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How do you deal with disappointment in life?

jacpod comments on Feb 20, 2018:

I am quite good at crying and think it really helps me stay sane when bad stuff is happening or it just isn't my turn for something good to come along. I can sort of cry to order and the aftermath is comforting. I think hormones might get released or something like that, that helps. also am up for taking a nap my partner lives upstairs to me and I ask him to wake me by knocking on the ceiling when its a certain time.

Kind of putting myself out here with this one.

jacpod comments on Feb 20, 2018:

toxic families can pull you down if you let them. I was glad to hear you have been taking steps to look out for yourself.

What is the most important trait you seek in a friend?

jacpod comments on Feb 20, 2018:

As far as I can remember even though my friends are scattered all over the British Isles and we dont talk much except on facebook I still love every one of them to bits Some I havent seen in years abd they are still my friends in my book ,(not so for my family,)

Can you fall in love with someone who you've never met in person?

jacpod comments on Feb 20, 2018:

I would imagine so and I would hope so it makes life quite interesting.

I just joined last night so I'm getting the feel for the site. Does everyone like it?

jacpod comments on Feb 20, 2018:

I hope so, I am enjoying it ,fairly new member too , I hope you like it

I am somebody with schizophrenia.

jacpod comments on Feb 20, 2018:

you sound amazing !

Do you try to avoid chemicals in products you use?

jacpod comments on Feb 20, 2018:

my daughter in law has advised me about palm oil so I look out for that in the ingredients but I'm vegan and tend to cook with fresh ingredients every day eat plus rice and bananas I must say I am not a great foodie person.

Kids

jacpod comments on Feb 20, 2018:

I have a daughter living in Liverpool, 50 this year a son living in newcastle upon tyne 49 this year, and five grandchildren four girls and a boy I think the oldest is 21. Seriously long time grown and gone

Favourite Book Genre?

jacpod comments on Feb 20, 2018:

crime fiction but every so often go back to the old favourites teh classics

Reading Format Preferences.

jacpod comments on Feb 20, 2018:

I like real books, dont mind their condition I live in sheltered acommodation so space is tight and i have only one corner bookshelf with books I cant bring myself to give away or throw out - A library van comes once a month but mostly I buy second hand books from charity shops and take them back when I am out and about - I buy a paper every day mainly to do the codeword and i flick though to see if there is anything of interest - I listen to BBC news (although these days I cant think why I give them any credibility) and also look online

Would you want to be famous?

jacpod comments on Feb 20, 2018:

I was mildly famous for a short time had my picture in the papers for being a woman plasterer. I had a full page spread in the Liverpool Echo under the title Dirty Women apparently they were looking for more Dirty women to make it a series but couldn't find any.The day that picture was taken we were doing a handover of a house renovation so I wasnt in my work clothes a bystander had on overalls so they asked him if I could borrow them - It was all pretty embarrassing. I was also in the Burnley Gazette and the photographer had taken the picture from below me, in a mill we were renovating the angle made me look like an Amazon with size ten shoes(I am five foot one and a half)

Do you "people watch?"

jacpod comments on Feb 20, 2018:

I actually had to think about this one - No I dont, although I might if something big went down whilst I was in a cafe - and I think its because I originally come from London and we had in those days (early fifties) a practise of giving people space, because we were such an overcrowded city, to allow others some personal space was almost necessary and maybe a small kindness as we had little money then. I was in China in the early eighties and it was so overcrowded (Beijing)(Shenyang) it was overwhelming to me, but strangely I never heard a baby cry all the time I was there and wondered if it was because they were always held. the young men carried their fathers to the hospital on their backs I was told it was respect for the elders

The Multiple Intelligences Theory: What types fit you best? Least?

jacpod comments on Feb 20, 2018:

Least is logical mathematica, best is interpersonal.

Do the Olympic games conflict with the UK school philosophy of "no child should lose" ?

jacpod comments on Feb 19, 2018:

I wouldn't have minded that rule being in place when I was at primary school in London, but I have honestly never heard of it. Wacky!

How do you socialize?

jacpod comments on Feb 19, 2018:

I dont think that I have ever met another atheist here apart from the one I live with, outing yourself isnt a popular sport round here people who have stopped believing keep quite schtum.

Hugs & kisses.

jacpod comments on Feb 19, 2018:

I'm a brit too - Awkward eh! could you carry a large folded umbrella and point it in his direction. The direct approach might work "Sorry I dont do hugs!"

Hello everyone.

jacpod comments on Feb 19, 2018:

hiya I am from England when I was growing up nobody ever mentioned religion it was a truly private matter , but I would be of the view that they are indeed more aggressive in their agenda.- I have met vicars priests deacons nuns and all sorts of church related people when I was a lecturer in counselling and most were really funny and loving their time out so it obviously isn't everyone but there are some teachings I imagine that make for intolerance squared.

Good morning.

jacpod comments on Feb 19, 2018:

I was in a stone built asylum in bexley kent england it was built in 1898 well away from any other community so you couldn't hitch a lift away. I mainly remember that the whole top floor was a dance floor and that there were loads of underground tunnels the men who had been there a long time mostly congregated in the tunnels and called out hopefully gizzafag if anyone passed by.

Whats The most frightening thing anyone’s ever said to you?

jacpod comments on Feb 19, 2018:

If you dont tell me where your brother is living I will knock your head right though that wall young lady!

Do people you meet ever assume you are amoral because you are agnostic or atheist?

jacpod comments on Feb 19, 2018:

only all the boring time

Guilty Pleasure?

jacpod comments on Feb 19, 2018:

I went without a tv for 25 years mostly because I hate the adverts years and then realised I could get it on my computer without the adverts - now we watch every evening for 2 hours. Don't ask! me and my mate - creatures of habit!

How do you socialize?

jacpod comments on Feb 19, 2018:

Up till I retired I was very active and enjoyed meeting people , these days I seem to enjoy my own company quite a lot more .I am an artist and enjoy working in different materials - I find that I dont get on particularly well with the people in my surrounding district as it is a divided community and i belong to neither side I also notice that being English doesn't help in that regard either - But I have some friends here and quite a lot of people to say 'hello! nice weather for ducks? to. the major draw for me where i live is that I am only 3 and a half minutes from the sea and a river with ducks. The views are glorious we are not far from the dark hedges or the carrick a rede rope bridge and we can always cut and run over the border to the south if the parades are barmy.

Are you racist?

jacpod comments on Feb 19, 2018:

I said NO but I cannot be sure - I enjoy meeting people from other country's and races not really sure having said that that I know very much about race - People seem to be just from wherever they are born, but our genes must be by now so intermingled it would be hard to know - I see people on the net who have had their genetic code done and they end up in percentages of this and that - Its probably interesting but I am not sure I can get my head round it, or if it even matters.Sorry this is about the worst answer I have ever made here!

Here is a no no my first picture hah!

jacpod comments on Feb 19, 2018:

It was supposed to go under the tattoo convo but hey you can't get everything right!

I'm at a crossroads(again) and I've been thinking about what "better" means.

jacpod comments on Feb 19, 2018:

for me better means freedom to do as I choose, to walk away from people who want to hurt me in any way - because I am 70, I havent the flexibility in my body to do a lot of the things I did previously but walking enjoying the fresh air the change of the seasons liking the simplicity of just doing what I want when I want especially eating and not having to compromise for anyone else.

Do you like a challenge in life or an easy life?

jacpod comments on Feb 19, 2018:

I 'm with you on this one and it would be nice to get them coming at a reasonable rate so there was some breathing space in between - the learning

Why all or nothing

jacpod comments on Feb 19, 2018:

No I understand what you are saying and it seems you have a really good understanding of your own situation but for me there is no answer to this other than, be yourself do what delights you have fun or not as you choose. An orange would still feel and taste the same if it were called an apple -trust yourself - dont be pigeonholed you dont have to be. Your own personal growth is your own affair it doesn't have to be questioned by anyone other than you.

Hi, I'm Donna, new member and proud owner of this diagnosis: bipolar type two, generalized anxiety ...

jacpod comments on Feb 19, 2018:

Hiya good to see you !

Bad anxiety day.

jacpod comments on Feb 19, 2018:

WowI I went on a book binding course in Derbyshire where a friend of mine lives. The shop was called Scriveners and it was delightful ,all strange corners with different things in it and strange passageways it was like something out of a Dickens Novel. The lessons were one to one but the whole package was just 'olde worlde' I havent done much since but thanks you just gave me some inspiration there. One of the things the staff had going between them was to make the smallest possible bound book.

Any more gun nuts that won't budge on there right to bear arms whatever happens with innocent lives ...

jacpod comments on Feb 18, 2018:

When my father came back from the war he brought back his service gun; at some point in the fifties there was an amnesty for a few months that meant you could go to the local police station and hand them in - My father really didnt want to do it! My mother took it and wrapped it in a tea towel and marched us all round to hand it in - I think it was supposed to be a lesson of some kind but I am glad all that happened and fewer guns were around.

Wasting natural resources

jacpod comments on Feb 18, 2018:

wow!

Unusual expressions.

jacpod comments on Feb 18, 2018:

here they say useless as tits on a boar! Also you're as much use as a chocolate teapot!

Do you think you are well informed?

jacpod comments on Feb 18, 2018:

Not really, as there is so much out there to 'get' I have never felt curbed by my atheism only by my lack of intelligence or knowledge - I cant do maths to save my life ( I went to a free school) I tend to flick through newspapers to find what will hold my interest.

Do you identify as a Highly Sensitive Person? Or, not at all? What do you think of the term?

jacpod comments on Feb 18, 2018:

I do in a way as a lot of this list does apply to me, but I think what made me this way out was my upbringing which was pretty strange with a bi polar mother and an abusive father, no rules of any kind no solidity etc.etc.

The Dalai Lama said, and I paraphrase, it is not necessarily helpful to believe in god to be a ...

jacpod comments on Feb 18, 2018:

I love that man!

How many languages do you speak?

jacpod comments on Feb 18, 2018:

schoolgirl french - I have a friend in france we have never met in person but we both have the same unusual name and we write on Facebook. I can get by clumsily in German have, O level Latin no romans left to converse with sadly.

Wearing a kilt

jacpod comments on Feb 18, 2018:

does regimental mean no knickers?

Creativity versus Creation.

jacpod comments on Feb 18, 2018:

Oh no! My brain hurts I don't even understand the question!

"How can you be a moral person and be an atheist?

jacpod comments on Feb 18, 2018:

Love your responses quick and sharp wish I were as cute! I think I might be prone to hesitation and waffle!

So I posted something earlier that I took down because my intentions were being misunderstood.

jacpod comments on Feb 18, 2018:

I like your honesty and I don't use this place as a dating site - didnt even know it could be, but given that we are 'settled' on that score the bigger part of it is getting on with people an d trying to understand other peoples ways and thinking and it seems to me anyone who decides they like it here can belong here . I love it because there is a whole world out there i know very little about so its learning for me -Hope you give us another chance!

Does anyone get a high from learning?

jacpod comments on Feb 17, 2018:

I think I get something similar because I went to a free school and learned to learn for myself, and there was this real buzz about 'getting it' The problem was that I never wanted to learn maths or geography and sometimes (at 70 y.o) I am faced with just how ignorant I really am in these matters I am not stupid about money but need lots of change. I was called 'the book worm' by my family as I always had my nose in a book. I cope with my lack of understanding about where I am by enjoying being lost -At Glastonbury festival its a hoot its like a small city and at some point you do meet people you know who point you in the direction you should be heading .

How many republican atheists/agnostics are members of this website?

jacpod comments on Feb 17, 2018:

sorry whats a republican? is it Conservative?

Do you think people care about Truth, as it comports to reality?

jacpod comments on Feb 17, 2018:

this really is the bee in my bonnet getting to the point where I cant believe anything - I have accepted post-truth is upon us and i wish I could turn some clocks back

Whats The most frightening thing anyone’s ever said to you?

jacpod comments on Feb 17, 2018:

I was attacked by a man in my housing scheme afterwards - he said to my partner in front of me "Tell that bitch I'll wring her fucking neck I'll get her put out of here!

Have you ever used affirmations?

jacpod comments on Feb 17, 2018:

Not as such I was in another life a lecturer in person centred counsellling and we covered all these different therapies as well, As far as I know it can do no harm; the original affirmation was "every day in every way I am getting better and better!" And you can make up your own and they are supposed to be unconditional and the most powerful you can get ; so even though you may not believe it saying it regularly can get you into that frame of mind i suppose its a bit like taking a deep breath and thinking "yes I can do this!

Forgiveness

jacpod comments on Feb 17, 2018:

Sometimes I can rise to the occasion especially if I truly ;get' the other persons inadequacy sometimes its too brutal and raw and it has to be put on the back burner. My parents were both damaged they are both dead now and I think I am spent my own recovery will have to do in place of forgiveness

I was raised catholic and the things that stick with me the most is the fear the nuns put into me.

jacpod comments on Feb 17, 2018:

can you lay Monga to rest in peace now you have shared this ?- I have never had a god but fear is powerful I rather think laughter helps it go away quicker.

Too many examples around me! Hahaha

jacpod comments on Feb 17, 2018:

My partner (we dont live together) has OCD and I have D.I.D we get along the best he makes up for all my deficits and I do all his cooking cleaning washing etc. Its a partnership that fits like a glove. I do get mad when people think because I have D.I.D that I am a potential mad axe murderer - more likely to be sitting sucking my thumb, he's more likely tone putting on his umtieth pair of surgical gloves.

Is it normal to have a phobia of webs?

jacpod comments on Feb 17, 2018:

Seems like there are a lot of people who have this one just looked it up on the net but apparently no name for it arachnophobia seems to do for both spiders and webs.

How do you feel about supplements?

jacpod comments on Feb 17, 2018:

When I am under the weather I take spatone which is a water based iron supplement it doesnt make you as constipated as the tablets. My doctor gives me the tablets so at least I know I need them.

Do you have a family member (or person in your life) that you just don't want to deal with?

jacpod comments on Feb 17, 2018:

I live in sheltered accommodation and there is a guy here who completely does my head in. He talks really loudly takes over parts of communal areas and 'decorates them sulks when he doesnt get his own way leaves notices everywhere and is so self important I could spit!

What's your favorite book? I loved Atlas Shrugged, Anna Karinena, and Guns, Germs, and Steel.

jacpod comments on Feb 17, 2018:

I seriously liked war and peace but my first attempt I bought a difficult edition poorly translated with loads of footnotes so it put me off for a bit when I got a good one I really loved it.

Believer Bashing?

jacpod comments on Feb 17, 2018:

I am with you on this completely, whatever floats your boat, you said it for me thank you!

Who are your favorite scientist, and why?

jacpod comments on Feb 17, 2018:

Marie Curie, I suppose because she was a pioneer and a role model.

Neil deGrasse Tyson: ‘Prayer Is Insufficient To Stop Bullets From Killing School Children’

jacpod comments on Feb 17, 2018:

After the Dunblane massacre in Scotland we got tighter gun laws here in the U.K

Why are you not religious?

jacpod comments on Feb 17, 2018:

My family are not religious and so it never took, it always seemed pretty boring to me and going nowhere .

Intercultural Miscommunication?

jacpod comments on Feb 17, 2018:

When I was in germany I had very little German and would go into the local shop each day to buy something mainly struggling and pointing and the shop assistants would all gather giggling to hear what I was stupidly going to say . - One day, it was a long time ago I decided to buy a pair of stockings and said in my awful German I want to buy a pair of tights but not altogether joined but one leg here and one leg here. We all collapsed in giggles.

Is FAITH in anything absurd all the time? Do we need faith ever?

jacpod comments on Feb 17, 2018:

agree with you totally - when I first read it I thought what phrase would stand in for - Making a leap of faith? and then i just thought oh! 'rust yourself!'

Do you trust the government as a source of information?

jacpod comments on Feb 17, 2018:

British government wouldn't trust them with a barge pole we are totally in the you know what and have ridiculous M'P.s I fear for us completely.

There is no agnostic vs. atheist! The peeve I have...

jacpod comments on Feb 17, 2018:

Love you - thank you!

Do any of you have earnestly religious friends?