judgy to disagree with you on anything, and on the other hand, if you find that judgy you could always just buy a mirror. there is no harm in asking, but on the other hand, when you ask, you have to expect answers that you didn't expect lol. as for most people typically lying to themselves about what they believe (in order to accurately define themselves) -- seriously? that is a pretty big (and judgy) statement to make without (i assume) your having conducted a study of the subject. and not to be judgy, but it's rein, not reign. g

Uninterested in Christmas

genessa comments on Dec 15, 2018:

my family, what's left of it, is jewish. we have never had christmas. i hate christmas anyway. g

genessa replies on Dec 18, 2018:

@Rfg1800 we went to movies, but not on any particular days of the year. we went when my folks decided to go, and their reasoning was not shared with us, but it never was on christmas day to my knowledge. i mean, if we stayed home most nights, then why not that night? and if we had a day off, why not enjoy not having to go out? i guess that's how it was for us. g

How would you feel if you went out with someone that was Christian and thought Jews were put on a ...

genessa comments on Dec 18, 2018:

why would any jew be going out with someone like that? okay it could be a blind date, but then why would anyone set a jew up with someone like that? i am gathering that somehow it happened to you... if it wasn't a blind date, how did you happen to go out with such a person? g

genessa replies on Dec 18, 2018:

@Rose2U you're more tolerant than i. i don't easily tolerate intolerance. g

There are a lot of things to dislike about Christmas.

genessa comments on Dec 18, 2018:

as a jew i resent that no one says we have to remember all those who are spending chanukah alone (and i only mention chanukah because it falls within a month of christmas, sometimes closer, sometimes farther; it's not a major holiday on the jewish calendar). if i were alone (if it wasn't by choice)...

genessa replies on Dec 18, 2018:

@PalacinkyPDX well, i mean if it did happen to BE chanukah. g

Forgive me if I don’t know enough about the Ukraine War but which side is the right side to be on?

Novelty comments on Dec 16, 2018:

Even Ukrainians are divided on this one, the half living in Crimea wanted to be Russian, the rest didn't want that, so Russia, in an attempt to "protect" their pro Russian allies in Crimea used their military to annex the territory. The U.S. has stayed out of it publicly, opting instead to issue ...

genessa replies on Dec 18, 2018:

@Mortal they. we. the conservative supreme court removed the mandate. that's a different THEY from the ones who passed the bill. we. not me, not you i imagine. that would be the republicans. we DO need to draw a distinction. otherwise we all stay home on election day and shrug our shoulders and then complain. g

Forgive me if I don’t know enough about the Ukraine War but which side is the right side to be on?

Novelty comments on Dec 16, 2018:

Even Ukrainians are divided on this one, the half living in Crimea wanted to be Russian, the rest didn't want that, so Russia, in an attempt to "protect" their pro Russian allies in Crimea used their military to annex the territory. The U.S. has stayed out of it publicly, opting instead to issue ...

genessa replies on Dec 18, 2018:

@Mortal @Mortal i don't think it's an apt comparison, and my reasoning is simple expanded medicaid and nine million (plus) now-insured people. could it have been better? yes. could we have improved it? if the republicans hadn't tried so hard instead to kill it, sure. but was it just plain not worth it? no. the people whose lives it has saved would say no. as for compromise... it is often necessary, sometimes even a good thing. g

Forgive me if I don’t know enough about the Ukraine War but which side is the right side to be on?

Novelty comments on Dec 16, 2018:

Even Ukrainians are divided on this one, the half living in Crimea wanted to be Russian, the rest didn't want that, so Russia, in an attempt to "protect" their pro Russian allies in Crimea used their military to annex the territory. The U.S. has stayed out of it publicly, opting instead to issue ...

genessa replies on Dec 18, 2018:

@Mortal but i responded very specifically to what you said about health insurance. that is the part with which i disagreed, you see. you don't have to convince me trump and his trumpkins are ruining the country. that's obvious to anyone with a brain. g

Forgive me if I don’t know enough about the Ukraine War but which side is the right side to be on?

Novelty comments on Dec 16, 2018:

Even Ukrainians are divided on this one, the half living in Crimea wanted to be Russian, the rest didn't want that, so Russia, in an attempt to "protect" their pro Russian allies in Crimea used their military to annex the territory. The U.S. has stayed out of it publicly, opting instead to issue ...

genessa replies on Dec 18, 2018:

@Mortal well, yes, but what has that got to do with health insurance? g

Forgive me if I don’t know enough about the Ukraine War but which side is the right side to be on?

Novelty comments on Dec 16, 2018:

Even Ukrainians are divided on this one, the half living in Crimea wanted to be Russian, the rest didn't want that, so Russia, in an attempt to "protect" their pro Russian allies in Crimea used their military to annex the territory. The U.S. has stayed out of it publicly, opting instead to issue ...

genessa replies on Dec 18, 2018:

@Mortal re health care: no. voltaire correctly said the best is the enemy of the good. nine million people would disagree that the half measure is worse than nothing. yes we need single payer. no, it could not have passed when the aca was passed. yes, we still need it, no, that doesn't mean the aca is worse than nothing at all, but the right wing is trying hard to make it so. g

How do you trap someone into committing perjury?

mattersauce comments on Dec 17, 2018:

You can't trick someone into lying on the stand. The act of committing perjury depends on the target willingly lying under oath. If you trick them into saying something untrue then it can be considered a mistake, which is not perjury. However you can, depending on the information, question ...

genessa replies on Dec 17, 2018:

@BufftonBeotch i expanded it :-)) g

How do you trap someone into committing perjury?

mattersauce comments on Dec 17, 2018:

You can't trick someone into lying on the stand. The act of committing perjury depends on the target willingly lying under oath. If you trick them into saying something untrue then it can be considered a mistake, which is not perjury. However you can, depending on the information, question ...

genessa replies on Dec 17, 2018:

@BufftonBeotch, @Maindawg by and by, reagan really didn't recall, which is scary in and of itself. but at least we had nancy's astrologer running the country.... g

How do you trap someone into committing perjury?

mattersauce comments on Dec 17, 2018:

You can't trick someone into lying on the stand. The act of committing perjury depends on the target willingly lying under oath. If you trick them into saying something untrue then it can be considered a mistake, which is not perjury. However you can, depending on the information, question ...

genessa replies on Dec 17, 2018:

@BufftonBeotch abetting WHAT? abetting a hostile nation's attack on our election system is certainly a crime. abetting an affair (for example, eleanor knew what franklin was doing) isn't. but congress never asked THEM. g

How do you trap someone into committing perjury?

mattersauce comments on Dec 17, 2018:

You can't trick someone into lying on the stand. The act of committing perjury depends on the target willingly lying under oath. If you trick them into saying something untrue then it can be considered a mistake, which is not perjury. However you can, depending on the information, question ...

genessa replies on Dec 17, 2018:

@BufftonBeotch right. but not everyone who is guilty of something is guilty of a crime. what if everyone who was nominated for a cabinet position was asked, by the senate, "do you masturbate?" how many would be embarrassed and lie and say no? but they shouldn't be asked that (except kavanaugh. he should be asked that.) so that would be a perjury trap, an unfair one, like the one that trapped clinton; he shouldn't have been asked about something that other presidents who did the same thing were never asked. but with regard to trump... we know enough about mueller to know that 1. he won't ask irrelevant questions and 2. trump will lie no matter what the questions are. g

How do you trap someone into committing perjury?

mattersauce comments on Dec 17, 2018:

You can't trick someone into lying on the stand. The act of committing perjury depends on the target willingly lying under oath. If you trick them into saying something untrue then it can be considered a mistake, which is not perjury. However you can, depending on the information, question ...

genessa replies on Dec 17, 2018:

@mattersauce a poor response is generally recognized, on a legal level, as nothing more than a poor response. the only people who can fall into a so-called perjury trap are people who lie. they SHOULD fall in. g

How do you trap someone into committing perjury?

RichCC comments on Dec 17, 2018:

Like Bill Clinton was. He was stupid enough do do something morally humiliating even to himself. Then under oath he was asked if he did it. He was 'trapped'. Even though what they were asking about wasn't a crime, he was humiliated into perjury. That is a perjury trap.

genessa replies on Dec 17, 2018:

he shouldn't have been asked. fdr wasn't. eisenhower wasn't. jfk wasn't. bush the elder wasn't. they ALL had affairs, multiple in jfk's case. were they all stupid? morally humiliated? oh wait, it's okay to judge one but not all, when in fact none of it was anyone's business unless it affected the job, which apparently it did NOT. g

Do any of you former believers still say or think phrases from your Christian days?

genessa comments on Dec 17, 2018:

it's like a commercal jingle, isn't it? but no, the one you name i never did say (i've also never been christian so i have no christian days). i say "jesus christ" if i bang my toe, although "oh fuck" is just as good, and in neither case am i to be taken literally. g

genessa replies on Dec 17, 2018:

@ProudMary oh i do too, with middle initial H too. g

Forgive me if I don’t know enough about the Ukraine War but which side is the right side to be on?

Druvius comments on Dec 17, 2018:

The people of Crimea overwhelmingly are ethnic Russians and wanted to be part of Russia, not Ukraine. A victory for self determination.

genessa replies on Dec 17, 2018:

@Druvius oh PLEASE. turn it around why don't you. sorry, i don't need this crap. blocking. and no, not because i have an honest disagreement with someone, but rather because this is a "what about"-er, and that, as i have said, is not an honest technique. i don't need dishonesty in my life. i am writing this for anyone else reading, since if i block fast enough druvius will never have a chance to read this. g

Forgive me if I don’t know enough about the Ukraine War but which side is the right side to be on?

Druvius comments on Dec 17, 2018:

The people of Crimea overwhelmingly are ethnic Russians and wanted to be part of Russia, not Ukraine. A victory for self determination.

genessa replies on Dec 17, 2018:

@Druvius no, you're doing the "but what about chappaquidick" re watergate and the "but her emails" re anything with which trump is remotely associated bit. it's not an honest technique. g

Forgive me if I don’t know enough about the Ukraine War but which side is the right side to be on?

Druvius comments on Dec 17, 2018:

The people of Crimea overwhelmingly are ethnic Russians and wanted to be part of Russia, not Ukraine. A victory for self determination.

genessa replies on Dec 17, 2018:

@Druvius 1. this has nothing to do with israel, but changing the subject IS a typical tactic when one's facts are not up to snuff. 2. most people would give a vote of confidence to someone who would arrange to have you imprisoned or poisoned if you voted otherwise. putin's approval rating is a joke. 3. where is your source that the coup had anything to do with nazis or that it wasn't a coup backed ALSO by the people? rt, maybe? 'snort g

Forgive me if I don’t know enough about the Ukraine War but which side is the right side to be on?

Druvius comments on Dec 17, 2018:

The people of Crimea overwhelmingly are ethnic Russians and wanted to be part of Russia, not Ukraine. A victory for self determination.

genessa replies on Dec 17, 2018:

that is what the russians would have us believe. i do not automatically believe it. g

Lately i've been seeing quite a few scam profiles here and it would be helpful to be able to search ...

daylily comments on Dec 15, 2018:

That's a little scary. I was already a little nervous about posting my picture and am glad to learn it can't be copied! I posted my pic because I find it annoying when people don't post a pic of themselves.

genessa replies on Dec 17, 2018:

but your picture can be copied quite easily. anyone with a screen capture program (not a rare thing) can copy your picture. however, if they do, they can't be caught as easily because the feature i mentioned is disabled. i am not asking for the feature of being able to copy the picture. i am asking for the feature of being able to search google for the same image, to see if it HAS been stolen. the disabling of this feature doesn't protect you. it does the opposite. g

Lately i've been seeing quite a few scam profiles here and it would be helpful to be able to search ...

GreenAtheist comments on Dec 15, 2018:

How do ya know a guy is a scam? ...Better yet how to protect me from scam alleged females

genessa replies on Dec 17, 2018:

@GreenAtheist i don't know what many people assume. i myself make no such assumptions, but i can only speak for myself. i know that when someone's profile is word for word the same as profiles all over the net, and i don't mean a generic profile bit some very specific stuff, long and verbatim copied, and the other profiles show different women of different ages, from different places around the world, that's a clue. i know that when someone has a profile that says she is an atheist, agnostic and freethinker and then answers the questions with yes she believes in a deity, who is allah, the god of islam, and she is 90 percent sure of that, and then she sends the same suspicious link to a couple dozen different groups with a merry christmas message, something's not kosher there! i know the guy who approached me privately here with "tell me all about yourself, i want to be your very best friend" when my profile says i am here for the community and mentions that i have a man, and after i have mentioned a few times that i am taken, not available, already with someone, he's after something other than love. yes, i can generally spot scammers. no, it's not because someone has made a direct approach, has nothing to do with old-fashioned gentleman callers and i cannot answer the question "who has not been conditioned" apart from raising my hand and saying "me. i have not." g

I was raised in a Christian family but it seemed to never rub off on me.

maturin1919 comments on Dec 17, 2018:

"I believe in evolution so I believe in certain pagan deities." Do what now? The former doesn't necessitate the latter.

genessa replies on Dec 17, 2018:

@Stefferz89 you obviously did not read the same odyssey that i read. chimps did not send themselves into space. if you use the logic that a chimp went to space then you have to grant that a rocket is more intelligent than we are because it went into space. the american flag on the moon is more intelligent than we are because we briefly visited the moon but it found a way to live there. oh and baboons did not teach humans how to read and write. that's just not true. documented WHERE? if it is "documented" somewhere the document is bogus. dogs and horses are not running the towns of which they are mayors. they're figureheads, elected or appointed as jokes. they have no idea what a mayor is, or what a town is. g

I have just read that an academic study shows older folks who have regular sex stay healthier than ...

genessa comments on Dec 16, 2018:

why would younger folk be horrified? what business of theirs would it be how other people, regardless of age, have sex? g

genessa replies on Dec 17, 2018:

@maturin1919 actually when i was young i never gave it a thought at all until i found contraceptives in my folks' nightstand. the idea then didn't disgust me; i was highly amused. g

Dem: I Voted For Yemen War Because I Know Nothing About It

altschmerz comments on Dec 16, 2018:

Democrats and Republicans: Tweedledee and Tweedledum.

genessa replies on Dec 17, 2018:

@Closeted i disagree strongly, based on my observations, my knowledge of history and my attention to current and recent events. g

Dem: I Voted For Yemen War Because I Know Nothing About It

altschmerz comments on Dec 16, 2018:

Democrats and Republicans: Tweedledee and Tweedledum.

genessa replies on Dec 17, 2018:

wrong. if there is a stupid dem, if there are stupid dems, so be it, but they are not corrupt or stupid as a party. the republicans are. g

Can you recall the most romantic moment of your lifetime? Care to describe it?​

genessa comments on Dec 16, 2018:

haha can i describe one that SHOULD have been the most romantic but wasn't? how about three? they're related. 1. my guy (yes by then he was my guy) and i went to hawaii together and he bought me a beautiful ring, a very, very expensive ring but more importantly, beautiful and from him because ...

genessa replies on Dec 17, 2018:

@Wildflower i will leave that decision to the asker of the question. g

Can you recall the most romantic moment of your lifetime? Care to describe it?​

genessa comments on Dec 16, 2018:

haha can i describe one that SHOULD have been the most romantic but wasn't? how about three? they're related. 1. my guy (yes by then he was my guy) and i went to hawaii together and he bought me a beautiful ring, a very, very expensive ring but more importantly, beautiful and from him because ...

genessa replies on Dec 16, 2018:

@Wildflower in whose book? g

Guns: Give them to everyone as a government program.

genessa comments on Dec 15, 2018:

yes, great idea. let's give guns to insane people, people convicted of violent crimes, abusive husbands, radicalized evangelicals, and anyone in my neighborhood i don't know who might have some grudge against someone and decide a gun is a good tool for solving it. g

genessa replies on Dec 16, 2018:

@Castlepaloma sounds grim to me! and by the way, that is not the purpose of dark fairy tales (meaning most of them); check out bruno bettekheim's book, the uses of enchantment. g

My atheism is getting me kicked out yet again.

genessa comments on Dec 16, 2018:

kicked out of where? pardon me if i'm thick but i am not understanding what you've been kicked out of. if you have an apartment, your landlords cannot legally kick you out for being an atheist. if you're staying with friends... why? and why choose people who are fundies? can you clarify? g

genessa replies on Dec 16, 2018:

@BABSDAGGER well, if you were just hired, and you don't lose the job on account of not having a place to stay, you should be able to find your own place eventually. i hope you make it. g

Wow is the majority of people here OVER 50?

Bobbyzen comments on Dec 16, 2018:

Does that excite you? Or turn you off?

genessa replies on Dec 16, 2018:

@RJWells um no, i do not have that experience, sorry. i am not here for dating. i am with the man i love and he doesn't look like an actor or a rock star. some people might not think he was hot at all, but i came to love him within a few months of meeting him. was it love at first sight? no. is that the only way to fall in love? is that even the only way to get to know someone? no, it's not. as for time, what's the rush? do you want it done FAST or do you want it done RIGHT? by the way, no, it's not the first thing you know about anyone online. you don't know what i look like unless you go to my profile, and that's only because i put some pictures of myself (other than my baby picture) on there. i didn't have to. i chose to. (since i'm not into the dating part of the site, it would be quite reasonable for me to post pictures of my cats instead.) i am not looking for romance but i do expect people to consider what i say before they consider what i look like. i do the same for others. so, for you yes. for me, no. g p.s. imagine i was single and wanted to find a guy here and someone contacted me and he didn't look attractive to me. you assum ei would say ehhh and ignore him completely? how rude would THAT be, and how STUPID, since he might be a really cool guy who didn't happen to have a handsome face. SOME people are NOT shallow. imagine that!

[cannabis.net] Is vegan weed even real?

Triphid comments on Dec 16, 2018:

Darn those Vegans/Vegetarians, they murder innocent plants just so they can devour them with pleasure.

genessa replies on Dec 16, 2018:

@Triphid yes i feel terribly guilty eating my okra but i do love it... and my lox, too. i'm an omnivore, as opposed to an herbivore or a carnivore, but i am not a real omnivore because i don't eat thinks that are not actually food (such as coca cola or twinkies) or anything with which an animal thinks or makes love... or celery. i don't like celery. g

Wow is the majority of people here OVER 50?

Bobbyzen comments on Dec 16, 2018:

Does that excite you? Or turn you off?

genessa replies on Dec 16, 2018:

@RJWells really? it doesn't depend on how kind she is, how smart she is, how much she likes you, whether or not she has any good or bad habits or whether she can cook/split an atom/fix a carburetor? it depends on how she LOOKS? g

[cannabis.net] Is vegan weed even real?

Triphid comments on Dec 16, 2018:

Darn those Vegans/Vegetarians, they murder innocent plants just so they can devour them with pleasure.

genessa replies on Dec 16, 2018:

plants do scream! g

Are women less ethical than men?

ProudMary comments on Dec 16, 2018:

I don't know about ethical but based on my experiences in working with men and women, some women have a streak of viciousness that I've never seen in a man.

genessa replies on Dec 16, 2018:

@ProudMary that's still a pretty specific venue. i did understand that you meant in your experience. i was just clarifying that we cannot rely solely on that. g

Could a genius be considered a peer...if?

genessa comments on Dec 15, 2018:

peer of whom, in what? (i don't see a poll here. did you mean to add one?) if someone knows stuff, who cares how s/he learned it? but being a genius has nothing to do with that. iq is a measure of potential. g

genessa replies on Dec 16, 2018:

@AJimboShep82 in WHAT field of study? you didn't MAKE a point. i think you missed mine, though. g

Are women less ethical than men?

ProudMary comments on Dec 16, 2018:

I don't know about ethical but based on my experiences in working with men and women, some women have a streak of viciousness that I've never seen in a man.

genessa replies on Dec 16, 2018:

my experience is otherwise. i have seen viciousness in both genders and while, because of society rather than any inherent tendencies, it may be expressed differently in general by men and by women, i have not noticed a difference in intensity. however, it is never wise to trust small samples. it is also unwise to generalize, whether based on small samples or based on what society expects of us. g