LETS DISCUSS GENDER IDENTITY - In the beginning, Nature created MALE and FEMALE and it was ...

Sgt_Spanky comments on Dec 5, 2018:

Some of you have raised some legitimate hypotheticals but I'm questioning the need to have an alternate identity for every possible gender permutation. Biologically there are only two, emotionally, there can be any number. Since humans are equal parts of each, who knows how many identities there ...

genessa replies on Dec 5, 2018:

@Sgt_Spanky gen·der /ˈjendər/Submit noun 1. the state of being male or female (typically used with reference to social and cultural differences rather than biological ones). (2. was a grammatical definition, not relevant here.) note that "male or female" can apply to one person if that person is gender fluid. note, too, the definitions's very important parenthetical distinction. even so, this definition is a bit outdated as it doesn't take into account the emotional aspect even as it takes into account the social and cultural aspects. it needs to be updated, i think, but it still correctly separates gender identity from biology. g

Looks like DeGrasse Tyson is guilty.

Darius77 comments on Dec 5, 2018:

I don't know how you calculated the probability of his guilt either. He has so far been accused of: 1- Trying to find a tattooed planet on a lady's freaking shoulder (not just any planet by the way, the one he is famous for casting out of our solar system) 2- Shaking hands with a co-worker in a way ...

genessa replies on Dec 5, 2018:

@Darius77 me too. i believe in evidence even if it isn't evidence i'd rather see, but i would be upset and sad, just as i was, well, for charlie rose, whom i had liked, you know? but the evidence was compelling. what can we do? it's just sad when people we like are called out and people we know are evil get away with it. it doesn't mean the liked folks should get away with it. it means no one should. we do not currently have equal justice under the law. we barely have law. g

Looks like DeGrasse Tyson is guilty.

Darius77 comments on Dec 5, 2018:

I don't know how you calculated the probability of his guilt either. He has so far been accused of: 1- Trying to find a tattooed planet on a lady's freaking shoulder (not just any planet by the way, the one he is famous for casting out of our solar system) 2- Shaking hands with a co-worker in a way ...

genessa replies on Dec 5, 2018:

your last point... i can sadly point to bill cosby, who is way more famous than tyson and yet.... but when you list the accusations, it all sounds awfully petty and silly, doesn't it? and consider the rape allegation, which comes from a woman who says she doesn't actually KNOW if she was raped, but neil was there so she must have been, and he must have done it.... that's not compelling testimony either, is it? i wouldn't reply too much on the "he's famous, he's smart, he doesn't have to" argument, though. it doesn't work... but he doesn't need it. g

Looks like DeGrasse Tyson is guilty.

genessa comments on Dec 5, 2018:

in what way do you figure tyson's guilt is probable? i am not saying one way or the other, although his explanations sounded reasonable to me, but in the end i do not know and there has been no investigation yet, so no one knows except tyson and the accusers (and re one of the accusers, maybe she ...

genessa replies on Dec 5, 2018:

@Beowulfsfriend i agree that false reports are statistically rare. however, this case may fall outside of those statistics because there have been some calculated false accusations, politically aimed, lately, and no, i am NOT talking about kavanaugh; there is so much evidence against him it's disgusting. i am thinking of franken, and ellison, and even avenatti. people are being paid to lie in these cases. these are not young women seeking to hide consensual sex from their strict parents. these are paid political operatives. remember: the hitler playbook, thanks to goebbels, is to accuse the "enemy" of whatever you'redoing yourself. the sexual predators in power are hiring women to accuse their "enemies" of sexual predation. i think the probability is that tyson is innocent, not because i like tyson, which i admit i do (hey, i like dustin hoffman too and he has confessed, so that's the end of that guesswork, right?) but because his account rings true and the accusers' accounts don't. if an investigation tips that balance i will be sad but not in denial. g

LETS DISCUSS GENDER IDENTITY - In the beginning, Nature created MALE and FEMALE and it was ...

genessa comments on Dec 5, 2018:

in the beginning there were two genders? i'm sorry, but which beginning, and how do you figure this is true? because no one talked about it? well, except many native american tribes, whose members have acknowledged more than two genders for longer than the united states has been a country. as ...

genessa replies on Dec 5, 2018:

@AmmaRE007 there are probably cases in which it would be handy to have a name for a particular gender permutation, especially as people do tend to ask (curious folk, we!) but in MOST cases (such as a discussion of your favorite music or politics or how your cat reacts to the new toy) the poster's gender is irrelevant. i can't blame people for marking "other." g

Thing you can't live without

genessa comments on Dec 4, 2018:

cats. g

genessa replies on Dec 5, 2018:

@A2Jennifer i feel ya. i have one who is 15 and a half and has suddenly lost half her weight. she's eating again... or she was until today. i won't try again for a few hours and she will surely gobble down whatever i give her. but it doesn't stick to her ribs. g

Thing you can't live without

genessa comments on Dec 4, 2018:

cats. g

genessa replies on Dec 5, 2018:

@Beowulfsfriend aww but you wouldn't go back and never have met him, not for anything, right? because you carry your mutual love around with you. i feel that way about all of my departed felines, but woody's death got me the worst because it was a brain tumor, it was sudden, it was horrid. and he was fine until one evening and dead by the next afternoon, and because we had to put him down (the tumor was suppressing his breathing and he would've suffocated). i still carry the horror of that with me but i've gotten to the point where i can look at his picture and remember the good times instead. g

Thing you can't live without

genessa comments on Dec 4, 2018:

cats. g

genessa replies on Dec 4, 2018:

@Beowulfsfriend my cats are the best cats in the world, and that's saying a lot because cats are universally wonderful. my five are all old and i live in fear of losing them. i've lost so many and it hurt so much, still hurts, but i would not trade having known them for freedom from the pain. not for a second. g

I'm noticing a change in how stores are forcing us to buy things.

Quazi comments on Dec 2, 2018:

I recently learned that what is on the shelves is no accident nor what the store thinks will sell well but rather the stores rent out their shelves to vendors. The cheap stuff must be outbidding or can't afford to sell online like the bigger companies. Pretty random but interesting when I walk ...

genessa replies on Dec 4, 2018:

@gigihein it depends on what stores you go to of course. i don't go to stores much; i have no transportation, i don't drive, i don't live near a store, i'm disabled. i go to the grocery store when i get a ride. i use aldi and sometimes cub, and i am satisfied with what i find on those places. for other things i shop online. g

Humanity and how we got to be

genessa comments on Nov 18, 2018:

i have never heard scientists call birds and other animals unlucky not to be human. as for how humans came into existence, that is not something that can be answered briefly except with the word "evolution" and there are many fine explanations in books and on the net about that. google "human ...

genessa replies on Dec 4, 2018:

@GreenAtheist alas i know a little something about hospital security. i wish i didn't. g

How is this wrong?

genessa comments on Dec 3, 2018:

if you like it, do it. i'm jewish. i have no christmas tradition and in fact want to hide for a couple months out of the year. last night i lit the menorah and served a lovely meal, and told the story of chanukah (teeny tiny miracle part invented after the fact by rabbis, but mostly an historical...

genessa replies on Dec 4, 2018:

@Jacar went to a midnight mass once. by the time they got to the music i was exhausted! lol but i imagine there are some that don't mind if one walks in late just for the singing. g

Humanity and how we got to be

genessa comments on Nov 18, 2018:

i have never heard scientists call birds and other animals unlucky not to be human. as for how humans came into existence, that is not something that can be answered briefly except with the word "evolution" and there are many fine explanations in books and on the net about that. google "human ...

genessa replies on Dec 4, 2018:

@GreenAtheist cats are superior creatures! g

Humanity and how we got to be

genessa comments on Nov 18, 2018:

i have never heard scientists call birds and other animals unlucky not to be human. as for how humans came into existence, that is not something that can be answered briefly except with the word "evolution" and there are many fine explanations in books and on the net about that. google "human ...

genessa replies on Dec 4, 2018:

@GreenAtheist does that make the cat unlucky? g

Would you date a man without a steady paycheck?

genessa comments on Dec 2, 2018:

you want brutal honesty? okay. i am not sure why you are excluding men when there are certainly men who date men, and considering that at any rate a man might have the same considerations about a woman. i am not sure why you consider being between jobs, often a euphemism for being unemployed, as ...

genessa replies on Dec 3, 2018:

@MuzikDan um... so what? g

Neil "grab da ass" Tyson..

genessa comments on Dec 3, 2018:

you're not the only one but you're wrong. he is calling for an investigation; innocent people don't do that. there has to be a balance. we can no longer ignore what women say, or deny that rape is a real thing, or even deny that sexual harassment is a real thing, but there ARE women who get paid ...

genessa replies on Dec 3, 2018:

@FatherOfNyx i have no idols, i am defending the concept of innocent until at least evidence surfaces of some hint of guilt, your assumptions about my assumptions are still emanating from your ass, and the only nerve you've hit in me is the one that loathes gaslighting. people like me, huh? you know NOTHING about me, and you will learn nothing of me henceforth either, because i have no use for people like you. bye. g

How is this wrong?

genessa comments on Dec 3, 2018:

if you like it, do it. i'm jewish. i have no christmas tradition and in fact want to hide for a couple months out of the year. last night i lit the menorah and served a lovely meal, and told the story of chanukah (teeny tiny miracle part invented after the fact by rabbis, but mostly an historical...

genessa replies on Dec 3, 2018:

@Jacar i have been to a megachurch. that was the WHITEST hava nagila i ever heard! i think i should try a small church some day (for the singing of course). g

Neil "grab da ass" Tyson..

genessa comments on Dec 3, 2018:

you're not the only one but you're wrong. he is calling for an investigation; innocent people don't do that. there has to be a balance. we can no longer ignore what women say, or deny that rape is a real thing, or even deny that sexual harassment is a real thing, but there ARE women who get paid ...

genessa replies on Dec 3, 2018:

@FatherOfNyx you make an AWFUL lot of assumptions, now about me, and boy oh boy are YOU ever wrong. but i know a small sample when i see one, too. yes, it IS about your dislike for him. you have no idea whether he is (or i am) being hypocritical. pardon me, but you're talking out of your ass. when you start telling me what i have encountered, or what i am proving, then you are talking out of your ass. g

Neil "grab da ass" Tyson..

genessa comments on Dec 3, 2018:

you're not the only one but you're wrong. he is calling for an investigation; innocent people don't do that. there has to be a balance. we can no longer ignore what women say, or deny that rape is a real thing, or even deny that sexual harassment is a real thing, but there ARE women who get paid ...

genessa replies on Dec 3, 2018:

@FatherOfNyx really? more times than not? you have data on that? i think you're assuming a motivation based on facts not in evidence, and i thought if there is one thing we atheists have in common it is that we do not DO that. but you don't like him, so he must be guilty, and asking for an investigation proves it... um... no. sorry. it doesn't prove he's innocent either but it points to it, and you cannot just assign a motivation to his request and expect to be believed. you don't know any more than i do, unless he groped you. g

The word spirituality is so connected to religion faith myth and superstition.

Orbit comments on Dec 3, 2018:

I think the term has the connotation that a person is interested in exploring subjective human experience, and that those experiences are valuable to us as humans. It provides a corrective to the "Spock" (all logic and no emotion) atheism. As such, I think it is a term that needs to be kept. Not all...

genessa replies on Dec 3, 2018:

i getcha, but some of us want to be able to understand what the hell other people are talking about without asking if they've redefined a word that already has a meaning or a range of meanings. g

Neil "grab da ass" Tyson..

genessa comments on Dec 3, 2018:

you're not the only one but you're wrong. he is calling for an investigation; innocent people don't do that. there has to be a balance. we can no longer ignore what women say, or deny that rape is a real thing, or even deny that sexual harassment is a real thing, but there ARE women who get paid ...

genessa replies on Dec 3, 2018:

and by the way, i like him, but he isn't my "idol"-- no one is. g

Why isn't the turkey ready yet?

SallyInStitches comments on Dec 2, 2018:

Its Chanukah so that means fried turkey! All the noms!

genessa replies on Dec 3, 2018:

goyim, dear, goyim! g

Why isn't the turkey ready yet?

evidentialist comments on Dec 2, 2018:

I haven't lost my cultural ties, but I'll eat turkey any time it's offered. On the other hand, I have to have my latkes with sour cream and apple sauce, kugel, brisket, and knishes around this time of the year. I also make a mean blintz with cream cheese and honey, smothered in lignon berries. ...

genessa replies on Dec 3, 2018:

oh we shall have our latkes with sour cream and we may even have a matza brei, because we can! g

FACT CHECK: Was the 'Illegal Alien Mom with Kids' Photograph Staged?

GinaKay comments on Dec 2, 2018:

As you said, no it was not. Apparently that's the only way for some people to deal with that heartbreaking image ... to deny it is real. Because if it was real, they would have to face the ugly truth that they don't really care.

genessa replies on Dec 3, 2018:

then they would have to spend all that money getting a jacket like melania's. g

Why isn't the turkey ready yet?

SallyInStitches comments on Dec 2, 2018:

Its Chanukah so that means fried turkey! All the noms!

genessa replies on Dec 2, 2018:

leftovers WILL be fried! g

[myjewishlearning.] Why Do We Eat Latkes on Hanukkah? Very Interesting History.

genessa comments on Dec 2, 2018:

yes but do y'all know why we eat cheese on chanukah? it's because of judith and how she slew holofernes! she walked boldly into his camp with a bottle of wine and a hunk of salty cheese and walked right into the enemy leader's tent, offering him the wine, the cheese and, by implicaton, herself. ...

genessa replies on Dec 2, 2018:

@Bobbyzen that is a good habit! i always put in things about modern day slavery and hunger and what we have to fight against. to me that is what pesach is about: the continuing fight to free all people. g

[myjewishlearning.] Why Do We Eat Latkes on Hanukkah? Very Interesting History.

genessa comments on Dec 2, 2018:

yes but do y'all know why we eat cheese on chanukah? it's because of judith and how she slew holofernes! she walked boldly into his camp with a bottle of wine and a hunk of salty cheese and walked right into the enemy leader's tent, offering him the wine, the cheese and, by implicaton, herself. ...

genessa replies on Dec 2, 2018:

@Bobbyzen lol haggadah (i write my own each year). g

[myjewishlearning.] Why Do We Eat Latkes on Hanukkah? Very Interesting History.

genessa comments on Dec 2, 2018:

yes but do y'all know why we eat cheese on chanukah? it's because of judith and how she slew holofernes! she walked boldly into his camp with a bottle of wine and a hunk of salty cheese and walked right into the enemy leader's tent, offering him the wine, the cheese and, by implicaton, herself. ...

genessa replies on Dec 2, 2018:

@Bobbyzen i am not sure why it's not usually told at chanukah. it should be! there is a wikipedia entry about the story but i also found this, which is just as interesting: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Judith_beheading_Holofernes g

[myjewishlearning.] Why Do We Eat Latkes on Hanukkah? Very Interesting History.

genessa comments on Dec 2, 2018:

yes but do y'all know why we eat cheese on chanukah? it's because of judith and how she slew holofernes! she walked boldly into his camp with a bottle of wine and a hunk of salty cheese and walked right into the enemy leader's tent, offering him the wine, the cheese and, by implicaton, herself. ...

genessa replies on Dec 2, 2018:

@inthecloset yummily yummy! g

The sun has set here, which means it's now 25 Kislev - so, chag urim sameach everyone!

genessa comments on Dec 2, 2018:

happy chanukah! it's not quite chanukah yet here in the american midwest. since i am making a nontraditional chanukah meal (a whole turkey! we didn't have one for thanksgiving!) i am glad i have some hours, for it's thawing lol i will fry something to make it trad. now i have to get richard to ...

genessa replies on Dec 2, 2018:

for the most part i cleaned it myself, with richard grumbling all along that we should just eat off of trays. i am not putting a menorah on a tray! g

The sun has set here, which means it's now 25 Kislev - so, chag urim sameach everyone!

genessa comments on Dec 2, 2018:

happy chanukah! it's not quite chanukah yet here in the american midwest. since i am making a nontraditional chanukah meal (a whole turkey! we didn't have one for thanksgiving!) i am glad i have some hours, for it's thawing lol i will fry something to make it trad. now i have to get richard to ...

genessa replies on Dec 2, 2018:

@Bobbyzen in the next couple days, for sure! but there are only two of us and it's a 12-and-a-half-pound turkey. for sure we will be having turkey salad some time soon, but the bigger leftovers will be dusted and fried in the electric skillet. that should satisfy frying tradition until i can get to the latkes! g

Would you date a man without a steady paycheck?

genessa comments on Dec 2, 2018:

you want brutal honesty? okay. i am not sure why you are excluding men when there are certainly men who date men, and considering that at any rate a man might have the same considerations about a woman. i am not sure why you consider being between jobs, often a euphemism for being unemployed, as ...

genessa replies on Dec 2, 2018:

@Nukdookum :-)) g

Have yall seen the episode with the young jennifer aniston? Gawd shes hot

genessa comments on Dec 2, 2018:

which episode was that???? g

genessa replies on Dec 2, 2018:

@RickyAdams oh yeah i remember that one now. it's been such a while since i have had access to watch. i love the show and can't watch it, so i might not be able to list all the episodes on demand -- but i recognize them :-)) an awful lot of them i remember vividly. g

Another good one is trilogy.

Simplysassy comments on Dec 1, 2018:

They were ALL good!

genessa replies on Dec 1, 2018:

oh the seymour one... nah. the first season the show was still finding its legs. it got much better as it went along! g

Prerequisites

Qualia comments on Dec 1, 2018:

You forgot : Green Card Birth certificate Alcoholic In the closet ??

genessa replies on Dec 1, 2018:

you don't need a green card to have sex unless that's your job. g

Anyone out there (female) lonely in Peterborough, Ontario?

snytiger6 comments on Dec 1, 2018:

You can find other site members near you by using "browse" "members" and adjusting the search filters

genessa replies on Dec 1, 2018:

this is true. however, you cannot find out which ones are lonely via this mechanism. it is, at any rate, a suspicious criterion. g

Couple trying to get married forced to prove New Mexico is a state

Jay1313132018 comments on Dec 1, 2018:

The bigger problem is that about a third of our population is this way. ☹️

genessa replies on Dec 1, 2018:

a kind estimate. i'd have said more! g

I went to many social events that were for singles, but no one has been serious.

genessa comments on Dec 1, 2018:

try social events that have a purpose other than meeting people at the events. i go to political events sometimes (not rallies but, for example, a town hall type thing, a labor day bbq, that sort of thing). there are all kinds of events out there where people have a common interest or purpose, and...

genessa replies on Dec 1, 2018:

oh i should mention that i go to those events for the events; i bring my guy with me. i'm not looking for another. but if i were, those might be good places to meet another. g

How not to do it.

genessa comments on Dec 1, 2018:

when i glommed onto the tv series quantum leap, i had also just glommed onto the internet and found i was not alone in liking the show. i discovered then that there was such a thing as fan fiction, and was not especially surprised to discover it almost without exception sucked. what surprised me ...

genessa replies on Dec 1, 2018:

@273kelvin i congratulate you on that! g

How not to do it.

genessa comments on Dec 1, 2018:

when i glommed onto the tv series quantum leap, i had also just glommed onto the internet and found i was not alone in liking the show. i discovered then that there was such a thing as fan fiction, and was not especially surprised to discover it almost without exception sucked. what surprised me ...

genessa replies on Dec 1, 2018:

@273kelvin soft porn. a little cute. cuter if not soft porn, actually. cuter if... pardon me but i have been a magazine editor, am a writer, have been an english teacher -- all the sentences were sentences (a rule i am breaking in this comment but this is informal writing). (thatcher spelled her name margaret, by the way). i am not trying to be mean -- i figure you're asking in earnest so i am answering likewise. g

How not to do it.

genessa comments on Dec 1, 2018:

oh an addendum to my previous comment: it's not impossible, actually. read ragtime by doctorow. there is erotica in there that isn't porn. then read sophie's choice by styron. some of those chapters are intended to be erotica. they're not. they're porn. they're also irrelevant to the story....

genessa replies on Dec 1, 2018:

@273kelvin especially ice cream! g

Well, you know what they say: the eyes are the sphincters to the soul.

genessa comments on Nov 30, 2018:

i think of the sphincter as the body's very own cigar-cutter. g

genessa replies on Dec 1, 2018:

@Mortal at the very least! g

Couple trying to get married forced to prove New Mexico is a state

Spinliesel comments on Dec 1, 2018:

Maybe a random geography test as part of the clerk's and supervisor's annual performance review?

genessa replies on Dec 1, 2018:

maybe basic reading and writing too, huh? it's sad but alas not surprising. g

Couple trying to get married forced to prove New Mexico is a state

TimothyDeHoff comments on Nov 30, 2018:

I really was hoping this was a satirical article from HardTime or the Onion when I first saw it, but wow! Evidently the schools in the District of Columbia need to rehaul their basic education requirements if two people didn't know New Mexico was a state.

genessa replies on Dec 1, 2018:

the schools of d.c. have always been bad, and nani, i am glad you're there because they NEED you. my mom worked for the wtc for a very long time. the level of education of most d.c. teachers was shockingly low, at least in the '60s, '70s and '80s. how can the ignorant teach the ignorant? g

Couple trying to get married forced to prove New Mexico is a state

DenoPenno comments on Nov 30, 2018:

I saw this on various Internet posts. It is more than ridiculous that the DC clerk and her supervisor had to look up New Mexico on Google to prove that it was a state. One account I read claimed the clerk had rejected the man's "foreign driver's license" as ID and wanted to see his "New Mexico ...

genessa replies on Dec 1, 2018:

when i first worked as a government clerk, not only was i not an idiot (i hope) and not only was i not ignorant (i hope) but the people with whom i worked, while not geniuses, seemed to be of normal intelligence and education. some were even smarter and better educated than average. they were open to learning, too, though at first they did not appear so. this was in 1976-7 in the department of justice in d.c.. by the time i got to my clerkship at the social security administration, l.a. office, things had changed, or perhaps they hadn't quite caught up on that coast, or (most likely) the agency itself was worse. while i was a clerk at doj, roots was shown for the first time on tv. our office was multicultural and multiracial but most folks didn't mention our differences. (i shocked a friend early on, before we were even friends, by referring to her being black -- i wanted her opinion of something AS a black woman so it would have been silly to go through contortions not to mention it!) the day after the first episode of roots aired, we were ALL talking about race, and it was wonderful. no one was mad, no one was hostile, everyone was alert, awake, interested! while i was at ssa, holocaust aired for the first time, also on tv. being jewish i was especially revved and the next day i asked everyone in my office if they'd seen it. no one had. furthermore, one coworker, a middle-aged black woman (i was in my 20s and she seemed old to me but now she would seem young lol) declared that she hadn't watched roots and wouldn't watch holocaust because such things caused tension and bad feelings among people. since was the opposite of my experience of roots i asked her what she meant. she said "well, what if, the morning after seeing holocaust, a little jewish child picked on a little nazi child because of it?" our national ignorance has been augmented and legitimized but make no mistake: it's always been there. g

Couple trying to get married forced to prove New Mexico is a state

Aivery comments on Nov 30, 2018:

That's ridiculous

genessa replies on Nov 30, 2018:

@Aivery among so many other scary things these days. g

Well, you know what they say: the eyes are the sphincters to the soul.

genessa comments on Nov 30, 2018:

i think of the sphincter as the body's very own cigar-cutter. g

genessa replies on Nov 30, 2018:

@PolyWolf i have been known to do that as well. i suppose my response would simply have been "i don't smoke!" g

Couple trying to get married forced to prove New Mexico is a state

Aivery comments on Nov 30, 2018:

That's ridiculous

genessa replies on Nov 30, 2018:

of course it is! and yet this is not satire. that's the scary part. g

Well, you know what they say: the eyes are the sphincters to the soul.

genessa comments on Nov 30, 2018:

i think of the sphincter as the body's very own cigar-cutter. g

genessa replies on Nov 30, 2018:

@PolyWolf i was speaking figuratively, not of putting something in, but of pushing something out. g

Couple trying to get married forced to prove New Mexico is a state

F-IM-Forty comments on Nov 30, 2018:

Stupid is the new normal.

genessa replies on Nov 30, 2018:

alas! g

Couple trying to get married forced to prove New Mexico is a state

Novelty comments on Nov 30, 2018:

Apparently Trump supporters work at the District of Columbia Courts Marriage Bureau too.

genessa replies on Nov 30, 2018:

this would appear to be the case! g

I am not in the habit of taking a lot of selfies, but i recently posted one of myself in my new ...

bleurowz comments on Nov 30, 2018:

You look lovely in both photos!

genessa replies on Nov 30, 2018:

aww thanks! g

I am not in the habit of taking a lot of selfies, but i recently posted one of myself in my new ...

thinktwice comments on Nov 30, 2018:

You do look nice in your t-shirt...yay! You hair is lovely in both pictures...love the curls! Do whatever makes you feel your best..

genessa replies on Nov 30, 2018:

@thinktwice lol nope! my mom always hated her curls but i love mine. i'm okay with fluffy too. i just don't look so good with it short. i was talking to a short-haired friend today and telling her how cute her short hair looked on her. it suits some! but i will say if i had seen your hair when i was five or six, i'd have been quite envious, as i really wanted long straight black hair at the time. i got over it, not because i stopped liking long straight black hair but because i realized it wasn't going to happen! g

I am not in the habit of taking a lot of selfies, but i recently posted one of myself in my new ...

genessa comments on Nov 30, 2018:

i showed my guy the new pictures and he asked me if i was naked in both of them. i am not naked in either of them! not even close! i am wearing a nice gray tank top and my skin isn't gray so that should be evident! geez, if my guy can't even tell whether or not i am naked is there hope for us?...

genessa replies on Nov 30, 2018:

@Dandewine well i hope you enjoyed that, then! lolol g

I am not in the habit of taking a lot of selfies, but i recently posted one of myself in my new ...

thinktwice comments on Nov 30, 2018:

You do look nice in your t-shirt...yay! You hair is lovely in both pictures...love the curls! Do whatever makes you feel your best..

genessa replies on Nov 30, 2018:

i had to brush those curls out but they'll pop back up when i wet my hair again. it does that. but it also tangles up badly so i brush them out and the curls go to fluff. here is how i look today:

I am not in the habit of taking a lot of selfies, but i recently posted one of myself in my new ...

BlueWave comments on Nov 30, 2018:

Yes, you look younger in the new pics. ?

genessa replies on Nov 30, 2018:

:-)) g

I am not in the habit of taking a lot of selfies, but i recently posted one of myself in my new ...

Spinliesel comments on Nov 30, 2018:

You have beautiful hair., genessa/

genessa replies on Nov 30, 2018:

merci! i have dyed it to its approximate original (adult, as i was born with lighter hair) color. g

Fuck are we here 4

genessa comments on Nov 30, 2018:

big if. if we were created you'd have to ask the creator that. fortunately we were not created. it is also not necessarily true that we have no purpose. g

genessa replies on Nov 30, 2018:

@Tybudd no, that is right, we do not come out of the womb fully baked, as it were. that does not mean we are not born with the genetic purpose of maturing and reproducing, neither of which i have done, by the way, but we also, as we age, which i HAVE done, FIND purpose, or MAKE purpose. your question did not mention birth. it mentioned creation. g

I paid for tickets to Universal Studios, Orlando.

genessa comments on Nov 28, 2018:

wrong entity to call. you call the bank, the bank calls universal. universal may not even be allowed to tell youj who bought them, but they can tell bank investigators, and meantime you need to get those charges paid back to you and your card canceled, maybe your account, depending on how the ...

genessa replies on Nov 29, 2018:

@JimG :-)) one posts to the poster or to a commentator but one also posts for the benefit of the odd lurker! g

WTF is with all the "O"s in bios?

RhondaShotwell comments on Nov 27, 2018:

Very black and white thinking, and a tad obnoxious.

genessa replies on Nov 29, 2018:

@RhondaShotwell you most certainly were lol g

I paid for tickets to Universal Studios, Orlando.

genessa comments on Nov 28, 2018:

wrong entity to call. you call the bank, the bank calls universal. universal may not even be allowed to tell youj who bought them, but they can tell bank investigators, and meantime you need to get those charges paid back to you and your card canceled, maybe your account, depending on how the ...

genessa replies on Nov 29, 2018:

@JimG ah okay, good. not that i doubted you, but sometimes when something like this happens we get discombobulated. it would be understandable! g

We want to let you know that we have received a number of complaints​ about your posts or ...

genessa comments on Nov 29, 2018:

1. you're in the wrong category. if you don't want to make this private between you and admin, still, to get a timely answer from admin i think you need site and customer service. we fellow members can't guess why admin sent you that notification. 2. you keep responding to your own post with ...

genessa replies on Nov 29, 2018:

@AirForceNurse1 lol he may say that. he himself may even be as agnostic as one can get. that doesn't mean unitarianism is as agnostic as it can get. also, agnostic dot com doesn't stop people from joining. anyone can join. you do not have to have any interaction with them at all to join. you just sign up. so i don't know what he is talking about. g

Best Robert Altman Movies, Ranked

jimdaughters comments on Nov 29, 2018:

I'm saving my money to buy a DVD of McCabe & Mrs Miller.

genessa replies on Nov 29, 2018:

oh what a lovely film, and not only because of leonard cohen's music but that sure doesn't hurt either! g

The way I define trolls is that they are folks on the internet that cause mischief.

Diogenes1972 comments on Nov 28, 2018:

What's the difference between a "good" troll and a passionate debater ?

genessa replies on Nov 28, 2018:

passionate debaters exist. good trolls don't. g

Is this a common occurance?

Seeker3CO comments on Nov 28, 2018:

The site is replete with scammers lately. Easy to spot the profiles when you know what to look for: Misspellings, vague descriptions of what they want other than they want that PERFECT love, want to give, etc. Pictures don't match the age. A lot of the pictures are recycled from other profiles. ...

genessa replies on Nov 28, 2018:

seeker makes a good point about private information. i keep my facebook account totally public. i'm a writer. i want readers. but there is a cost that comes with that: i have to be careful what i post. i am an open sort of person and i don't care who knows how i feel or think, but i don't post plans that will let folks know when my house is unoccupied, or when i'll be alone in it. there are exceptions but in general i make that conscious choice of what not to post. someone else might fare better setting the privacy a little tighter. friends only? friends of friends only? g

Is this a common occurance?

kiramea comments on Nov 28, 2018:

First of all, NEVER give your real info to someone you have just met, especially if you met them online (remember, you were warned before you decided to give it to "her"). Second; change your password on both your Agnostic account and your facebook account. Third, repost the fake account to ...

genessa replies on Nov 28, 2018:

you can probably find the person if you browse by member using the member name, if you have the exact spelling. it will say not available but i think you may still be able to report her. if not, then post the name here for admin to go after. g

Is it a sin to have clinical depression and not seek treatment, according to Christianity?

genessa comments on Nov 28, 2018:

i have never been a christian but i know enough to know that various sects of christianity have different ideas about such things. there is no one great big umbrella christianity when it comes to many issues, and this is one of them. i mean, to some christian sects, dancing is a sin. to the jw, ...

genessa replies on Nov 28, 2018:

@CoastRiderBill i do not feel singled out. i made note of the fact that other people asked the same exact question i did without comment of any kind from you. that's a fact. it is not a feeling. and when someone makes a post, that person opens him/herself up not to attack, which i did not do, but to having people get up in their business to the extent that they present their business. it becomes our business. my conscience is fine and needs no help from you, thanks. (i might add that how my inquiry "comes across" may only be coming across that way to you. maybe it has to do with YOUR conscience? how does THAT feel? i do not ask it in seriousness. i wonder why you asked it of me, though. it was a lot ruder than anything i said -- not that i think i was rude at all!) g

Is it a sin to have clinical depression and not seek treatment, according to Christianity?

CoastRiderBill comments on Nov 28, 2018:

Welcome to Agnostic.com. I hope that you will post more in your bio so we can learn more about you. :) It depends upon the denomination. Then it depends upon the individual Christian. Some denominations think that depression is a sin. Others do not. If people are hurt or harmed by one *not* ...

genessa replies on Nov 28, 2018:

@CoastRiderBill i recommend that YOU read them, and try to be less prickly. i do not do the ad hominem thing, and my question was most certainly not an attack of any kind. if you are so easily offended maybe you should consider not reading anything with which you disagree in the slightest. conversation can include disagreement without being disagreeable. you seem to think otherwise. g

Best Robert Altman Movies, Ranked

Beowulfsfriend comments on Nov 27, 2018:

Nashville is a worthy number one; my personal favorite is still M.A.S.H.

genessa replies on Nov 28, 2018:

@Beowulfsfriend it came out in 1970 and i saw it then. i am not sure at what point it got edited. g

WTF is with all the "O"s in bios?

RhondaShotwell comments on Nov 27, 2018:

Very black and white thinking, and a tad obnoxious.

genessa replies on Nov 28, 2018:

only a tad? lol i think it's way obno! g

Is it a sin to have clinical depression and not seek treatment, according to Christianity?

genessa comments on Nov 28, 2018:

i have never been a christian but i know enough to know that various sects of christianity have different ideas about such things. there is no one great big umbrella christianity when it comes to many issues, and this is one of them. i mean, to some christian sects, dancing is a sin. to the jw, ...

genessa replies on Nov 28, 2018:

@CoastRiderBill, @maturin1919 and my question also fits into that category. in a site mostly inhabited by people who are not christian and do not hold any gods, it is a normal question for me to ask. i'm also not the only person to ask it. somehow i'm the only person who is being called out for doing so. g

Is it a sin to have clinical depression and not seek treatment, according to Christianity?

CoastRiderBill comments on Nov 28, 2018:

Welcome to Agnostic.com. I hope that you will post more in your bio so we can learn more about you. :) It depends upon the denomination. Then it depends upon the individual Christian. Some denominations think that depression is a sin. Others do not. If people are hurt or harmed by one *not* ...

genessa replies on Nov 28, 2018:

you cannot apologize for me for two reasons: 1 i didn't say anything wrong, nor did i stigmatize anyone (you may want to look that word up) and 2. if i were sorry, for example if i HAD said something wrong, it would be for me to apologize, not you. we don't even know each other. g

Is it a sin to have clinical depression and not seek treatment, according to Christianity?

genessa comments on Nov 28, 2018:

i have never been a christian but i know enough to know that various sects of christianity have different ideas about such things. there is no one great big umbrella christianity when it comes to many issues, and this is one of them. i mean, to some christian sects, dancing is a sin. to the jw, ...

genessa replies on Nov 28, 2018:

@CoastRiderBill seriously? stigmatizing? the poster will be marked forever because i asked my also-honest question? i don't THINK so! g

It is not rocket science folks>> [thefederalist.com]

Novelty comments on Nov 28, 2018:

All I needed to do was see the stupid fucking headline. The Federalist is a fascist piece of shit, validate any Trump lie, conservative delusion https://mediabiasfactcheck.com/the-federalist/ The Federalist is a news and opinion website that reports with a right wing bias that typically ...

genessa replies on Nov 28, 2018:

@Trajan61 bias against trump is a good thing, just as bias against nazis is a good thing. bias against bank robbers, bias against murderers, yeah, some biases are worth having. anyone who would rank the federalist above a used piece of toilet paper is already suspect in my book, but above the nyt? that kind of person is delusional enough to be frightening and although i don't usually block people who aren't actually attacking me personally, i do make exceptions for innately frighteningly delusional people. anyone who wishes to talk to me about this will have to find another way because, since i am blocking the person who made the original post, i won't be able to see comments here either. and no, i'm not avoiding the issue. i am avoiding the person. g

Best Robert Altman Movies, Ranked

Beowulfsfriend comments on Nov 27, 2018:

Nashville is a worthy number one; my personal favorite is still M.A.S.H.

genessa replies on Nov 28, 2018:

you know, i felt that way about mash before they cut it. i don't know who, i don't know why, but i never heard that altman complained. i think it was a full third of the film. it sure felt like it. does anyone remember the autographed pictures of jesus segment (and why, and how) of the film? and i have a confession to make: brewster mccloud will always be special to me, and i would kill to see california split again. g

Best Robert Altman Movies, Ranked

shayne69 comments on Nov 27, 2018:

Damn, disappointed to see that I've only seen four of his films. And that's counting Popeye which I watched when I was ten.

genessa replies on Nov 28, 2018:

now you have a project lol g

Watching my absolute fave episode. "Lee Harvey Oswald"

genessa comments on Nov 27, 2018:

i am envious. i just don't get the network that shows it. i have every episode on videotape and no way now to watch videotape. g

genessa replies on Nov 28, 2018:

@RickyAdams i used to be able to do that. tapes aside, back in the day, after it stopped production, usa and tnt used to air a couple/few episodes multiple times a day! g

What's the difference between fans and followers here?

genessa comments on Nov 25, 2018:

maybe try posting this in site and customer service? g

genessa replies on Nov 28, 2018:

@KevinLentini :-)) g

here is my quantum leap/the professionals crossover novella, "junk," which, again, i wrote rather a ...

Brerrost comments on Nov 27, 2018:

Thanks! I'll check it out

genessa replies on Nov 27, 2018:

:-)) g

Why is the left lacking the personality mouthpieces to offset the right mouthpieces?

Stevil comments on Nov 24, 2018:

The left has no party agenda other than to try and suck up to every minority group they can. The female wing nuts do have Daddy Rush to create the dogma of the day, and all of his acolytes preach his message after him. The left has no leader or message. President Obama and his Change! Was an ...

genessa replies on Nov 27, 2018:

@Stevil the dems had control for a hot minute and had other stuff to do. the rest of it was a mitch mcconnell fiasco. was obama perfect? who's perfect? but there is a difference between a broken promise and an attempt that fails. g

Why is the left lacking the personality mouthpieces to offset the right mouthpieces?

Stevil comments on Nov 24, 2018:

The left has no party agenda other than to try and suck up to every minority group they can. The female wing nuts do have Daddy Rush to create the dogma of the day, and all of his acolytes preach his message after him. The left has no leader or message. President Obama and his Change! Was an ...

genessa replies on Nov 27, 2018:

@Stevil you have my sympathies for sure. i cannot name an issue such as one you ask for because i would puke if i had to listen to any of that. g

Anyone want to date me

genessa comments on Nov 26, 2018:

oh and by the way, is your name really micheal? because that's very unusual. there is nothing wrong with having an unusual spelling for your name but it begs the question of whether that is maybe NOT your real name, and you just don't know how to spell michael. g

genessa replies on Nov 27, 2018:

@MichealCoyle all right. i stand corrected and apologize. i do not want to accuse anyone falsely of being a scammer. i shall not do that on the basis of your name, now that you have explained, although your name was not all that gave me pause, and for that i refer you to my "you're lucky" comment below. but i do apologize for my ignorance of the celtic spelling and any doubt i may have stimulated in anyone based on that. g

Religion vs Atheism

genessa comments on Nov 26, 2018:

it depends on how religious and what the religion is. my guy has a vague belief in some kind of god, but he hasn't built his life around it. he doesn't even know much about judaism, the religion of the culture into which both of us were born, his family probably being slightly more religious than ...

genessa replies on Nov 27, 2018:

@Rational8Human :-)) g

What's your stance on naps? Will you be taking one this weekend?

genessa comments on Nov 23, 2018:

one? only one? g

genessa replies on Nov 27, 2018:

@Shelton all my days are off days! g

How spooky do you think this is!!!!! Mom asked Dad to send her a butterfly when he got to wherever...

Stephanie99 comments on Nov 25, 2018:

Strange coincidence. Maybe enough to start believing for a little while?

genessa replies on Nov 27, 2018:

@Stephanie99 it may be. that doesn't mean it is meaningful. it's a normal impulse to point the toe while having a leg cramp too. it's the worst thing to do too. flex. go figure. g

Who else feels like religion leads to wars and killing

genessa comments on Nov 27, 2018:

not me. religion isn't what leads to wars and killing. greed is. religion is one of greed's major tools, so it seems as if religion is the culprit. religion is certainly superstition and not a good thing, but it is not, itself, responsible for what greed dictates. g

genessa replies on Nov 27, 2018:

@Pedrohbds you got it! g

Why is the left lacking the personality mouthpieces to offset the right mouthpieces?

altschmerz comments on Nov 24, 2018:

There are some. Bill Maher is faux-left but still kind of left. There’s Michael Moore, Jon Stewart, John Oliver, and Stephan Colbert, to name a few.

genessa replies on Nov 27, 2018:

lol they're good, maher isn't perfect (who is?) but faux he is not -- but the post asked about FEMALE stars. g

Why is the left lacking the personality mouthpieces to offset the right mouthpieces?

Flyingsaucesir comments on Nov 24, 2018:

One thing about the "conservatives" is that they have a very well-oiled propaganda machine. They have been working on it for a long time, and it really hums! They also have their hot-button religious/social issues and capitalist ideology to rally around. They have been so successful at casting doubt...

genessa replies on Nov 27, 2018:

hallelujah, someone else who realizes they're not conservative! for at least half a decade now i've been calling them regressives. g

Why is the left lacking the personality mouthpieces to offset the right mouthpieces?

genessa comments on Nov 24, 2018:

because we're not insane is one reason. another reason is we don't have mouthpieces. we have thoughtful commentators who actually understand history and put current events into perspective. oh and those fox news ladies... fox isn't news and those ladies aren't ladies; they're barely women. but...

genessa replies on Nov 27, 2018:

@Sunsetmermaid :-)) g

Why is the left lacking the personality mouthpieces to offset the right mouthpieces?

Stevil comments on Nov 24, 2018:

The left has no party agenda other than to try and suck up to every minority group they can. The female wing nuts do have Daddy Rush to create the dogma of the day, and all of his acolytes preach his message after him. The left has no leader or message. President Obama and his Change! Was an ...

genessa replies on Nov 27, 2018:

um... no, @stevil. that's total crap. that's not even a little bit crap and a little bit true. it's full-blown crap. i am trying to figure out whose crap it is. you didn't make it up. anyone THAT unobservant would make up different crap from that. no, you got that somewhere, somewhere bad. don't worry, i am not asking you to figure out who made you think that was your own crap. i really don't care. crap is crap. g

Assange's threat to the Corporatocracy's MSM PR machinery is something they can't allow.

genessa comments on Nov 25, 2018:

assange is not challenging corporate america. assange works for russia, which loves corporate america, especially american oil. just because no one wants him to print his stolen and altered secrets that doesn't make him a journalist. he doesn't report the truth. he reports what russia tells him ...

genessa replies on Nov 27, 2018:

@WilliamCharles well since i cannot produce what i saw, i guess i can tell you no more. g

Got the shirt and pen, thanks folks! sorry 'bout the face; been sick, looking kinda old. g

Carin comments on Nov 26, 2018:

Congratulations!!

genessa replies on Nov 26, 2018:

thanks :-)) g

Is anyone else doing "maintain the exact same beard and mustache length November"?

genessa comments on Nov 26, 2018:

richard trimmed his beard and mustache yesterday. he has his way, and when it gets too long he is bothered. he also doesn't want to trim shorter than his way. so yeah, he is having such a november! not me. any facial hair i might have is inherited from my mother and not to be spoken of in ...

genessa replies on Nov 26, 2018:

@PolyWolf i do my best! g

Assange's threat to the Corporatocracy's MSM PR machinery is something they can't allow.

genessa comments on Nov 25, 2018:

assange is not challenging corporate america. assange works for russia, which loves corporate america, especially american oil. just because no one wants him to print his stolen and altered secrets that doesn't make him a journalist. he doesn't report the truth. he reports what russia tells him ...

genessa replies on Nov 26, 2018:

@WilliamCharles wrong. i did not read ABOUT altered emails. i read altered emails, myself. not hearsay to me. hearsay to you because i am telling you about it, but this is not a court of law. you can choose to believe me or you can choose to disbelieve me, but it is MY experience you are choosing to believe or disbelieve, not something i read about somewhere that someone else had something to say about. no, i don't have a link to that. oh WELL. but i know what i saw. g

How does the person you ended up with compare to who you thought you’d end up with?

genessa comments on Nov 26, 2018:

i never thought i'd find anyone, so i am glad i have anyone! but i am glad i have who i have, even though i am losing him to alzheimer's and we're broke and always anxious. we still love each other. g

genessa replies on Nov 26, 2018:

@celticagent lol the site says not to do that, nothing commercial -- but it's been two years now since i had an etsy link. i can show you a picture of an example of what i have made.

How does the person you ended up with compare to who you thought you’d end up with?

genessa comments on Nov 26, 2018:

i never thought i'd find anyone, so i am glad i have anyone! but i am glad i have who i have, even though i am losing him to alzheimer's and we're broke and always anxious. we still love each other. g

genessa replies on Nov 26, 2018:

@celticagent believe me, i tried! zilch. g

How does the person you ended up with compare to who you thought you’d end up with?

genessa comments on Nov 26, 2018:

i never thought i'd find anyone, so i am glad i have anyone! but i am glad i have who i have, even though i am losing him to alzheimer's and we're broke and always anxious. we still love each other. g

genessa replies on Nov 26, 2018:

@celticagent i am good at making things and i listed them on etsy. no one bought a thing. not on thing. g

Got the shirt and pen, thanks folks! sorry 'bout the face; been sick, looking kinda old. g

Amisja comments on Nov 26, 2018:

You have amazing hair, the t-shirt looks great

genessa replies on Nov 26, 2018:

aww thanks! i had bangs. they're growing out. it's torture. they're too long to be bangs, too short to tie back or brush back, they won't curl like the rest of it would do had i not brushed the curls out today, and they're just a PAIN. but they'll grow if i can be patient. g

How spooky do you think this is!!!!! Mom asked Dad to send her a butterfly when he got to wherever...

Stephanie99 comments on Nov 25, 2018:

Strange coincidence. Maybe enough to start believing for a little while?

genessa replies on Nov 26, 2018:

@Stephanie99 right, so if you WANT to believe you don't even NEED a reason. is there a logical reason not to think it's a coincidence? no. you have to have an opinion beforehand. religion is good for that. g

Got the shirt and pen, thanks folks! sorry 'bout the face; been sick, looking kinda old. g

CaroleKay comments on Nov 26, 2018:

You're beautiful. ♥ I like the black on you. I hope you feel better soon. Xoxo.

genessa replies on Nov 26, 2018:

thanks :-)) g

What is it that makes women go on the defensive, or even the offensive, against other women who ...

CoastRiderBill comments on Nov 25, 2018:

In US culture and society, it mostly has to do with tradition and the worldview of their religion. Much of it has to do with survival in more traditional homes and traditional America where the man is the breadwinner. We see this in white Christian women because they believe that the Bible instructs...

genessa replies on Nov 26, 2018:

@CoastRiderBill lol maybe i should run for dogcatcher! thing is, i don't drive.... g