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This is a question for recovering addicts (drug, sex, food, etc) .

jacpod comments on Mar 25, 2018:

yes I think i have already posted this - I was alcoholic and went to my doctor he gave me some yellow tablets and said iI had to take one a day and if I drank alcohol I'd die. I did as he said and found that I was the same person sober as I was when drunk so no need ot drink - It was good learning and early enough in my drinking career to really learn that lesson.

Oh, God!!

jacpod comments on Mar 25, 2018:

Something like the scene in when Harry met Sally?

What do you find sexy?

jacpod comments on Mar 25, 2018:

I am not very sexual because of childhood abuse, I like cuddles and fun, laughter and good conversations playfulness good humour but have given sex a by-pass for a long time now - I just like being with intelligent ,funny people.

For atheists - what makes you believe no deity exists?

jacpod comments on Mar 25, 2018:

Wrong wording I do not 'believe' that no deity exists as there is no evidence for a belief of that kind. My unbelief is of no importance to me at all it is a non subject . You say 'there isnt enough evidence' There is NO evidence and - To make the point once and for all there is nothing to believe.there is a story - There are many many stories do you think Heidi exists or Tom Sawyer? I am totally uninterested in gods

Ethics verses family

jacpod comments on Mar 25, 2018:

Ouch! That leaves you in a tight corner sorry to hear of that callousness.

What gives your life meaning? What keeps you going?

jacpod comments on Mar 25, 2018:

Me. I am the meaning and my partner who needs his dinner cooked as he has severe OCD. So Keeping busy and creative mainly and appreciating and enjoying most of the moments.

What Guides You?

jacpod comments on Mar 25, 2018:

I dont have a chosen path and dont have a guide I just play it as it comes I dont feel the need of any explanation or a list of things. I think I am probably just playful and have emotions that come and go and ideas I'd like to try out - I am not a planner by any means just meet what comes to me . Yesterday my neighbours garden was a mess and I tidied it up for her as it needed doing. Someoen needed me to be kind to them and it was no big deal so I was - I think my life is simple enough for me to just live it.

Do you believe in a HIGHer power?

jacpod comments on Mar 25, 2018:

Looks pretty cool to me - unhappily if I do pot I just fall asleep there and then I was told I had a pretty receptive system.. I'll have to find another kind of hifh but just being in that place would be a turn on!

So I was sitting in traffic during the afternoon commute today when I saw part of a billboard up ...

jacpod comments on Mar 25, 2018:

I was told that 'sin' is a state 'without love' - I rather think I fall in an out of this state many times in a day totally pissed at the weather and as I am typing this the sun came out-

Do you find giving advice to someone who disregards it, is a waste of time.

jacpod comments on Mar 24, 2018:

Mostly People asking for advice are using a hook- gambit to reel you in to listening to what they want to tell you or to get a free pass from you to do what they want to do and will do anyway.

What defines a good person to you?

jacpod comments on Mar 24, 2018:

I am drawn to people who are kindly with inner integrity.

Greatest Story Ever Told???

jacpod comments on Mar 24, 2018:

Easter Sunday is on April Fools day I am trying to think of a good one any thoughts very welcome!

Living as I do in the UK, I don't tend to be surrounded by obsessive Christian types.

jacpod comments on Mar 24, 2018:

Don't come to Northern Ireland its even worse than what you describe over tehre where I was born and raised - and relationships are paramount and knowing everyones name to the nth generation. I have so many conversations that start off sane and end up in that - talking about people to the n'th generation. Its hard to be different I empathise and sympathise. if you arent bothered about the person saying this to you - YOu could always have forgotten to turn the gas off........

What's humanity's best attribute? It's worst?

jacpod comments on Mar 24, 2018:

Lovingkindness - worst is fear!

What is the meaning of life?

jacpod comments on Mar 24, 2018:

I think the problem i have with even thinking about this is my head hurts with all the information about all the people in this world and all their differences. 7 Billion I cant even encompass it - my brain hurts -and then all teh different beliefs approx 4 thousand and two hundred religions - I cant think of any meaning that would mean anything given even those first two variables. I wouldn't even know where to start about giving the universe meaning

Does meaning matter

jacpod comments on Mar 24, 2018:

I always thought that life was for fun & learning

I think I decided to stop onthis one because I hated it

jacpod comments on Mar 24, 2018:

wowser I like it! Its beautiful!

I like this quote....

jacpod comments on Mar 24, 2018:

Heaven forfend, I dont want to last forever!

Are the people around you religious? Are you the oddball?

jacpod comments on Mar 24, 2018:

I live in a very religious country N.I. Strangely its ok to be atheist and out . Its only not ok for catholics ot accept protestandts or vice versa (some are O.K ) Round about the Marching season it all get s a lot hotter but atheists are pretty much left alone - It is so not okay to be gay here though -seriously dont come unless you go to the south where they have a gay Taoiseach.

Are the people around you religious? Are you the oddball?

jacpod comments on Mar 24, 2018:

yes but people are Ok with me its the catholic protestand divide that annoys them - Atheists arent even in hte picture in N.I . (nice for me)

Do you believe Atheism is a religion?

jacpod comments on Mar 24, 2018:

I have never in all my 70 years heard this I suspect that you ar a troll!

For atheists - what makes you believe no deity exists?

jacpod comments on Mar 24, 2018:

I dont' 'believe no deity exists that would be a complete and utter waste of my time which I cherish- I HAVE NO SKY GODS - I WANT NO SKY GODS - simple eh? you are the one who needs the proof, dont put it on me! And if you are as I suspect proseletysing - I will block you!

Are the people around you religious? Are you the oddball?

jacpod comments on Mar 23, 2018:

OOHHHH! YESSSS!!!

Do you feel that religion robs people of living life to the fullest?

jacpod comments on Mar 23, 2018:

I live amongst some of the most religious peopel I have ever known who drink like fish are the 4th in the Country charts for Obesity and seem if my Gossip Mill is in any way correct to have very many relationships on the side as well as abuse. Apparently being with one man for 25years without resorting to other abandonments is not even noteworthy if youre not Protestant or Catholic

How reliable is the study of history?

jacpod comments on Mar 23, 2018:

I remember in a history lesson, being told that the bible was at first mainly verbal , people carried the verbal tradition forwards and as the Emperor Constantine was the head of a troublesome empire that had many different factions in it .He himself was a pagan but got scholars to write the bible which previously had been mostly word of mouth tradition in order to unite his kingdom. (I dont really care if this is true or not my self) but it seems to have worked for him.

What percentage of your relationships are you “out” as an atheist?

jacpod comments on Mar 23, 2018:

All of them Not everyone asks as it is potentially divisive but people seem fine here that I would be atheist - a very minority group no hassle from us heathens!

Is atheism in America still worst than ANY religion?

jacpod comments on Mar 23, 2018:

I'm not in the U.S but in Northern Ireland where there has been a lot of unrest concerning religion, strangely atheists are rarely talked about here as long as we are quiet its a free passage the struggle is definitely still protestant v catholic

Should athiest really be saying 'rest in peace'

jacpod comments on Mar 23, 2018:

I would say sorry for your loss amd wouldnt overthink it people expect you to say something comforting & I dont mind doing that because its ritual time and the whole ending of life is ritualised.

Reunited

jacpod comments on Mar 23, 2018:

Brilliant picture! well done you's*

I am going through a very rough patch in my life right now.

jacpod comments on Mar 23, 2018:

This happened ot me at a time and i actually had nowhere to live, my children had left home by then, I stayed with different friends and was obsessed about always having a clean pair of knickers so I had stashes of them at the house of everyone i knew - I think having that one clear plan in my head was a focus for everything at that point ,and yes I burst into tears often but not because of my partner just lack of structure, - I was working as a lecturer in person centred counselling, so work was important - it was all the between hours that were hard not having a structure. I got over it pretty well but there are so many losses you have to grieve - Might be a good plan to list them Yes its always fine at the end but that middle bit needs a lot of cossetting I seriously wish you well!

My Sister is probably indifferently agnostic.

jacpod comments on Mar 23, 2018:

Thats me because I never had a god and was abused as a child so I never had parents either mother manic, father depressive. older brother got away out of it - I wouldn' t know him if I saw him - Its immensely freeing to just be and have your own self - I am not interested in religion at all - interested in people who are having a hard time with it but probably more sympathetic than empathic as i have never been there or done that god thang.

Does anyone crochet? Need some new ideas

jacpod comments on Mar 23, 2018:

I had a crocheted dress when I was a teen but now I just make blankets for charity or to give away .

Does meaning matter

jacpod comments on Mar 23, 2018:

Absolutely with you on this one Life is for Living and dwe are allowed to make our own decisions about what meaning it holds for us.

Is old age something to look forward to or is it generally filled with loneliness, health problems, ...

jacpod comments on Mar 22, 2018:

I am 70- in a few weeks and am having symptoms of old age, not as bright as I was - memory going - quite forgetful achy and pains There is news of bringin into the U.K the right to assisted dying - Strange as our government seem quite oblivious to the people they are killing in tenement fires, rough sleepers, in the snow ,and ice ,shortage of police disability laws where people cant get the help they need .etc.etc.I'm completely for it .

Do you fear clowns?

jacpod comments on Mar 22, 2018:

No but I think they are awfully boring!

For the vets! In your opinion, what is the attitude of the rank & file in the armed services about ...

jacpod comments on Mar 22, 2018:

I have never been in the forces, my mum and dad were both in the last war, father a spitfire pilot mother a welder on london docks, neither had a religious bone in their body.

Happiness Vs Religion - by country

jacpod comments on Mar 22, 2018:

England is 50% atheist according to facebook I should imagine that our happiness index is at zero

What moral code do you follow now that you are non-religious?

jacpod comments on Mar 22, 2018:

I dont have a code just some guidelines for myself, if I fall short of them I will apologise; I liek the wiccan creed 'an it harm none do as thou wilt!' (though I am not Wiccan) But I like that 'if it harm none' bit: so me angrily chunnering to myself is fine. I think also learning by your own mistakes is a good ideal for me - I want to create my own manners and be ready to be pulled up if it does impinge on others as then there would be learning - I am a bit of a mousy character and tend to stay in the background and not like a lot of fuss so I get to watch others and decide what I dont want to be like and that sort of leads me to what I want to be like- Kindness gets me out of all sorts of trouble so thats in the mix somewhere.

Feeling a bit emotionally shackled at the moment.

jacpod comments on Mar 22, 2018:

I hope that you feel better soon and can take your meds have you tried any other ways of relaxing I do breathing stopping up one nostril then closing it and breathing out of the other - for another ten times it seems to be relaxing and takes your mind away a bit from fretting.

I was reading, Why Women Need Freedom from Religion and came across this bible verse.

jacpod comments on Mar 22, 2018:

I transposed this just for the men to have a gander at Burn the son! Cut off his hand! Expose his private parts! Male Inferiority! Jesus can kill children ! gods o.k .with abortion! Kill warlocks! Rape my son! Silence the man! Stone the man! Men submit yourselves! men shall not speak! mens sorrow ! Rip up men who make women pregnant! Wicked men!

I was reading, Why Women Need Freedom from Religion and came across this bible verse.

jacpod comments on Mar 22, 2018:

whhhooohhh! naughty lord! watnon eyes and tinkly feet is this observer 'tripping'

Losing Faith in Humanity

jacpod comments on Mar 22, 2018:

I dont know if this is the right ballpark I am in, but I seriously mistrust my own Government (London and Northern Ireland). I feel I am being fed fake news, I feel I dont have a community any more even though I live in a sheltered housing scheme - also I have Hyperacusis which means Loud noises are really troubling for me and send me a bit dotty and no one recognises this . My Housing Association is off the chart for just doing stuff without consulting us even though we are the ones who have to live here and pay for that privilege and I realise to that the word community can be bandied about but mean nothing. so many things just happen- to us and htis asn tthe case when I came here - Consulatation was key! Safety was key!

Crucifixion So the kids and I were talking about religion in the car and crucifixion in ...

jacpod comments on Mar 22, 2018:

Yes i love your kids too very intelligent - Mine were never engaged in any talk about religion it just never came up - it wasnt a strategy not to mention it they just never got into it it wasnt conscious - but they are now 49 and 50 and its still meaningless in their lives.

Today were my 2 Dr's appts.

jacpod comments on Mar 22, 2018:

Well done you! Be thinking of you!

Today's atheists are bullies -- and they are doing their best to intimidate the rest of us into ...

jacpod comments on Mar 22, 2018:

OOOh I am so glad that I am seen as dangerous no one else has ever said that in my entire 70 year life. Makes me burst with pride - Now I feel seriously dangerous no more mrs Nice gal - I will be wolf whistlin all the men on building sites - WARNING (I SHALL WEAR PURPLE) Jenny Joseph When I am an old woman, I shall wear purple with a red hat that doesn't go, and doesn't suit me. And I shall spend my pension on brandy and summer gloves and satin candles, and say we've no money for butter. I shall sit down on the pavement when I am tired and gobble up samples in shops and press alarm bells and run my stick along the public railings and make up for the sobriety of my youth. I shall go out in my slippers in the rain and pick the flowers in other people's gardens and learn to spit. You can wear terrible shirts and grow more fat and eat three pounds of sausages at a go or only bread and pickles for a week and hoard pens and pencils and beer nuts and things in boxes. But now we must have clothes that keep us dry and pay our rent and not swear in the street and set a good example for the children. We must have friends to dinner and read the papers. But maybe I ought to practice a little now? So people who know me are not too shocked and surprised When suddenly I am old, and start to wear purple.

Has the US lost the 'moral high ground' to criticize other countries?

jacpod comments on Mar 21, 2018:

Weird your comments are sounding just like ours in the U.K Theresa May has completley lost the plot of whatever drama she provides for our delight - we are all over the place. Feeling Mad Sad & Bad be a while before we get Glad

Do you celebrate religious holidays?

jacpod comments on Mar 21, 2018:

the year we had beans on toast for dinner on 25th december at the request of my son was the high point of the season for me - I will never forgt how great they tasted.

Athiestic Marriage

jacpod comments on Mar 21, 2018:

I got married by a registrar in the local town hall no holy people around the two of us - signed the papaers away we went about 10 minutes no Holiness anywhere no religious institution at all .

Can anyone else relate?

jacpod comments on Mar 21, 2018:

All my family disappeared and I love it - I love the friends I have and do not miss family in the least. I love my grandchildren and children I am talking about the older generation who had mental health issues and were abusive - I am glad they are not here to make my life hell - i might have an older brother somewhere and he might be dead I dont know and dont care. friends are brilliant!

Modern society writing over old world traditions

jacpod comments on Mar 21, 2018:

I despair of my society we dont have much humanity here any more We have the Queen whom we pay thought the nose for and we have Parliament and a log history apart from that we are awful - unkind uncaring unjust ungrateful I hate us one and all except for the few still trying to bring back some values.

Did you grow up in a religious home and when did you realize you didn't believe?

jacpod comments on Mar 21, 2018:

No, thank Darwin!

What is a particular creative piece -- a work of art, a book, a movie, a song, a performance, ...

jacpod comments on Mar 21, 2018:

I dont know if this counts but I love the tomb of the unknown warrior in Westminster Abbey on poppy day it is covered in red poppies and I always try to get someone to put some white peace poppies on it for me buying them from the Peace Pledge Union - They always get picked up and thrown out but they stay awhile.

Can true feminism ever be achieved?

jacpod comments on Mar 21, 2018:

I was a plasterer, always hte only woman on site, got shedloads of shit from men, when working on large projects they would use my mixing bucket and leave it dirty and always walk away from me at any break times . An old man passing by when I was pointing a gable end, shouted at me that I was taking jobs of scousers and I ran down the ladder and chased him and made him apologise - There were too many instances to count sexism alive and kicking last time I looked ;

Do you think touching money is gross?

jacpod comments on Mar 21, 2018:

I do actually, but I seem to be able to manage, My partner has huge OCD about money so he gives me all his poxy coins - i have a fear of spending money.

Do you judge people base on how they look, talk, act, and how much money they make? If so why

jacpod comments on Mar 21, 2018:

I read 'the water babies' as a child and there was Mrs Doasyouwouldbedoneby and MrsBedonebyasyoudid - It was a terrible book at that age I didnt realise all the christian values in it just read it but there is something like 'karma' in there that I'm not ashamed to own. I think I judge them on how they treat others.

What movie fucked with your head the most?

jacpod comments on Mar 20, 2018:

There was also a film called Blue that was in the same experimental era as eraserhead.

What movie fucked with your head the most?

jacpod comments on Mar 20, 2018:

My son went to film adn video college and wanted me to see Eraserhead I took my then new boyfriend to see it - neither of us could cope.

Today's atheists are bullies -- and they are doing their best to intimidate the rest of us into ...

jacpod comments on Mar 20, 2018:

Whoah! Thats telling us! Who rattled their cage?

Which do you prefer, books or ereading? Why?

jacpod comments on Mar 20, 2018:

Books probably because I am old I love nothing more than getting my jammies on and a hottie and snuggling up with a book.

I’ve been shot in combat.

jacpod comments on Mar 20, 2018:

Ouch ! I cant even begin to imagine being shot ,and I totally agree with you - teachers teach schoolchildren should feel safe .

Extremely interesting! 50 Renowned Academics Speaking about God.

jacpod comments on Mar 20, 2018:

OOOH get that - blocked it in my country !

Do you believe in any higher power at all

jacpod comments on Mar 20, 2018:

No I am completely oblivious to anything in my life other than what is real.

Can you imagine being Gods PR, ? Scratch head and think "this guys a nut"

jacpod comments on Mar 20, 2018:

Did you ever see 'The Time Bandits 'Ralph Richardson played the supreme being - Its probably dated now but I completely loved it.

Ok. This is my personal theory: the Big Bang was God exploding.

jacpod comments on Mar 20, 2018:

I am totally laughing out loud at these!

Mother Theresa. Bad or good?

jacpod comments on Mar 20, 2018:

I find it hard to judge because you never really know what brought someone to that kind of conclusion - To me it sounds totally out of wack, but I am not religious and I cant really imagine anyone saying this unless it was a comfort to someone who was suffering and did have a god. proseletysers seem to speak in a different language to the rest of us so maybe thats why we dont get the comfort that is only really in 'believer territory"

Not believing in god/s began at an early age for me.

jacpod comments on Mar 20, 2018:

I didnt have that pressure irreligious family I had a friend when I was in my forties who told me that she was part of the 'We free's' and on Sunday they went 3 times to church adn at home had to sit in their best starchy frocks and read the bible all day - Sounds hellish!

Tomorrow I see my therapist and med Doctor.

jacpod comments on Mar 20, 2018:

Enjoy Sarahroo!

I just want to express my thankfulness for this site and it's members.

jacpod comments on Mar 20, 2018:

I'll enjoy your comments any time you come here yes I too fell comfortable on this site asthre is nobody I know that causes discontent.

Are you an open or closet agnostic/atheist, and why?

jacpod comments on Mar 19, 2018:

Open Atheist, if anyone wants to know; - very few people in Northern Ireland do want to know: - I do remember going to an ongoing symposium of 'All faiths and None', here. - And I was the only one who was 'None' It was funny really because I kept going even though people were a bit nervous of me, then the whole thing collapsed when we had a Born Again christian being told to get out of the building because she got into a heated verbal struggle with a Muslim who was 'The Guest' I dont really know if htere was any way they could have handled it better - but I felt sorry for us all.

Atheist wedding vows

jacpod comments on Mar 19, 2018:

I got married in a civil wedding ceremony it took about five minutes to complete at our local town hall which is about 100 yards from where we live , no vows or anyhting just sign on the dotted line - the nicest part was that we then went to a photographer who posed us in different ways and it was kindly and nice more intimate. Later we decided marriage wasnt for us because we felt - more tied and responsible than we had before, so we got divorced.

Is life meaningful without religion?

jacpod comments on Mar 19, 2018:

yes

Are you good at small talk?

jacpod comments on Mar 19, 2018:

I can do it and I do do it whenever the need arises and then the need to get off gets so great that I find myself making excuses to get off. So Doable but only for limited periods.

Atheism and psychedelics

jacpod comments on Mar 19, 2018:

None of my 3 'acid trips' involved a god of any kind just bright colours and things not behaving predicatably - I just remember laughing a lot. I dont think any of it meant anyhtign just rearranging stuff in my brain.

What are everyone's political views?

jacpod comments on Mar 19, 2018:

Anarcha- socialist

Ladies I have question for you. What do you think about facial hair?

jacpod comments on Mar 19, 2018:

Not really sure I am 'a lady' but will respond - I dont think these hirsute things are of themselves are sexy I think its the person who is either sexy or not -YOu could surprise your wife by taking her out somewhere where she has never been and doing somethign surprisingly kind and generous. I ma sure she loves you whatever your hair situation is.

What do you find sexy?

jacpod comments on Mar 19, 2018:

Kindness.

I work for a company that is contracted through the county.

jacpod comments on Mar 19, 2018:

Really sorry to hear that , I have never been in this situation, now retired , as a baby boomer it was a sellers market regarding work - I understand that everyone is now being hammered and don't really get why? Surely there is enough to go around and surely we can have a community that looks after each other ?

Without religion, what keeps morality from being completely subjective?