You ever get super anxious that you scare potential friends away?

sewchick57 comments on Mar 29, 2018:

No. That's the beauty of not caring in the first place. I don't care one way or another.

Do I see the glass half full or half empty?

sewchick57 comments on Mar 29, 2018:

Neither. The glass has three layers, a layer of air, a layer of water and a cool third layer where the water and air interact.

Anyone here like some Heavy Metal?

sewchick57 comments on Mar 28, 2018:

I listen to a fair amount of metal.

One of the things that sucks about living in small town South Dakota is that dating apps and web ...

sewchick57 comments on Mar 28, 2018:

I think it's probably that way for most rural areas. It's pretty much the same way here too. If I expand my search range then I get guys that are 3.5 hours away to the east or 4 hours away to the west.

For the mature members out there, a question.

sewchick57 comments on Mar 27, 2018:

Oh definitely. Even then some men are clueless.

Music that feeds your “soul” Do you have any bands that feed your being?

sewchick57 comments on Mar 27, 2018:

Depends on what it needs fed, could be anything from AC/DC to The Moody Blues. I like a pretty wide range of music. On Sunday mornings it tends to be old R&B.

How many times have you posted while drinking?

sewchick57 comments on Mar 27, 2018:

How about not so far. Doesn't mean I won't at some point. I prefer the non calorie option though.

Too honest.

sewchick57 comments on Mar 27, 2018:

I'm a don't ask if you don't really want to know kind of person. I'm that way in person and online. I guess if that's going to make somebody say "hell, no!" that's their problem and I probably wouldn't put up with them anyway.

A Message To Your 18-Year-Old Self

sewchick57 comments on Mar 26, 2018:

I'd tell myself not to marry my second husband. By the time I was 18 it was already too late to tell me not to marry the first one.

Do you talk to yourself?

sewchick57 comments on Mar 26, 2018:

Yes. I don't have imaginary friends to talk to anymore.

Are you a Night Owl or an Early Bird?

sewchick57 comments on Mar 26, 2018:

I would much prefer to be a night owl but my boss thinks I should be at work at 8.

How long have you been app dating? Which app has been your most successful for actual dates?

sewchick57 comments on Mar 25, 2018:

Well, I have a profile on a few dating sites. But I've been on far more actual dates from craigslist.

Dating on this site

sewchick57 comments on Mar 25, 2018:

I did talk to someone in my area but I decided not to meet him. I think he was the only one close in my age range. I might drive to meet somebody though. Especially now that I have new wheels. (yay me)

How old were you when you got married for the first time?

sewchick57 comments on Mar 25, 2018:

I'd been 16 a month and a half. My husband was 18 and turned 19 a month later. 6 1/2 of the longest years of my life. I was widowed at 22 with a 5 year old and a 4 year old.

Will FOSTA affect other dating sites, internet companies?

sewchick57 comments on Mar 24, 2018:

I'm kind of bummed about it. Now where am I going to read weird kinky ads?

To be real honest, this format seems really dumb to me.

sewchick57 comments on Mar 21, 2018:

The biggest thing I've noticed is the points thing weeds out the foreign scammers.

I come from a very religious family from a denomination probably few if any have heard of.

sewchick57 comments on Mar 21, 2018:

My daughter in law is from a Mennonite family. Her parents left the church but the rest of her entire family is still Mennonite.

Ok, this might get long, so buckle up! I am a "woman of a certain age", or in blunt terms, I am ...

sewchick57 comments on Mar 19, 2018:

Just going to throw this in, but, did you try other types of sex? There's way more than one way to be intimate.

Crazy kids! What's the craziest/worst/funniest thing your kids did, that you didn't know about ...

sewchick57 comments on Mar 18, 2018:

Well, there was the time the cops showed up at the apartment. I was sitting in the living room and I see all these cops doing this sort of sneak around and advance sort of thing. And as soon as I figured out they were coming to my apartment I opened the front door. They said they had a report of gunshots fired. Uhhh, well I have a gun but I don't have any bullets for it and it hasn't been fired in years. I showed them where it was and they determined it hadn't been fired and left. I found out later, much later, that my oldest son and his friend were blowing up tea bags in the sink with fire crackers.

Is there a quote/idea/notion you live by and if so what is it?

sewchick57 comments on Mar 18, 2018:

Men, can't live with them, can't shoot them.

I'm curious in knowing if others here collect anything?

sewchick57 comments on Mar 14, 2018:

I started off on my first honeymoon collecting elephants. I don't have room for all of them, they're in storage. I seem to have a fairly large rock collection. I'm not really sure how some of them got here. I have collections of weather related things, maps and globes, chickens and fish.

Atheists can 'go to hell,' says Sedgwick County commissioner | The Wichita Eagle

sewchick57 comments on Mar 14, 2018:

Yeah, well. You do have to set your watch back 20 years when you move to Kansas.

Deep Purple, "Machine Head"... [youtube.com]

sewchick57 comments on Mar 14, 2018:

I wore this out on 8-track, twice on cassette and once on cd. I have the vinyl too but I didn't wear it out.

Were You Raised In A Single Parent Home Or 2 Parent Home

sewchick57 comments on Mar 13, 2018:

I was raised by a single mother. I met my father when I was 17. I'm astonished they were married to each other. My father joined the navy when I was pretty small. I have a younger sister. I think he may have come home twice after he joined the navy. I have one very vague memory of him from when I was around 7. My mother remarried an abusive man when I was 12. I left home at 16 and got married. Then the adventures really started.

If you are listening to the voices in your head.. Who's talking?? ?

sewchick57 comments on Mar 13, 2018:

Depends.

My quarterly conversation with my mother occurred yesterday and for a change I left it feeling good.

sewchick57 comments on Mar 11, 2018:

After my mother pissed me off and I quit talking to her I discovered the bonus of not having to listen to her bitch about everything and everybody under the damn sun. I am not even a little sad I quit talking to her. That's a whole 'nother issue though that had nothing to do with religion.

What type of outdoor markets, festivals, and state fairs do you like to attend, and why?

sewchick57 comments on Mar 11, 2018:

My girlfriend and I go to whatever they have downtown during the summer. They show movies at the park. They have food truck fridays and have games and stuff for kids. And of course there's a fair and rodeo every year. There's a week long beef festival. That has all kinds of events. The state fair is a 3.5 hour drive one way so I generally don't go.

How long has it been?

sewchick57 comments on Mar 11, 2018:

Last August. I had a gentleman friend that came here for work and we would go out. He changed jobs and doesn't have this area anymore. I also have a farmer friend that comes to see me once in a great while but I haven't seen him since July at least. And right now he's in Arizona.

What would you ask for, if you knew the answer was yes?

sewchick57 comments on Mar 10, 2018:

A nice raise so I could afford a new car.

What was your favorite story book as a kid?

sewchick57 comments on Mar 8, 2018:

I didn't get to have kids books. The Nancy Drew series was hugely popular when I was in grade school but I didn't get to read a single book. So as revenge, when my oldest granddaughter hit the right age I bought her every single Nancy Drew I could find.

What do you do for a living?

sewchick57 comments on Mar 8, 2018:

I work in a collection agency. I actually do like my job most days. If I could do anything though, I would quit work and create quilt art.

Have you ever pissed off your neighbors from being too loud?

sewchick57 comments on Mar 8, 2018:

Oh, probably more than once. My kid threatened me one time, he said "if the cops come I'm telling them it's you." It was during the day though. I had a bad ass stereo back then. When my kids were fairly young I could keep them outside with the stereo but we didn't have close neighbors back then.

You're are an enlightened and helpful bunch.

sewchick57 comments on Mar 7, 2018:

How many hours are you normally awake after you get off at 7:00pm? That's how long you need to stay awake after you get off work at 7:00am. Then you need a good dark room. Foil works fabulously for blacking windows out.

I think I'm a realist

sewchick57 comments on Mar 5, 2018:

The glass is clear full, a layer of air, a layer of water and a third cool layer where the water and air interact.

Do you bring lunch to work or eat out?

sewchick57 comments on Mar 4, 2018:

I live close enough to work I can come home. I don't always actually eat lunch but I appreciate the 30 minutes of silence at home.

Why did you get married?

sewchick57 comments on Mar 4, 2018:

Well the first time was to escape an abusive home. The second time, I suppose because it seemed like the thing to do at the time. There really were a whole lot of reasons for the second time, none of them had anything to do with love though. At least on my part.

This is a question for women who have been through a break-up, divorce, or death of a spouse.

sewchick57 comments on Mar 4, 2018:

I have a whole wardrobe of really nice, sexy date outfits. It depends entirely on what kind of "date" I go on what I wear though. It's nice to go out on dress up dates, especially if it's something you've never really done. You might discover a whole world you didn't know existed.

Does anyone enjoy a hot cup of tea? What is your favorite kind?

sewchick57 comments on Mar 3, 2018:

I love Chai with French Vanilla creamer.

DST Daylight Savings Time, do you like it?

sewchick57 comments on Mar 3, 2018:

I hate DST.

Am I the only one that doesn't watch TV?

sewchick57 comments on Mar 2, 2018:

I watch a limited amount of tv but there are two shows that I'm dedicated to watching. And there are a couple of other shows that are my go to shows when nothing else is on and I just feel like having the tv on. When my kids were little we lived in a place where you had three choices, on with sound, on without sound and off. We got 1 channel.

Six Teenagers Are Running For Governor In Kansas, And Suddenly This Doesn't Seem So Preposterous.

sewchick57 comments on Mar 2, 2018:

I don't see how any of them could screw shit up any worse than Brownback did.

How much do you admit to being guilty?

sewchick57 comments on Mar 2, 2018:

For what?

Would you rather be poor and work at a job you love or be rich and work at a job you hate? Why?

sewchick57 comments on Mar 2, 2018:

I'd be willing to give rich a whirl. I can't say that I love my job, it suits me well and I can pay my bills but that's about as far as it goes. It's really kind of a pia to be poor.

How strict were your parents?

sewchick57 comments on Mar 2, 2018:

My mother was really strict in ways that were just stupid, I didn't get kids books. We could only have "literature" at home. She was very strict about the toys we could have. Basically if it was the huge popular toy I didn't get it. She was very restrictive about what I could wear and how old I had to be before I could wear make up. And while you might think some of this would be a good thing, the lack of common toys and the odd dress made me a target. I never could get her to understand that you don't have to be one of the popular kids but at least fitting in makes school a ton easier.

Is there any relationship between salary and overall life satisfaction?

sewchick57 comments on Feb 28, 2018:

For the most part being a poor person is a pain in the ass. I should have about 6 months or so to decide if I'm going to fix my car or find a different one. It's 16 years old but I still like it. I think overall it's still in pretty good shape so I may just fix it. Decisions, decisions.

How often do you get caught talking to yourself? And do you play it off?

sewchick57 comments on Feb 27, 2018:

All the time. The girls at work are used to it and just ignore me. They think I'm crazy anyway and it generally just confirms their suspicions. LOL

Are you allergic to anything? If you are, what?

sewchick57 comments on Feb 26, 2018:

I'm allergic to all kinds of stuff, from medications (long list) and vaccines to perfumes, to metals, pollens, to all kinds of stuff. I don't have food allergies. Both of my kids have all kinds of food allergies though.

Why do you still buy lottery tickets knowing the odds are a couple of billion to one?

sewchick57 comments on Feb 26, 2018:

I play once in a while. Somebody wins. It could happen.

Is there a lesson to be learned from a "failed relationship?"

sewchick57 comments on Feb 26, 2018:

Oh there's always something to be learned. Don't marry a jackass is top of my list now.

Do people on the road raise your blood pressure? Or, are you chill on the road?

sewchick57 comments on Feb 26, 2018:

This is the traffic maneuver I saw today. I was in the outside lane, behind a pickup at the traffic light. There was a red car in the left turn lane and a white car in the inside lane. The left turn light turned green and the red car just sat there. So the driver in the white car flipped on their signal and took a left. A lot of people move here from countries where "traffic laws" are considered "suggestions."

What should I do when I get threaten with going to Hell?

sewchick57 comments on Feb 26, 2018:

I say, your god, your hell, you go.

What to do about sugar ants?

sewchick57 comments on Feb 25, 2018:

I've had pretty good luck with ant baits. A good hardware store will have a good selection of ant baits. You have to not kill the ants you see so they can carry it back to the nest. I always got a couple of different kinds of baits. That way if they didn't like one maybe they'll like the other one! I've also used Roach Proof and Diatomaceous Earth for ants. They both work but they take a lot longer.

What is the best way to excuse a Johova Witness from your front door?

sewchick57 comments on Feb 25, 2018:

Say "I'm a Witch." They'll cross the street when they get to your property line.

How far is close enough to travel to be with someone?

sewchick57 comments on Feb 25, 2018:

I live in one of those middle of no where places. (Seriously, #1 on the list) Anyway, that's really not all that far to drive. I saw a guy that lived a little over 2 hours away for awhile. I'd drive up on Friday after work and leave early Sunday morning. He always paid for half the gas. I'd go see him every 2 or 3 weeks.

Does or has anyone really felt they fit in?

sewchick57 comments on Feb 24, 2018:

I'd have to say overall for the majority of my life, no.

How many times have you moved in your life so far?

sewchick57 comments on Feb 24, 2018:

I'm up to 42 times. I've never had a driver's license expire with my correct address printed on it. Last time I got a new license, I got it in March and moved in the middle of June.

The Soul-Crushing Legacy of Billy Graham - Rolling Stone

sewchick57 comments on Feb 24, 2018:

I need to renew my subscription.

I am guilty of being an 'Atheist Troll'.

sewchick57 comments on Feb 24, 2018:

I don't know, I consider it a good day's job well done.

How important is it to people to have political compatibility?

sewchick57 comments on Feb 24, 2018:

That's one of the things that matters to me. I'm pretty damn liberal though so...

I always dream in color..and remember them as well..anyone else?

sewchick57 comments on Feb 23, 2018:

I used to have real problems with dreaming. They were very vivid, long and involved, and really, really off the wall for the most part. Eventually I discovered if i sleep with music playing I just have regular dreams and sleep a lot better.

Why Do We Need to Sleep?

sewchick57 comments on Feb 22, 2018:

Well, I can tell you from personal experience if you don't sleep for a month and a half or so, you begin to hallucinate. And while that might sound not all that bad, it's really scary as hell. I don't know what they gave me at the hospital to put me to sleep but it set me on fire for 30 minutes and then I slept for a good long while. We settled on a nice combination of a tranquilizer and a sleeping pill along with several other drugs. Then I slept for at least 20 hours a day for 11 days straight. Your body needs sleep to heal.

Fess up, who here has a trusted friend responsible for wiping out their browsing history (or ...

sewchick57 comments on Feb 22, 2018:

I hadn't really thought about it. I think most people that know me very well would be afraid to look anyway. LOL!

How open are you with others about your lack of religious beliefs?

sewchick57 comments on Feb 21, 2018:

I just tell people I don't believe in organized religion and they seem satisfied with that and don't bring it up again.

Who is the most eccentric person in your family?

sewchick57 comments on Feb 21, 2018:

Oh probably me. One of my Great Grandmothers was a bit on the eccentric side though.

If a guy or girl straight up asked you to have sex with them, how would you respond to it?

sewchick57 comments on Feb 21, 2018:

If it was a girl I'd say no. If it was a guy, maybe. You never know.

Do you like a challenge in life or an easy life?

sewchick57 comments on Feb 20, 2018:

I'd be happy to try easy life. So far it's been mostly a challenge. Well, really more like one crazy ass thing after another. Basically I just roll with it, it's what I've got.

If you could just pick up and move today where would you move to?

sewchick57 comments on Feb 20, 2018:

I'd move to a mountain town near Colorado Springs.

Kids

sewchick57 comments on Feb 19, 2018:

My kids are older than most people's kids my age. I started early so I made it to great gramma by the time I was 59.

Your tattoos and the story behind it/them

sewchick57 comments on Feb 19, 2018:

I have 7 and one of them was done twice. The main one with real meaning is a feather with birds coming off the end and the words "A chance meeting with a stranger may soon change your life" and it has a name. No matter what else happens he will always be the stranger that changed my life. It's entirely possible I will never see him again.

Dating after 50

sewchick57 comments on Feb 18, 2018:

Throw in a small town in a rural area. The nearest city of any size is 3.5 hours, one way.

Obedience to parents

sewchick57 comments on Feb 18, 2018:

I had an abusive step father and a mother that ignored it and chose him over me. So I got pregnant and married at 16. Then life sent me down a crazy path.

How long did it take you to get over your divorce?

sewchick57 comments on Feb 18, 2018:

Well, I did a happy dance in the living room when I opened signed divorce papers from the court. It had been a year and a half since I kicked him out though.

Please share one awesome thing about where you live. :)

sewchick57 comments on Feb 18, 2018:

My small town is one of the most diverse in the country. At last count there were at least 25 different languages spoken in our grade schools. The population was fewer than 30,000 in the last Census. And at one time we had the "World's Largest, Free Concrete Municipal Swimming Pool"

Praying is so useless it doesn't accomplish anything in life.

sewchick57 comments on Feb 17, 2018:

Praying is like riding a rocking chair, it gives you something to do but it doesn't get you anywhere.

Did the Disturbed's version of the Simon and Garfunkel sound of silence enrapture you or did you ...

sewchick57 comments on Feb 17, 2018:

I liked the Simon and Garfunkel version. I loooooooooooooooove this version. He gives the song the depth and power it always deserved.

Not my circus. Not my monkeys. An incredible mantra for my mental health.

sewchick57 comments on Feb 17, 2018:

I like that one. But I also like "Don't make me get my monkeys"

Cheese is the Answer

sewchick57 comments on Feb 17, 2018:

LOL!! All hail cheese!

Original sin

sewchick57 comments on Feb 17, 2018:

Original sin has absolutely no bearing on my life whatsoever. Not believing in god or the bible frees you from all that nonsense. ALL of it.

Good morning. Happy Saturday. Does anyone remember Fraggle Rock every Saturday?

sewchick57 comments on Feb 17, 2018:

My kids were old enough they didn't watch Fraggle Rock but I did. I loved that show!!

I live in Oklahoma.

sewchick57 comments on Feb 16, 2018:

I discovered I wasn't compatible with Oklahoma either.

Do you have a family member (or person in your life) that you just don't want to deal with?

sewchick57 comments on Feb 16, 2018:

I don't speak to my mother or my sister. I went two full years without speaking to my mother and then due to what happened with my oldest son I've had to speak to her about 6 times. i'm done now though. She can go back to leaving messages. It's probably been 3 or 4 years since I talked to my sister. After I quit talking to them I discovered how much more pleasant my life was without them in it.

1 Corinthians 16:22 - "If anyone does not love the Lord—a curse be on him." wtf.

sewchick57 comments on Feb 16, 2018:

So I'm cursed. Now what?

Pot vs Alcohol... [livescience.com]

sewchick57 comments on Feb 16, 2018:

Pot is the no calorie option. Plus it won't kill your liver.

Ever used Craigslist personals?

sewchick57 comments on Feb 16, 2018:

I have answered ads and placed ads. From what I know the experience is different for men and women. Men get a ton more scammers than women do. They all want the men to join websites or some such and ask for a credit card. When I put an ad up, it's kind of like being run over by a steamroller of email. I'll get close to 100 emails in the first couple days. I get scammers too but they use a different tactic with women. They're always either some kind of engineer or ex military, either divorced or widowed with a child between 8 & 14. They try to play on massive flattery and pull the heart strings with the "motherless child" bs. If you're going to place an ad on craigslist you had better be prepared for a lot of dick pics. I have actually met a few men thru the ads. A couple of them barely got past hello before I had a sudden engagement somewhere else.

You can run but you can't hide.

sewchick57 comments on Feb 14, 2018:

We need dirty laundry!

So, I "met" a guy on another dating site months ago, we have exchanged emails sporadically, ...

sewchick57 comments on Feb 14, 2018:

I made a scammer really mad once. In his very first email he said stuff like "if we become exclusive couple" and how he would fly out at the end of summer and we would be married. I told him I wasn't marrying anybody for them to get a green card. Then he said he had a Phd and didn't need to marry an American for a green card, that his Phd could get him a green card. I don't remember what I told him next but then he claimed he was born in New York. I asked him "So if you're born in New York and have a Phd what do you need a green card for?" Never heard from him again. By that time he was really, really pissed off though. Wrote all sorts of thing about how horrible American women are, blah, blah, blah. <shrug> It was amusing for a couple of days. I even get scammers on Words with Friends!! They start a game and a chat right off the bat and play horrible. Anymore I use them to rack up points until they go away. LOL

How often do you self-censor? Is it hard to bite your tongue?

sewchick57 comments on Feb 13, 2018:

I would say a fair amount but I think some people at work might disagree. They used to ask me questions about things but half the time they'll say "NO! I don't want to know" before I can answer. i just laugh.

What is your highest level of education?

sewchick57 comments on Feb 13, 2018:

I ended my formal education in 9th grade. Doesn't mean I stopped learning though. One snowy day about 8 or 9 years after I quit school, I got up and drove the hour to a local junior college, took the first 3 tests and had an extra long lunch, came back and took the other two tests to get my GED. I passed four of them above 95%. No study, no prep of any kind. Then later on that same year one of the teachers at the local school talked me into taking the ACT. No study, no prep. I scored 2 points above the national average.

Is it consider mental abuse if someone preaches to you about their religion without your consent?

sewchick57 comments on Feb 11, 2018:

It was rude, obnoxious and disrespectful. That takes it into the abusive level on my scale.

What’s your thoughts on profanity?

sewchick57 comments on Feb 11, 2018:

I will say you probably shouldn't call ladies that have the power to hunt you up and take money out of your paycheck before you get it and scream and swear at them. Just sayin'.

What’s your thoughts on profanity?

sewchick57 comments on Feb 11, 2018:

Everybody in my office swears. But then we all tend to be mean girls too.

Legalize it?

sewchick57 comments on Feb 11, 2018:

I live next door to a legal state. It's a 4 hour drive one way to the closest weed store. So every couple of months I go and have a nice dinner and a nice shopping day. Beats the hell out of having to hunt up some sketchy dude and have no idea what you're actually getting. Then of course there's the massive tax haul this idiotic state is missing out on.

What excercise routines are people doing right now?

sewchick57 comments on Feb 11, 2018:

When I do actual exercise I have a cool indoor walking track right outside my apartment door. I don't have shoes that make my feet happy right now but when I get shoes I'll go back to doing my walking track. My walking track includes two stair cases, 42 steps up, down to the other end of the building and it's 42 steps down. When I first start I can only do about a lap and a half. Then when it starts getting too hot on the 3rd floor I just do laps around the outside of the building. I wore out a pair of shoes doing that and lost a good 20 pounds but I haven't been able to find shoes that make my feet happy since. I think I found a good pair of shoes, I just have to work them into my budget. I actually got myself off insulin doing those damn stairs!! But here's the thing, since I am diabetic if I'm going to walk and do the stairs, the shoes can not make my feet unhappy.

Have you delt with domestic abuse?

sewchick57 comments on Feb 10, 2018:

Twice. First from a step father and then from a husband. I went from the frying pan to the fire. I had a bruise from my step father that lasted a full 6 months. But of course my mother claims she had no idea.

Living alone

sewchick57 comments on Feb 10, 2018:

I totally love living by myself. I don't even have a cat.

What three songs would you have at your funeral?

sewchick57 comments on Feb 9, 2018:

Born to be Wild, Highway to Hell, Hell Ain't No Bad Place To Be.

I am bored. Need some controversy. Anyone here, besides me, like pineapple and ham on their pizza?

sewchick57 comments on Feb 9, 2018:

I like pineapple with pepperoni even better. But it has to have green peppers, onion and mushroom too.

Just a note to those that were following and commenting on the kaleidoscope stuff.

sewchick57 comments on Feb 7, 2018:

Oh my! I just looked up the website for the Faire! So many cool things to buy!!

Christian author who said atheists ‘exacerbate evil’ was cheating on his wife with two women –...

sewchick57 comments on Feb 7, 2018:

Ain't no hypocrite like a Christian hypocrite!! LOL

Too many billions of galaxies for me to believe in God

sewchick57 comments on Feb 7, 2018:

I never could understand how somebody could look at a whole sky full of billions and billions of stars and galaxies and think that on only one tiny planet a "god" "created" life.